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- ***4 Most Powerful Dating Questions to Ask Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYou’ve read the dating articles. You feel armed with enough of the “right” questions to ask so you’ll never get fooled again. You know to ask about their values, recent breakup, favorite music and movies, where they live, what they do for a living and whether they like animals and their ...
Views: 1885(1 vote) - ***5 Things You Can Do NOW to Avoid Making the Top Relationship Mistakes - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave you ever thought that you found The One—only to realize later after much heartache that the person was The Wrong One? Finding healthy love is so important to your mental and physical health. It’s unfair that it’s so difficult to find the right person. It’s not fair. Here ...
Views: 2485(2 votes) - ***Beating the Odds of Breaking your New Year’s Resolutions: Tips that Work - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMany New Year’s resolutions are broken by the end of January. If that sentence describes you, don’t fret. New Year’s resolutions are hard to keep because we humans—and probably most primates—have brains that are designed for pleasurable sensations and encounters such as ...
Views: 1774(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Balancing Your Logic and Your Emotions - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How do I "fall in love using my head and not my heart?" A: Most of today's grandparents heard the love lesson "use your head not your heart" long before they looked with interest at the opposite sex. But just what do these words mean--and how do you apply it to your love life? Consider ...
Views: 2638(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Caregiver Burnout - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: My ailing mom has come to live with me, and it's taking a toll on my marriage. How can I find a balance? A: Medical advancements have allowed us to live longer but not ...
Views: 2256(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Create Your Own Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: It's Valentine's Day, and I'm single and miserable. Is there anyway I can turn it around? A: I don't know about you, but I'm really not very fond of those fake, business-driven holidays such as Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. (Okay. I admit, I do like Halloween because I love seeing all ...
Views: 2882(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Dating Again After a Major Break Up - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: How long should I wait before dating again after my divorce? A: Most of us have heard this advice about looking for love after you've just ended a marriage or intimate partnership: "Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire." In other words, to avoid re-bound love, take time off from ...
Views: 2394(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Grudges and Forgiveness - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIf you're like myself and many of my clients, you find forgiveness a difficult prospect. Big questions such as "When is it too late to ask for an apology?", "Is forgiveness necessary for personal and spiritual growth?", and "Should someone apologize for being truthful?" complicate the ...
Views: 3502(4 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: How to Overcome Difficulties in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Happy marriages and long-term relationships are not happy every day. John Gottman, a pioneer in marital research, discovered that even in mutually satisfying marriages, ...
Views: 2442(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: How to Recover from a Bad Mood - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIn a column about relationships, it's easy to overlook that the number one person you must always relate to is yourself. Yet, sometimes, when circumstances make us veer off our usual course, we get irritable, pessimistic and just plain old down in the dumps. Here are some tips to help you ...
Views: 3096(2 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Making the Most of Meeting the Parents - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: I'm about to meet my partner's parents. How can I make a good impression? A: Okay, you're ready. You've fallen in love and gotten "serious" about someone who feels the ...
Views: 2252(1 vote) - ***Family And Career: Tips For Women On Career Success*** - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWhen Laurel’s boss overlooked her for a promotion, she was stunned. She had received high praise for her market analyses and team cooperation and was sure she’d be selected for a major project. Tip #1: Get Feedback Rather than wallow in disappointment, Laurel sought from her boss ...
Views: 4295(1 vote) - ***Happy Family Research: Grieving Loss Of A Husband*** - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDivorce and death of a husband is a top life stressor. Learn about this grief from the following quiz. Choose one answer that best describes your belief. 1. Jennifer and her husband divorced after one year. Five months later, Jennifer has gone out on three casual dates. ___A. She was only ...
Views: 2936(1 vote) - ***How to Break Up – Test Your Break Up Smarts - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishSometimes you just have to end the relationship. But what are the best ways? Test your Break Up Smarts and take this quick quiz. Break Up Quiz 1. Suzanne knows it’s not going to work out with Ron. They’ve been dating for a few months, and she already sees that Ron is ...
Views: 1509(1 vote) - ***Managing Career Setback - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishNo matter how seasoned and successful you are, you still may experience disappointments and setbacks. Here are tips to empower you. Read this several times: No one is immune from experiencing career setbacks, disappointments and regrets and making mistakes big and small. Setbacks come in ...
Views: 2310(1 vote) - ***Powering Through, Finding Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDear LeslieBeth, I’m a successful, single business woman in my late thirties. My trusted friends told me I seem unhappy. I think my friends are right. I’m not unhappy about anything specific, and I don’t feel any more stress than usual. I searched the Internet for tips, but some of the tips are ...
Views: 1767(1 vote) - ***Sustaining Healthy Family Life: Tips For Overcoming The Holiday Stress Blues - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2007 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIntroduction Few of us are immune to holiday stress. It doesn’t help that Thanksgiving and Christmas are so close together. For many people, it’s like getting a second-wham of anxiety and disappointment before you recover from the first one at Thanksgiving. Because our ...
Views: 4166(1 vote) - ***The One Relationship You Definitely Cannot Neglect - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishUnhappy with your primary doctor or specialist for a long time but too busy or unsure what to do about it? If you are nodding your head yes, you are not alone. I’ve spoken with hundreds of professional women who say any or all of the following things about changing their doctor: •“I don’t ...
Views: 1431(1 vote) - ***Tips for fixing a bad first impression - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIf you’ve messed up the first date, you are not alone. Read these three true stories from my clients. 1. “Alyssa” agreed to meet Allen in person after ten days of emails, text messages and phone calls. She was really looking forward to meeting someone who seemed good for her. The problem ...
Views: 1754(1 vote) - ***Twelve Things Divorcing Parents Should Tell Their Children - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDivorce is a difficult enough experience, and when children are involved, most divorcing parents have to set aside their marital feelings and work together to co-raise children responsibly. The goal is not to have children survive divorce but to thrive. However, many parents are so hurt, ...
Views: 2432(1 vote) - ***What Are The Ten Love Commandments? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishOne day, “out of the blue,” when I was trying to find ways to help my clients, the idea of writing a list of Ten LoveCommandments came to mind. My clients and research participants ask me many questions, and one of the most common one is: “How do I keep that spark alive with my partner?” ...
Views: 1941(1 vote) - ***When to Have Sex in a New Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMost of us want to feel chosen, connected and cared for. Unfortunately, it's easy to be fooled into thinking you are falling in love, and one of the sure ways to cloud your judgment about your new partner is having sex too soon. Here are the top reasons how a hasty decision to have sex ...
Views: 2104(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail and How You Can Beat the Odds - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHave a relationship question and want Dr. Wish's advice? Email her a question, here. Your query may become an article! Q: Every year I drop my New Year's resolutions by February. What can I do to keep them? A: Unfortunately, for many of us, by Valentine's Day your New Year's resolutions ...
Views: 3190(2 votes) - ***Instant Relief From Grief: Tip Sheet*** - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2008 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishInstant Relief from Grief: Tip Sheet Introduction Give Back Stay Connected Cry and Yell Get Inspired Get Help Introduction Grieving is one of life’s most unpleasant events. Like falling in love, experiencing grief can make you feel as though you are going a little crazy—except ...
Views: 2430(1 vote) - ***The Dangers of Being Even More Carried Away - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishActivities that excite us make us feel good about life, love and ourselves. We are all pleasure-seekers, and there are endless things that can make us feel re-vitalized. We like to be carried away. Take a closer look at Cookie. She is having a great time. Joe is smart, successful, fun and ...
Views: 2230(1 vote) - ***Expert Q&A: When Women Should Propose Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: My boyfriend won't propose even though we've been dating for years. Should I take the initiative? A: Let me just get it over with-I do not recommend that women propose marriage. I'll explain why a few paragraphs later, but first, here is the experience that sparked my deeper thinking ...
Views: 3793(3 votes) - ***Expert Q&A: Staying Positive - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2012 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishQ: I've already broken my New Year's resolution. How can I successfully better myself? A: Unfortunately, it's true that by February many of us are on a downward slide of breaking our New Year's resolutions. You've probably given it a good try, but old habits are hard to break. Since you ...
Views: 1980(1 vote) - ***Top Break Up Quotes that Help you Heal and Grow - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishEven if you are the one saying good-bye in an intimate relationship, you still may not feel strong, wise and happily single and alone again. It is normal to feel scared and doubtful about your decision to leave. Whether you are doing the leaving or you are the one who is being ...
Views: 1812(1 vote) - ***Dating Etiquette for Men and Women: Who Pays When and How Much? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHas dating etiquette about money really changed from the days when men paid for everything? Yes and No. In the not too long ago past—talk to your parents and grandparents—men paid for almost everything on a date. Oh, once in a while the woman would treat him to something that was not ...
Views: 1942(1 vote) - ***When Women Fall for Bad Boys: The Allure, Danger and How to Manage It - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishBad boys have edginess. They’re risk-takers, a trait that’s present in successful, charismatic men of power, status, wealth and savvy. So, what’s wrong with being attracted to them? The answer is “almost nothing,” as long as you don’t allow the exhilaration ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - *** How to Avoid the Top Relationship Dangers of Minimizing Harmful Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish*Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he accused her of cheating on her and lying. The moment she ...
Views: 4557(1 vote) - *** What Are the Best New Year’s “Dating” Resolutions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMaking and keeping New Year’s resolutions is challenging—especially when you want to make the best resolutions about dating. Don’t despair. You can make smart resolutions — and use your brain’s ability to undo old habits to keep your resolutions! Let’s start first with smart resolutions that ...
Views: 1707 - ***10 Things to Remember With Opposite-Sex Friends - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHere is the age-old question: Can a man and woman be friends and stay strictly platonic? The answer is “Yo and Nes”—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how do you know if your friendship with a person of the opposite sex might cross over into “dangerous ...
Views: 1784 - ***10 Things Women Should Do To Be Safe on First Dates - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYes, it can happen to you—the date with the man you always wanted. But don’t let your enthusiasm compromise your safety. Get smart and take the following precautions ahead of time. How to Protect your Safety on Dates 1. Tell Friends and Family. Let your family, ...
Views: 1880 - ***11 Lifestyle Signs of a Bad Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIt’s difficult enough to meet someone who seems like a good love match. But then, over time, things happen between you and your partner that make you wonder: “Is this the right person for me?” It seems as though it should be such an easy question to answer. But once you fall in love, your ...
Views: 2342 - ***3 Things to Do if Colleges Reject You - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishColleges Rejected You? Learn Top Tips of Intuitive Parents and Students—and Get Accepted! Got rejected or wait-listed by your college or grad school? I got rejected in my senior year in high school by all the colleges I applied to! And, later, I got rejected on my first attempts at ...
Views: 1847 - ***5 Signs That He Might Be Cheating on You! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishHere are some thoughts that might surprise you. There is not necessarily a type of person who cheats. Even nice people can be cheaters—and this concept can cloud your ability to see the signs that your partner is a cheater. How many times have you watched true crime ...
Views: 2031 - ***5 Things Women Do on Dates that Make Men Run for the Hills! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishI’m sure many of you have wondered why a man didn’t call back — or call you at all after you had what you thought was a wonderful conversation. It’s very confusing. Doubts swirl through your mind such as: was I too quiet or too opinionated? Did I talk about my ex too ...
Views: 2319 - ***5 Things Women Should Never Do on a First Date - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishFirst dates are both exhilarating and a bit frightening. And sometimes it’s hard to know the difference between these two feelings. No wonder — these emotions arouse virtually the same areas in the brain. Even more confusing, when you feel anxious, you often ...
Views: 2077 - ***5 Ways to Reduce Stress about Work, Home and Love: Adding Love & Order - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishUh-oh—another study about women’s unhappiness at home. The sociologist Arlie Hochschild wrote in her 1997 book, “The Time that Binds,” that time at home with spouses and children was more stressful than time at the office. The author described home as a place where couples had ...
Views: 1520 - ***7 Things You Should Know about Your First Post-Divorce Serious Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishWell, you got through your divorce, settled in to your new life as best you can, and now you are in your first important, post-divorce intimate relationship. You’re excited and relieved — yet also wary. You wonder if this new relationship is a go? Your doubts are not unfounded. After all, ...
Views: 2133 - ***Are You a Woman Who is Attracted to Men Who are “Movers and Shakers” and Commanding Men of Authority? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishThere is NOTHING WRONG with choosing these men–but be sure you can trust your intuition to know how to detect the difference between a “take charge” man and a man who wants to take charge of YOU! These tips come from my research with thousands of women for my book “Smart Relationships: How ...
Views: 1853 - ***Are You Stressing Already about the Holiday? How to Get Out of Your Holiday Rut— Create New Grooves that Outlive the Holiday Season - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYep—soon it will be time for you to get: HOLIDAY SEASONAL STRESS DISORDER. Symptoms of this disorder include: Dreading being with some of your family members—and not knowing how to fend off those not so nice family comments about YOU! Feeling lonely and unhappy Spending too ...
Views: 1388 - ***Ask Dr. Wish: Dating a Man with Kids - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishDear Dr. Wish, Please help me get my thinking clear about my boyfriend “Don,” who has been divorced for two years and has seventeen year-old twin sons who live with his ex. We’ve been dating for a year. I have never been married and I don’t have any ...
Views: 1316 - ***Boosting Your Intuition About Domestic Violence: How to Take Charge of Your Safety and Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIf you have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to think: Why doesn’t the person just get out of it? Well, think of these things: An abuser knows exactly what emotional buttons to push in his or her partner. The abuser is a master of finding that chink in the partner’s ...
Views: 1601 - ***Boundaries in Relationships – How to Set them & Choose Your Battles - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishI’ve often told my clients that at any moment World War III could break out in your intimate relationship—if you let it. You really do have to pick your battles and your moment, tone, words, and emotional intensity. Here are some key ideas from Part 1. Quick Review: Managing ...
Views: 1406 - ***Break Up Advice – How To Deal With Your Ex Boyfriend - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishYes—you broke up because it wasn’t working. Every relationship has unique details about unhappiness. You may still harbor some doubts, but, for now at least, breaking up feels the right thing to do. It wasn’t easy—regardless if the relationship was very bad or just not a good match ...
Views: 1423 - ***Can a Man and Women Really have a Platonic Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishCan a man and woman manage not to mix together eventually? The answer is “Yo and Nes”—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how can you tell if your friendship is going to remain a friendship or turn into something more? In the movie When Harry Met ...
Views: 2489 - ***Dating Advice: Awareness Techniques to Help You Hold Back on Rushing Love - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishMany of us have probably heard the word “mindfulness,” but what does it mean? And more importantly, why should I bother? Obviously, I think it’s important, otherwise I wouldn’t be mentioning it. So, I’ll start by attempting a definition. Mindfulness is the ...
Views: 1694 - ***Dating Advice: Building Trust in Your Intuition. Part 2 of 2. - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishIt’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare. What went wrong? Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others. You are most ...
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