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- How to Find Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Willie HortonThe normal mind is hard-wired to ensure that you will never find peace of mind. Research confirms that each of us is peppered with, on average, some fifty thousand thoughts each day. Many of these whizz through our field of consciousness at such speed that we don’t notice them. Then there ...
Views: 1889(1 vote) - How to Get All the Money You Need - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Willie HortonRead the title of this article carefully – it doesn’t say “all the money you want” – just what you need. The defining line between needs and wants is a little more blurred than you might think because, when I use the word “need” it is used in the context of having everything that you need to ...
Views: 1582(2 votes) - How to Meditate to Change Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2010 from Willie HortonI've been working with clients for over fourteen years - helping them understand how they can grasp control of their mental energy, their inner power. But intellectual understanding is one thing. Actually experiencing your inner power is quite something else altogether - and something that will ...
Views: 1455(2 votes) - How to Set Your Goals - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2011 from Willie HortonFor all that has been written and said about goal setting, I have met very few people who are sure of what their goals are. And, with the proliferation of self improvement books and personal development websites, you could be forgiven for thinking that, with so many people wanting to change ...
Views: 1707(1 vote) - Is Stress Messing Up Your Self Improvement? - by Submitted on May 18, 2011 from Willie HortonWe all want more out of life. Some of us want to change our lives radically – some of us have things about ourselves that we want to change. But, unfortunately, for most of us, life keeps getting in the way! The stress of everyday life – yes, millions of people are suffering from stress and ...
Views: 1716(2 votes) - Life Change: It’s Happening All the Time - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2010 from Willie HortonThe vast majority of people with whom I work talk about life change, as if it was something to be desired, something out of the ordinary, something that only happens when we arrive at major crossroads in our otherwise mundane lives. How little we know about the reality of life! Viewed in its ...
Views: 1725(1 vote) - Looking Forward or Living - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Willie HortonI was chatting to a client’s PA last Wednesday – she started the conversation with “Are you looking forward to the weekend?” When I mentioned to her that it was only Wednesday, she replied “Ah, but the weekend’s almost here once you get past Wednesday lunchtime!” Indeed, as I write this on a ...
Views: 1421(1 vote) - Meditation Doesn't Do It For Me! - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Willie HortonMany people have said this to me - what exactly they're expecting it to do for them, however, is the rock that they think they're perishing on. Re-read that sentence - it's a loaded one. Our own thoughts and expectations can present a barrier to what we do in life. We know this already from ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - Personal Development – Mission Very Possible! - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonUnfortunately, most people look at life through dark glasses and, consequently, everything looks gloomier than it should. This is normal because the normal mind is hard-wired to look at reality by filtering it through our conditioning and, in doing so, it is more likely than not that the mind ...
Views: 2855(1 vote) - Personal Development: Getting Results - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonI hear from quite a number of people – clients and readers of my Personal Development Ezine – who tell me that they have become far calmer, more aware and focused as a result of the various little “mental exercises” that they undertake to banish stress and move themselves in the direction that ...
Views: 1908(2 votes) - Positive Mental Attitude – Exploding the Myth - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Willie HortonWhat’s the difference between positive thinking and positive mental attitude? Because, as far as I can figure out, positive mental attitude is just a fancier name for a way of thinking that is becoming increasingly discredited. Your attitude is created by your subconscious mind – the part ...
Views: 2291(1 vote) - Self Esteem? No Problem! - by Submitted on May 07, 2010 from Willie HortonIt’s quite amazing how often people tell me that they’re “suffering from low self-esteem” or that they’d really like to build their self-esteem. More often than not, I simply tell them to get a grip, or call me back when they can explain to me what low self-esteem is! “Get real” is the key ...
Views: 1463(1 vote) - Self Improvement? No Need! - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2010 from Willie HortonYou don’t need self improvement. You’re perfect all ready – you just need to realize it. Some aficionados of personal development might call the process ‘self-realization’ – a big word (two actually) for something that is within every single person’s reach. There’s little pointing in ...
Views: 2493(1 vote) - Self-Help and Self-Defence - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2010 from Willie HortonBe careful what you wish for ‘cos you might just get it... so says the old expression. Of course, wishing, hoping or wanting won’t get you very far in life because, at the end of the day, we get what we believe – not what we wish for – and believing is not wishing, hoping or wanting, believing ...
Views: 1569(1 vote) - Simple Steps to Personal Effectiveness - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2010 from Willie HortonWe would all like to be more effective – to get the really important stuff done effortlessly, to simply do the things that we don’t like doing or want to do without any distraction, to get much more done to the very best of our ability in far less time and have plenty more time to do all the ...
Views: 2626(1 vote) - So, You Think that You're Suffering from Stress! - by Submitted on May 10, 2011 from Willie HortonThe World Health Organization believes that stress will be one of the biggest killers of the 21st century. Stress is responsible for millions of lost workdays in the US and UK each year. Stress leads to eating disorders, sleep disorders, heart problems, a multitude of other health problems – ...
Views: 1678(2 votes) - Success Means Having Arrived - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Willie HortonMany people reading so-called personal development or self improvement articles or, indeed, any of the vast number of self help books that continue to proliferate will know all about the concept known as the Law of Attraction – that, by your state of mind, you attract into your life the things ...
Views: 2097(5 votes) - Surfing Life’s Big Waves - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI got an invoice from my lawyer a couple of days back – for what exactly I’m not sure, as his services didn’t really match the bill! He said he was sending out invoices to a as many people as he could think of, to “keep the wolf from the door in these challenging times”. Challenging times ...
Views: 1671(2 votes) - Treble Your Income? Why Not Get Your Priorities Right?! - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2009 from Willie HortonFrom time to time I take a look at what "competitor" websites are offering in the so-called personal development or self-help sector. After all, we all need to know what we're up against - and we all need to put bread on the table. But how much bread should that be? Because, what I've found is ...
Views: 1524(2 votes) - Understanding Awareness - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2011 from Willie HortonPersonal development or self improvement is all about awareness and, in particular, self awareness. But do you actually know what awareness is? Certainly, much has been written and said about it – but, all too often, the simple has been over-complicated. And, because the psychology of the ...
Views: 1569(1 vote) - Which Would Prefer? Advice on Goal Setting or Goal Getting? - by Submitted on May 16, 2011 from Willie HortonIt intrigues me – there is so much written on goal setting – and so little written on the much more important subject of goal getting. A client, Mike, recently told me that he’d been told, by his first mentor in business, that success comes from constantly setting goals. However, Mike soon ...
Views: 1793(2 votes) - Will This Be Your Happy New Year? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Willie HortonAnother “New” year is upon us – but what has changed? Research (in the Universities of Chicago, Milan, Harvard – the list is quite long!) tells us that, in general, normal people lead repetitive lives where little ever changes. Sure, you might have made an important career change, met the ...
Views: 1643(3 votes) - Work Harder - Not Smarter! - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2009 from Willie HortonI know, I bet you that you think the title of this article is the wrong way around - but, unfortunately, that's how the vast majority of so-called "normal" people approach their daily routine. A recent survey of US employees by Gallup found that 74% of people don't like their work or workplace - ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - You’ve Got to be Brave to be Different? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2010 from Willie HortonSimple question – how many good ideas have you had that you simply never bothered to do anything about? And, have you ever noticed that some of the most successful people are where they are as a result of some really simple idea – the kind of idea that you say to yourself “I could have thought ...
Views: 1589(1 vote) - How to Stop Worrying - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Willie HortonWorry is corrosive form of useless thought – that is all worry is. Yet, it turns mole hills into mountains, conjures up imaginary crises and transforms the small puddles that we have to inevitably step over in life into raging impassable rivers. Instead of looking at life’s little hand ...
Views: 1893(12 votes) - Forget About the Recession: How to Succeed - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from Willie HortonMany people are struggling at present – many have lost their jobs and many who still have jobs have taken a cut in their take home pay. Many small businesses are struggling, unable to access necessary credit from unwilling bankers – and some are going to the wall. But, also, many who are in ...
Views: 1614(5 votes) - Stop Reading Self-Help Books! - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Willie HortonI am forever being contacted by clients recommending a variety of self-help books. And, yet, a client recently mentioned to me that he had been on a workshop where another participant told him to "Stop reading the books - and start living it!" The truth is, that you will only find true wisdom ...
Views: 5389(5 votes) - The Waste of Worry - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2010 from Willie HortonHave you ever woken in the midst of a beautiful night’s sleep and just been drifting off again when some inane silly little thought flits across your mind? And another linked thought comes to join in and soon you find yourself off on a train of thought that takes you to all the places that you ...
Views: 2269(5 votes) - What Do You Want Out of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2010 from Willie HortonIs it possible that your life is not the joyful, effortless, successful, happy and carefree promenade that your heart desires because, in fact, you haven’t really got the first clue what your heart truly desires at all? I’ve been working with personal development or self improvement clients ...
Views: 6894(10 votes) - Personal Development and the Lie of Self Improvement - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Willie HortonFrom the word go, we’re programmed to believe that we need to better ourselves. If we’ve grown up in the Christian tradition, we have learned that he are damaged goods in need of repentance – that’s not, in fact, at the core of the Christian message – in fact, we are actually told that we are ...
Views: 2361(19 votes) - Living the Dream - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Willie HortonOne of my clients, a well-known solicitor, recently introduced me to her partners by saying “Willie is living the dream!” She was referring to my living in high the French Alps, where myself and my wife moved five years ago with our three children – a better quality of life, skiing in winter, ...
Views: 1785(17 votes) - Being Overwhelmed by Useless Thoughts - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Willie HortonI’ve been running Personal Development Seminars now for over fifteen years and still, after all these years practicing what I preach, I wake up some mornings plagued with useless thoughts – or the little rascals come after me during the day when I least expect it. But, of course, I should ...
Views: 3986(8 votes) - Change Your Life : It’s About the Choices You Make Today - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Willie HortonPerhaps you’re stressed out – or you’ve had enough of your awful boss. Maybe you’re overweight and simply haven’t had the staying power to shed those pounds. Maybe you’re lonely – looking for friendship or a relationship but you freeze every time you’re in company. Perhaps you almost collapse ...
Views: 1872(8 votes) - Stay Crazy or Succeed – It’s Your Call - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Willie HortonThere is over seventy years’ research that proves conclusively that you and I, as normal people, are crazy. Our minds control us, not the other way around as it should be – as sure a definition of madness as I have ever seen. The evidence started mounting up all the way back in 1936 when a ...
Views: 1697(4 votes) - To be a Success – Just Let Go - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2010 from Willie HortonIf you want to achieve effortless happiness and success, you’re going to have to let go. You’re going to have to let go of your normal ideas of success, you’re going to have to let go of your attachments to the things that you want that, only when you get them will you feel successful. Above ...
Views: 1680(8 votes) - Be Positive : Stop Negative Gossip - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2010 from Willie HortonA client asked me recently “What would you have left to talk about if you took gossip out of the conversation?” A very good question, because most of us spend a large part of our time gossiping. It might be about little “harmless” things, like the neighbours’ behaviour, how someone down the road ...
Views: 4654(18 votes) - Be Your Own Motivational Speaker! - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2010 from Willie HortonDo you ever wake up in the morning full of good intentions for the day ahead and find that, by the time that you get to work you’re no longer motivated? Or, maybe, you get off to a flying start but when the first minor distraction or interruption occurs, you go off the rails. Do you ever find ...
Views: 2181(3 votes) - Driven to Distraction - by Submitted on May 13, 2010 from Willie HortonA couple of months back, the New York Times ran a series of articles with the above title – all about the manner in which road accidents are almost invariably the result of a loss of focus or, in plain English, not paying attention. Again, I notice that Loughborough University in the UK has ...
Views: 1598(3 votes) - Get Over Your Faults and Failings - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Willie HortonWe all have our faults and failings. That is a statement of ordinary, honest fact. However, the vast majority of us mistake our inappropriate behaviour for some inherent character flaw that leads everyone to whom I have ever posed the question "Are you 100% happy with yourself?" to ...
Views: 1703(3 votes) - How to Control Your Mind and Change Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Willie HortonYou are the creator of your own version of reality. Decades of psychological research prove beyond doubt that how you think controls how you behave and how you behave creates your life. Your mood dictates how you feel about every situation and every person that you encounter in your life. ...
Views: 2147(3 votes) - How to Motivate Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2009 from Willie HortonFor the last thirteen years, in each two-day workshop, I've asked my clients if they love themselves, if they think they're perfect. No-one answers "Yes". It's damn difficult to motivate yourself if there are things about yourself that you don't like. And, indeed, chances are that there ...
Views: 1731(3 votes) - How Useless Thought is Ruining Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2011 from Willie HortonI’ve been running Personal Development Seminars now for over fifteen years and still, after all these years practicing what I preach, I wake up some mornings plagued with useless thoughts – or the little rascals come after me during the day when I least expect it. But, of course, I should ...
Views: 1725(3 votes) - How We Label People Hurts Them and Us - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Willie HortonI have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ...
Views: 4387(18 votes) - Living "Outside the Box" - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Willie HortonDo you think that Bill Gates thinks there's a box? Or Warren Buffet? Do you think that Muhammad Ali thought there was a box? What about Sir Richard Branson? How do you think Tiger Woods or Roger Federer would feel if they thought that they had to operate inside 'the box'. Very often, ...
Views: 901(6 votes) - The Law of Attraction: What’s Best for You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Willie HortonA lot has been written and spoken about the “Law of Attraction” – some of it pure nonsense – like the quote on Larry King Live that similar energies repel (an old wives’ tale of like attracting like) – some of it more closely related to the truth of the laws of quantum physics that state without ...
Views: 1467(3 votes) - What is Personal Development All About? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from Willie HortonI sometimes get very frustrated (it doesn’t last long!) when I see the extent to which Personal Development is hijacked by people whose sole focus is on money. Go on, Google ‘Personal Development’ – the number of sites that talk about becoming a millionaire, trebling your income, achieving ...
Views: 3667(3 votes) - Why is it so Important to Live in the Now - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Willie HortonI was recently asked why authors such as Ekhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra and Tony deMello (and myself for that matter) place so much emphasis on the present moment. My reader also asked me to explain why living in the past or future can be so detrimental - and that's where this article ...
Views: 4589(3 votes) - Self-Esteem and Your Inner Voices - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2010 from Willie HortonIn chatting recently to a client who was on the brink of making a major upward career move, I was told that, whilst he was totally relaxed in almost a carefree way about everything that seemed to be just effortlessly happening around him, in his odd quiet moment he still heard a little voice ...
Views: 1537(11 votes) - Life Lessons: Recognition - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonWe all have the ability to recognize – someone we already know, a difficult situation when we see one, an opportunity that’s staring us in the face or a problem that needs our attention. However, our psychological ability to recognise is just as much a curse as it is a blessing. We take in raw ...
Views: 1549(21 votes) - Business Leadership: Gaining Competitive Advantage - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Willie HortonOne of the most important elements of ongoing business success is gaining and maintaining competitive advantage. Lots of businesses talk about it, lots of businesses strive for it, but very few businesses really understand it. Put simply, competitive advantage means being different – not just ...
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