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- Do We Have a Common Purpose Here? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from William CottringerDo We Have a Common Purpose Here? By Bill Cottringer “Life is a promise; fulfill it.”~ Mother Theresa. I have been thinking about this question for a long time now during my life’s educational classes—my journey through formal schooling, interacting with a wide variety of people, ...
Views: 1774(2 votes) - When Your Back is Against the Wall… - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2015 from William CottringerWhen Your Back is Against the Wall… by Bill Cottringer …Or when you are caught between a rock and hard place and can’t get any lower because you are already lower than a snake’s belly. This is a horrible place to be in life, but only the lucky few escape these painful experiences. Most of ...
Views: 1767 - #1 Success & Happiness Solution: Rubber Band Thinking - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2013 from William Cottringer#1 Success & Happiness Solution: Rubber Band Thinking By Bill Cottringer “I wouldn’t give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity just on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. There is no shortage of good ...
Views: 1763 - The Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from William CottringerThe Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships By Bill Cottringer You may wonder why anyone in their right mind would miss these blatant red flags before they found themselves stuck in a fatal relationship; but the real problem becomes more of how to get out of such a ...
Views: 1758 - The Common Misalignment Problem in Organizations - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2012 from William CottringerThe Common Misalignment Problem in Organizations By Bill Cottringer “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” ~John F. Kennedy. Every “group” goes through a similar progression of four stages in its development and maturity: • Stage One: Members start out interacting ...
Views: 1744(1 vote) - Character-Building - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2007 from William CottringerCHARACTER-BUILDING By Bill Cottringer If you do a Google search on “character-building programs in schools” you will uncover nearly a quarter of a million hits. Why is character-building such an important topic getting so much attention in our schools? First of all it is not ...
Views: 1742 - Ten Easy Ways to Have Hard Conversations - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from William CottringerTen Easy Ways to Have Hard Conversations By Bill Cottringer “Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~Ronald Reagan. Even normal communication, which should be easy conversation, is an enormous challenge today. The sad reality is ...
Views: 1738 - Why You Want To Abandon Your Comfort Zone Right Now - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from William CottringerWhy You Want To Abandon Your Comfort Zone Right Now By Bill Cottringer “The security and safety of a comfort zone are a persistent illusion; but the only real security is in accepting your insecurities as you venture outside of your comfort zone.” ~The author. Here are six very good reasons to ...
Views: 1734 - “The Dark Depression Cloud of Later Life” - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2009 from William Cottringer“The Dark Depression Cloud of Later Life” By Bill Cottringer “The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” ~Doug Larson Later life often brings a dark cloud of depression that can be very worrisome and quite difficult to deal with, ...
Views: 1728(2 votes) - Resolving The Clash Between Younger and Older Workers - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2013 from William CottringerResolving The Clash Between Younger and Older Workers By Bill Cottringer “Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.” ~Max Lucade. Because of today’s economic uncertainty, earlier entry into occupations and delayed retirements, there is a growing gap and conflict emerging in ...
Views: 1721(1 vote) - Little Things That Can Help a Good Relationship Stay That Way - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from William CottringerLittle Things That Can Help a Good Relationship Stay That Way By Bill Cottringer “A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results; a woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.” ~John Gray. ...but John Gray’s ...
Views: 1710 - Brain and Heart Management for Better Success - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from William CottringerBrain and Heart Management for Better Success By Bill Cottringer The lion’s share of success and failure is mostly due to how well we manage our brains and hearts—specifically how we learn, grow and improve the thinking and feeling which drives our behavior. Psychologists have never ...
Views: 1698 - TRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Egg - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from William CottringerTRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Egg by William Cottringer, Ph.D. “You can’t solve a problem with the same type of thinking that created it.” ~Albert Einstein. My Native American Totem is the deer. What this means for me is that the deer spirit is here to ...
Views: 1697 - A Simple Life Gap Map That Makes Sense Of The Ones You Have To Pay For - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from William CottringerA Simple Life Gap Map That Makes Sense Of The Ones You Have To Pay For By Bill Cottringer “Life gets to be fun only when we begin to feel free to live it; but there is no real freedom apart from responsibility and ownership.” ~Dr. Henry Cloud. Here are two important things you know ...
Views: 1695 - Double Vision Decision-Making - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from William CottringerDouble Vision Decision-Making By Bill Cottringer “Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” ~Phil McGraw. Double vision decision-making is a very useful and valuable skill in maneuvering around in today’s plethora of information overload that ...
Views: 1695 - The Ego Diet - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2008 from William CottringerThe Ego Diet By Bill Cottringer “Learning that just increases self-importance and autonomy, isn’t really learning at that point, it is over-nourishment of the ego, just like too much food causes the body to become obese.” ~The author. We pretty well understand the importance of ...
Views: 1681 - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
Views: 1668 - A Mission Every Employer Has with Every Employee - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2014 from William CottringerA Mission Every Employer Has with Every Employee By Dr. Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes a while to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Anonymous. The above quote relates to a lesson I seem to have to keep relearning and remembering from the first book I wrote several years ...
Views: 1651 - TERRIBLE CHOICES - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from William CottringerTERRIBLE CHOICES By Bill Cottringer “We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.” ~Kahlil Gibran. There are some terrible choices we seem to have to make through all ages. Consider the following very uncomfortable choices confronting us all at different ...
Views: 1651(4 votes) - The Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from William CottringerThe Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success By Bill Cottringer “I look for a role that hopefully I feel empathy with and that I can understand and love, but also that has that challenge for me to play - a different kind of role, a different type of character, a different time ...
Views: 1644 - Angry Hearts - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2007 from William CottringerANGRY HEARTS by Bill Cottringer There is an unexpected side-effect of being mentally and spiritually healthy: You become more aware of and obligated to help resolve the phenomenon of angry hearts. And this can be more time consuming, draining and beyond what you may think you are ...
Views: 1637 - The Best Way To Love - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from William CottringerThe Best Way To Love By Bill Cottringer “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” The ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Facts of Life That Get In The Way Of Living - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2013 from William CottringerFacts of Life That Get In The Way Of Living By Bill Cottringer “It is nothing to die. It is frightful not to live.” ~Victor Hugo, Les Misérables. If we didn’t think and feel so much about living, believe certain things to be true and others not, expect certain outcomes, and try to ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - Seeds of Anger - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2018 from William CottringerSeeds of Anger By Bill Cottringer I think most people would agree that the main problems of our day are: (a) the artificially dualistic, unfair sharp divide between those who have abundance, power and all the other desirable things in life, and those who don’t have enough of these ...
Views: 1619 - God’s Five Favorite Hiding Places - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from William CottringerGod’s Five Favorite Hiding Places by Bill Cottringer Sometimes God is hard to find, let alone know very well. Not being able to see God, we have to go places where a God-like presence can be sensed in some distinct way. Here are God’s seven favorite hiding places, where such an ...
Views: 1612 - The Reality Principle of Success and Why Many People Don’t Follow It - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from William CottringerJames Gray’s “Two Lovers” with Joaquin Phoenix, Gwenth Paltrow, and Vinessa Shaw was an amusing, but predictable movie. The plot involved a confused young man carrying on with two completely different lovers—one very passionate, slightly out-of-reach relationship with all sorts of possibilities, ...
Views: 1604 - TWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUT - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William CottringerTWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUT By Bill Cottringer “Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Bernice Johnson Reagon There are two very powerful Biblical challenges that have provoked me for years in the search for ...
Views: 1601 - REALITY REPAIR: TIME, SWEAT, TEARS & NO PROMISES OF SOMETHING FOR NOTHING - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR: TIME, SWEAT, TEARS & NO PROMISES OF SOMETHING FOR NOTHING By Bill Cottringer “You don't get something for nothing; You can't have freedom for free; You won't get wise With the sleep still in your eyes No matter what your dreams might be.” ~Neil Peart. Shame ...
Views: 1597(6 votes) - SHRINKING FROWNS AND EXPANDING SMILES - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from William CottringerSHRINKING FROWNS AND EXPANDING SMILES By Bill Cottringer “A smile cures the wounding of a frown.” ~William Shakespeare. Here are ten practical ways to reduce your unhappy failures and boost your happy successes, curing your frowns with smiles: 1. Follow the reality principle. ...
Views: 1594(6 votes) - Five Questions We All Have At Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from William CottringerFive Questions We All Have At Work By Bill Cottringer “All good work has magic in it, and addresses the mind in a subtle way.” ~Duane Michals. There are five questions we all have at work which need reasonable answers to, as guided by effective management. These questions were ...
Views: 1593 - Are You Smart Enough? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from William CottringerAre You Smart Enough? By Bill Cottringer “Half of being smart is in knowing what you are dumb about.” ~Solomon Short. I have been an avid researcher of the connection between intelligence and success for several decades now, and am finally ready to release my short list for ...
Views: 1592 - An Ever-Growing Gap Between Managers And Employees In The Information Age - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2014 from William CottringerAn Ever-Growing Gap Between Managers And Employees In The Information Age By William Cottringer When we first started on the path of the Information Age in the early eighties, we had no earthly idea where it was going to take us. Ironically, here in 2014, we still don’t know the answer ...
Views: 1591 - A Work Conflict Deserving a Thoughtful Resolution By Bill Cottringer - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2015 from William Cottringer“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means” ~Ronald Reagan. The transition from the Manufacturing Age to the Information Age brought is a value revolution. The current values revolution has turned the traditional workplace upside down and ...
Views: 1589(2 votes) - Sharing The Secret of Single-Mindedness - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerSHARING THE SECRET OF SINGLE-MINDEDNESS by Bill Cottringer The most important gift a leader can share is the illusive secret of single-mindedness. No organization can flourish with consistent growth, abundant prosperity and genuine success without single-mindedness of purpose and effort. ...
Views: 1586 - The Difficulties Of Selecting The Best Of The Bunch - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from William CottringerThe Difficulties Of Selecting The Best Of The Bunch By Bill Cottringer “Never make predictions, especially about the future.” ~Casey Stengel. I won’t argue with Mr. Stengel’s wisdom when it comes to baseball; but in business, employers have way too much to lose without at least ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - Redefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2015 from William CottringerRedefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets By Bill Cottringer “Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time.” ~Arnold H. Glasow. There are literally thousands of good books and articles already available regarding what to do and how to do it, ...
Views: 1561 - Are You Asking The Right Questions? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2011 from William CottringerAre You Asking The Right Questions? By Bill Cottringer “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” ~Tony Robbins. Success in life, in the three primary areas of work, play and relationships, requires getting successful outcomes to solving ...
Views: 1551 - Ten Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from William CottringerTen Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture By Dr. Bill Cottringer “To win in the marketplace, you must first win in the workplace.” ~Doug Conant, Campbell Soup. There has been a revolutionary interest in looking for ways to improve the quality of work environments, which lead ...
Views: 1546 - There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from William CottringerThere Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? By Bill Cottringer Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. There is a very fundamental principle of psychology that ...
Views: 1545 - How Successful Are You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from William Cottringer“Success is the progress we each make in our private, lifelong journey of learning, growing and improving into our best selves.” ~The author. There are currently as many “tests” to measure success as there are personal definitions of it or criteria for defining it. Where do you go to ...
Views: 1544(1 vote) - TWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from William CottringerTWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING By Bill Cottringer “The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” ~ Norman Schwarzkopf. There are two very important questions you should ask yourself. Having the right answers can determine ...
Views: 1543 - The Most Difficult Thing About Managing Others Is… - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from William CottringerThe Most Difficult Thing About Managing Others Is… By Bill Cottringer “Mis-management of others is usually a symptom of mismanaging yourself.” ~An older, wiser, unnamed manager of sorts. Managing others in today’s work environment is no simple or easy task for the weak-minded. It ...
Views: 1538(2 votes) - Relationship Reality Repair - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from William CottringerRelationship Reality Repair by Bill Cottringer “Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. Successful relationships are all about keeping things in proper perspective. This is especially true about the different perceptions of the realities of the ...
Views: 1537(3 votes) - Going From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2010 from William CottringerGoing From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth By Bill Cottringer “Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow - that is patience.” ~anonymous. The common purpose of life for us all seems to be ...
Views: 1532(2 votes) - DO OR DIE - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from William CottringerDO OR DIE By Bill Cottringer “Conflicts give rise to villains, heroes, victims and bystanders. Which are you willing to be, in doing or dying for? ~The Author. We are all chasing after things we think we want because of how they make us feel—happiness, success, peace of mind, ...
Views: 1526 - Lost in Translation - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from William CottringerLost in Translation By Bill Cottringer Hagar the Horrible was giving worldly advice to his your Viking son. He says, “The secret of happiness is be content with what you got,” …so, he continues, “get enough.” ~Dik Browne. John married Mary, his high school sweetheart, and after 20 ...
Views: 1526 - SEVEN MANAGEMENT “SINS” THAT WON’T GO AWAY - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from William CottringerSEVEN MANAGEMENT “SINS” THAT WON’T GO AWAY By Bill Cottringer "Always recognize that human individuals are ends, and do not use them as means to your end." ~Immanuel Kant. There are seven “sins” that plague all managers from time to time and which even the best MBA trained managers ...
Views: 1516 - Common Sense Or Good Sense? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from William CottringerCommon Sense Or Good Sense? By Bill Cottringer “Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”― Samuel Taylor Coleridge. It seems to be a sad common consensus today that common sense is not so common anymore. But, the validity of that conclusion really depends ...
Views: 1512 - Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2014 from William CottringerThree Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship By Bill Cottringer “Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson. A writing colleague and dear friend of mine who is ...
Views: 1507 - SUCCESS IS A BELIEF SYSTEM - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from William CottringerSUCCESS IS A BELIEF SYSTEM By Bill Cottringer “Success is what you get from doing what you are doing to get it.” ~ The author. By now most of us realize we have moved into total overload—too much to know and do and too little time to get it all done. One special area of overload with ...
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