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- Career Choices: Deciding for Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Willie HortonOver the last year or so, I have spoken to a number of people who have found themselves at a crossroads in their careers through no fault of their own. Economic circumstances, being in the work place at the wrong time, employers using the excuse of the economic downturn to re-structure – have ...
Views: 1585(3 votes) - Personal Development: Energy and Success - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Willie HortonThe ground-breaking science of quantum physics explains to us that you and I – indeed, everything in our world and in our universe – are energy. Nothing more, nothing less. And the manner in which we manage our energy has a direct moment-to-moment impact on our lives. Every action that you ...
Views: 1548(2 votes) - Personal Development and the Lie of Self Improvement - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Willie HortonFrom the word go, we’re programmed to believe that we need to better ourselves. If we’ve grown up in the Christian tradition, we have learned that he are damaged goods in need of repentance – that’s not, in fact, at the core of the Christian message – in fact, we are actually told that we are ...
Views: 2114(19 votes) - Personal Development: Familiarity Breeds Contempt - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Willie HortonFamiliarity breeds contempt – so the old saying goes – and, indeed, there is considerable psychological evidence to back this up. Many years research has proved that the normal mind performs its routine tasks in a mindless manner, without paying what is being done any attention at all. This ...
Views: 8928(2 votes) - What Do You Want Out of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2010 from Willie HortonIs it possible that your life is not the joyful, effortless, successful, happy and carefree promenade that your heart desires because, in fact, you haven’t really got the first clue what your heart truly desires at all? I’ve been working with personal development or self improvement clients ...
Views: 6654(10 votes) - Stay Crazy or Succeed – It’s Your Call - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Willie HortonThere is over seventy years’ research that proves conclusively that you and I, as normal people, are crazy. Our minds control us, not the other way around as it should be – as sure a definition of madness as I have ever seen. The evidence started mounting up all the way back in 1936 when a ...
Views: 1485(4 votes) - Be Positive : Stop Negative Gossip - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2010 from Willie HortonA client asked me recently “What would you have left to talk about if you took gossip out of the conversation?” A very good question, because most of us spend a large part of our time gossiping. It might be about little “harmless” things, like the neighbours’ behaviour, how someone down the road ...
Views: 4405(18 votes) - Personal Development and the Curse of Useless Thought - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Willie HortonI’m writing this article on a Friday morning. A couple of years back, I did a breakfast seminar – a short discussion on effective personal development – for a large organization in Dublin. Early on in my presentation, I mentioned that fact that I was greeted at the door by a particularly ...
Views: 2094(12 votes) - Personal Development: Take Real Action to Change Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Willie HortonLots of people don’t like where they’re at in their lives. Some regret their missed chances – my grandmother used to repeatedly tell me that she wished that she was 18 again! The male “mid-life crisis” sees many such disillusioned people trying to re-find their youth – often with the help of a ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - The Waste of Worry - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2010 from Willie HortonHave you ever woken in the midst of a beautiful night’s sleep and just been drifting off again when some inane silly little thought flits across your mind? And another linked thought comes to join in and soon you find yourself off on a train of thought that takes you to all the places that you ...
Views: 2026(5 votes) - Simple Steps to Personal Effectiveness - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2010 from Willie HortonWe would all like to be more effective – to get the really important stuff done effortlessly, to simply do the things that we don’t like doing or want to do without any distraction, to get much more done to the very best of our ability in far less time and have plenty more time to do all the ...
Views: 2392(1 vote) - Leading Yourself Out of Recession - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Willie HortonI simply don't know how many clients have said to me, over the last few months, that they crave leadership. The current global economic has found national and international leaders wanting. Governments have often scrambled, like headless chickens, to implement sticky-plaster solutions to a mess ...
Views: 1192(3 votes) - No More Stress - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Willie HortonMost people will always find something to stress them out – their job, their boss, their financial situation, their husband, their wife, their boyfriend or girlfriend, their teenage children, their health, their golf, their holidays! I have one client who telephoned my one day a few years back ...
Views: 1324(2 votes) - To be a Success – Just Let Go - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Willie HortonIf you want to achieve effortless happiness and success, you’re going to have to let go. You’re going to have to let go of your normal ideas of success, you’re going to have to let go of your attachments to the things that you want that, only when you get them will you feel successful. Above ...
Views: 1390(8 votes) - Positive Mental Attitude – Exploding the Myth - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Willie HortonWhat’s the difference between positive thinking and positive mental attitude? Because, as far as I can figure out, positive mental attitude is just a fancier name for a way of thinking that is becoming increasingly discredited. Your attitude is created by your subconscious mind – the part ...
Views: 2060(1 vote) - Change Your Life : It’s About the Choices You Make Today - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Willie HortonPerhaps you’re stressed out – or you’ve had enough of your awful boss. Maybe you’re overweight and simply haven’t had the staying power to shed those pounds. Maybe you’re lonely – looking for friendship or a relationship but you freeze every time you’re in company. Perhaps you almost collapse ...
Views: 1630(8 votes) - How to Break Away from Frustration and Worry - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Willie HortonIn business – and often in our personal lives – frustration and worry go hand in hand. We get frustrated that our efforts are not receiving the acclaim that we believe we deserve and we get worried that, if things continue like that, we’re either not going to be the success we want to be or, ...
Views: 2643(2 votes) - Some Self Help Alternative Medicine! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2010 from Willie HortonFor many years, Eastern medicine – acupuncture, Vedic medicine – was termed “alternative” by a Western society whose medical traditions could only be described as youthful or adolescent by comparison. As an Ayurvedic surgeon from Cambridge said to me last Autumn, “If I’d studied conventional ...
Views: 1330(4 votes) - Self-Esteem and Your Inner Voices - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2010 from Willie HortonIn chatting recently to a client who was on the brink of making a major upward career move, I was told that, whilst he was totally relaxed in almost a carefree way about everything that seemed to be just effortlessly happening around him, in his odd quiet moment he still heard a little voice ...
Views: 1319(11 votes) - The Importance of Being Calm - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Willie HortonFor those of us who live in these times – where economic adversity continues to be the order of the day, where extremism simmers in various quarters from Al-Qaida to Yemen, to Plains, Georgia where an effigy of President Obama was found hanging recently, to the ongoing political upheaval in Iran ...
Views: 8475(2 votes) - Playing with Other People’s Lives - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Willie HortonFirst of all, we all know what the title means – children’s lives toyed with by teachers, children bullied in the schoolyard and employees bullied in the workplace. We’re all aware of domestic violence, psychological violence in the home and the workplace and the manner in which Governments ...
Views: 1669(5 votes) - Self-Help and Self-Defence - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from Willie HortonBe careful what you wish for ‘cos you might just get it... so says the old expression. Of course, wishing, hoping or wanting won’t get you very far in life because, at the end of the day, we get what we believe – not what we wish for – and believing is not wishing, hoping or wanting, believing ...
Views: 1327(1 vote) - Taking Courageous Decisions - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Willie HortonWe’re in our eighth great year living in the French Alps. When we upped and left Ireland in 2002, many friends and clients remarked that we were taking a courageous decision – after all, our children were thirteen, eleven and eight years old at the time and were establishing their own little ...
Views: 2122(5 votes) - How to Make the Best Life Choices - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Willie HortonEveryone is at a crossroads each moment of each day – it’s just that we never stop to reflect on the fact that each minute decision we make can have life-changing consequences. A client recently recounted a story from his youth. He told me about he used to hang out with his best friend – and his ...
Views: 5048(2 votes) - How to Get All the Money You Need - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Willie HortonRead the title of this article carefully – it doesn’t say “all the money you want” – just what you need. The defining line between needs and wants is a little more blurred than you might think because, when I use the word “need” it is used in the context of having everything that you need to ...
Views: 1356(2 votes) - Be Your Own Motivational Speaker! - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you ever wake up in the morning full of good intentions for the day ahead and find that, by the time that you get to work you’re no longer motivated? Or, maybe, you get off to a flying start but when the first minor distraction or interruption occurs, you go off the rails. Do you ever find ...
Views: 1934(3 votes) - Self-Help: Getting Your Priorities Right - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Willie HortonNo doubt you have heard the old saying that no one, on their deathbed, would ever say that they wished that they'd spend more time in the office! Well, given the mass hysteria that is the fear and panic that has been gripping world economies over the last few months, some don't even have the ...
Views: 2488(1 vote) - Life Change: It’s Happening All the Time - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2010 from Willie HortonThe vast majority of people with whom I work talk about life change, as if it was something to be desired, something out of the ordinary, something that only happens when we arrive at major crossroads in our otherwise mundane lives. How little we know about the reality of life! Viewed in its ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonThe secret to dealing with difficult people is to take the necessary action before they become difficult. Like everything else in life, if you deal with something before it becomes a problem, you’ll never have any major problems to deal with. The problem is, of course, that in the ordinary ...
Views: 1554(4 votes) - Life Lessons: Recognition - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonWe all have the ability to recognize – someone we already know, a difficult situation when we see one, an opportunity that’s staring us in the face or a problem that needs our attention. However, our psychological ability to recognise is just as much a curse as it is a blessing. We take in raw ...
Views: 1289(21 votes) - Change Your Life – Starting Today - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonIf you’ve got everything that you want out of life and want for nothing at all, in any aspect of your life, do not read this article. Everyone else – read on! From my experience in dealing directly with clients for the last fourteen years, or through my online workshop, I reckon everyone ...
Views: 1614(4 votes) - How We Label People Hurts Them and Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ...
Views: 4140(18 votes) - How to Meditate to Change Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2010 from Willie HortonI've been working with clients for over fourteen years - helping them understand how they can grasp control of their mental energy, their inner power. But intellectual understanding is one thing. Actually experiencing your inner power is quite something else altogether - and something that will ...
Views: 1238(2 votes) - The Law of Attraction: What’s Best for You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Willie HortonA lot has been written and spoken about the “Law of Attraction” – some of it pure nonsense – like the quote on Larry King Live that similar energies repel (an old wives’ tale of like attracting like) – some of it more closely related to the truth of the laws of quantum physics that state without ...
Views: 1253(3 votes) - Time Management: Focus on Only What is Important - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you have enough time to do all the things that you really should be doing today? Or, like most people, do you find yourself labouring under a mountain of “to dos”, never getting through it and then find that you simply haven’t done some of the things that you really wanted to or should have ...
Views: 1304 - Personal Success Comes from Mindfulness - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2010 from Willie HortonWhether it is on the field of professional sport or in the Buddhist temple, you will find exponents of the art of mindfulness. Mindfulness - the exact opposite of mindlessness - is the only key you need to unlock a life of peace, calm and effortless success. Doesn't matter what kind of success ...
Views: 1266 - Has a Self Help “Guru” Ripped You Off? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from Willie HortonWe have recently witnessed the furore over the deaths of three people in a “sweat lodge” in Arizona during a “Spiritual Warrior” retreat run by self-help guru James Ray who has now been charged with three counts of manslaughter as a result. Allegations from participants in the retreat include ...
Views: 1746(4 votes) - How to Build Self Confidence - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Willie HortonIn conversation with a journalist a few days back, I was asked what tricks I knew that would help build self confidence – he said that he had been discussing this with a number of other people, in preparation for an article he was writing on the subject. I suggested to him that self-confidence ...
Views: 1199 - Are You Simply Too Lazy to Live Your Dream? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Willie HortonAs a once senior banker, I know all about inertia. Studies from various parts of the world show that the majority of bank customers are unhappy with the levels of service they receive. In addition, many bank customers are aware that, at various times in their “relationship” with their bank, they ...
Views: 3428(4 votes) - Work Hard, Go to College, Get a Good Job - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Willie HortonThis is the conventional “wisdom” that has been foisted on so many children during their formative years – when we all formed our view of the world, how it works and our place in it. It suggests that hard work will be rewarded and that you have to work hard to be a success. It suggests that ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - Forget About the Recession: How to Succeed - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Willie HortonMany people are struggling at present – many have lost their jobs and many who still have jobs have taken a cut in their take home pay. Many small businesses are struggling, unable to access necessary credit from unwilling bankers – and some are going to the wall. But, also, many who are in ...
Views: 1396(5 votes) - How to Deal with Fear, Stress & Anxiety - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Willie HortonI spent some time with a client last week who talked of his fears for the state of his business, how he was afraid of what others would think of him if his business collapsed and how he was afraid of where is marriage was going as a result. Although he believed his problems to be unique, the ...
Views: 1542(1 vote) - How to be Wealthy - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Willie HortonNormal people are obsessed with money and ways and means of getting their greedy little hands on it. The vast majority of self-help websites focus on making money, trebling your income, achieving financial freedom, becoming “wildly wealthy – fast”. They simply feed the normal frenzy for more ...
Views: 1352(4 votes) - Focus Your Mind: Real Self Help - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Willie HortonDid you leave your house naked this morning? Of course you didn’t. Isn’t it bizarre that everyone has no problem preparing themselves physically for the day ahead whilst almost no one bothers to mentally prepare – and being mentally prepared is far more important because the quality of your ...
Views: 3828(3 votes) - How to Build Self Esteem - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you ever suffer from low self esteem? The Oxford English Dictionary defines “self esteem” as confidence in you own worth or abilities. So let me ask the same question a different way - do you ever doubt yourself or question your abilities? Because, if you do ever question your own value or ...
Views: 1233(1 vote) - Boring Minds, Boring Lives - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Willie HortonOver seventy years of psychological research proves conclusively that we live automatic lives. "Automaticity" is what psychologists call our extremely efficient ability to perform routine tasks without paying attention to them. Stop for a moment to reflect on how much attention you paid, this ...
Views: 1630(7 votes) - So Many Self Help Books... So Little Change - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonI spent a couple of hours recently with a client for whom basically everything has gone wrong over the last couple of years – marriage in a mess, business heading down the tubes, in the middle of a couple of court actions, finances shot – and, seemingly no way out. However, the very first thing ...
Views: 1969(1 vote) - How to Cope When Things Go Wrong - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2010 from Willie HortonMany personal development ‘gurus’ lead people to believe that, once you follow their course of action, life will be plain sailing – only good things will happen –life will simply be one wonderful moment after the next. Nothing could be further from the truth. I recently got a call from one of ...
Views: 5628(1 vote) - How to Make a Great Impression - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Willie HortonIf you’re worried about making a good impression, you can be damn sure that you’re not! You see, the normal mind is split – part of you is there with whoever you’re trying to impress, part of you is thinking that you’re not as impressive as you would like to be and part of you is evaluating ...
Views: 1752(3 votes) - Living the Dream - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Willie HortonOne of my clients, a well-known solicitor, recently introduced me to her partners by saying “Willie is living the dream!” She was referring to my living in high the French Alps, where myself and my wife moved five years ago with our three children – a better quality of life, skiing in winter, ...
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