Worried about your kids? Work? Health? Money?

Worried about worrying?

We all know that you get what you think and feel about the most, so if you're worrying, you're creating all sorts of havoc with your feel-good intentions.

And if you're leading a team, a family, an organisation, or a committee, your worry vibe will unsettle everyone. Absenteeism will go up, people will start avoiding you, or worse - you'll attract a group of hand-wringers and nail biters. Group worry - ugh.

That's when you can start worrying about worrying, and it's a downward spiral from there.

So here are my favourite ways of letting of worry.

Ditch Worry Method #1. Lay down your worry weapons and just give up. Sounds counter-intuitive, right? Worrying is supposed to help us find a solution to our problems, or at least help us feel like we're doing something productive about it.

But worrying is really just fantasising about all the things you don't want. I'm all for fantasising - but only for things that feel good.

But you know all this already, but can't seem to let go of it all.

So give yourself a break! Rather than worrying about worrying and working on letting go of worry, give yourself permission to worry. Yup - you heard me right - go ahead and worry.

However, there is one small caveat to that. Put the worry in a little pot and let it simmer away on the backburner. Now put your attention on the main course - all the cool stuff that is happening all around you - right now.

Me? I'm noticing how gorgeous the blooms of spring are, how beautiful the ocean is, how gorgeous my husband gets each day, especially when I piss him off and still he forgives me in the blink of an eye, I'm noticing how amazing my friends are, how wonderful it is to exercise and feel healthy, how good a sleep-in is from time to time, how much I love chocolate but don't need to eat it every minute of the day, how fun it is to say the word 'kookaburra' even when I am teased about my accent, how cool the galahs, parrots, and cockatoos (another fun word!) are that come for a nibble on our almond blooms.

No room for worry in that rant of noticing good stuff! But I also didn't need to torture myself about needing to stop worrying. Ha! That's the feeling of relief that is central to vibe shifting and manifestation.

Ditch Worry Method #2. Exercise like a maniac. All those endorphins will zap the stress. You'll be too tired for anything but zonking on the couch.

Ditch Worry Method #3. Relocate. A change of scenery does amazing things, especially if it is to somewhere like the beach. With my first glimpse of Big Blue, I feel the energy uncoil and slip away. That's why we're doing the retreat in Tathra - stress is carried away by the tide, and new inspiring perspectives flood in.

If a little weekend get-away doesn't do, you may need to consider avoiding the source of the problem. Leave the job, relationship, or business. This is a more radical approach.

However, there is one thing you must make sure of before you pull the pin: don't take yourself with you!

What I mean is that if you are a chronic worryier, shifting jobs, or relationships, won't solve the problem. You'll just worry and feel bad in the new organisation, and that new lover will be just as troublesome as every other one.

So before you cut the cord on your current circumstances, practice finding things to appreciate where you are and who you are with - right now.

From that place of appreciation you can take steps to amend your circumstances.

Action Step:
Whatever you are currently worried about, just allow it to run in the background. Next, go and write down thirty things that are totally excellent and fabulous, right here, right now. Repeat!

To a life you love to live.

Author's Bio: 

Leadership Coach, Speaker, and Author Zoe Routh works with women in business to enhance their personal effectiveness and leadership capacity for global effect. For free tips on how to become a more effective leader that will save you time, money, energy, and stress, go to http://www.innercompass.com.au