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- There Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They Are - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2009 from William CottringerThere Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They Are By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they should be done.” ~ Mark Twain. Here are two important clarifications that I think Mark Twain would have agreed ...
Views: 1083 - THINK IT BUT DON’T SAY IT - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2008 from William CottringerTHINK IT BUT DON’T SAY IT By Bill Cottringer As a kid I never bought into the infamous playground chant, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. Just re-look at my last name above. Now let your imagination run wild, empathizing about all the possible hurt and ...
Views: 1388 - Thinking Your Way to Success - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from William CottringerThinking Your Way to Success By Bill Cottringer “I want to know all God’s thoughts; all the rest are just details.” ~Albert Einstein. In today’s Information Age, quality thinking is the success currency of choice. Have you thought about the quality of your own thinking lately? I ...
Views: 1932 - Threading Life's Rope With Your Needle - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerTHREADING YOUR NEEDLE WITH LIFE’S ROPE By Bill Cottringer A great challenge and opportunity we all have in life is to be successful in threading our needle with life’s rope. This is our main success quest behind all that we do. The keys to this quest are in understanding the rope, ...
Views: 807 - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
Views: 1668 - Three Key Success Factors in Effective Management - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from William CottringerThree Key Success Factors in Effective Management By Bill Cottringer “The effective management of others always starts with effective self-management.” ~The author. There are libraries of books on how to manage effectively, but since there is already too much information and too ...
Views: 1052 - Three Paths to The Truth - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from William CottringerThree Paths to The Truth By Bill Cottringer “I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. As the above quote implies, there are but three main paths ...
Views: 1247 - Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from William CottringerThree Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship By Bill Cottringer “Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson. A writing colleague and dear friend of mine who is ...
Views: 1507 - Time: The Ultimate Yin-Yang Urstoff - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2021 from William CottringerTime: The Ultimate Yin-Yang Urstoff by Bill Cottringer “The hidden portal to real time is the precise now moment of when the past and future collide into the present.” ~The author. To see true time, You need double vision, One eye for convention The other for imagination. First ...
Views: 614 - TIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life. - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2014 from William CottringerTIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life. By Bill Cottringer “Reputation is not of enough value to sacrifice character for it.” Miss Clark. All of life, upon due reflection, seems to be a variation of one very basic rule commonly known as—Tit for Tat (literally blow for blow). This a ...
Views: 1472 - Today’s Primary Problem: Commonplace Evil - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2021 from William CottringerToday’s Primary Problem: Commonplace Evil By Bill Cottringer “The way in which you define something has a lot to do with how much or how little of the thing you have in hand, both quantity and quality.” ~The Author. Such is the case with the greatly misunderstood term evil. ...
Views: 490 - Too Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from William CottringerToo Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt By Bill Cottringer “Familiarity breeds contempt, for others at first, but then inwardly, contempt towards ourselves.” ~Oli Anderson, Synchronesia: A Depressing Existential Novel. Most relationship experts agree that contempt can creep into a ...
Views: 4089 - Train Your Brain in Mindfulness - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2019 from William CottringerTrain Your Brain in Mindfulness by Bill Cottringer “Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn. Why train your brain in “mindfulness?” Because mindfulness is what facilitates the other major components of emotional intelligence—self, ...
Views: 1054 - Training ROI - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerTraining ROI By William Cottringer Today, employee training has to be more cost effective than ever. Your tight bottom line can't afford the luxury of huge training expenditures without a serious return on investment. Below are the most important goals to focus on achieving in order to ...
Views: 1055 - TRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Egg - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from William CottringerTRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Egg by William Cottringer, Ph.D. “You can’t solve a problem with the same type of thinking that created it.” ~Albert Einstein. My Native American Totem is the deer. What this means for me is that the deer spirit is here to ...
Views: 1697 - Trapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from William CottringerTrapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? By Bill Cottringer “Refuse to be average. Let your heart soar as high as it will.” ~W.A.Tozer. Are you one of the “lucky” few people who have used your special talents smartly, worked with persistence in never giving up on ...
Views: 2051 - TRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURS - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2008 from William CottringerTRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURS by Bill Cottringer “Genuine happiness and true peace of mind only come about when you begin to make progress at knowing when to be even-handed and when to close your eyes, hold your breath and jump in with all fours.” ...
Views: 788 - Trust: The # 1 Issue In Living, Relating, Working & Even Sleeping. - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from William CottringerTrust: The # 1 Issue In Living, Relating, Working & Even Sleeping. By Bill Cottringer “Trust is the secular version of religious faith and faith is the growing belief and comfort in the truth and certainty of something you can’t see or otherwise prove.” ~The author. Why is trust such an ...
Views: 1206 - Trust: The Stuff That Holds Relationships Together - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from William CottringerTrust: The Stuff That Holds Relationships Together By Bill Cottringer “You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” ~Epicurus Successful relationships are built on unconditional ...
Views: 1361 - Truthful Thinking - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2007 from William CottringerTRUTHFUL THINKING By Bill Cottringer “Success is what we get from what we do to get it.” ~ The Author. Which is more satisfying—week-old, cold apple pie out of the refrigerator or hot, freshly-baked apple pie with cold French vanilla ice cream on top? If Mary wants chocolate cake for ...
Views: 1366 - TWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUT - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William CottringerTWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUT By Bill Cottringer “Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Bernice Johnson Reagon There are two very powerful Biblical challenges that have provoked me for years in the search for ...
Views: 1601 - Two Burning Questions That Keep Popping Up Like the Gopher-Bopping Game at Carnivals - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2008 from William CottringerTwo Burning Questions That Keep Popping Up Like the Gopher-Bopping Game at Carnivals By Bill Cottringer “Bold questions deserve bold answers.” ~ The author. There are two burning questions that keep popping up in my life, just like the gopher-bopping game at carnivals. Bop them down ...
Views: 1050 - Two Illusions That Spoil Reality - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2023 from William CottringerTwo Illusions That Spoil Reality by Bill Cottringer “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~Søren Kierkegaard. There are two persistent and compelling illusions that help spoil Kierkegaard’s version of reality. These are: (1) the strongly sensed ...
Views: 461 - TWO KINDS OF BELIEFS - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2016 from William CottringerTWO KINDS OF BELIEFS By Bill Cottringer “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.” ~Philip K. Dick. Beliefs are what drive and explain human behavior. They reassure us the truth of something and justify our thinking, feeling and acting in our minds, ...
Views: 1375 - TWO PATHS TO KNOWING - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2008 from William CottringerTWO PATHS TO KNOWING By Bill Cottringer “A good photograph is knowing where to stand.” ~Ansel Adams A few years ago, my youngest daughter Abigail asked for some help writing a research paper as a requirement for transferring credit from her Epistemology class to a new high school for ...
Views: 978 - TWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from William CottringerTWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING By Bill Cottringer “The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” ~ Norman Schwarzkopf. There are two very important questions you should ask yourself. Having the right answers can determine ...
Views: 1543 - Two Serious Problems We were Warned About in 1970 - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2022 from William CottringerTwo Serious Problems We were Warned About in 1970 By Bill Cottringer “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything” ~George Bernard Shaw. Are you feeling overwhelmed about the information overload and insane pace of technology ...
Views: 433 - Two Tantamount Truths - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from William CottringerTwo Tantamount Truths By Bill Cottringer “Conscience is no more than the dead speaking to us.” ~Jim Caroll There is no shortage of authors, books and movies about near death experiences, with over 5 million Internet works available. Authors like Moody, Jakoby and Greyson; books like ...
Views: 1167 - Ultimate Success Secret On A Pedestal: Right Perspective - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2007 from William CottringerULTIMATE SUCCESS SECRET ON A PEDESTAL: RIGHT PERSPECTIVE By Bill Cottringer “It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinion about these things.” ~Epictetus What was Jack Palace meaning , as Curly in the movie City Slicker, pointing with his finger in the sky and ...
Views: 1420 - Understanding Extreme Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2023 from William CottringerUnderstanding Extreme Behavior By Bill Cottringer “Human behavior flows from three main sources—desire, emotion, and knowledge.” ~Plato. Is it my imagination or is extreme behavior becoming more commonplace these days? Is the incident rate of extreme behavior actually increasing or ...
Views: 476 - Understanding The Violence of Rape - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2008 from William CottringerUnderstanding The Violence of Rape By Bill Cottringer “Liberty without love is destruction; love without liberty is despair.” ~Thomas Troward. Earlier in my career as a prison administrator, when I was just beginning my learning curve on understanding the hard core problems of life in ...
Views: 781 - Understanding Violence - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2024 from William CottringerUnderstanding Violence By William Cottringer, Ph.D. "Violence in an uncontrollable animal, which usually ends up attacking its own master." ~Renny Yagosesky. There are two main problems standing in the way of understanding violence. One roadblock is that the violence trauma event ...
Views: 302 - Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from William CottringerUndoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair Rx By Bill Cottringer “What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson. What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and ...
Views: 809 - Unhappiness/Happiness Reality Repair - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2009 from William CottringerUnhappiness/Happiness Reality Repair by Bill Cottringer “There is only one cause of unhappiness: The false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. Your reality repair results—decreasing ...
Views: 1090 - Unifying the Divide - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from William CottringerUnifying the Divide by Bill Cottringer A house divided against itself cannot stand. ~Abraham Lincoln. It is ironic that our country, which was founded on rebellion against divisive principles, ended up as a divided house itself starting with slavery and bringing us to today’s Great ...
Views: 415 - Unloading The Management Overload Problem - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerUNLOADING THE MANAGEMENT OVERLOAD PROBLEM By Bill Cottringer “I have a theory about the human mind. A brain is a lot like a computer. It will only take so many facts, and then it will go on overload and blow up.” ~Erma Bombeck. Is it just my imagination or do other managers feel ...
Views: 1118 - Various Versions of Happiness - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2020 from William CottringerVarious Versions of Happiness By Bill Cottringer “Happiness is what you do to stumble upon it.” ~The Author. The pursuit of happiness is something we all engage in, to some degree or another. And the last I heard, it is still an inalienable constitutional right of Americans and ...
Views: 844 - Walking to Success - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from William CottringerWalking to Success by Bill Cottringer “Slow down you’re doing fine. You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.” ~Billy Joel. There is too much hype about thriving to success and way too many hits about that “race” on the I-net (only 360 million!). Even the most simple, ...
Views: 806 - We Are Alike & We Are Different - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2021 from William CottringerWe Are Alike & We Are Different By Bill Cottringer “It is a darn shame that we spend so much time arguing and being annoyed with our differences, and not enough time understanding and celebrating them.” ~The Author. An important insight to apply for success is knowing the ...
Views: 676 - WE MAKE HELPING TOO COMPLICATED - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2008 from William CottringerWE MAKE HELPING TOO COMPLICATED By Bill Cottringer “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Frank We tend to make things much more complicated than they need to be. I am not sure why we do this. Maybe out of boredom and ...
Views: 877 - What Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from William CottringerWhat Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering? By Bill Cottringer “This is where you win the battle—in the playhouse of your mind.” ~Maxwell Maltz. Unfortunately, the short and truthful answer to the title question is not what you want to hear—nothing. ...
Views: 1187 - What Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2009 from William CottringerWhat Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) By Bill Cottringer “An unanswerable question: Are good vs. bad and fair vs. unfair dualistic, subjective judgments a human invention just to know one from the other, or do things actually have an innate positive vs. negative flavor ...
Views: 4153 - What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2016 from William CottringerWhat Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? By Bill Cottringer “There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley. While this article title seems to be a rather straightforward question, I doubt that it is ...
Views: 1231 - What Employers Need - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from William CottringerWhat Employers Need By Bill Cottringer “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.” ~J. Paul Getty. Knowing what employer’s need—not necessarily what they think they want (or what they deserve?)—can greatly improve job success in the organization for both employers and ...
Views: 1289 - What Is It About Henry or Mary? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from William CottringerWhat Is It About Henry or Mary? By Bill Cottringer “Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. ...
Views: 1414 - What Is It That Matters Most? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2008 from William Cottringer“It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ~Mother Teresa. One very interesting research study I came across a few years ago was done with very senior citizens who were all over 95-years of age. What interested me most were the top regrets these people had with ...
Views: 815 - What Is Love? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerWhat is Love? by William Cottringer, Ph.D. I have studied the "love phenomenon" personally and professionally for over 40 years now and would like to share a few things I have discovered in my studies. First, it may be that we are being artificial and limiting in trying to describe and ...
Views: 959 - What is Our Basic Nature? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from William CottringerWhat is Our Basic Nature? By Bill Cottringer He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts. ~Samuel Johnson. A turtle was about to enter the water on the edge of a large ...
Views: 448 - What Is The Moral of Your Story? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2014 from William CottringerWhat Is The Moral of Your Story? By Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. The answer to this intriguing title question ...
Views: 1964 - WHAT REALLY HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from William CottringerWHAT REALLY HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? By Bill Cottringer “Adam and Eve are like an imaginary number, like the square root of minus one... If you include it in your equation, you can calculate all manners of things, which cannot be imagined without it.” ~Philip Pullman. I have been ...
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