Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could own cupid’s magic arrow with an arrowhead filled with love and shoot people with it when they are being mean, hateful, nasty, or spiteful. When the arrow hit them, it would spread love and joy throughout their heart and entire body. They would immediately turn into the kind, loving people you’d like them to be.

You can have such an arrow. While no one can tell you where or how to get it, you CAN acquire it! This arrow is called “Charisma.” It comes from the Greek words “kharisma” meaning divine gift and “kharis” meaning grace. Charisma is the divine gift of grace. When people are acting in a manner unbecoming to them, use your divine gift of grace to listen and then respond to them in a manner which makes them comfortable. Be self confident and comfortable with yourself. Communicate in a natural and unpretentious way.

People who have these magic arrows are more in control of their lives. They have a goal, a direction and seem to be “in charge”. They have the ability to get others to believe in them, follow them and respond to them in a positive way.

The dictionary defines “Charisma” as “a special, inspiring quality of leadership.” Some people come by it naturally. Others have to work hard to get it. Either way, you can have it and use it to make all your relationships better.


Make it a habit to say or do things every single day that will make another person feel better. When you walk past someone, smile and pay them a compliment; make a telephone call to say hello to an elderly person or a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while; send a card or an email to someone just to let them know you are thinking of them. It’s always the right time to do a kind act.


Take the time to discover what you love – what makes your heart sing – then do it on a regular basis. It certainly doesn’t have to be profound or complicated: Sit under a tree; lie in the grass and watch the clouds; walk on the beach; go to the library; go to the spa; get a massage; take dance lessons; sing in the choir; spend time with your family; spend time alone.

Very often we are much nicer to other people than we are to ourselves. The Bible exhorts us to “love thy neighbor as thyself.” It does not say “instead of” thyself. You would never say to your best friend, “You’re so stupid. You’re so dumb. You could have. You should have.” Yet, how many times have you said exactly those things to yourself? Stop it! You are never again to follow the words “I am” with a negative word or thought. If you hear yourself doing it, say, “Stop. That’s not right.” Then say, “I am…” and attach some positive words.


Every night when you lay your head on your pillow, say thank you for at least two things in your life for which you are grateful.

On those sometimes difficult nights – when you are laying there thinking about all the things you didn’t get done, you still need to do, you could have said, you shouldn’t have said, you don’t have, and wish you were – concentrate on two people, traits, or things that happened for which you are grateful. Think about what you DO have instead of what you don’t. Focus on what you ARE instead of what you aren’t. As Rev. Robert Schuller tells us, “Obstacles are seldom the same size tomorrow as they are today. Today’s responsibilities are tomorrow’s possibilities.”

Turn your obstacles into stepping stones and your setbacks into opportunities for growth.

I wish you love!

Author's Bio: 

Judi Moreo is the author of the award winning book, “You Are More Than Enough: Every Woman’s Guide to Purpose, Passion, and Power” as well as its companion, Achievement Journal. She is a Certified Speaking Professional who has spoken in 28 countries around the world. Less than 10% of the speakers in the world hold this highly respected earned designation. To contact Judi or book her for a speaking engagement, contact Turning Point International, (702) 896-2228 or judi@judimoreo.com.