Just like fine wine, women get better with age – and so does the sex. During our younger years, social time is spent either in excessive party-mode or completely focused on academic and personal development. Curiosity about sex is generally fulfilled by amateur experimentation, books, films, and/or random hearsay from others. Our first intimate relationships mainly consist of trying to figure out what we’re doing and becoming comfortable with sharing our bodies with another person. Most young women feel extremely insecure about how they look, as they tend to compare themselves to all the other girls – even airbrushed supermodels in magazines and on TV. Lacking self-confidence and experience, teenage girls and women in their early 20’s are generally not as knowledgeable or skillful in the bedroom, unable to fully enjoy the passion and potential of intimacy.

Earlier in life, sex is mostly hormone driven, but as a person ages it becomes much more about sensuality. Traditionally, couples begin their families in their 20’s and spend the next 15-20 years consumed with domestic duties, at soccer practice and other kid-focused activities. The men are focused on building their careers with the added stress of providing for their families. Women may also try to juggle their careers and motherhood. Couples struggle to stay in balance with playing house, being good parents, and basic daily survival rather than nourishing their relationship. A hot steamy sex life tends to be pushed to the side because of family dynamics.

But what happens when the children become teenagers themselves, and no longer need their parents as much? The ‘glue’ that has kept couples together becomes more independent and spends more time away from home. This is a time when long-term relationships may require renegotiation. Divorce is more prevalent during this period, or married couples may find themselves falling in love with each other all over again. It is a chance for intimacy that they may have never had before, as they start to spend more time with each other and reconnect sexually. As their lives slow down, there’s more time to focus on rekindling their relationship and exploring a deeper intimate connection.

Whether a long-time married woman or a divorcee, middle-aged and older women seem to enjoy better sex more often than when they were younger. They are more comfortable with their bodies, and tend to feel more self-confident and secure than many younger women. With an empowered attitude and an undeniably sexy projection of their energy, older women (who take good care of themselves) can easily attract the attention of old and young men alike. They know what they want and can be explicitly directive with men in how to pleasure them. Most men can appreciate that, as it takes the guesswork out of how to best satisfy their lover.

Studies confirm that middle-aged women are more sexually active as compared to young women; findings indicate women between 31 and 54 are able to enjoy better orgasms than women aged between 18 and 30. Also, as women age, they are more likely to experience vaginal and G-spot orgasms more often and more intensely. Most young women under 30 have much higher estrogen levels and their vaginal lining is too thick to allow direct stimulation of their G-spot nerves. As the estrogen level begins to decline in women after 30, the vaginal lining becomes thinner and the G-spot becomes more accessible. As a result, most women become more easily sexually stimulated as they age.

Rather than worry about aging and concerning yourself with becoming less desirable, focus on staying active, healthy and vibrant. The better you feel, the better you look, and the sexier you will be! Embrace the aging process with a positive joyful attitude, and others will notice the quality of person you are, more so than the number of years you represent. Cheers to aging gracefully and enjoying a better sex life along the way!

Author's Bio: 

Allura Joy has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing valuable resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.

Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.

Allura enjoys writing articles to empower women in their sexuality, promoting a healthy fulfilling sex life - with or without a partner! Check out my blog, Straight UP Girl Talk with Allura at: http://www.oceanusnaturals.com/blog/