It is difficult to say what credentials are essential in my field of work as CEO of a Ukraine based Dating and Matchmaking agency. Really it is simply a matter of utilising the positive and the best aspects of being human, attributes that we each have been born with and using them in helping people come together.
Many of you will be aware of the Worldwide phenomenon of Russian women....yes? Chances are your opinions will be negative, right? Hardly surprising with headlines like BUY A RUSSIAN BRIDE, or MAIL ORDER RUSSIAN BRIDE. I do not know where these expressions came from, I suspect the Tabloid, or sensation seeking press.
I work with these ladies and I represent these ladies and have much respect and admiration for them. Most certainly they are not for sale.
Let me try to briefly explain:- Until 16 years ago the countries of the FSU were isolated more or less completely from the rest of thhe World (imagen an advanced and cultured Brazilian rainforest tribe and you get the picture). Now contrary to much Western belief, communism was not a dark and evil empire (President Bush, really you have been dangerously mistaken). No these countries enjoy one of the best systems of education in the World. Culture is very important and more important available for all and enjoyed by all. Can you imagen its possible to enjoy top class ballet, or opera for maybe $1.
Due to a variety of reasons the young people of these countries take their education very, very seriously and work very hard at it, normally whilst holding down a job to finance their education and are probably taking additional classes in foriegn languages, or any manner of self betterment.
Hopefully you begin to see the reality of the situation and the nonsense of the Buy a Russian Bride headlines.
The ladies I work with and represent are hard working, usually highly intelligent and or qualified, they are highly cultured with strong family, or mral values and they are very positive in their detirmination to create a better life for themselves. Now to add to this impressive list of qualities, they are very often very beautiful.
This is the reality of the phenomenon of Russian Women.
One Moment In Time.
In truth that is what our lives are made up of, a collection of moments, each one brand new, fresh and full of promise.
Is that your experience of life? Probably not and mine neither, why? Have we lost something, why do we live so much in the past, or the future at the expense of the reality of living in the moment? In comparison with the other forms of life with whom we share this planet we are each of us like juggernauts fully loaded with hopes, dreams, fears, worries etc., etc. Is that why as a species we are so destructive, dangerous and out of harmony?
Did we control our birth? Will we control our death? No, so why do we strive so hard to control our life? Why do we try so hard to bend and shape our lives into our own personal vision of what, or how we think our life should be, our vision of what will bring us happiness, contentment and fulfilment?
It is as though there is a river of life that we are born into, but rather than flow with and appreciate that river we the human race individually and collectively try to impose our own order of how we think life should be causing us to so often be in conflict with the rest of nature. We will take, destroy and kill whatever we feel will help us to achieve our individual vision of how our life should be.
It is a pity and perhaps more importantly a fact that our collective misguided actions have dangerously upset the balance of mother earth. Yes as incredible as it is, in following our own individual vision of what we think will bring us happiness and contentment we are actually destroying our earthly home.
Is it possible that we can change our ways and stop rowing our individual boats against the river of life? Can we stop trying so hard to be something that we think we should be and start simply being?
If we can individually find that possibility then perhaps we can begin to experience the freshness, newness and beauty of each moment in time.
Terrence Aubrey,
CEO www.confidentialmatchmakers.com
WHAT IS WRONG WITH US?
We, human beings have become very unsuccessful at creating and maintaining lasting and loving relationships, why?
The birds and the bee,s seem to have a march on us homo sapiens, why should this be?
There are many that now hold the view that it is now very difficult for a man and woman to sustain a life long comitment, I disagree completely. Our very survival depends upon a caring and sharing enviroment in which to raise children that can evolve and hold values that can further the our claim to be the crown of creation.
A truly lasting and mutually respectful relationship can only be developed from a foundation of mutual respect, admiration and of course attraction, though clearly that attraction must evolve as the years pass.
A marriage partner is not someone to lean upon, not someone to complete us, or, someone to make our lives complete. No that is far to great a burden to project upon another human being and is one of the great causes of eventual failure. The only expectation we should have is that of sharing a home, maybe some ideals and ideas, but not all and a mutual attraction, but is that not a great starting point? As luck/evolution would have it the qualities of men and women are hugely different and in that difference, hugely compatable. This is really basic stuff, it is how we were made!
A loving and bonding relationship has to be based upon mutual respect, both for the qualities of our partner and the strengths and the individuality that they have evolved into.It is almost as if we need to unlearn much that we now take for granted. Is the grass greener on the other side of the hill? No ultimately it is simply more grass.
We are each of us individuals and will remain so throughout our entire lives, but if you meet another individual that admires your qualities (and failings) and you feel recipricol emotions, congratulations, you just hit the jackpot. Cherish, take care of and treasure your good fortune and with luck you will raise children of which you can feel proud and that can take us, the human race forward in an evolved and meaningful way. Is that not the greatest legacy we can leave?
Is not a loving relationship one of lifes joys?
Be the change you wish to see in the World......Mahatma Ghandi
We have all been born with the potential of goodness, but in equal measure we have the potential for selfishness, greed and hatred. Add to this the fact that we have also been born with freedom of choice and we have the Human Condition.
I represent through my agency www.confidentialmatchmakers.com many genuine, sincere and beautiful Russian and Ukrainian ladies seeking love and a serious relationship. If you seriously seek to win the heart of one of these ladies, we can help you. They are not for sale, but with respect, tenderness and kindness you can (with lady luck on your side) win the heart of one of these ladies.
Is it worth the extra effort to try for these ladies? Absolutely, the man that succeeds will be a very fortunate man. You can discover more at:- http://www.confidentialmatchmakers.com