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- My Husband Is Hinting That It's Over Between Us. I Think My Marriage Is Over. What Do I Do Now? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI know first hand that it is an absolutely horrible, terrifying feeling when you begin to feel in the bottom of your gut that perhaps your marriage is over. This is made even worse if the state of your marriage has brought about anxiety and unhappiness. You already feel bad enough. But when you ...
Views: 742 - How To Know If Your Husband Stopped Loving You: Signs of a Husband Who is Falling Out of Love - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of emails and correspondence from women who are afraid that their husband is "falling out of love" with them. People often ask me for signs, signals, or clues to look for which might indicate that this is true. They are trying to match the behavior that they are seeing with behaviors ...
Views: 738 - How Can I Make My Husband Understand My Feelings? These Tips Might Help - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who feel as if they may as well be speaking a foreign language to their husbands because he doesn't seem to understand what they are saying, especially when it comes to their feelings. It's often a struggle to make their husband listen and understand, especially when ...
Views: 733 - I Feel Like My Husband Doesn't Care About Me Anymore. Does My Marriage Even Stand a Chance? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a woman who outlined pretty dreadful living conditions with her husband. She described a spouse who had pretty apathetic and cold. From the way that the wife described the situation, it seemed as if he either treated her with annoyance or pretended that she didn't exist. ...
Views: 730 - I Am Unwanted In My Marriage. My Husband Doesn't Want Me Anymore - Tips and Advice That Might Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI very often get emails from wives who confide that their husband doesn't want them anymore. This can be a loaded phrase. Sometimes, what the wife means is that the husband no longer seems to be attracted to them physically. Other times, the wife means that the husband no longer wants to be ...
Views: 723 - The Pros and Cons of A Trial Separation: Important Pluses and Minuses. - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people feel intense worry when they are considering a trial separation. What if this is the wrong decision? What if the separation pushes you toward a divorce that you don't want? Is there another alternative that you haven't explored? These are all very valid questions. As someone who ...
Views: 723 - My Husband Will Leave Me If Something Doesn't Change Soon. I'm Running Out Of Time To Save My Marriage. - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who feel as if they are running out of time to save their marriage. And they typically feel this way because their spouse has made it clear that he is getting very impatient. Some spouses go so far as to threaten divorce or separation if something doesn't change very ...
Views: 696 - I'm Absolutely Miserable Since My Husband Left Me For A Trial Separation. Tips That Might Help - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are having a very difficult time coping after their husband has left them to pursue a trial separation. They often aren't sure how to constructively fill their time. And they can find themselves always thinking about and dwelling on their husband and on their marriage. Time seems ...
Views: 687 - My Separated Husband Is Nice To Everyone Except Me. Why? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany separated wives notice a transformation in their separated husband. They can't deny that he's actually a more pleasant person than he was before the separation. This would almost seem like a positive transformation - if the wife herself could enjoy it. You see, often the wife can't help but ...
Views: 687 - How Do I Save My Marriage When I Feel Hopeless? I'm Feeling Helpless About My Husband Not Wanting Our Marriage Anymore - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen your spouse tells you that he is no longer invested in your marriage, it can become very easy to get down on the whole situation and to begin to feel somewhat helpless. One reason for this is that you can feel a lack of control. It can feel as if no matter what you do or say, this is all ...
Views: 666 - My Husband Says He Loves Me But He's Leaving Because He Wants Time Away From Me - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are dealing with a husband who is expressing his unhappiness with their marriage. Sometimes, he even takes this a step further and begins to speak of a separation or divorce. At that point, the wife will ask questions to determine why he might be doing this. One ...
Views: 666 - My Husband Wants Out. Should I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI am asked this question a lot. Most times, I find that the person asking it doesn't really want to let her husband go (deep down) and wants to know something else. What most people are asking is: "Can one person save a relationship?" or "Can I change my husband's mind and save the marriage?" In ...
Views: 665 - My Husband Never Initiates Affection: Why Wouldn't A Husband Want To Show His Wife Affection? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from married folks who are quite distressed by the lack of affection in their marriage. Many want to understand why this pattern may exist so that they can come up with a plan to change it. A wife might say: "for the last five years or so, my husband hasn't wanted to show me ...
Views: 658 - My Husband Says That He Feels Neglected And That I Never Listen To Him So He Isn't Sure About Our Marriage - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt is difficult to listen to your spouse complain about a flaw that he sees within you. This is especially true if you disagree about the severity of the flaw and have trouble controlling it. Most of the time, this is a reoccurring frustration. However, sometimes this issue escalates to the ...
Views: 655 - My Husband Says He Doesn't Love Me Anymore and Wants a Divorce - How Do I Cope With This? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who was devastated and not sure that she could cope. Her husband had just dropped a huge bombshell when he announced that he no longer loved her and wanted a divorce. She was highly emotional, understandably, and she didn't know how to begin to process this (much ...
Views: 654 - My Husband Served Me With Divorce Papers, But I Want to Save the Marriage - Advice That May Help - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2020 from Leslie CaneThere are few worse feelings than being served with divorce papers when you want to save your marriage. It's absolutely normal to feel panicked and beaten. But, it's important to understand that it doesn't have to be "the end." Many marriages reconcile before the divorce is final. It's not an ...
Views: 654 - My Husband Filed For A Divorce In The Heat Of The Moment. He Is Furious With Me. Could He Possibly Calm Down And Still Care? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who have been filed with divorce papers from a spouse who acted in the heat of the moment. Often, one spouse has done something to make the other so mad that they feel compelled to do something very dramatic in order to make a statement. Sometimes, this statement ...
Views: 652 - My Marriage Is Dead. How Do I Know If I Need To Leave My Failing Marriage And Move On? Here's Some Questions To Ask Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Leslie CaneSome spouses feel as though they might be at crossroads in their marriage. They typically aren't quite as happy as they might like, or they are experiencing problems within the marriage that are causing a great deal of stress. Because of this, they wonder if it is time to just let their ...
Views: 650 - My Husband And I Don't Talk Anymore. What Does This Mean? What Can I Do About It? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI strongly believe that one early indication that your marriage might be in trouble is the fact that you and your spouse rarely talk anymore. This was one warning sign that I missed, assuming that my husband and I had just hit a "comfortable phase" where we were mostly just reading one another's ...
Views: 648 - My Husband Left And Says He Doesn't Want To Be With Me Anymore: Reading Between The Lines To Understand What This Really Means - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI received an email from a wife who told me that she was beside herself because her husband had just told her that "he didn't want to be with me anymore." I had to ask if this meant he didn't want to be with her sexually, didn't want to be with her as her husband, or just didn't want to be in ...
Views: 641 - I'm Ready To Be The Wife My Husband Deserves And Work Harder To Save My Marriage. My Husband Doesn't Care. He Thinks It's Too Late. - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneSometimes, you are fully aware that it is going to take a whole lot of work to save your marriage and you take responsibility for that. You are prepared for that. And you fully intend to follow through with any promises that you have made to your spouse. Perhaps you have gotten to a point ...
Views: 640 - My Husband Blames All Of Our Problems On Me. Why Is Everything Wrong In Our Marriage My Fault? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who feel constantly blamed by their husbands. Many of them will admit that the issues where the husband places the blame DO exist. They also admit that these problems harm their marriage. Unfortunately, though, the husband refuses to see his part in any of these ...
Views: 640 - We Live Separate Lives In Our Marriage: My Husband Treats Me Like a Roommate and I Don't Know How To Handle It - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who told me that she and her husband were living much differently than they did when they were first married. She said they used to always be together, laughing, loving, and experiencing things together. But now, they saw each other over the breakfast table without ...
Views: 638 - Can You Save A Marriage When The Love Is Gone? Can A Marriage Survive Falling Out Of Love? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from many spouses who are sure that their spouse is no longer "in love" with them. Sometimes, their spouse has actually told them as much. Other times, their spouse is communicating this message, but they are doing so with actions and not words. In short, the spouse just isn't attentive ...
Views: 637 - I Feel Like A Stranger In My Marriage. My Spouse Doesn't Really Know Me. He Doesn't See My True Self - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often say that one of the things people most want in a romantic partner is to feel seen and understood. What I mean by this is that if a person can make us feel as if they see what we are truly about and love us unconditionally anyway, that's a feeling of acceptance that most of us have been ...
Views: 637 - I Don't Think I Love My Spouse Anymore. I Don't Feel Romantic Toward Him And Feel Numb When He Says 'I Love You.' Does This Mean My Marriage Is Over? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are alarmed to find that they no longer have any strong feelings for their spouse. Often, they wish that they did still have these feelings because that would make life a lot easier for themselves or for their families. But, when they are being honest, they have ...
Views: 636 - I Think My Husband Hates Me: He Says He Doesn't Like Anything About Me. How Do You Respond To A Hateful Statement Like This? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who have recently been stung by something horribly hurtful that their husband has said. Sometimes, this happens during an argument or in the heat of the moment. Other times, their husband appears to be only attempting to be honest and not intending to hurt his wife. ...
Views: 636 - Should I Stay Married Just Because of Money? My Advice Based on Experience - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneLately, I've been getting a lot of emails from folks who ask me if they should stay married because they can't afford to get a divorce. One example is the stay-at-home mom who has been out of the workforce for quite some time and knows that her income would not be enough to support herself or ...
Views: 636 - 3 Big Warning Signs Your Husband is Planning to Leave You Or File For Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often write about saving or rescuing marriages in trouble, so sometimes I'm asked to provide the warning signs for wives who suspect that their husband is planning on leaving or filing for divorce. Of course, the warning signs will be slightly different for every couple, but I've found that ...
Views: 634 - I Don't Care Enough About My Husband Or My Marriage Anymore. Is This A Phase? What To Consider Before You Think About Leaving. - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI believe that most of us like to think that the deterioration of our marriage would be swift and noticeable. We like to think that it would be an obvious change that we would not only notice, but to which we would quickly react. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Much of the time, the ...
Views: 634 - A Letter To A Husband To Convince Him Not To Leave The Marriage: What Should It Include. Can It Work? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often get requests for tips on how to write a very effective letter meant to convince a husband that the marriage is worth saving and can be rescued if both parties work together to make this happen. Many wives want to go with the letter route because they feel that their husband is just not ...
Views: 633 - I'm Bored With My Marriage And My Husband. What Can You Do When You're Tired Of Your Spouse? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI wish I could tell you that the vast majority of correspondence that I get are from people who are perfectly happy with their marriage and are incredibly content with their spouse. This isn't the case, though. Most of the time, I hear from people who feel as if their marriage, or their feelings ...
Views: 633 - How Do I Apologize To My Husband Before He Files For Divorce? How Do I Get Him To Accept My Apology? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are gearing up to make a last-ditch effort to save their marriages after they've made a huge mistake. Many times, they are looking for the perfect magical words and phrases to tell their husband how sorry they are and to reassure him that things are going to ...
Views: 632 - For How Long Should You Give Your Spouse Space During A Separation? And How Can You Be Patient For Days, Weeks, Or Months? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who have come to understand that it's often best to comply with their spouse's request for "space." Often, the last thing that they want is a separation or a break. But often after some time, it has become obvious that nothing else is going to satisfy their spouse. ...
Views: 630 - My Husband Refuses To Work On Your Marriage. He Thinks That He Should Not Have to "Work" At A Relationship - Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneOver the holiday weekend, I got an email from a wife who was asking for my advice on getting her husband's cooperation in helping to improve and save their marriage. She wrote, in part: "my husband feels that a marriage shouldn't be work -- that if two people are compatible and are a good match ...
Views: 630 - Do I Need to Back Off During My Separation So That My Husband Comes Back to Me? Backing Off, Yes. Ignoring, No. - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently received an email from a wife who had just begun a separation from her husband. This was a very difficult time for her and she wasn't sure how she should proceed or act in the days ahead. She missed her husband and wanted to retain regular contact with him. It was unbearable for ...
Views: 625 - Overcoming Marital Challenges And Deterioration When You Feel Like Your Marriage Won't Ever Get Any Better And Will Only Get Worse. - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt’s easy to lose perspective when your marriage deteriorates and becomes unhappy. Like with anything else that turns bad, it can begin to feel as if things will never change or improve. Each day can seem worse than the last. And one wonders if the clouds will ever lift. Someone might ...
Views: 625 - How To Prepare For A Separation: 5 Things To Consider Or Think About Before You Begin A Martial Separation. - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI suspect that many people reading this article are terrified. They're frightened because a trial or marital separation is in their near future and they are worried that is going to make things worse rather than better. They're concerned that the marital separation is going to set them on the ...
Views: 622 - My Husband Filed For Divorce Suddenly But I Don't Want It And Am Running Out Of Time. What Can I Do?: Here Are Some Tactics To Try. - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from women whose husbands are hinting that they want or intend to file for a divorce. Sometimes, though, there is a more dire situation. I hear from wives whose husbands have just filed the paperwork to set the divorce in motion. Such was the case yesterday. I heard from a wife in ...
Views: 621 - How Do I Convince My Separated Husband To Communicate With Me? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very upset during their marital separation because their worst fear is literally coming true. Although their husband may have reassured them that they would stay in constant contact, once the separation begins, he can go silent. Many of the wives intuitively realize the inherent ...
Views: 617 - Ways to Make Someone Fall Back in Love With You - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you're reading this article, chances are you've just been through a breakup or separation of some kind and you want to repair the relationship or get back together. Perhaps your ex just wants a break, cooling-off period, separation, or he or she is not receptive to you at all. Whatever the ...
Views: 615 - My Husband Agreed To Try To Make Our Marriage Work Even Though He's Not In Love With Me - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Leslie CaneSometimes, I hear from women who are deeply conflicted about their troubled marriage. At this time, their greatest wish is to convince their husband to try to make their marriage work. Usually, it's become crystal clear that the marriage is crumbling. And, because the wife is still invested in ...
Views: 613 - My Separated Husband Says If He Comes Home Now, It Will Only Be Out Of Guilt - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from wives who are trying everything in their power to get their husbands to come back home. And some of the husbands will give the wives every reason under the sun why he can't come home. Sometimes, these reasons sound a lot like excuses and the wife can begin to wonder if he will ever ...
Views: 612 - My Husband Wants To Leave Me But I Still Love Him. What Can I Do? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are fairly certain that their husband is going to leave them. Some of them just have a strong feeling or suspicion that their husband is unhappy. Others have husbands who have been very honest about the fact that he is considering moving out. Many of the wives do ...
Views: 611 - My Separated Husband Wants Nothing To Do With Me. How Do I Get Him Back If He Doesn't Call Or Come Around? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2020 from Leslie CaneThere are many difficult situations one must navigate during a marital separation. Here is a common one: You been asked to give your husband space. You know that you should comply. However, once you do, how will you ever reconcile? If you rarely see him and no one is calling or visiting, how can ...
Views: 611 - My Husband Always Leaves When We Fight. He Has Left Me Multiple Times. Should I Just Give Up And Divorce Him? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are newly separated, things can feel so dire. There is a lot of shock and also a great sense of urgency. But what happens if you have been through a separation multiple times? What if your spouse makes a habit of leaving you at the first sign of a fight? Well, then the shock can ...
Views: 610 - I Wasn't A Good Wife In The Past, But I've Changed. How Can I Get My Husband Back? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the wives who contact me about finding a way to save their marriages realize that they had some part in the marital collapse. I often hear comments like: "we grew apart," or "we didn't make an effort to stay connected." Another example is "things just changed between us and the spark ...
Views: 608 - How Do I Know When To Leave My Marriage? My Husband Just Told Me If I'm So Unhappy, Then I Should Leave. Should I? - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI don't think that anyone enjoys being unsatisfied with their marriage. I don't think that anyone strives to be unhappy. In fact, many of us don't admit, even to ourselves, that we are not content with our marriage until things have gotten pretty bad. And sometimes, once we admit this ...
Views: 604 - My Husband Admitted He's No Longer Attracted To Me. What Now? Know That Attraction Isn't Always About Looks - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2020 from Leslie CaneRecently, I heard from a wife who was devastated. Her husband had sat her down and very matter of factly told her that he no longer found her attractive. He told her that this was a big problem because he felt that he needed to be physically attracted in order to remain invested in the marriage. ...
Views: 603 - My Husband Is Always Making Negative, Nasty Comments Toward Me. Sometimes, He Is Hurtful, Insensitive, And Mean - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear wives recount mean, nasty, and negative things that their husbands have said. Examples are things like: "you are so selfish," Or "none of my friends' wives make the demands that you do," Or "it's sad that I don't even look forward to coming home after work because I know that you ...
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