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Love Is Forgiveness, Compassion, Submission and Respect- What is Flow and How Do You Get Some? - by A good place to look for a definition of flow is in Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's book called Flow. He describes flow as "the way people describe their state of mind when consciousness is harmoniously ordered and they want to pursue whatever they are doing for its own sake." Flow is an optimal ...
Views: 1209 - Time for Change ... When your basic systems no longer work for you - by I've heard many clients and friends discuss how they just can't seem to move beyond their current situations in life. They can't find a better job, make more money, find happiness in relationships, or find fulfillment. The question I usually ask is, "What is your idea of the perfect, fulfilling ...
Views: 1059 - Simplifying Your Existence ... In Search of the Good Life - by I hear many people distress about their need to simplify their lives and "move to the mountains." Their desire is to eliminate all of the things that cause them stress and move into a less hectic, and more gentle, lifestyle. They want the dream of solitude and calm with easy living. However, ...
Views: 1288 - Controllable Destiny ... Setting a Destination and Experiencing the Ride - by The many ideas of "living life" are the most indistinctly defined conundrums that a human being can ponder. Philosophy has its own definitions of life and living. Of course, so do religions, corporations, politicians, and every diverse group on the planet. Some of the looser definitions I hear ...
Views: 1347 - People Don't Know You Are Ugly 'Til You Tell 'Em - by People don't know you are ugly, 'til you tell 'em.
Question: What is ugly, really?
Answer: It's what you project.
Did you know that?
Well, think about it for a minute. Someone new comes up to you and you turn away with thoughts like, *They won't like me. Someone will tell them about me, ...
Views: 985 - Destroy Limiting Decisions - by Did you make a limiting decision as you were growing up? Maybe one that said you couldn’t do something that basically everyone else could do, but you decided you were too short, too tall, too rich, too poor, too fat, too skinny, too cute, too ugly, etc.
Well, you’ve grown up and you’ve ...
Views: 2549 - Deactivating Old Triggers - by Triggers. What are they?
A trigger is anything that brings forth a memory or emotional feeling. I'm going to show you how to replace old, negative feelings with good feelings. In other words, you will be deactivating your old triggers.
Now this is going to take some concentration. You may ...
Views: 1449 - Do You Have A Problem? - by Here is a visualization technique that might help you solve it.
For three days, take fifteen minutes a day, three times a day, to relax.
*** TIP *** If you can’t do it three times a day, do it twice, if you can’t do it twice, do it once. If you can’t do it for fifteen minutes, do it for ten. ...
Views: 906 - Have You Ever Run Energy? - by Have you ever run energy? Do you know what *running energy* means? (I know that this may be something foreign to many of you at first, but then that’s how you learn, right?)
If you haven’t run energy before, you probably have questions. Your questions might be: What is *energy* specifically? ...
Views: 2391 - Would You Like To Get Into *The Zone?* - by Do you know what *The Zone* is? The Zone is a place where you are in control, you are on top of the situation, you are succeeding effortlessly. Can you remember a specific time and place like that: at work, in sports, at home, or whenever?
Remember it fully. Step into that experience, and as ...
Views: 880 - I Do Not Want That To Happen - by The experts say that your unconscious doesn’t pay attention to the negating factor, the NOT in sentences like the title of this article. Knowing that, do any of these following scenarios pertain to you and your thoughts?
Someone you know has fallen on some bad times, and their business goes ...
Views: 1054 - Shatter! - by You can use this technique for many bad habits, but today we will concentrate on the bad habit of biting your fingernails. Ready? Make a picture in your mind of YOU biting your fingernails. NO, WAIT, change that! You know why? Because I don’t want you to *shatter* anyone, much less yourself, and ...
Views: 974 - Buts Are Nice - by No, you can’t have a raise.
No, you can’t go to the show tonight.
No, you can’t have an extra $5.00.
No, you can’t have a new dress.
BUT . . .
And there should always be one . . .
You CAN have, be, do something else.
Why make *no* what it has meant to generations of people?
Point in ...
Views: 1661 - Shatter! - by You can use this technique for many bad habits, but today we will concentrate on the bad habit of biting your fingernails. OK? Ready? Make a picture in your mind of YOU biting your fingernails. NO, WAIT, change that! You know why? Because I don't want you to *shatter* anyone, much less yourself, ...
Views: 869 - Have You Ever Run Energy? - by Have you ever run energy? Do you know what *running energy* means? (I know that this may be something foreign to many of you at first, but then that’s how you learn, right?)
If you haven’t run energy before, you probably have questions. Your questions might be: What is *energy* specifically? ...
Views: 943 - New York, Washington D.C., Our Very Hearts! - by Despair. How can we battle despair when it's all around us? It's what we see, what we are visualizing for our future, our family's future, our very lives.
Surely, life has changed. How can we handle it?
One way would be, when you feel your own despair, go to the quiet place within and pray ...
Views: 905 - Do You Judge? - by Do you find yourself judging people when they do something *you* don't think is right? When they act a way that *you* don't consider to be the best way to act? When they say something *you* don't think should be said?
When you see someone walking down the street and they are someone you don't ...
Views: 908 - Do You Have Germs? You Bet You Do! - by Do you have germs? Yep, you do. Everyone has germs. And summertime is such a great way to spread them!
Did you know that everyone is susceptible to certain germs?
For instance, there are *Smith* germs at the Smith house, and *Jones* germs at the Jones house. If *Smith* germs come to the ...
Views: 1184 - Do You Spend Your Life Floating On de Nile River? - by Do You Spend Your Life Floating On de Nile River? By Jan Tincher
Do you spend your life floating on *denial* river?
Do you deny you can do things? Do you THINK things are tough, so you don't do them?
*I can't do that.* *I can't use the computer.* *I can't take on that project.*
You feel ...
Views: 1033 - Attention OLD People of ALL Ages - by Do you feel old? Do you look old? Do you think old?
Every time I get together with certain friends, age is inevitably discussed. I cringe inwardly and get very busy going *Cancel, Cancel!* in my mind. This is some of what’s said.
“That’s what happens when you get old.? *“Especially at your ...
Views: 1023 - Releasing Your Thoughts - by Releasing thoughts that hold you back is a powerful step toward taking control of your life.
Thoughts usually come from the three basic needs people feel. The need to feel in control, the need to feel acceptance, and the need to feel security. Every thought or feeling you have can be traced to ...
Views: 911 - Love and Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2007 from Marci CraneSome people might agree that love and happiness are connected; that the more you love the more happiness you are likely to feel. Some people would also agree that charity is the highest form of love so when you have charity, do you have the greatness love and happiness? I think that an LDS ...
Views: 915 - *Ask, Believe, Receive - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Jay FisetAsk, Believe, Receive Three words that are intended to unlock the secret, which as most of the world now knows is the code name for the ‘law of attraction’. You may or may not be a fan of The Secret, however I believe the fundamental formula of ask, believe, receive is sound. If only it were ...
Views: 8023(2 votes) - Parental Leadership - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamLeadership at home: this is about your children, not your politicians Question: There are tough times in our family due to tension between us, the parents, and our two teen aged kids. They are less and less obeying the house rules. How can we maintain their discipline? Answer: We can miss ...
Views: 1006 - Stepping Back - taking the time we need - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2007 from Linda PollittSometimes we don't take the time to really get to know ourselves or consider the direction we are taking - we are far too preoccupied with the demands of everyday life... Do you know the answer to the following questions? If not now is the time to step back and check your direction and ...
Views: 874 - The Power Of No! - by How often do we find ourselves in awkward situations we could have avoided simply by saying "no"? It is only after getting into those situations that we remember the simple act of saying "no" would have kept us totally out of them.
Your time and peace of mind are invaluable. There are times ...
Views: 1206 - How Do You See Things? - by Most of us see circumstances through our own biased perceptions. We see them based on our beliefs and experiences. No two people will see the same event in the same manner.
Proof of this lies in the fact you can take statements concerning an accident from 20 people and none of the versions ...
Views: 1412 - Whose Standards? - by By whose standards do we live our lives? Much depends on the circumstances in which we find ourselves.
One who is drowning has no use for water, whereas another dying of thirst in the desert would give everything and anything for a sip of water.
A wealthy individual has no need to find a few ...
Views: 1043 - What Do We Really Seek In Life? - by How many of us truly know what we seek in our lives? Do we confuse our desires and wants with our needs?
Are we really seeking that new home, job, car, boat, vacation (you may add anything you can imagine to this list)? Or are we seeking the "peace that passeth all understanding"?
We are ...
Views: 1109 - Does It Really Matter? - by Have you ever had one of those days where nothing seems to go right? What was your reaction? Some of us shrug off the petty things and some react violently. But do those things really matter?
There is a way of looking at those things that greatly smoothes the bumps of life you encounter. When ...
Views: 978 - A Perspective - by There is not much I can add to the images we are inundated nearly ad nauseam. They are powerful and they are important. We have a new America as of September 11, 2001 due largely to the coverage by the media of an event that happened far from most Americans individual homes. In recent history we ...
Views: 754 - Ahead By Jerks - by My answer to Jerry Falwell and others. Did God do this horrible thing to our Country? Did the Devil do it? Those questions cannot be answered by any living Person.
I don't know and neither does Jerry nor does anyone else that is living. There was a clear line between good and evil but not such ...
Views: 838 - Believe in Love - by There is kind of a neat little story behind this little lesson for a good marriage.
Last spring a friend of mine asked me if I would perform a mock marriage ceremony for her and her husband at their twenty-fifth wedding anniversary party. Without really knowing what I was getting into; I said ...
Views: 831 - Being a Gentleman - by A GENTLEMAN
He treats everyone with respect. He treats himself with respect.
Being a gentleman is an attitude. It is an attitude about life. It is also a behavior, which can be learned and acted out. But, for a man to be a true GENTLEMAN he must have nearly an innate attitude about WOMANHOOD ...
Views: 5477 - Are You Rich? - by Stop. Think about that question for a moment, and answer it honestly. Let it wind down through your head, past your heart and into your soul. Put it into first person.
Am I rich? Ask, and wait for the answer. It’s important to get an answer because your whole life is currently being controlled ...
Views: 887 - EQ & Investments: Bull, Bear Or Human - by Markets are supposed to be rational, but with an economic system based on scarcity, how do investors behave with emotional intelligence? Experts in behavioral economics and emotional intelligence tell us we sell winners too soon and hold onto losers too long...
The ability to accept loss and ...
Views: 1033 - Excellence: An alternative to perfectionist - by Excellence: an Acceptable Alternative to Perfectionist
excellence: very great merit, quality or ability The New Lexicon Webster’s Dictionary
perfectionist: the quality of being perfect - not content with anything less than the very best
excellent: adar, aw-dar?- to expand to be great or ...
Views: 1760 - Successful Change for A Change - by Change is easy...Transitions are hard. Think of how many times you've tried to make a change and how many times you've been successful...So often, resistance turns us back to our old ways. This time, even though it might be a bit uncomfortable or unfamiliar, welcome resistance as feedback, ...
Views: 924 - Love & EQ--The "Geek" we all, eh, love... - by You know one...you might have one working for you... you may even be in love with one...or, maybe you is one...
Affectionately, we call them geeks, nerds or techies. Yet, any of us can fall into this category when we're stressed, spending too much time in our heads and particularly in the left ...
Views: 1037 - EQ - by It's not rocket science, and it' doesn't have to elude you anymore. As much as 96% of our success in life and at work depends on emotional Intelligence--also known as horse sense, street smarts or good gut--and it can be learned and mastered.
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to ...
Views: 931 - EQ & Investments: Bull, Bear Or Human - by What do you need to succeed?
One of the first things is commitment.
This is a true story about the commitment of a little boy.
It concerns a family of parents with a young girl of around 11 years old and a boy of around 9 years old.
The young girl was very, very ill, in fact she was ...
Views: 999 - Are you unhappy with your current career? - by These are questions most of us have at different times throughout life. While some people are able to decide early what it is they want to do for the rest of their life, the average person will change their career seven times.
There are many things to consider when determining your perfect ...
Views: 1077 - Tracking Intimacy: Getting Close to Your Partner - by Do your relationships feel stale? Are you wondering where "intimacy" is hibernating? Are you experiencing the "blahs" when you should feel engaged, engrossed and connected? The sparkle may have fizzled or been stillborn. Now, your feelings of closeness may be hitchhiking towards the hills. ...
Views: 1410 - Be A Product Of Your Own Conclusion - by What does it mean to be a product of your own conclusion? Wouldn’t it be nice to have a good end product after putting in the time to develop it? Yet so few do. I look around me and see people doing things, the end result of which will surely be disaster. Let’s investigate our thought of being a ...
Views: 885 - About Anger: A Practical Guide - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2007 from Lynda BevanAbout Anger – The Different Styles Where does anger come from? Anger is an emotion. It stems from issues in your past that are both unresolved and unforgiving. These feelings are buried deep down inside you and can cause you emotional and physical harm. Anger comes from a past environment of ...
Views: 2199 - Forgiveness and the Burdens of Life - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Dr. Bess PermutTHE FOOTHILLS FOCUS August 13, 2003 Forgiveness ¡V Burdens of Life DR. BESS S. PERMUT Focus Columnist The Creator lives close to each of us, within us. Do not allow anyone to erase that thought from your mind. Do not accept any teaching that says the Creator does not exist. The truth ...
Views: 1290 - To Be or Not To Be in a Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Dr. Dina EvanTo Be or Not to Be In a Relationship Are relationships worth all the trouble? Absolutely! They are the greatest teachers on the planet. Where else can you learn to break open your heart, see what your capacity to love is, test your need for control or sameness and learn cooperative balance? ...
Views: 4324 - Be Generous - Give A Smile! - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Richard NeufeldAs we go through our daily lives, doing the things that keep us busy, it is easy to forget about giving to others. We forget even though we may be able to improve someone’s day with something as simple as a smile. For most of us this is a very easy thing to do. Smiles are irresistible, ...
Views: 1474 - How to Create Positive Mind Whispers - by It's difficult to heal when negative thoughts control you. Here's what you can do to turn them around.
Mind whispers. Do you have them? Most of us do. You know--that little voice in your mind that whispers praise, encouragement and satisfaction, or criticism, self-doubt and fear. You can learn ...
Views: 1064 - Finding Forgiveness - by "Reconciliation or Revenge"
When the ash begins to settle,
the tears dry upon our face,
The time to go inside ourselves,
in search of our Lord's grace.
Dear God,
It's me and I have but one question to ask you. You alone are aware of the truth on both sides of this tragic affair. Our ...
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