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- ***Delusions of Santa Claus - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWouldn't it be great if you could instantly read men? So far, there isn't any super-power for that. And wouldn't it be great if there were Santa Claus men who are bigger than life--and who can satisfy your every whim and need. Uh-oh, it might seem that there are enough of these kinds of men, ...
Views: 2721 - ***Expert Q&A: Battling Addictions Side-by-Side - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I think my partner is addicted to porn. What should I do? A: Last week I saw "Avenue Q," the Tony Award-winning Broadway musical that stars humans and puppets. The Trekkie Monster puppet gets repeated laughs when he sings about the purpose of the Internet: "Porn," he belts out. Even ...
Views: 1947 - ***Expert Q&A: Coping with an Ill Partner - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My partner's become withdrawn since being diagnosed with a serious illness. What should I do? A: Despite all the advancements in medicine, most of us are still terrified to hear words such as cancer, tumor, incurable, inoperable, experimental, drug resistant, radiation, and chemotherapy. ...
Views: 3179 - ***Expert Q&A: Criticizing Your Partner in Public - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My husband is always picking on me in public. How can I get him to stop? A: Many of us have been caught off guard in social situations where someone else exposed ...
Views: 6379 - ***Expert Q&A: Dating the Person With Whom You Cheated - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I'm dating the person with whom I cheated. How can I learn to trust him? A: There is some truth that those who cheated on their partner are more likely to cheat again in a new relationship. Cheaters, after all, have crossed one of those major relationship boundaries-fidelity. And cheaters ...
Views: 5859 - ***Expert Q&A: Dealing with Different Personality Styles - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I love my partner very much, but how do I manage that we are so opposite when it comes to being outgoing and social? A: You've probably heard the expression "opposites attract." But what, exactly does this mean? And is it true? Of course, nothing is true for all couples, but, in ...
Views: 1901 - ***Expert Q&A: Fix Your Sexless Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How can I turn around my sexless marriage? A: Why would some couples remain celibate? Isn't sex supposed to be part of the pleasures of love and marriage? Yet, approximately 10-15% of marriages may experience long stretches of time without sex. A smaller number of couples never ...
Views: 3273 - ***Expert Q&A: Having a Life When You Live at Home - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I'm in my thirties and I've been living with my parents ever since I lost my job. How can I convince my parents that I still need a personal life? A: No matter how great the goodies are at your parent's house, you'd probably like to live on your own in your own space. More adult children ...
Views: 1672 - ***Expert Q&A: Managing Empathy and Love - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Do I empathize too much? A: Most of us have been taught to feel sorry for people who are less fortunate than we are and to forgive people when they make mistakes. Charity and civilization rely on empathy. Yet, as many of my clients have shown me, there is such a thing as too much ...
Views: 2193 - ***Expert Q&A: Relationship Ruts Part 3 - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Why do I end up with such "basket cases" for partners? A: Basket cases--a great description of someone whose behavior prompts you to give too much of your time and energy to help, calm, or "fix" them. If you are exhausted and exasperated from feeling that you always have to pick up the ...
Views: 2165 - ***Expert Q&A: Remarrying Your Ex - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: Should I remarry my ex? A: We all like second chances in life. Rarely do we get them. Remarrying your ex is one of the few opportunities for a "do-over." There are no divorce statistics for people who re-marry their ex. However, the divorce rate for all second marriages is about sixty ...
Views: 5921 - ***Expert Q&A: Taking Charge of Trial Separations - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My partner and I recently separated. What's the best way to use this time? A: Instead of going directly to divorce, some couples decide to separate for a while. This approach definitely has its merits. It prevents you from acting hastily about the relationship and gives you a chance to ...
Views: 2129 - ***Expert Q&A: What is the Best Way to Handle In-Law Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDo these scenarios sound familiar? * Your in-laws are cold to you. * Your husband or partner can't stand up to his mother or father. * When it comes to the holidays, it's your in-laws' way-or the highway. * Your in-laws are critical and judgmental of you. * Your ...
Views: 4003 - ***Get Out to Get Hot – Pack Your Bags to Boost Your Sex Life - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishTravel is great medicine for boosting your sex and love life. Don't have the money or time? Don't worry. All you need to do is cut back on a few unnecessary purchases such as that magazine, or comfort food, or that movie that you don't really need - and then find a day and a half to be together. ...
Views: 1542 - ***Getting over a Breakup – Beat the blues! - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishThe New Year seemed to have passed, and the sting of an unhappy, unromantic Valentine’s Day is over, too. No wonder you feel sad. No matter how much you fight the influence from what seem like manufactured holidays, it’s still hard to beat the blues from breakups and being alone. ...
Views: 1452 - ***Happy Family Research: Grieving Loss Of A Parent*** - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWe expect to outlive our parents, but we still struggle with grief. Take this quiz to learn about dealing with the loss of a parent. Put an “x” next to one answer for each question. 1. Losing a parent suddenly is worse than losing a parent after a long illness. __Strongly Agree ...
Views: 3062 - ***Holiday Stress Tips: The Holiday Season May Not be the Best Time to Settle Family Grievances - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishOh—so you think that just because you are together with your family that it’s a good time to have one of those heart-to-hearts where you grab the opportunity to air your emotional hurts and open wounds. Well, not so fast. It just may not be the best time to settle your grievances. Why It ...
Views: 1393 - ***How Can Families Cope With The Loss Of Their Home? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishLosing your home for any reason is heart-wrenching. Many families describe the feeling as “the rug being pulled out from under you” or “losing your moorings.” Money issues are one of the top sources of stress for families these days, and the number of families who have ...
Views: 6440 - ***How Smart Are You About Traveling Safely? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHow Women Can Boost Their Travel Mindfulness & Intuition I’ve been fortunate enough to travel a lot – often alone – to give workshops and talks. I’ve also lived in another country that is very different culturally from my home in the United States. I mention this information because I was ...
Views: 1319 - ***How To Avoid Wedding Stress And Be A Smart Bride - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHow to Avoid Wedding Stress and Be a Smart Bride: Over-the-Top Wedding Plans Can Reveal Bottom-of-the-Barrel Feelings Weddings and the accompanying engagement parties and showers can get stressful and out of hand for many reasons. Here are the top reasons why planning weddings may not be as ...
Views: 3909 - ***How to Begin Expressing Your Romantic Feelings for Your Best Friend - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishOne of the common plot lines of romantic comedies involves a relationship that has to change from a best of friends into a romantic couple. The standard story elements are that one person has more intimate feelings for the other person. Or, each person doesn’t really know how she or he feels ...
Views: 1533 - ***How to Move on After a Break up - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishPerhaps the end of your most recent relationship is a good thing regardless of who did the leaving. But now what’s the best next step for you? Every situation has different details, but here are the top things to consider that emerged from my research and work with thousands of ...
Views: 1711 - ***How to Pack Smart—and Still Look Smart! Tips from a Luxury Packer - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishI love traveling. I love it so much that while I am on vacation, I am already planning my next one! But I sure don't like packing. And unpacking is even worse! I must be a slow learner because it took years of making mistakes to learn what to take and what to take it in. You may not use all ...
Views: 1742 - ***How to Stop Listening to What Other People Say about Love, Life and Work - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishAre statistics about the odds of women finding love and happiness getting you down? Don’t fret — get smart and think about you instead! Virtually all of the women in my study for my books said they had trouble “turning down the background noise” about what statistics and ...
Views: 1604 - ***I'm honored on being featured by THE HOT PICK PROFILES! "Getting Rid of What Gets in the Way of Making Smart Decisions of Love, Life and Work, and Being Happy!" - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQuestion: Leslie Beth, how would you describe your product or project? Answer: Are you a woman who is often smart about work but not love? Do you flip back and forth between men who are too mild or mean? Do you know how to take off your Man Blinders so you can read men—and never be fooled ...
Views: 1946 - ***Managing Stress Triggers: Tip Sheet - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishTip Sheet Introduction Recognize personal stress triggers and symptoms Re-train the brain Get solution-oriented Develop a buddy system Minimize self-blame Be realistic in expectations for change Introduction No one can avoid stress. In fact, it’s a necessary part of life. Stress ...
Views: 2727 - ***New Years Resolutions That Work - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishNew Years Resolutions that Work Introduction It’s holiday time of year again when thoughts turn to shopping, giving, partying and—yes—making New Years’ resolutions. Even if a person doesn’t want to make them, reminders about resolutions are on the Internet, talk ...
Views: 2479 - ***Over 40 and Divorced: 7 Things Women Need to Know before Dating and Mating Again - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYour divorce is final, and you are glad, sad, excited and scared all at the same time. You love your nights to yourself — for a while — and then you wonder if you can ever be optimistic about finding love again. The good news is that this roller coaster of feelings and doubt is ...
Views: 4632 - ***Quiz: When Do You Give Your Partner a Second Chance? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWe tend to give our partners more than second chances—even when they have betrayed, disappointed or hurt us physically or emotionally. It’s as though we’ll do almost anything to defend against rocking the boat, and being alone or wrong about our love choices. In this brief article ...
Views: 2398 - ***Secrets to Happiness: Make Peace with your Past to Enjoy your Present and Future - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHad rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures? Well, here’s the good news: rotten pasts for ...
Views: 1537 - ***Secrets to Hiring Smart - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishSecrets to Hiring Smart: New Ways to Mix Wisdom with New Formats, Questions and Intuition In my career the task of hiring always landed on my desk. There were other “sets of eyes” on the potential employee, but I was often the first or last set of eyes. Over the years, I relied on a unique ...
Views: 1364 - ***Take the Women’s Love Quiz: Part 2 of 3 - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDo you want to be happy in love? If you answered, “Yes”, then you need to know the signs of a good relationship. Common sense will tell you to find someone you trust and like. But you can learn a whole more with research-based advice that delves deeper. ...
Views: 1477 - ***Thanksgiving Family Stress - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHolidays for many people can mean being alone and feeling lonely--or being with family members who cause you stress and also make you feel lonely! It seems you can't escape the holiday blues. But you can! Here are some tips. 1. Identify your triggers. Identify ahead of time exactly what ...
Views: 2822 - ***The Unspoken Problem About Domestic Violence and the Baltimore Ravens Ray Rice - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishI am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap. On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore ...
Views: 1495 - ***Tips for Recovering from Being Suddenly Single - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish***Tips for Recovering from Being Suddenly Single*** Women, Loss, Grief and Loneliness: If I’m so great, how come it hurts so much to be alone? ...
Views: 3895 - ***Tips To Manage Career Setback - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishNo matter how successful and seasoned you are, you may still experience setbacks and disappointments. Setbacks come in many shapes and sizes for each of us. Sometimes they are small, while other times they’re huge — or perhaps they just feel that way. Read this sentence out loud several ...
Views: 1322 - ***Top Tips Why You Should Get Along With Your Mate's Siblings*** - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS at www.lovevictory.com Reasons Why Getting Along with siblings is So Crucial The Most Common Problems of Having Siblings-in-laws What Can You Do if You Have Siblings-in-law Problems? Why are the siblings so important in approving your choice of mate? It’s ...
Views: 2838 - ***Travel: How to Choose the Right Cruise Cabin - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIt might surprise you that size may not be the most important factor in choosing your cabin. Location and the amenities that are included in your cabin’s category can be much more important. Here are some tips to help you select the cabin that is best for you. You may not be able to fulfill ...
Views: 1429 - ***Triumph Over Your Fear Of Public Speaking - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDoes your tummy churn at the thought of speaking in public? Do you feel cotton-headed when you get to the podium? And, unbelievably, did you forget to make the most important point? Welcome to the vast majority of people who fear speaking or performing in public. You’re in good company with ...
Views: 1184 - ***Unconventional Advice On Dealing With Difficult People At The Office - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishTip Sheet Introduction Observe first—rather than act Confide in a colleague as a last resort Confront the difficult person as another last resort Make the colleague or boss look good—by being indispensable Don’t personalize--maybe Introduction Almost anyone who works has run ...
Views: 2854 - ***What We Can Learn from the Suicide of Robin Williams: Women, Moods, and Thoughts - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishThe suicide of Robin Williams has shaken—and awakened us up. News of his death has made many of us think: If someone with family, fame, and fortune could do that, could that happen to someone like me who doesn’t have all those things? I’ve been feeling really down lately, and ...
Views: 1733 - ***What Your Marriage Proposal Could Tell You About Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 16, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishThe way your partner proposed to you might allow you to see into your future with this person. Good card players can detect “tells”—those unconscious behaviors that give away information about a player’s hand. When my clients described their feelings of disappointments or exhilaration ...
Views: 1692 - ***When and How to Set Limits, Draw the Line and Pick Your Battles in a Relationship. - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen you’re unhappy in love, it’s often hard to know if you are being too picky, too “sensitive” or just wrong in your assessment of the situation. You wonder what “counts” as being a legitimate reason for you to fall out of love or feel distant from your ...
Views: 1329 - ***When the Soldier Doesn't Return: The Needs Of American Families of Downed Warriors In Iraq - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen The Soldier Doesn’t Return: The Needs of American Families of Downed Warriors In Iraq Note: All names have been changed to protect confidentiality. By LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D, MSS,MA Reprinted with author's permission from www.helpstartshere.org Introduction Sally had been a ...
Views: 2489 - ***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMost of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex ...
Views: 3816 - Travel: Want the Best Honeymoon? Don’t Just Pick a Place—Pick a Feeling! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen Alyssa and Rick returned from their honeymoon in Italy, they were still squabbling. They rented a car in Tuscany because they wanted control of their itinerary. Instead, they ended up losing control of their temper over being lost, low on gas, and parking spaces. They drove to so many towns ...
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