Why Do We Fall in Love and Out of Love?

Our soul journey into the physical is to re-member who we are. That’s it! This is the big mystery of life (smile). As we move through this crazy little thing we call life, every person, every experience, every breath is there to help you re-member who you are and who you want to be. Even the most unconscious person is going through this process—everyone is.

We attract, into our Oneness of being, people who will help us understand ourselves more intimately. When that other person enters our realm of existence, a wonderful, chemical change starts to happen within us. Within that chemical change, we start the process referred to as “falling in love” and what a fall it is!

Those “others”, who will help us to re-member who we are and what we are capable of, are also going through that internal change as well. They, too, are seeking the same thing—to know themselves through this impending union of souls. Each breath you take together brings you into an even greater expansion of who you are both individually and collectively (since we are not separate to begin with). The more you learn of who you are via the “other person”, the more you want to know about yourself (and visa versa) and this goes on forever.

When two people come together and are continually learning, expanding, and seeking in that Oneness of each other, the moments never fade. The moments together become grander and a deeper awareness of the soul is revealed in each expanded breath together.

When one person stops growing and does not wish to seek further, the chemical reaction that created this Holy Union starts to change. This chemical reaction of the intense learning together was put to a halt and so the counterpart will react to that change chemically and unconsciously. The expanded energy fields of the Oneness (two people in a relationship) start to disconnect as one retracts to the point that the other can no longer feel their Oneness within the union in which the relationship started. The “in-love” feeling fades then ceases.

As this once intense chemical interaction retreats from every cell of the body and mind, the partner who is still wishing to know his/herself fully starts sending out signals to the next person who will help them further realize their Oneness. These highly charged signals can reach far across the globe. The human has no idea where their next soul mate is living, but the soul itself does, and will be sure to have the two unite no matter where in the world they live.

This is not to be looked at as right/wrong or good/bad—it simply is. Perhaps the only way one can truly experience oneself fully in re-membering who one really is would be with another and the first relationship has gone as far as it could go.

We try and live in such a restricted world and become entangled in the misguided teachings that love is forever (which it is spiritually, but very rarely a human trait). The experience of Self-realization is an ongoing process, and will always seek a higher union with Self. ~