We all are human and to err is human. Here I want to focus on humanity in the hard times. When we analyze our behavior in good time, it is always good. When it is hard for us to survive mentally or physically we are out of our nature. Some of us become rash, some bull, some fight, and some complain and crib. On the other side, some tolerate, wait with patience, keep their moral high and try not to affect others in a negative manner. It all depends on our nature what we do. So what we do in our hard time is our real nature, and we need to preserve our identity in those difficult times too. We need to keep our patience and balance in emotions till the time clouds are clear.

Similarly, what we do with others when they are happy and intact, will never predict our true feelings for them. We need to see ourselves with deep understanding of what we do when our friends are in need. In the same manner, our friends need to understand that if they are not happy to help us out; their friendship is not based on truth and honesty. So check your friends before going further closer day by day whether they are ready to help you out as you are ready to sacrifice for them. If your answer is ‘no’, then do not proceed further. There is no fun to extend a relationship that is based on pure worldly and materialistic benefits. The real thing in friendship is that how much you are ready to sacrifice to each other; it is something to measure with your own set criteria.

Being nice and caring carry lots of meaning from a perceptual point of view for all of us as we believe that we are right in our beliefs and perceptions. The basic criterion of a man is how he/she reflects the negative attitude. Leaving aside the different levels of negativity, if you are not used to speak harsh words for a pretty long time like twenty years, you will never lose your temper and have bull talk. In other words, if your negative thinking is not affecting others, you are quite positive. If you realize others by curses them and by bull talk, that you are in a bad mood and you want others to hear you at any cost, then you are not a positive person. So it is very important to note your negativity and its impact on others first then think about positivity.

People find different ways to express their gratitude. Some give charity, some donate things, some do volunteer etc. Have you found someone who not only gives charity rather gives everything, he/she actually in need of? This is height of sacrifice. So much so people sacrifice not only things rather their lives to save others. This is the expression of their true nature for the sake of humanity. We cannot judge the goodness from the actions of people as someone’s little action might be considered great in the light of circumstances and someone’s big sacrifice might be recognized as a trivial event due to unpredictable coincidences happened to them in the court of morality. So the most important thing is that how much we are sacrificing in our heart, not the amount of things.

People among us usually behave nicely but when they are not well, their emotions become out of control. They stop thinking rationally and put themselves at the edge of depression and anxiety. Some of us know how to deal with these setbacks as they are part of life. So we, all, basically need to understand that if we are keeping our spirits alive while being sick; we are proving ourselves what we claim to be. Otherwise, in good health, things usually look good and we feel good in return.

To conclude, I would recommend the readers to analyze their selves and their fellow’s performance in HARD TIMES; that would reflect our true nature through filtering our claims/beliefs that we usually pretend to keep (but in reality they are our miss- perceptions about ourselves and our friends).

Author's Bio: 

Mona Aeysha, PhD, is an Educational and Developmental Psychologist, have been working as a Teacher and Researcher in several institutes of Pakistan and Cambodia. Her major areas of interest are: self –esteem, self-concept, conceptual psychology, belief psychology, self psychology, preferential psychology, cultural psychology and women psychology.
You are always welcome to contact her via email if you have any query in this regard.
Dr Mona