Becca is a Author, Speaker, University Faculty, Director of SD Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, LLC and the Training and Research Institute for Emotionally Focused Therapy at Alliant International University, and San Diego LifeSTAR: Sexual Treatment and Addiction Recovery (which are three unique programs that help improve relationships), Certified Counselor, Supervisor and Trainer in Emotionally Focused Therapy and holds the license of Clinical Professional Counselor (ID) and Mental Health Counselor (WA).
Dr. Becca is well known for her speaking and writing on the science of love, relationships and marriage. She knows we all need deep emotional connections and especially to be safe and secure with our life partner. She understands what makes relationships work from devoting herself and her career to really learning what helps couples and through practicing what she teaches.
Becca has been featured this year at the EFT Summit, Therapist Leadership Conference, Faith and Counsel in Ministry Convention and interviewed for Sensuality Secrets and Cure the Craving programs. You can hear her presentation on Adult Love free at http://www.eftsupportcenter.org/adultlove/
We all need a loving response from our partners as much as our partner needs it from us. And, if there is not as much connection and responsiveness in our relationship as we need that block is there for a good reason.
We need to be able to not just get and give loving responses, but we must learn to talk and experience love when we share hurts, to really connect at deep emotional levels. As humans we need deep emotional connection.
We have to learn how to do these things – because we aren’t taught them in our families of origin. We aren’t taught it’s okay to need emotional acceptance, comfort and safety. Even if we know we need it, we don’t know how to communicate it in such a way that our partner can respond lovingly to us. We don’t know how to figure out where the reactivity and our ’false self’ ends and where our ‘true self’ begins.
We all long to have our true self be present operating in our marriage. No one enjoys being worried, mad, walled off, or upset!
Becca suggests you start by learning about the Sad Marriage Solution©, a 12 week transformation program that teaches you how to use your emotions to draw your partner close and get understood at http://www.livinginlove.us/
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Contact me via email at becca@livinginlove.us