denny hagel

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Train vs. Re-Train 

Our current society has created a multi-million dollar business from many "self-help" and "how-to" books. Everyday I receive emails and bulletins announcing the latest and greatest techniques to receive your heart's desire using the law of attraction.

I am not disputing the value of many of these ideas. I know the law of attraction works. I know it works all of the time for everyone, positive or negative. I also know that most everything on the market is designed to help people alter their thoughts and perceptions to allow their intentions to manifest. In other words, the focus is on how to make the law of attraction work for them in a positive way.

For example: Let's say your heart's desire is to be able to own a magnificent beachfront home.

As a child you spent family vacations on Cape Cod. You were raised in a "middle class" family with modest means so your family's vacations were camping trips. That was great fun....but you always admired the luxurious homes that other people vacationed in and sometimes even owned!

You remember the family conversations that took place as you would drive by these houses:

Your father would say, "What a waste...people with that kind of money should think of a better way to spend it..."

Your mother would say, "I am glad I don't have to clean a house that big...no one needs a house that big!"

Your brother would say, "I am glad I don't have to mow that big yard..."

Here's the confusion.

All of this is being said while everyone was obviously admiring the property! You knew they admired it because when the property first came in to view, the comments began with things like, "Wow! Look at that house; it's awesome, right on the beach, and look at the size of that yard!"

To the young mind, these are conflicting messages. On one hand, a beautiful home on the beach is very impressive and exciting, but on the other hand, it must also be a bad thing because the people who own it are selfish and wasteful....and lets not forget, who would want to have to work so hard to maintain it!

All of these conflicting thoughts are embedded into your mind during the years that children are most susceptible to forming opinions. Your thoughts contain this negative confusing message about owning a beachfront property and the people who own them. These thoughts are stored away in your subconscious mind and they become a part of who you are without your choice or consent.

Now, fast forward to the point where you are a successful business man..... you still find that you are drawn to those magnificent beach front homes and decide that you want to own one.

You put out your intention...you focus what it will be like when you realize your intention and are living in that awesome home. You are doing everything that all of those self-help books on the law of attraction have told you to do.

You have created a vision board with pictures of the beachfront homes of your dreams. You put your focus on owning that house.....and yet it doesn't happen.

In response, you purchase one more self-help program....this one is designed to explain why...why if you are doing everything these books and programs have told you to do, are you not seeing your intention manifested?

The answer takes you back to those childhood vacations and those conflicting messages that took root in your subconscious mind that told you what you desire.....you don't really want! Who would want to be selfish and wasteful? Who would want all that extra work?

You argue within your mind that you do in fact want that beach house....but as you are now learning; you don't want it in your subconscious mind! Your thoughts that have been stored in your subconscious mind override your thoughts in your conscious mind.

Now, you learn that to be able to receive what you truly want in your conscious mind, you need to re-train what lives deep within your subconscious mind!

The limiting belief that says people who own these beautiful properties are selfish and wasteful and that having such a grand home is way too much work, needs to be removed.

With work and dedicated effort, this can be done. This is good news. You are confident and determined and so the re-training process begins. The bad news is that this can take take years to work through and for some it will be an on going struggle throughout their adult life.

Parents who possess this knowledge and understand this concept have the opportunity to change the rules for their children. They can monitor what thoughts, opinions and perceptions they impose upon their children.

Parents can train their children to have a positive mindset that allows for all possibilities for all people, teaching them to form their own thoughts, rather than automatically accepting other's thoughts without carefully examining them.

With that being said, parents aren't the only source children will absorb ideas and opinions from. They can come from many outside sources as well...friends, school, church, and any form of social media.

In a realistic world, parents can't be with their children 24 hours a day to monitor all the thoughts, opinions, and perceptions their children are exposed to, BUT they can teach their children that they have the power to choose what thoughts they will accept as their own and which thoughts are negative and need to be discarded.

Putting in the effort to Train your children to choose and accept only positive and healthy views, opinions, and thoughts will remove the need to erase limiting beliefs and Re-Train their minds when they reach adulthood.

To help parents teach their children the principles of the law of attraction which will provide them with the skills to choose positive thoughts, understand the power of their thoughts, and empower them with a mindset that will allow them to successfully face any challenge with confidence. I have founded Awakened Parenting LLC and created a website >http://www.MissingSecretToParenting.com. The Awakened Parenting website is home to "The Missing Secret to Parenting" and offers free information, two free ebooklet downloads as well as an e-Book "Mini-Me Syndrome".

We welcome your comments, suggestions, and questions!

denny@AwakenedParenting.com

Happy Parenting!

denny hagel