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- Dear Dr. Romance: My daughter told me that she can't take it anymore and wanted to kill herself - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a divorced father of 3. I am remarried. My 11 year old daughter is very upset about her mother's new boyfriend that is also still married. He was first introduced as a friend but she doesn't understand why he is always at the house and stays till late at night. My ...
Views: 1645 - What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaUnless you're completely out of touch with any media, written, audio or video, you have been bombarded with words like "dysfunctional relationship", "codependency" and "toxic family system". You may have noticed that there's a lot of information available about these relationships, but not too ...
Views: 1645(3 votes) - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1643 - Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaThe revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ...
Views: 1642(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want some peaceful and happy years of my life - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was brought up with eight children Where father was gone from home early morning till late night. Mother all the time angry at one kid or the other. Everybody use to say I was the better behaved sibling among all, and my mom was always partial to other children in ...
Views: 1637(1 vote) - Growing Up as an Adult - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Tina Tessina“Miracles do happen,” wrote Chaim Weizman , the first President of Israel “but one has to work very hard for them.” To grow up and out of a painful, dysfunctional past and all its leftovers—feelings, memories, pain, confusion, anger, fear, and persistent ...
Views: 1637 - Dear Dr. Romance: The most traumatic experience of my entire life - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Recently I have been trying to cope with the most traumatic experience of my entire life. I am a grandmother and homemaker who has been deserted by my spouse and left both homeless and penniless. (I am staying at the home of a friend now.) After weeks of ...
Views: 1636 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have cheated on my husband 3 times - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've heard you on the radio, and I've been married the same length of time as you. We've known each other since grade school. I have cheated on my husband 3 times. He still wants to stay married and rebuild trust but he's got major depression and ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I have a tendency to lose myself in a relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ...
Views: 1635 - Dr. Romance Video: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Tina Tessinaclick here for video It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what hteir parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids: 1. Don't do ...
Views: 1634(3 votes) - Dr. Romance on: The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Politeness and sensitivity are not held in high esteem in the media these days. The nastiest politicians get the most air time. Many media spokespeople, stars and commentators, “gangsta” rappers, nasty radio talk show stars and “edgy” comedians; as well as personalities ...
Views: 1633(1 vote) - Dr. Romance video: Am I too old to date again? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video In today's world, people don't often realize the importance of companionship until later in life. Staying fit and physically and socially active increases your odds of finding someone to date, and also increases your libido and your chances of successful sex. But, ...
Views: 1633 - Dr. Romance: Bored with your Sex Life? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaPut Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams ...
Views: 1633(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of your from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed ...
Views: 1632(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It was one of those magical encounters with a personal truth—you know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, I’m still using it as a guide. The ...
Views: 1632 - 3 Tips Single Parents Need To Know - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaHow To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup. I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere Are Four Steps. Are You Doing All Of Them? Are you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1631 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills. - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabed vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should he rent a room in his ex's house? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, Should a man expect a woman to want to become involved with him when he is still best friends with is ex-lover--and he is a renter in her house? He claims it is all over between them, but I don't see how he or the ex-lover should expect a woman to feel comfortable ...
Views: 1624(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: A Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in ...
Views: 1623(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: The constant problem has been broken trust - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ...
Views: 1621(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He Was Never That Into Me - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that ...
Views: 1619(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is ...
Views: 1616(4 votes) - Dr. Romance on Using Social Media to Find Dates - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I find that more of my clients are reporting meeting someone new via Social Media sites like Twitter, LInkedIn and Facebook. They are discovering that they can find a good "match" by beginning in an arena where like-minded people already hang out. ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Does your relationship need a spring cleaning? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage: Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular ...
Views: 1616(2 votes) - Motivation and How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss) - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaMany of my clients have come in complaining of a lack of motivation; from not being motivated enough on the job, to not being able to diet, quit smoking, or get out of bed in the morning. They desire to achieve both positive and negative motivations—positive motivations and being ...
Views: 1615 - Are You Remarried? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one. 1. Understand your baggage. You both have leftovers from earlier ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay. - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader: Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what ...
Views: 1612(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: the worst nightmare of my life - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's been months since I wrote to you and received your very excellent advice. In the meantime I was able to get therapy, and . Since then I have slowly been recovering from the worst nightmare of my life. I want to thank you ...
Views: 1612 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to be the Victim of any Jezebel - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a gentle young graduate of about 30 years. Throughout my staying on the campus, I decided not to enter into any real relationship that could eventually lead to marriage (I mean I had nothing in common with girls). Now, I need a life partner, wish must be a graduate ...
Views: 1611(1 vote) - Dr. Romance On: The Tennis Match: How to Balance the Power in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaCouples often come in to Dr. Romance's counseling office soon after they move in together, because they’re arguing about differences in design and life styles. Whose furniture to use, where to put it, who can use each room, or how to work out the division of labor. These squabbles are ...
Views: 1607(2 votes) - Can You Really Find Love The 2nd Time Around? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ...
Views: 1601(1 vote) - Baby Boomer? Getting Divorced? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaTwo Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a ...
Views: 1597(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I was reduced to a house maid - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I fell in love and married a man from another city. We have been married for three years. I livedwith his family, which included his parents and his three younger sisters, plus children. In my eastern culture, we mostly live with our inlaws. My mother in law's ...
Views: 1596 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1595 - Dear Dr. Romance: It would be embarrassing if they found out it was a wig - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This question is a little hard for me because it is very personal. My husband and I were married for 24 years before he passed away. During our time together, I developed a severe case of alopecia which has left me with very little hair. This did not bother my ...
Views: 1594 - Debunking Myths about Dating - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaI'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book. A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ...
Views: 1594 - Dear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him? Dear Reader: I'm so sorry you're going through this with your son. If he wants help, ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaTo view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn't work. A relationship that ...
Views: 1593(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Comforting the Little Orphan Girl - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Stop Reacting and Start Relating - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I will celebrate our 28th anniversary next month, and we agree there’s no better delight than sharing life with a loving partner, when you get along as well as we do. Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage is all ...
Views: 1592(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home ...
Views: 1591(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 1591(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again. - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again. This time we got closer ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on 10 signs a guy is cheating on you - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Telling a guy you won't stand for cheating is a waste of time. Instead, be open and accepting, and encourage him to talk about his sexual exploits. If he's cheated before, he probably will cheat again. The best protection against cheating is to have open and frank ...
Views: 1590(2 votes) - Stop! The Don't Do Dating List - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Five Things You Must Not Do Dating someone new is not easy for anyone. Expectations can be high, and it’s very easy to make a wrong move. Knowing what not to do on your earliest dates can help you to avoid future problems. Here are Dr. Romance’s reminders of what not to do on a ...
Views: 1588(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
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