Most people are aware now of the 40-50% average divorce rate in the west and expat communities. Knowing this doesn’t make that any easier if you are living in an unhappy marriage where divorce threats have been made.
The good news is an unhappy relationship doesn’t mean it’s over. That’s ... Views: 1448
The most common questions I get asked are: How can you save a marriage after separation?
Or how can I get my husband or wife to reconsider a separation? Or My husband/ wife is insisting on a separation, what can I do?
These are important questions as it is a critical time if you want to ... Views: 1401
One of the biggest issues that couples face is that after the first few blissful months or years together we begin to see our partner’s flaws, the things we don’t like and the things that upset us and annoy us. When we initially fall in love it is with the feeling it gives us. We feel on top of ... Views: 1393
Since working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs.
Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ... Views: 1384
CHANGE YOUR WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
If there were any lyrics that best describes today’s message it would be from Michael Jackson’s 1987 hit song ‘Man in the Mirror’ “I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways and no message could have been any clearer ... Views: 1379
WHERE THERE’S A WILL THERE’S A WAY
How to get past the problems you’re having and make it work
The key to strengthening and improving any relationship, especially those that are struggling is honesty. What are you really feeling inside? What do you really want and need? What do you want and ... Views: 1378
Do you and your partner have each other’s back or are you operating more in a mode of attack?
We wouldn’t be human if we did not experience times in our lives that challenged us. It’s natural that certain events, people and our own behaviour will trigger fear, anger, stress, jealousy, ... Views: 1378
I hear people say all the time…
I love my husband/wife but I’m not “In Love” with him/her.
I’m just not sure if I love them anymore.
I love them but he/she said I don’t love you anymore, is my love enough?
These kinds of statements can be extremely confusing not to mention painful ... Views: 1368
Since working with individuals over the years to heal from infidelity and marriages with multiple wives, I have learnt what successful re-builders do compared to those unsuccessful in repairing their relationships after affairs.
Whilst there is no denying that affairs can destroy love, ... Views: 1367
We all know the saying ‘Who wears the pants in your relationship’ but have you ever taken a step back and really thought about it? Who wears the pants in your relationship? Do you both wear them, or does one of you predominantly wear the pants and control the relationship? Either way, a healthy ... Views: 1363
Rejection is painful no matter where it comes from, but it is especially hurtful when it comes from your partner… The one that knows you the most and is meant to love ALL of you deeply. Rejection is one of the hardest feelings to experience because it often plays on your mind non-stop, like ... Views: 1362
Natalie had lost herself in her marriage. She was constantly running errands for her children, husband and checking in on both sets of parents, that she had neglected her own needs. By her own admission, she was far too busy and stressed to enjoy life. David her husband was also stressed, ... Views: 1338
Money arguments and problems are one the most significant factors that can lead to divorce according to numerous studies. Research by Kansas State University found that this is because money arguments decrease relationship satisfaction and are harder to move on from than other marriage ... Views: 1330
"Nicola, my husband is chronically complaining and forever in a bad mood. He manages to find something wrong with everything and is constantly feeling hard done by and down. I don’t know how to help him or live with him at times! I don’t want him to ruin the holidays for me and the children ... Views: 1329
There are two paths we can follow to get to love:
Love and Non-love
They both take us in the end to LOVE
This may make perfect sense to you or you may be thinking what on earth am I writing about today.
Let me elaborate.
Throughout the course of my life (I am sure like most ... Views: 1306
Love is a wonderful feeling. Self-love brings peace and acceptance, love for others and being loved brings feelings of gratitude and happiness. So today I am going to cover the 3 easiest ways to bring more of it into your life and relationships. I have developed several tools that have been ... Views: 1302
Having worked with 1000’s of couples now either 1 to 1 or in my online empowered love program, conflicts over drinking are common. Nothing is more difficult or heart-breaking than being married to someone who changes personality and is horrible when they are drunk.
Katy met Steve (her now ... Views: 1286
Every year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the same thing; keep it simple, have a plan, be
HoEvery year in December, magazines cover the same old story, how to survive the holidays. Every year they generally say the ... Views: 1279
When couples begin my private online 1-to1 or group coaching packages, one of the first things they say to me is they have a problem with their communication. I often hear the following:
“We can’t communicate”
“They don’t listen”
“Everything ends up in a row.”
“We sometimes don’t ... Views: 1270
Warning: This Gift Might Be The Best Relationship Gift You'll Ever Get
Whether you are married, dating or divorced resentment will affect you and your relationship current or future if you do not release it.
What is Resentment?
Resentment is a sense of unfairness - that you are not ... Views: 1269
” 75% of people say they’re Worse off or Even Divorced after Marriage Counseling!
Don’t Let That Happen To You!
Today I got an email from a couple who I was working with this month to strengthen their relationship. With their permission, they have let me share their story in order to help ... Views: 1265
With Christmas & New Year ahead of us with all the rejoicing it is the time to let go of all old unnecessary strings to find peace, serenity and start the new year fresh and make it a great success. It can bring up a lot of pain and stress this time of year. So I have a very special gift…
If ... Views: 1252
When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed. As depression often erodes emotional and sexual intimacy. It also floods the relationship with negativity that can cause resentment, anger and isolation.
Even the happiest, strongest spouse may get pulled into the depressions strong ... Views: 1248
The effects of having a child are immeasurable. Whilst most parents say the greatest moment and thing in their life was the birth of their son or daughter. The effect that having a child can have on your marriage is immense. Marital dissatisfaction can ensue after having a child and it can ... Views: 1246
When it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked:
Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage?
Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband's / wife's affair and show them what they have with ... Views: 1244
There are two paths we can follow to get to love:
Love and Non-love
They both take us in the end to LOVE
This may make perfect sense to you or you may be thinking what on earth am I writing about today.
Let me elaborate.
Throughout the course of my life (I am sure like most ... Views: 1220
We have all heard time and time again in the home, at school and in the work place that first impressions count. Whether that’s our mothers trying to get us to polish our shoes, wear something we don’t like or advice given for a job interview. Having helped saved thousands of marriages now, ... Views: 1145
We have all heard time and time again in the home, at school and in the work place that first impressions count. Whether that’s our mothers trying to get us to polish our shoes, wear something we don’t like or advice given for a job interview. Having helped saved thousands of marriages now, ... Views: 1117
You wouldn’t believe the amount of husbands and wives that come up to me and say “Nicola, how do I get my Spouse to Change? ”If you are trying to save your marriage by desperately attempting to change your partner to no avail - STOP!
Want your partner to exercise more? Stop social media? ... Views: 996