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- Dear Dr. Romance: They said "Go help somebody, you selfish jerk." - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am an addict. long term. I've had some time in NA running what I thought, and what others even so much reinforced, that when I began to feel like I needed to "leave the nest" a little (at about five years sobriety), I copped all kinds of flack from ...
Views: 1173(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 677(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: This roller coaster of emotions has changed me. - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My husband has always suffered from abandonment issues. His mother & maternal grandmother were abusive and non-nurturing. They dangled the carrot of money as his reward but criticized him for everything about himself and cited the reason he helped them and ...
Views: 1222(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Though we slept together while his wife was away, I regretted it - by Submitted on May 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an Arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ...
Views: 802(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are ...
Views: 621(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 697(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: We just had a small fight, but she doesn't want to talk - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend isn't talking with me since 2 months now. I'm frustrated. We are best friends since 3 yrs now. In Feb suddenly she stopped talking. We just had a small fight as in regular nothing serious. When i asked she said she doesn't want to talk anything for ...
Views: 686(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What are your suggestions for locating a therapist? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a reader and a fan of It Ends with You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction. It's been a big help to me. Thank you! I am looking for a therapist in my city to help me sort through my life's direction. I have been living a life that someone else in ...
Views: 1073(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Could He/She be a Control Freak?" and I suddenly found information that seemed to pertain to a failed marriage that I was still pondering about. I am wondering, if a person had a chaotic childhood ...
Views: 1470(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What can an older man do to win a younger woman? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...
Views: 3784(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader: Being out of touch with one's own wants and needs is a primary way to self-sabotage. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. ...
Views: 744(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What does fighting in a relationship mean? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Ok. So my boyfriend and I are 11 months strong, but for the past maybe 4 or 5 months it has been on and off fighting. From big and important things to tiny pointless things. I dont understand why this is happening to us.. why? How canthis be resolved? I need help! Dear ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 859(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. ...
Views: 590(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is Wrong with Me? - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me? Angry, sad, blah? It's 5 am and I'm still awake. I'm 29, single (I don't mind), I go to school, an ok job, pets. I'm not starving, as long at there's a roof over my head i'm good to go. So many things I really want to do. I get into it then I don't ...
Views: 2131(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me? Angry, sad, blah? It's 5 am and i'm still awake. i'm 29, single (i don't mind), i go to school, an ok job, pets. i'm not starving, as long at there's a roof over my head i'm good to go. so many things i really want to do. i get into it then i don't ...
Views: 1102(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 832(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What was all this for? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's funny that many times I talk to my girlfriends about dating and usually get the sister talk that really does not result in much clarity. It's more like we talk to each other to have an opinion. That's not to say none of my girls make much since, it's just ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: When younger sisters say hurtful things - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My sister is 2 years younger and not long after my Dad died, I thought we should sit down and talk about things that needed to be done. She is the executor and took offense, accusing me of getting between her and Dad. Then, when my Mom got sick, she also got angry ...
Views: 1396(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am I assumed to be a cougar good for only one thing? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a single woman in my late 40's. I've had several serious relationships, but unfortunately, although I lived with a couple of them, I've never been married. I have a minor physical disability, a stomach condition, but I am attractive, I look younger than I am, I'm well ...
Views: 3823(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr. Romance Blog. I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I have kids. Its pretty dam aggravating. I haven't even had date ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1449(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: why do I always have sex on the first date? - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm trying to find out why I always have sex on the first date. This is not to say that I have sex with every girl I date, or even that every girl I've gone out with has even been interested in me. It is simply to say that the overwhelming majority of my "situations" have been ...
Views: 1000(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why do I not care that my girlfriend broke up with me? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This girl wasn't really my girlfriend but we pretty much were dating. I was thinking of asking her out in a few days. We talked today and she said she would rather be friends. I thought I should be mad or sad but the weird thing is I don't really care. Why? Is this normal? Is ...
Views: 786(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is my ex still calling me? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about 2 years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that ...
Views: 1454(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is there no support line for men? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for writing "Lighten Up - Cures for Marital Boredom." Please allow me to give my opinion as to my priorities. I always had the idea to start from the bottom of your list and go upwards. Work together to create a partnership. Sex is important in life, but ...
Views: 914(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my ...
Views: 1495(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 1205(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Won't solving the problem for myself create resentment? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help? Dear Reader: Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ...
Views: 499(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 803(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Can you make your wife fall in love again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I would like to know if it's possible to make your wife fall in love with you again? She just recently announced to me that she wanted to go our separate ways. I am devastated we have 2 kids together and she told me that she just grew apart from me. I'm madly in love ...
Views: 732(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Can you program the subconsious? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw the articles on your site and I would like to know if you can ´´program´´ the subconscious mind to win a X salary per month, even if the subconscious mind is programmed to attract money. Dear Reader: We have a brain mechanism psychologists call ...
Views: 646(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really long ...
Views: 759(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I am on MAJOR pain pills - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 49 year old disabled vet, chest injury in pain 24/7. I am on MAJOR pain pills. Have not had sex with wife since one day I pulled her pants down and found a river of a substance that looked like human ejaculate but smelt like beer. Six months later she said it was ...
Views: 699(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I just miss her a lot - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your article about women dating younger men. So, here I'm in a middle of a crisis... hope you can read it and hope you can give some advise. I'm 30, with a promising career and a stable job. A year ago, I met a woman, who's seven years older and has 3 ...
Views: 743(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: I recently discovered numerous women he text messages - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article "Keys to a Happy Relationship" and would be greatful for some advice. I havn't been with my partner long. We are both in our twenties and we met a few months ago and already live together because it's the only way we could see ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: Is she bipolar or what? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some help. My partner has had some emotional problems and I don't know what they are. is she bipolar or what else? She gets angry about everything and is very negative, she is very incecure and thinks I dont love her even if I told her 10 mins ...
Views: 776(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: She doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife she wil get angry very easily. Even for simple things she gets very angry. She always tells me to leave her and she wants to live her family especially with her mother. She tells me she doesn't want to live and mostly she hurts her self. The biggest problem is my ...
Views: 794(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I Don't Know - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - Dear Dr.Romance: What do I need to do to become a therapist? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaI am a 25 year old M.A. student from the Middle East. This year is my final year to have my M.A. degree as a Family specialist to become a family counselor. I saw many things you wrote online as a family and couple therapists and i Loved them all! I was wondering if you could direct me and hear ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dear. Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad. - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for nearly 20 years and thought we had a great marriage. 10 years ago I got hurt and have had 6 back surgeries. At one point I would double up on meds and drink to ignore life. During this time my husband was an angel; until he discovered I ...
Views: 1368(1 vote) - Don’t Panic! - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Tina TessinaThere is always something in the news or on TV to scare us. Hysterical articles in the media sell papers, and attract eyeballs to websites, but are usually exaggerating the facts. If you listen without evaluating what you’re being told, it’s easy to become frightened. There's a reason why I ...
Views: 2005(1 vote) - Dr Romance Video: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2012 from Tina TessinaTo watch the video, click here. It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success. When dating and getting to know ...
Views: 2760(1 vote) - Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDr Romance’s 3 tips for living with someone instead of marriage: It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - Dr Romance’s 3 tips to know it's time to let go of your relationship - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As a counselor, I’ve helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but it isn’t always possible. If your relationship feels detrimental to your mental, emotional or physical well-being, it's time for a change. If your lover has or develops severe problems ...
Views: 1254(1 vote) - Dr Romance’s Happiness Tips: Alone on Valentine’s Day? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Valentine's Day gets a lot of media attention, and it can be hard to avoid. When you don't have a special someone to spend it with, or worse yet, you've just lost a relationship, it can be brutal. If you're alone, it's important to take good ...
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