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- Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerMy Dad died. There…I said it out loud. Even though I was by his side and saw him take his very last breath, it’s been hard to believe he’s gone forever. F-o-r-e-v-e-r. I wanted to write this article for Thanksgiving so I could publicly thank him and show my gratitude. How trite, I thought. It ...
Views: 1713(1 vote) - The One Word You Can Use to Magnetize the Right Man - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerA single man I know once said: If a woman I'm interested in doesn't seem to love herself, why should I love her...and trying to convince her that she's great would be too exhausting. When a man meets this kind of woman he may be attracted initially, but after figuring out that she is a ...
Views: 1995(1 vote) - ***Why the Gracious Needy Gal Gets the Guy - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNeedy women attract good men. "Low-maintenance" women attract jerks…or no men at all. Is this counter to what you've always thought? Did you think that the less you expected from a man, the more he'd like you? Well, consider this: A Good Man – one who is confident, mature and ...
Views: 2150(13 votes) - ***How to Get Dates with Smart, Confident Men - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerI've been told that I'm scary. That's what my client, Liz, told me today. She says that several men have said she's intimidating and "too much for them." I was told that when I was single and dating. My response was: that's who I am—and if you can't take it, I don't want you! (I probably ...
Views: 4494(26 votes) - ***Key #5 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Real Women Find Their Man - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the fifth and last in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. The truth is that as we get older, ...
Views: 1534(26 votes) - ***30 Things You Can Do This Weekend (With or Without a Man) - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHappy Memorial Day weekend! How about a little trivia to start your day? In 1868, May 30th was designated as a holiday to honor the nation’s Civil War casualties. Now called Memorial Day, it was originally known as Decoration Day. Red poppies are commonly associated with Memorial Day and are ...
Views: 2212(12 votes) - ***Dating and Looking for Love? Why You Should Think of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you know that you are special, that you count big time, and that you deserve to think of yourself first when dating and developing a love relationship? This is such a difficult concept for so many women. Think of myself first? That’s so selfish! I’ve never done that before…ever! I don’t ...
Views: 2352(12 votes) - ***When You Should Treat a Man Like a Woman - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you an independent, smart single woman who is dating and looking for love? If so, you've likely been challenged with how to respond when a man does something that ticks you off. What are realistic expectations? What should you tolerate? I get asked this question in many forms. It can be ...
Views: 2174(6 votes) - ***Valentine's Day: Make It All about YOU! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you been dreading it and trying to avoid it? Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less ...
Views: 1644(11 votes) - 30 Things You Can Do This Weekend (With or Without a Man) - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHappy Memorial Day weekend! How about a little trivia to start your day? In 1868, May 30 was designated as a holiday to honor the nation’s Civil War casualties. Now called Memorial Day, it was originally known as Decoration Day. Red poppies are commonly associated with Memorial Day and are ...
Views: 2511(11 votes) - ***Why Online Dating Is Not for You - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerLast week I hosted a workshop called Get Online, Get Noticed, Get Dates, Exclusively for Women over Forty. I had a fantastic time with these smart and lovely women who really want to meet their mate. It was a total blast, and they all left excited and feeling like they had the confidence and ...
Views: 1329(20 votes) - ***What Men Say About Women (It May Surprise You!) - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhat if you could hear men honestly share their thoughts and feelings about women, dating, sex and relationships? I had the opportunity to do that twice last week when I hosted and observed "man panels." If you've never been fortunate to hear a man panel, it works like this: we gather men — ...
Views: 1245(14 votes) - ***Are You Expecting Men to Act Like Women? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerMy idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison ...
Views: 1496(18 votes) - ***How to Be a Powerful, Feminine Woman - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWant to attract a confident, grounded man who will enhance your already great life? The best way to do it is to act like a lady. Yes, that age-old scenario is still true: masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Men want to know that they're contributing to our lives. When a man cares ...
Views: 1773(12 votes) - ***How to Make Every Date Great - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe first ten minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is ever going to happen, and let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1552(14 votes) - ***"What Looking for Love and Birthing a Baby Have in Common" - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThere are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described ...
Views: 1348(9 votes) - ***Let's Agree to Face Our Fear - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you go month to month, year to year, repeating the same mantra about men? It leaves your mouth in various forms, but you’ve got only one point: to release yourself from any responsibility and keep you safe and snug-as-a-bug-in-a-rug without the worry of that pesky intimacy thing. "There ...
Views: 1605(6 votes) - ***Key #3 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Shed Your Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I know you are a fabulous, smart, ...
Views: 1748(17 votes) - ***How to Spot the Bad Guys and Chase Them Away - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't care what you want and need? I'm going to assume the answer is "no." So I have to ask: Why would you date a man who doesn't care what you want and need? Two of my private coaching clients are struggling with the notion of ...
Views: 1865(5 votes) - ***The Truth about Dating, Single Men and Strong, Independent Women - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you a single woman over 40 who is smart, independent and thinking there are no good men out there? I hope you don’t mind my saying this: you are wrong. As a dating and relationship coach – and a woman who was a first‑time bride at 47 – I’m quite aware of what we tell ourselves: Men ...
Views: 4626(5 votes) - ***Key #1 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Me First - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. A single man I know once said, “If a woman ...
Views: 1825(17 votes) - ***Two Lessons that Single Women Over 40 Can Learn from Oprah - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerI hate being like everyone else, but I have to make an exception for Oprah. Everyone is talking about her, and rightly so. May 25 is her final show. Oprah will no longer be visiting us every weekday, teaching us, nourishing our spirits and making us laugh. The positive transformation this ...
Views: 2079(12 votes) - ***Four Ways to Flirt with Flair and Class - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNo matter your age, the way to connect with a man in the "I think you're hot and would be interested in going out with you" way is to flirt. When I suggest that to the over-40 women in my dating workshops and coaching programs, I can see them cringe. Most of these otherwise outgoing women ...
Views: 2232(4 votes) - ***How to Know if He is Merely Hot...or Maybe Husband - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerLooking for a life partner but keep picking players, paupers, or just plain zeros? Finding a partner is like finding a good job: you only need one, but making a bad choice wastes your time and sticks you in an unpleasant situation. To avoid that, you need to make a grown-up decision about ...
Views: 2198(14 votes) - ***How Your Dating Can Help Your Daughters - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIf you're a Mom with children still at home, I'm sure you have concerns about how your dating might affect your kids’ lives. Issues such as jealousy and challenges with time-sharing are real. But I’d like you to consider the positives. Yes, it’s true that "a happy Mother is a good Mother." ...
Views: 2333(2 votes) - ***Why Every Single Woman Should Use a Vibrator - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerMasturbation. There…I said it. The "Big M." I don't generally talk about this, so it may shock you. But the time has come to chat about the role sex – or lack thereof – plays in the life of a woman in her later years who is single and looking for love. There are many circumstances that may ...
Views: 2079(2 votes) - ***Why Married Men Adore You But the Single Guys Don't - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAs a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women, I talk to many women who say they are buddies with many married and attached men; yet they don't get asked out on any dates. The complaint comes under one of these two categories: 1. She talks to a lot of men and they seem to like her; but none ...
Views: 2826(4 votes) - ***Why Women over 40 Should Be Picky Daters…Kind of - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi Palmer"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot—especially from my ...
Views: 2825(8 votes) - ***Why You Might Want to Stop Looking for a Man - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI know you say you're looking for a loving and committed man to share your life, but I have to ask...have you found yourself yet? I know you've heard this before and it sounds trite, but everyone says it for a good reason. If the answer to the question is no, beats me, or who cares...then you ...
Views: 1509(4 votes) - ***10 Simple Things to Do to Improve Your Search for Love - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you heard this quote by Anthony Robbins: “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” I love this quote. What does it have to do with dating and your search for love? It may have everything to do with it…especially if you’ve been looking for a meaningful ...
Views: 2463(13 votes) - ***Albert Einstein...a Relationship Expert? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAlbert Einstein once said: “Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.” Al was so damn smart! Not only was he the king of quantum physics, he got right to the heart of one of the most troubling challenges in ...
Views: 2453(13 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1416(11 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1416(11 votes) - ***One Thing That Makes Anthony a Little Less of a Weiner - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you heard about Weinergate? Just in case you haven't, it goes like this: Congressman Anthony Weiner, after denying it for days, got caught quite literally with his pants down. (Yeah, I know I'm not the first to use that. But it works.) Apparently The Weiner has been acting like a horny ...
Views: 1075(9 votes) - ***Should You Trust Your Instincts? Beats Me. - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi Palmer“Intuition is truly a feminine quality, but women should not mistake rash conclusions for this gift.”~Minna Antrim The other day I was listening to my friend tell me about her 25 minute “date” with this guy “who had nothing going for him.” As she’s talking I’m thinking: WTF?! So I ask her ...
Views: 4463(9 votes) - Don't Sleep through your Sex Life - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerHave you ever found yourself in a sexual lull? Maybe you're in one right now. During my oh-so-many single years, I used to call my gaps in dating and intimacy "being on hiatus." And the hiatuses were often pretty long. (Sorry…TMI?) The truth is that extended periods of celibacy are somewhat ...
Views: 2173(5 votes) - ***How to Write a Killer Email and Get Dates Online - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWant to know the number one trick to meeting men online and getting dates? Learn how to write a killer email. When I was online, I remember how it felt. I’d send an endless number of emails that seemed to go into the pit of Internet rejection hell. The truth is, there is a lot of ...
Views: 2369(3 votes) - How to Get (the Right) Man to Like You - by Submitted on May 30, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI'm sure you know that in order to attract the right man you need to feel great about yourself. That's why Step One of my 6-Step Find Hope and then Find Him System is Who Am I: Falling in Love With Myself. You have to know why you rock and truly believe that you'll make some lucky man a superb ...
Views: 1645(5 votes) - ***Be a Woman Who Knows That She is Enough - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerYour fear of being rejected because you are imperfect is exactly what is getting you rejected. Yah…I know I’ve written about this a million times, but two recent experiences reminded me of how major this is. So here I am reminding you in case you still don’t get it. Me…Popular? My Junior ...
Views: 1487(6 votes) - ***5 Must-Know Tips for Boomer Women Dating Online - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDating sites report that their fastest growing segment are people over 50. My clients, women ranging from 35 – 65, are having great success with it. Face it: online dating is the new hot spot for people who wouldn’t dream of meeting someone in a bar. You know I’m a huge proponent of online ...
Views: 1419(1 vote) - ***Do You Actually Know When You're Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerRejection can be a very good thing. Until you find the man who brings you the love and joy you deserve, you should thank the men who reject you. These men are doing you a favor. I think they know – consciously or not – that they won’t be able to give you what you need; and they know it before ...
Views: 2318(1 vote) - ***How to Decide When to Have Sex - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe ladies in my Master the Mystery of Meeting Men telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. When is it okay to have it? How do you decide? This is such an important conversation! You may think "I'm not even dating yet...who cares!" But the decision may be closer than you think, and I want you ...
Views: 1445(8 votes) - ***How to Talk to Men (in a Way That They Like!) - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNot only is it okay to talk about yourself to men, but it is 100% essential to getting first dates and future dates. When I tell women that it’s GOOD to talk about themselves, it’s generally met with complete shock. But don’t guys love it when we let them do all the talking? Well, yes. Who ...
Views: 1535(2 votes) - ***Imperfection Does Not Equal Rejection - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you perfect? Do you know anyone who is? Look at the people you know, especially those in midlife or older. Do you know anyone who hasn't had some rough times behind them or who are not currently facing life challenges? It’s doubtful, because this is real life; not the movies. Those of us ...
Views: 1644(2 votes) - ***Is Something Surprisingly Simple Keeping You From Finding Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerI learned something this week that completely rocked my world: when you apply eyeliner, you should start from the inside of your lid, not the outside. Did you know that? I’m 52 years old, and for my entire life I’ve been doing it wrong. No wonder it was always a struggle! I was never able to ...
Views: 2470(4 votes) - ***Please Be Kind to Frogs - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThink about the clever line we women often use: it takes some form of “I’ve kissed so many frogs I’ve got the warts to prove it!” or “How many frogs do I have to kiss before I find my prince?” You know what I’m talking about. It’s cute, and although we don’t really laugh at it, it tends to ...
Views: 2179(10 votes) - ***Why You're Still Single - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerOne of my clients recently said, “I don’t think there’s something wrong with me; I just think I’m doing something wrong.” Bingo. The majority of women who come to me for help with dating and relationships lack confidence. Most are sure something is wrong with them. What else would explain ...
Views: 1658(2 votes) - 3 Online Dating “Do’s” to Keep You Happily Meeting Men - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerYou can meet the spectacular, special man who is going to be your life partner using online dating. I met the love of my life on www.match.com, so of course I recommend it to all my friends, coaching clients, in my workshops…really to anyone who will listen! Here are three things I recommend ...
Views: 2590(2 votes) - Answering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerAnswering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? At least half of all the emails I get from wonderful women who are over 40 and looking for love are about the same question you’ve probably been asking since you were a teenager: “Is he in to me?” Often the answer is: If you have to ask, ...
Views: 2032(2 votes) - Are You a Princess? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerIf you're going to be a successful dater (which means you have fun and meet good men), an essential tool is the ability to empathize with the men you meet. Empathy is not feeling sorry for someone. It's being able to put yourself in their shoes and understand their experience. I believe that ...
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