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- THE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARN - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from William CottringerTHE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARN By Bill Cottringer “It isn’t what you think you know that is most important, but rather how you feel about what you think you know.” ~Unknown author. What is this hardest lesson for us all to learn in life? Learning what to take seriously and what to ...
Views: 2381 - The Hurricane That Disrupts All Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from William Cottringer“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ~William James. What is this hurricane that disrupts all relationships at work and home? In two words: Wrong ...
Views: 1154 - The Imaginary Walls Between Religion, Spirituality And Psychology - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from William CottringerThe Imaginary Walls Between Religion, Spirituality And Psychology By Bill Cottringer “There are no whole truths; all truths are half-truths. It is trying to treat them as whole truths that plays the devil.” ~Alfred North Whitehead. Why do religion, spirituality and psychology try to tell ...
Views: 1010 - The least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth Considering - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from William CottringerThe least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth Considering By Bill Cottringer “The only way to mange the destructive affects of anger and hatred are to cultivate the positive antidotes of patience and tolerance.” ~The Dalai Lama. In any intensely close personal or work ...
Views: 816 - The Main Challenge for Leaders Today - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from William CottringerThe Main Challenge for Leaders Today By Bill Cottringer “Diversity: The art of thinking independently together.” ~Malcolm Forbes. There are two sound reasons for diversity: (a) It is the right thing to do from a human-kind perspective, and (b) the differences brought by diversity ...
Views: 1132 - THE MORE PLAN B’S AND C’S THE BETTER! - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from William CottringerYES…THE MORE PLAN B’S AND C’S THE BETTER! By Bill Cottringer “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” ~Henry David Thoreau. This is an interesting quote unless you have read an even more interesting one by Søren Kierkegaard. He maintained that “Life has to be lived ...
Views: 874 - The Most Important Thing To Know - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from William CottringerTHE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO KNOW By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “My quest has taken me through the physical, the metaphysical, the delusional and back...~John Forbes Nash. I am sure you all remember the powerful move, “A Beautiful Mind” (a great movie and book title!) in which the Aussie ...
Views: 966 - THE MOST IMPORTANT YES, BUT…IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2009 from William CottringerTHE MOST IMPORTANT YES, BUT…IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN ANYTHING by Bill Cottringer “One quality is worth more than four quantities.” ~The author. Although it may seem as though the quantity of your efforts are what lead to success at doing something your are trying, it is rather the quality of ...
Views: 1112 - The Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from William CottringerThe Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success By Bill Cottringer “I look for a role that hopefully I feel empathy with and that I can understand and love, but also that has that challenge for me to play - a different kind of role, a different type of character, a different time ...
Views: 1644 - The One Belief That Matters Most - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William Cottringer“For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. There is one huge belief that has a humongous influence on all others because it represents and touches everything else. This one belief that matters most is the one we each ...
Views: 801 - The Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from William CottringerThe Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide By Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; unite and lead, is watchword of the wise.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. There is no denying that we have a great Divide going on in our country, that has reached the point of begging ...
Views: 788 - The Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from William CottringerThe Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win By Bill Cottringer “There is one conflict that will never go away until we either figure out how to communicate past it or die trying. This conflict involves arguing for the beliefs and truths we are most certain about.” ~The Author. ...
Views: 1419 - THE ONLY WAY TO THE TOP IS ALWAYS AN UPHILL CLIMB - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2009 from William CottringerTHE ONLY WAY TO THE TOP IS ALWAYS AN UPHILL CLIMB By Bill Cottringer “Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing all the hard work you already did.” ~Newt Gingrich. This morning I was driven to write this article after initially responding via e-mail to an ...
Views: 1053 - The Path from Nobody to Somebody - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2023 from William CottringerThe Path from Nobody to Somebody by Bill Cottringer "Be a somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody." ~anonymous. Sometimes without being aware of it, or at least not fully knowing the details, we are all searching for a path to help us go from being a nobody to become a ...
Views: 364 - The Paucity Paradigm - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2017 from William CottringerThe Paucity Paradigm By Bill Cottringer “Usually the first problems you solve with the new paradigm are the ones that were unsolvable with the old paradigm.” ~Joel A. Barker. Way back in the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve did something that contaminated our thinking and the language ...
Views: 1196 - The Plus Side of ADHD - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerTHE PLUS SIDE OF ADHD By Bill Cottringer I have studied ADHD for nearly 60 years now and am ready to share the results of one very in-depth, classic case study—myself. As a child I would have gotten double “X’s” on every symptom checklist available. I ran and climbed constantly ...
Views: 2862 - The Power of Awareness - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2017 from William CottringerThe Power of Awareness By Bill Cottringer “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow. Focusing on one thing in life being more important than any other is a common mistake we often make. This usually results in over-embracing a ...
Views: 1425 - The Problem of Our Time - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2023 from William CottringerThe Problem of Our Time By Bill Cottringer “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” ~Albert Einstein. So, what is the problem of our time? The problem is that we all sense the pain from a growing monumental problem, but we don’t understand it ...
Views: 441 - The Problems a Divided Mind Causes - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from William CottringerThe Problems a Divided Mind Causes By Bill Cottringer “I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” ~Alan Watts. First, I suppose we should clarify what exactly a divided mind is. ...
Views: 1461 - The Purpose Of Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2007 from William CottringerThe Purpose of Relationships By Bill Cottringer “Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing it is not fish they are after.” ~Henry David Thoreau. Lately, I seem to be more successful at accomplishing what I am trying to do when I remain mindful of my primary purpose in what I ...
Views: 1374 - The Pursuit of Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2023 from William CottringerThe Pursuit of Happiness by Bill Cottringer Words can rarely capture the essence of an experience in life, especially common or over-used ones. Oddly though, the way you choose to define things like success, happiness, justice, freedom, and love, can often determine how much or how little ...
Views: 404 - THE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICT - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2008 from William CottringerTHE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICT By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Differences in thinking about problems and solutions cause great conflicts; but the way we communicate about these differences is the source of continuing the conflict.” ~ The author. Conflicts are a frequent ...
Views: 1063 - The Reality Principle of Success and Why Many People Don’t Follow It - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from William CottringerJames Gray’s “Two Lovers” with Joaquin Phoenix, Gwenth Paltrow, and Vinessa Shaw was an amusing, but predictable movie. The plot involved a confused young man carrying on with two completely different lovers—one very passionate, slightly out-of-reach relationship with all sorts of possibilities, ...
Views: 1604 - THE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORY - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from William CottringerTHE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORY By Bill Cottringer “Unhappiness is just the accumulation of an unwanted feeling arising from incorrect thoughts about and the anxiety of not being able to remove the source of the unhappiness and the increased unhappiness to which all this leads.” ~The Author. ...
Views: 1088 - The Rewards Of Negativity - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2008 from William Cottringer“Positive people live their lives like there are no tomorrows; negative people live life like it will go on forever but wish it wouldn’t.” ~The Author You really don’t have to have a Ph.D. in clinical psychology to explain why some people are positive and some are negative. Human ...
Views: 1447 - THE SECOND HALF OF THE FAITH JOURNEY - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2008 from William CottringerBy Bill Cottringer “Faith doesn’t fixate on the ownership of absolute truth of the mystery of life, it allows our experience and understanding of this mystery to grow as it may, with or without our belief and consent.” ~The author. One process seems most real to me—the creative movement ...
Views: 955 - The Secret In The Way of The secret - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from William CottringerThe Secret In The Way of The Secret by Bill Cottringer I have to admit I am both a fan and a skeptic with all the hype this past year or so about “The Secret.” My “fan” perspective is a feeling one. I feel the fundamental truth of the Law of Attraction and power of positive thinking is ...
Views: 786 - The Soul’s Revenge Of The Mind’s ExcessesSubmitted on Sep 04, 2009 from William CottringerThe Soul’s Revenge Of The Mind’s Excesses By Bill Cottringer “Everything in excess is opposed to nature.” ~Hippocrates. What is the real goal of self-growth? After 4+ decades of practical research into the self-growth movement, I have come to a tentative conclusion about this question: ...
Views: 1490 - The Spiritual Split - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2024 from William CottringerThe Spiritual Split By Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. One such truth is the awesome power of threes. Just consider the influence of the threes in pyramids, the Christian trinity, colors of traffic lights, a tri-fold ...
Views: 153 - The Success Team Formula Within - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from William CottringerThe Success Team Formula Within By Bill Cottringer Effective teamwork between quality thinking, healthy emotionality, disciplined behavior, and spiritual intelligence invariably results in long-term success, along with authentic happiness, genuine peace of mind, and inherent satisfaction. ...
Views: 330 - THE TAO OF NEW INFORMATION AGE TIME MANAGEMENT - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2011 from William CottringerTHE TAO OF NEW INFORMATION AGE TIME MANAGEMENT By Bill Cottringer “The challenge today is to catch up to the shift between the manufacturing age goal of squeezing a penny out of a nickel to the new information age goal of squeezing a nickel out of a penny.” ~The author. We are ...
Views: 1489 - The Tao of Teams - by Submitted on May 10, 2023 from William CottringerThe Tao of Teams by Bill Cottringer “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” ~Helen Keller, activist. Effectiveness and successful results in today’s government, business and non-profit organizations is delivered mostly by effective teams. The Gestalt Principle ...
Views: 470 - The Terrible Twins Within - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...
Views: 782 - The Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral Consciences - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from William CottringerThe Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral Consciences By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. We start out and end up at the same place in finding and knowing ...
Views: 819 - The Three Core Conflcits - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2021 from William CottringerThe Three Core Conflicts by Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author. There are three core conflicts for humans: (1) Us vs. life (2) Us vs. others, and (3) Us vs. ourselves. We all ...
Views: 629 - The Three Main Highways to Success - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from William CottringerThe Three Main Highways to Success By Bill Cottringer “Knowing how to succeed is the easy part. The hard part is in translating your desire into hard work and maintaining perseverance through inevitable setbacks.” ~ The Author. If you do a Google search on “success” there are ...
Views: 687 - THE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of Change - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from William CottringerTHE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of Change By William Cottringer, Ph.D. What is faster than a nanosecond? Whatever it is, it is upon us! Right at this moment I am both crying and laughing about the impact of Karl Fish’s “Shift Happens” I-Net and U-tube “Fishbowl: Did You ...
Views: 912 - The Tricks Of Positive Thinking - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TRICKS OF POSITIVE THINKING By Bill Cottringer “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill. Gee, we have all heard enough about the power of positive thinking, right? You only get about 4 ...
Views: 3166 - The Trouble with Beliefs - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from William CottringerThe Trouble with Beliefs By Bill Cottringer “Man is what he believes. ~ Anton Chekhov. The main trouble with beliefs is that people take them, along with themselves and the certainty of their beliefs being true, too seriously. The other half of that problem is that it is a belief ...
Views: 773 - The Trouble With Self-Help - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2008 from William Cottringer“If you want to know where you are going, stop; look at where your feet are pointing and look behind you to see where the footprints are that got you here.” ~The Author. I have been a part of the positive psychology, human potential and self-help movements since the late sixties. At this ...
Views: 697 - The Truth Shall Set You Free - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2021 from William CottringerThe Truth Shall Set You Free By Bill Cottringer “The beautiful irony about the truth is that it hates dark places. It despises being hidden. It loves the limelight, and it always forces itself out.” ~Mitta Xinindlu. From my research, there seem to be two main opposing sources for ...
Views: 557 - The Truth Will Set You Free2 (John 8: 31-32) - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2022 from William CottringerThe Truth Will Set You Free2 (John 8: 31-32) By Bill Cottringer “The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.” ~David Foster Wallace, author. From my research, there seem to be two main opposing sources for interpreting the true literal and the intriguing ...
Views: 529 - The Two Halves Of Life - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TWO HALVES OF LIFE By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. From where I am standing do my looking today, there seems to be two distinct halves to my life. Of course I am interested in finding ...
Views: 894 - The Two Main Goals of Personal Development - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from William CottringerThe Two Main Goals of Personal Development By Bill Cottringer “Small daily improvements are the key to staggering long-term results.” ~Anonymous. Our personal development efforts in learning, growing and improving are aimed at increasing two very important capacities: (a) our ...
Views: 1063 - The Two Problems of Problem-Solving - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2024 from William CottringerThe Two Problems of Problem-Solving by Bill Cottringer If I had only one hour to save the world, I would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem, and only five minutes finding the solution. ~Albert Einstein. All the problems we are challenged to solve arise from three main ...
Views: 162 - THE UNNECESSARY SUFFERING PART OF NECESSARY SUFFERING - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William CottringerTHE UNNECESSARY SUFFERING PART OF NECESSARY SUFFERING By Bill Cottringer “Anything, anything would be better than this agony of mind, this creeping pain that gnaws and fumbles and caresses one and never hurts quite enough.” ~Jean Paul Sartre. Life involves a certain amount of painful, ...
Views: 1213 - The Will To Grow - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerTHE WILL TO GROW By Bill Cottringer There is one particular motivation that has a significant impact on the quality of your life; it can result in varying degrees of happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, peace and turmoil and good health and ill health. This single motivation ...
Views: 804 - The Wisdom of Insecurity - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2022 from William CottringerThe Wisdom of Insecurity by Bill Cottringer “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos. I wish I had originally come up with this simple but profound article title, but I have to give full credit to a ...
Views: 490 - THE “WORST BAD HABIT” YOU CAN GET CAUGHT UP IN - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from William CottringerTHE “WORST BAD HABIT” YOU CAN GET CAUGHT UP IN By Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes a while to see and the obvious—even longer.” ~Anonymous. What is the worst bad habit you can get caught up in? One that is hard to see because it is so much of who we are on this human journey. As it ...
Views: 907 - There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from William CottringerThere Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? By Bill Cottringer Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. There is a very fundamental principle of psychology that ...
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