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- 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaAccording to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for various reasons. Cupid, the ancient Roman god of love, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a ...
Views: 1734(2 votes) - A Good Cry - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaAt the end of a client-packed day, the trash can in my office is often overflowing with used tissues. Richard, seeing this, usually comments; “Good day, huh?” and we both laugh. He knows that, when clients cry, they’re usually breaking through and healing something. I’ve ...
Views: 1530(1 vote) - Age Differences in Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men can find this ...
Views: 1289(2 votes) - Creating Family Acceptance - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaLately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month. ...
Views: 1198(2 votes) - Dear Dr Romance: I Need a Good Self-Help Book - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I congratulate you for your many helpful articles on the Internet. I would like to have your advice. I am male and in the last 25 years I had a therapy experience which lasted 3 1/2 years and left me with unresolved issues; shorter therapy experiences with different ...
Views: 1940(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1297(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Insane? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I seek some understanding & hope that you will be able to help. I think that I don't know what love is & it has me in constant turmoil. I married when I was 23 yrs old & have 2 beautiful children. Regrettably, the marriage ended in divorce. I am ...
Views: 1587(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can short guys date? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ...
Views: 1288(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He hasn't told his Mum - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having a little issue which I'd like some advice on; Firstly my partner had liked me for a few years before asking me out. We have been together for almost a year, yet he hasn't told his Mum that we are in a serious relationship. I have approached the subject but ...
Views: 1225(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: he is still stuck in his bad habits - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read most of your book, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction and loved it. I work at a center where in talking to our clients, we have found repeated patterns of dysfunction (generational), over and over and over again, so your ...
Views: 1167(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says he can't give me what I want - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope that you will be able to help me with a problem that i find i now have. I meet a man on line and he and i are great together everything was going great then a ex girlfriend had him put in jail saying that he was stalking her when he was really just going to his brothers ...
Views: 3590(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says that I am cheating on him, but I don't feel that way. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been having problems in our relationship lately because of of the time I spend in chat rooms. I estimate that in a 48 hour period I spend 8 hours chatting with my friends. He estimates that I spend 15 hours there. One ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants it to be over - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your site by accident and I hope you can help me. I have been divorced for one year and have been seeing a co-worker for most of that time. I have known him for five years and have been in a "relationship" with him for one of those. He is my ...
Views: 1416(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My partner says I turn him on which means, it seems to me, that he would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. It's almost too much and I don't know how to handle it. My background with sex, including the children's dad, has been: ...
Views: 1530(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me deal with this person without going insane - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I'm a victim of emotional & mental abuse by my hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband. The sad truth is that this person doesn't or refusing to recognize what he's doing and I'm very worry for my 8 years old son who I'm sharing 50% custody with the father. I ...
Views: 1244(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He´s a Jehovah Witness and am a Pentecostal - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just saw write up on the issue of older woman and younger man. This have been a great issue for me, I make friends easily with people and at the end of the day they want a relationship and all to find that am older than them. Its been happening to me for ...
Views: 1235(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Make My Family Understand I Love Him? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Him Understand? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful ...
Views: 1914(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a substance abuse counselor - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ...
Views: 1180(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure if I am considered his "girlfriend." - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ...
Views: 1280(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, ...
Views: 1219(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't forget him after 10 years - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Southeast Asia. I knew about you from the internet. I have a problem that I haven't found the way out till now. Before I tell you anything, first please forgive me if my english is not too well. I am in my late 20's and for most local people at that ...
Views: 1775(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Excellent advice and a most excellent article I just read about older women dating younger men and age differences. I'm a 50 year old single male and have been single for 15 years with no children and have dated younger women on several occasions but did ...
Views: 1617(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he crossdressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 1838(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to Leave without Saying Goodbye - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors. I will be leaving ...
Views: 2507(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Feel Like We Have to Sneak Around and Hide - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This is ...
Views: 1977(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I get upset that he hasn't been responding at all - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I just wanted to express to you how I thoroughly enjoyed your article about how there should be a tennis match type of communication. The guy I like hasn't been responding when he usually responds and though he's a busy professional, I get upset that he ...
Views: 2355(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have always been a good mom - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about 9 ...
Views: 1225(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have lost the umph for even planning the wedding - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ...
Views: 1208(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 1239(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I lost everything - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article about "Age Differences in Dating" and thought you might be interested in a case history. I was married to a younger man for twenty years.He was 21 and I was 40 when we met.I had been in a very unhappy marriage for twenty years and had three ...
Views: 1300(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Really Wish I Could Go Back in Time and Fix This - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We both were in ...
Views: 1813(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 2004(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want the playgirl, but they like the bad boy type - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This is something that's puzzling me for along time. I often do want the playgirl, but they like the more bad boy type. I know for sure I want sex without strings attached, many men get this, but I simply attract women who want a boyfriend, and I ...
Views: 1942(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 1722(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm wondering about a "blind date" - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been reading your article "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting". I certainly will appreciate any wisdom or guidance that you can share. I'm a minister who ministers to congregations, and I was widowed several years ago. 1. I've pretty much ...
Views: 1179(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I've always been asked out - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it. I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive. I look ...
Views: 1202(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1203(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1203(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is It Possible to Love Someone without Ever Dating Them? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader: Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ...
Views: 10755(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: it was like our relationship didn't matter - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am hoping you can help. I made a query about maintaining a marriage over long distance and noted your book The Commuter Marriage My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have had our ups and downs. We are both commited to our relationship. We lived in different ...
Views: 1579(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's as if something turned out bad - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. ...
Views: 1176(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: my sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ...
Views: 1255(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago.My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she fells like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
Views: 1309(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1167(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1466(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should she tell the man she's in love with him? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the internet your advice to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
Views: 1221(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 1317(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: The constant problem has been broken trust - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ...
Views: 1648(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Was there anything else I could have done? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Recently, I have gone back to online dating but have some very strong concerns. I just severed a 5-year relationship with a man who seems to have an internet addiction. He worked from home and was constantly on the porn and personals (by looking ...
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