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- Growing Your Knowing - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from William CottringerGrowing Your Knowing By Bill Cottringer “A huge part of life is to live, learn and leave a legacy of that living and learning.” ~The author. To be able to leave this legacy of living and learning, you have to successfully navigate a roadmap of four levels of learning so you know ...
Views: 1539 - GUIDE FOR THE PERPLEXED: - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from William CottringerGUIDE FOR THE PERPLEXED: Maneuvering Through The Self-Improvement Overload “The more you know, the less you have to say.” ~Jim Rohn. I was very encouraged to read some recent research on the younger post-MTV consumer generation. The good news is that this younger generation is fed up with ...
Views: 1410 - Having Enough Hope in Motion for Success - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from William CottringerHaving Enough Hope in Motion for Success By Bill Cottringer “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be ...
Views: 769 - Head And Heart Battle - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2008 from William Cottringer“He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.” ~Abraham Lincoln. For as long as I can remember, there has always been a raging war inside me between the terrible twins within—head vs. heart. That is wrong and this is right. This will work out for the best and that won’t. I can ...
Views: 4628 - HEALING THE DIVIDE - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2016 from William CottringerHEALING THE DIVIDE By Bill Cottringer “The belief that there is only one truth, and that oneself is in possession of it, is the root of all evil in the world.” ~Max Born. Last Month, I published an article in Security Management magazine, entitled “The Two-Way Manager.” This ...
Views: 1382 - Healing the Divide: A Few Partial Solutions Worth Considering. - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2020 from William CottringerHealing the Divide: A Few Partial Solutions Worth Considering. By Bill Cottringer “Until we can reconcile mind and matter as just being different sides of the same coin, dualistic thinking will continue to take things apart rather than put them back together where they belong. ~ The ...
Views: 845 - HELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2008 from William CottringerHELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? By Bill Cottringer I am currently writing a book called "Reality Repair Rx: Making Things Better," which I feel is very important today given the extent and scope of the problems we are all currently facing (total overload). I recently published “Do What Matters ...
Views: 823 - Hopelessness: The Only Real Enemy Worth Defeating - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2021 from William CottringerHopelessness: The Only Real Enemy Worth Defeating By Bill Cottringer “Hopelessness is a feeling. It's not a fact.” ~Anohni Hopelessness is the main cause of all the world’s problems and hope is the only real antidote. Thank heavens for the reality of the quote above, that ...
Views: 623 - How Do You Know What To Do For Sure? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from William CottringerHow Do You Know What To Do For Sure? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.” ~ Anonymous. How do you know what to do for sure? That is a very good question to which we should all want to know the answer, especially ...
Views: 839 - How Do You Navigate the Meadows and Mudfields of Self-Growth Advice? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2012 from William CottringerBy Bill Cottringer “Write to be understood, speak to be heard, read to grow.” ~Lawrence Clark Powell. Having been a reader and writer of the self-growth industry for over 5 decades now, I think I have something to say that needs saying. It all began with my serious reading and ...
Views: 1872 - How to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from William CottringerHow to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace By Bill Cottringer “People will try to tell you that all the great opportunities have been snapped up. In reality, the world changes every second, blowing new opportunities in all directions, including yours.” ~Ken Hakuta. From all my ...
Views: 1227 - How to Have a Near-Perfect Marriage Or Not. - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from William CottringerHow to Have a Near-Perfect Marriage Or Not. By Bill Cottringer “The happiest marriages are 75% right selection and 25% effort; choosing the right person and devoting the rest of the time being the right person.” ~The author, with the right person, being the right person. Let me begin by ...
Views: 931 - How To Talk With God - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from William CottringerHOW TO TALK WITH GOD By Bill Cottringer The other day I text messaged God’s Administrative Assistant to ask him how God would prefer for us to talk with Her. Since he was very well organized, as would be expected for an administrative assistant of the whole universe, he suggested I just ...
Views: 1290 - Human Capital Leadership Essentials - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from William CottringerHuman Capital Leadership Essentials By Bill Cottringer “Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” ~Jack Welch. If the dreadful COVID-19 pandemic taught the gamut of private business world, ...
Views: 576 - Humility Is At Least Half-King - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2007 from William CottringerHumility Is At Least Half-King By Bill Cottringer There is one critical virtue I can’t get enough of these days and I don’t think we ever appreciate its ultimate importance and value until the lack of it comes back to bite us in our butts. I think humility should be right up there with ...
Views: 895 - If Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen… - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from William CottringerIf Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen… By Bill Cottringer “I can believe anything, provided it is incredible.” ~Oscar Wilde. If enough people believe in something, it will happen…”The ‘Yes-but’ rest of the story is…True, but maybe just not quite in the exact way or ...
Views: 1287 - IF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2015 from William CottringerIF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? BY Bill Cottringer “Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.” ~Benjamin Franklin. Here are the few important realities in life that have held to be true long enough to be the exception to this ...
Views: 2029 - In and Out of Ruts - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from William CottringerIn and Out of Ruts by Bill Cottringer “It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller. First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here. • Being somewhere where you don’t want ...
Views: 365 - Is It Important To Have An Accurate View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2008 from William CottringerIs It Important To Have An Accurate View Of Reality? By Bill Cottringer “How many legs does a dog have if you call the tail a leg? Four. Calling a tail a leg doesn't make it a leg.” ~Abraham Lincoln. I suppose some people would pose slightly different versions of this title question: ...
Views: 1081 - IS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from William CottringerIS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? by Bill Cottringer “There is a point at which everything becomes simple and there is no longer any question of choice, because all you have staked will be lost if you look back. This is life's point of no return.” ~Dag Hammarskjold. I have ...
Views: 2328 - Isn’t It Time To Agree Upon The Important Stuff—Doing What Matters Most? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2009 from William CottringerIsn’t It Time To Agree Upon The Important Stuff—Doing What Matters Most? By Bill Cottringer In making the long, bumpy and winding way home in my own reality repair journey, I have finally discovered answers to the two most important questions I imagine we all have. These are: • What is ...
Views: 1053 - Job-Getting Reminder Tips - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2021 from William CottringerJob-Getting Reminder Tips By Bill Cottringer Although the post-pandemic job market is starting to lean toward favoring employees over employers, it is still a difficult challenge to find the right job today. Success requires some serious preparatory work in the following three areas, ...
Views: 712 - Judgments, Defensiveness, Undercurrents, Festering & Fairness - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2007 from William CottringerJUDGMENTS, DEFENSIVENESS, UNDERCURRENTS, FESTERING & FAIRNESS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. Sooner or later conflict occurs in any relationship. A particularly difficult conflict is when one person thinks or acts one way about something that is diametrically opposed to the other person’s ...
Views: 959 - Languages Of The Head, Heart And Soul - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from William CottringerLANGUAGES OF THE HEAD, HEART AND SOUL By Bill Cottringer “Truth is that sweet spot in time and place where your head, heart and soul hover over something from which nothing can be added, subtracted or changed.” ~The Author. I have been a student of conflict resolution and good ...
Views: 1319 - Leadership Skills - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from William CottringerLeadership Skills By Bill Cottringer If your want to be a leader, feel free to test your potential against this self-assessment instrument. And if you are already a leader, you can assess the level of leadership skills you have achieved and the ones still needing some work. The scoring ...
Views: 934 - Lessons From Early Team-Building - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from William CottringerLessons From Early Team-Building By Bill Cottringer “The ratio of We’s to I’s is the best indicator of the development of a team. ~Lewis B. Ergen. Effective team-building has always been known as essential to any success, whether we are talking about work teams, sports teams, ...
Views: 1969 - Letting Go Of "What Your Know' Management Thinking - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2007 from William CottringerLETTING GO OF ‘WHAT YOU KNOW’ MANAGEMENT THINKING By Bill Cottringer What It’s All About It’s not about— How smart you are, Who you know, Where you’ve been, Or what you have; It’s not about you, Or what you’ve done, Or left undone. Here’s what it’s about: Your silent surrender— The ...
Views: 1398 - Life's Hardest Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from William CottringerLIFE”S HARDEST LESSON By Bill Cottringer. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” ~Rick Warren. A doctor and her patient were having a defining-moment discussion about life’s hardest lesson. “So tell me what it is, said the impatient patient to ...
Views: 1871 - Life’s Ground Rules - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from William CottringerLife’s Ground Rules by Bill Cottringer Reality is the composite of the a priori laws of the universe which are left over from when we strip away all the perceptions, beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions that have been made. ~ The author. There are a few a priori ground rules ...
Views: 385 - Light Their Fires - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2007 from William CottringerLIGHT THEIR FIRES by William Cottringer Knowing how to motivate employees is an important part of any supervisor’s toolbox. Fortunately you don’t have to be a psychologist to be an effective motivator. All you have to do is apply practical people principles in a common sense way. Below ...
Views: 1081 - LIKEABLE COMMUNICATION - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2008 from William CottringerLIKABLE COMMUNICATION by William Cottringer “Our brains quickly perceive others to be likeable, neutral or unlikeable; the words that follow verify that initial perception.” ~The author. Ron and Jennifer are both successful professionals. Jennifer is on the top of her career as a CEO ...
Views: 2220 - Little Things Count Most in Getting a Job - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerLittle Things Count Most in Getting a Job By Bill Cottringer. A long time ago I discovered an extremely useful concept called perturbation point, or just "P" point for short. These are the little critical things you can do to get the biggest results. The following checklist has the little ...
Views: 960 - Little Things That Can Help a Good Relationship Stay That Way - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from William CottringerLittle Things That Can Help a Good Relationship Stay That Way By Bill Cottringer “A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results; a woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.” ~John Gray. ...but John Gray’s ...
Views: 1757 - Looking for Greener Pastures - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2021 from William CottringerLooking for Greener Pastures By Bill Cottringer “The grass on the other side of the fence isn’t always greener. Sometimes it is just a different shade of brown and other times it comes with unwanted weeds and underground pests. ~The Author. Having played fierce musical chairs for ...
Views: 798 - Lost in Translation - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from William CottringerLost in Translation By Bill Cottringer Hagar the Horrible was giving worldly advice to his your Viking son. He says, “The secret of happiness is be content with what you got,” …so, he continues, “get enough.” ~Dik Browne. John married Mary, his high school sweetheart, and after 20 ...
Views: 1569 - Love-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2009 from William CottringerLove-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing By Bill Cottringer “You know you are in deep trouble when you learn to either love to hate a person or hate to love them.” ~The author. In looking back over the many relationships I have had at work and domestic ...
Views: 974 - Managing Better Work Performance - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2014 from William CottringerManaging Better Work Performance By Bill Cottringer “Compelling trust is the highest form of human motivation” ~Stephen Covey. We have always known that excellent work performance has to be driven by strong motivation. But in the beginning, motivational experts were only scratching ...
Views: 1377 - Managing Gaps - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerMANAGING GAPS By Bill Cottringer Much of the management role involves the important process of identifying critical gaps, understanding the details of what is in between where things are and where you want them to be, and then managing to close these gaps quickly and cost-effectively. Here ...
Views: 1123 - MANAGING THE OVERLOAD - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from William CottringerMANAGING THE OVERLOAD By Bill Cottringer “Offices, desks, drawers, attics, basements, table tops, backyards, closets, medicine cabinets, garages, mailboxes, minds…all getting full of clutter and spilling over.” ~The author. Everything I read, see, think, talk about, and experience these ...
Views: 887 - Managing Towards The Simplicity Just On The Other Side Of Complexity - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2011 from William CottringerManaging Towards The Simplicity Just On The Other Side Of Complexity By Bill Cottringer “I wouldn’t give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but I would give my life for the simplicity just on the other side of complexity.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. The main purpose ...
Views: 1479 - Managing vs. Coaching - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from William CottringerManaging vs. Coaching by Bill Cottringer “You must always be the apprentice, even when you become the master.” ~ Christopher Cumby. A common problem with new managers is starting out with the wrong perspective, or as Stephen Covey would say, “getting to the top ...
Views: 1520 - Mental Demons - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from William CottringerMENTAL DEMONS By Bill Cottringer We humans have been given something that can be seen as a gift or a curse—the ability or the affliction of self consciousness. This is our unique characteristic that separates us from the rest of the things in our world. What are these mental demons ...
Views: 4812 - MENTAL SLICING & DICING YOUR WAY TO HALF-HAPPINESS - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2008 from William CottringerMENTAL SLICING & DICING YOUR WAY TO HALF-HAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “All colors are friends of their neighbors and the lovers of their opposites.” ~Marc Chagall. I am well into the second half of my life and in looking back I think I can openly admit that I goofed greatly in the first ...
Views: 892 - Modernize Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from William CottringerModernize Your Mind by Bill Cottringer The year 2020 might be a good time to think about modernizing your conventional mind, that is, if life hasn’t already forced you to do this. Here are some low-resistance, practical tips on facilitating mind- modernization: 1. Meta-thinking. ...
Views: 995 - Navigating Conflicts Successfully - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2024 from William CottringerNavigating Conflicts Successfully by Bill Cottringer Conflicts are an inevitable part of life and when they are not resolved, they often come back with increased velocity and vengeance to take a bigger bite from a part of the anatomy that really hurts. ~The author. Conflicts ...
Views: 365 - NO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENT - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2008 from William CottringerNO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENT By Bill Cottringer "A shortcut is the longest distance between two points." ~ Annonymous. Management information, like everything else today is on overload, so here is a quick system of No-Nonsense “P’ Point Management to help you accomplish a lot by ...
Views: 901 - Only Two Kinds Of People? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2007 from William CottringerONLY TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE? By Bill Cottringer Getting along with other people and working together cooperatively is the fundamental foundation of successful outcomes in the workplace. This is true teamwork at its best. Organizations without this foundation don’t grow or prosper, at least ...
Views: 1068 - Our Common Denominator - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from William CottringerOur Common Denominator By Bill Cottringer “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.” ~Dan Brown, The Da Vinci Code. One of the more important common denominators people have is: (a) being unique and different on the one hand with personal ...
Views: 767 - Passwords To The Land Of Plenty - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from William CottringerPASSWORDS TO THE LAND OF PLENTY By Bill Cottringer In spite of the fact that far too many people are just surviving un-plentiful lives of quiet desperation, a thriving ride to the Land of Plenty does exist for us all. However, long ago when we decided to come to this life, we hid away the ...
Views: 1011 - Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from William CottringerPeace of Mind by Bill Cottringer “When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” ~George Harrison. The amount of peace of mind we have, like happiness, contentment and other states of mind, depends largely on who we define the concept. It may ...
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