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- Domestic Violence Is Not Just The NFL’s Problem - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Noelle NelsonDespite how it appears on the 24-hour news channels, domestic violence is not likely to be any more prevalent between professional athletes and their partners as in relationships in other segments of society. Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time and does not respect age, gender, ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - Jump-Start Your Job Game with Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Noelle NelsonThe kids are finally grown enough for you to feel OK about re-entering the work world, or the economy has made such a mess of your single-income life that your spouse is nudging you into “You gotta get a job, Honey,” emphasis on the “gotta,” or you’d been on disability, recuperating from that ...
Views: 1151(2 votes) - Jump-Start Your Job Game with Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Noelle NelsonThe kids are finally grown enough for you to feel OK about re-entering the work world, or the economy has made such a mess of your single-income life that your spouse is nudging you into “You gotta get a job, Honey,” emphasis on the “gotta,” or you’d been on disability, recuperating from that ...
Views: 1151(2 votes) - Stop! I’m Decision-ed Out - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou love your Smartphone, your laptop, your car’s navigational device, your programmable oven, TV, and all the rest of your modern day devices. They make life so much easier in so many respects! You can communicate with anyone anytime, by phone, by text, by videochat. You can Google all sorts of ...
Views: 1093(1 vote) - A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart. Until it’s time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving. Even if it’s just a parent or solitary in-law or ...
Views: 1497(1 vote) - OMG--He's a Sex Addict! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou storm into the living room, where your honey sits hunched over his laptop, TV blasting, after-work-beer close at hand. “What’s this?!” you exclaim, waving a magazine at him. “Huh?” Honey replies. You grab the remote, power the TV off with a jerk. You tap your foot. You glare. He sees the ...
Views: 2174(2 votes) - Put Grit in Your New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonNew Year’s resolutions are easy to make, but hard to keep--as anyone who’s resolved to get in shape, or stop smoking, or vowed to get to work early every day can attest to. The first few days are a breeze: off you jog to the gym, so proud of yourself. You toss your smokes in the trash, ...
Views: 1310(1 vote) - Wanna Be Happy? Practice! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Noelle NelsonIf ever there was a miserable day, this is it: your six year old threw a tantrum because her favorite socks have a hole in them, your SO forgot about an early meeting, so you had to take the kids to school rushing all the way, hair still damp from your shower because who had time to dry it, much ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Want A Happier, Healthier, More Successful New Year? Become An Optimist - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2012 from Noelle NelsonThe holidays are just about over, your decorations are slowly making their way back into storage boxes, the euphoria of gift-giving and receiving has given way to the mundane “Here we go, another year” where you still have to make a living or figure out how to make it through the next month, ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - A Sure Marriage-Killer: The War Between the Sexes - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou glare at your husband over the kitchen table, the family checkbook held hostage between you. “Dryer!” you snap. “Carburetor!” he retorts. “Pay down credit cards!” you demand. “Put away for savings!” he insists. And it’s like this all the time. It’s not just that you can’t seem to agree on ...
Views: 1348(5 votes) - How to Tell Your Spouse You’re Not Getting Enough of “It” - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou love your guy. He’s a sweetie, mellow, easy-going. He holds down a steady job and does his fair share of the chores – well, most of the time anyway. He’s good with the kids, doesn’t get too ripped on “guys’ night out” and still remembers your anniversary with flowers. You know women who ...
Views: 1148(1 vote) - What Money Can’t Buy In a Marriage, Laughter Can - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Noelle NelsonFinances are tight, you hardly go out anymore, so dinner at a restaurant with white tablecloths and candlelight is a BIG deal. You get this great coupon, finagle reservations, get yourself all dressed up (OK, so it’s last year’s fashion, or the year before, who cares), ready for a super night ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - Peace in Your Heart for the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Noelle Nelson“Compromise!” Your spouse says. “We’ll compromise! We’ll go to your folks for Christmas Eve, and my folks for Christmas Day. That way everybody will be happy – your family and mine.” Yeah, you think, everybody except me! All you want is some peace and quiet with your own husband and ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Don’t Drag Your Old Relationship into the New! - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve made your New Year’s resolutions, and this year you’re sticking to them, by gum! You’ve set new diet goals, fitness goals and spending – oops, make that budgeting - goals. You even have a new relationship this year, or one that solidified as the New Year began. Oh happy day, all is well. ...
Views: 1344(2 votes) - 2010 Marriage Resolution: Break Free of your Him-and-Her Pattern Prisons - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Noelle NelsonAh, the joy of a New Year! The endless possibilities, opportunities to set new goals, to achieve new heights! To break old patterns that no longer serve you, like nixing the danish and choosing fruit, actually going to the gym rather than just donating your membership fee as if to charity, ...
Views: 1317(3 votes) - Cheat-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYour one-and-only isn’t behaving his one-and-only self lately. He’s distracted, spends more time at work, on the Internet, everywhere but with you. He’s not that interested in being intimate – oh, he joins in just fine if you make the moves, but he’s not initiating things. You hear “yes, dear” ...
Views: 1923(3 votes) - Forgive My Spouse During the Holidays - Now? Why? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou sit around the Holiday dinner table, each giving thanks for all the good things the year has brought. It may be tangible things, like the fact you still have your job, or that your spouse was able to trade in your clunker for a decent ride, or intangibles, that most of your family is in ...
Views: 913(1 vote) - Get to the Heart of Your Apology: Speak to the Hurt! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer. You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ...
Views: 1523(1 vote) - Does Your Man Pass the 90-Day Test?! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’re in Heaven, on Cloud Nine, blissed out, and every other love-smitten cliché in the book. HE actually was the one to celebrate your first month anniversary, you practically swooned with delight. Your friends are so bored with your bombardment of “He remembered how I take my double-chai ...
Views: 1286(5 votes) - The Ultimate Valentine’s Day Gift: Forgiveness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWhat if you made this Valentine’s Day more than a day about hearts and flowers? What if you made this Valentine’s Day about expanding your love, taking it beyond whatever wonderfulness you now experience to something even more amazing? It’s doable, you know. And all it takes is giving your ...
Views: 1990(2 votes) - Want a Never-Ending Valentine’s Day? Rewire Your Relationship Brain! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been looking forward all week to watching the movie you had delivered magically to your TV, and tonight’s the night! You get comfy in your favorite chair, popcorn and soda at hand, and flick on the remote. About a third of the way into the movie, you realize it’s awful! You don’t like ...
Views: 1319(2 votes) - Don’t Let The "Evil Eye" Wreck Your Marriage! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been together – oh, it seems like forever. Anywhere from six months to umpteen years. And somewhere along the line you’ve developed the Evil Eye. You know the one. That critical look you cast on your Sweetheart, that has little sweet in it and even less heart, the look that says “How ...
Views: 4077(1 vote) - Had a Bad Day? Taking It Out on Your Mate Makes It Worse! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYour day started out awful and it’s been downhill ever since. The car wouldn’t start, so you were late dropping off the kids. An accident snarled up traffic, so you were very late to work, which means late to the monthly team-building session, all eyes upon you as you attempted ...
Views: 1378(1 vote) - A Gut-Wrench-Saving Question: Is It Worth It? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Noelle NelsonYou can hardly go anywhere these days without someone wanting to talk politics: local, national, global. The internet keeps us apprised of seemingly everything that’s happening everywhere on the planet at every instant--every tweet, photo-op (legit or not) and glitch. All this is fine if it ...
Views: 979 - A Heartfelt New Year’s Resolution: Show You Care! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonI heard the sirens behind me before I saw the flashing lights of an ambulance, followed closely by a fire truck. Like everyone else on the roadway, I looked around trying to figure out where the ambulance was heading, and as soon as I saw the lights, eased my car over to the right side of the ...
Views: 1485 - A Lesson From A True Super Hero—Who's Only Four Years Old! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Noelle NelsonAs you think about Halloween, and whatever plans you have for yourself and/or for your family, inevitably, part of your thinking revolves around “So, who will I go as this year?” It’s fun to adopt a persona for a night or two, and express an aspect of ourselves that rarely gets trotted out into ...
Views: 1137 - A Non-Waste of Time Team-Building Exercise [and yes you can try this at home] - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou moan, you groan. Your manager has called one of his infamous “team-building” meetings, and it’s only the threat of getting fired that propels your butt out of your chair and into the meeting. What a waste! Sitting around doing departmental Kumbaya when you have piles of work marked “Urgent!” ...
Views: 2059 - A Simple Way to Increase Your Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2022 from Noelle NelsonAs I stood in line waiting for a table last week, a couple of people were leaving the restaurant. One of them was complaining about the food, the few waiters, and how long it took to get their order. Meanwhile, the other person was saying: “Gosh, I don’t know. I liked the variety of the menu and ...
Views: 562 - A Unique Holiday Gift – Cute Critter Viewing - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2020 from Noelle NelsonJust when you thought things were going to get better, the pandemic surged, causing yet again a slew of restrictions right in time for the Holidays. No, really?! It feels like 2020 can’t find its joy, not even a tiny sparkle of happiness, nothing to light up the Holidays. No family ...
Views: 718 - A Valentine’s Day Gift: Go With All Your Heart! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Noelle Nelson“Wherever you go, go with all your heart,” so Confucius said some 2500 years ago, and his wisdom still holds true. But how often do we heed it? How often do we go about our lives, our loves, our work, our friendships, our families, with all our heart? This Valentine’s Day, what if you ...
Views: 1126 - Angry at Work? Have a Friends/Family Brainstorming Session! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Noelle NelsonBeing angry and frustrated at work is its own special brand of misery. Why? Because you can’t lash out at the co-worker or manager or VP that is driving you nuts without risking the loss of your job. Whereas at home, you can probably get plenty angry at your teenager, your spouse, or your ...
Views: 1780 - Are You Eating Your Heart? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonA car cuts you off in traffic. Worse than that, it zig-zags in and out of lanes, putting innocent folks (you) at risk. You’re irritated, aggravated, you declaim loudly what a fool this driver is. Where’s a cop when you need one?! When you get home, you tell your spouse, your kids, the dog, ...
Views: 1403 - Are You Guilty of the Valentine’s Day Pout? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou know exactly what you want for Valentine’s Day. You’ve dropped hints as in “Gosh, I’ve heard that new restaurant on Main is soooo romantic. I’d love to go there sometime” while batting your eyelashes. You’ve commented “Roses are so old-school. Tulips are my new fav – fantastic colors!” ...
Views: 928 - Are You Listening Competitively? Or Listening to Learn? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou know how you can be going along in a conversation with a friend or a loved one, and it all seems to be good, and suddenly, you say something and the conversation stalls or stops entirely. And you’re thinking “What happened?” You didn’t say anything insulting or mean, you just voiced your ...
Views: 2024 - B.R.E.A.T.H.E. - Dealing With Stress In The Age Of COVID-19 - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Noelle NelsonOur world is riddled with fear and anxiety. Finances. Aargh! How will we pay the rent/mortgage or have money to pay for food when we're out of work? We're lonely and miss the times when we could be with our friends and family. If we have kids, we agonize over what kind of impact the lockdown is ...
Views: 817 - Be A Champion in Your Own Life - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Noelle NelsonThe Paris Olympics were superb. The opportunity to watch the very best of the best athletes at the top of their game was phenomenal. Yet as I was enjoying yet another spectacular gymnastic move or shot-put, I realized how much we can all learn from these amazing individuals. No, not how to be a ...
Views: 164 - Be Here, Now! - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve undoubtedly heard the phrase “Be here, now.” It’s a way to remind ourselves that life is lived in the present moment, and it’s well worth enjoying whatever we can in the present. But “Be here, now” is also a wonderful way to soothe ourselves when confronted by something anxiety-provoking ...
Views: 195 - Be the Master of Your Universe—Without Bloodshed - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonSummer blockbusters are full of Masters of the Universe—Superheroes/heroines, Emperors and Kings—in righteous battle. And, when someone storms your castle – be that of your thoughts, your actions, your behavior—don’t you defend it with all your might? “You’re wrong!” “You messed up, not me!” “I ...
Views: 1433 - Be Truly Human: Practice Random Acts of Kindness! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonRemember the slogan “Practice random acts of kindness”? It’s been around for a long time—all the way back to 1982 or so. More often than not, it was dismissed by most folks as a cute New Age aphorism and has largely been forgotten in the years since. Certainly in our hurried, harried ...
Views: 2075 - Be Your Own BFF - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2024 from Noelle NelsonIt doesn’t matter whether I’m having trouble learning a new dance step, stumped on a piece of writing that has an all-too-soon deadline or forgot to pick up the dry-cleaning, whatever, my immediate go-to is to diss myself. How could I be so stupid, inept, or unconscious that I find myself in ...
Views: 211 - Bonding or Bondage?? How Does Your Relationship Stack Up? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Noelle NelsonWhen you were dating your now beloved spouse, the two of you did pretty much everything together, and so you figure that the best way to stay close is to continue to do everything together. You want your mate to share in what's important to you. He’s a mellow sort, loves you and wants to ...
Views: 1109 - Celebrate Love On Valentine's Day—Not Just Romance - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Noelle NelsonValentine’s Day is fast approaching--along with all the romance, roses and chocolate traditionally part of the day's celebration. But here’s the thing. Why should Valentine’s Day be reserved for romance alone? Why don't we celebrate love itself? A Canadian resident, Karri Carberry, 19, was ...
Views: 902 - Celebrate Your Life With Love this Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonValentine’s Day: a joy if you’re blessed with a wonderful relationship, an annoyance (or worse) if you’re single and unhappy about it, or in a “challenging” (aka miserable) relationship . . . But what if - splendidly coupled, despairingly single, or somewhere in between - you chose, this ...
Views: 1314 - Choose Your Thought Reps Wisely! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonOne of my dogs, Kobe, has epilepsy. It’s very well controlled with--of all things--Chinese herbs, but when there’s a major stressor, Kobe may be wracked with seizures. In his world, mercifully, there are few major stressors, but one of them is--thunder. We had a major storm in California last ...
Views: 1571 - Commit Non-Random Acts of Kindness and Watch Your Happiness Grow - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Noelle NelsonTraveling through Burma (aka Myanmar) recently--a fascinating country, known as “The Golden Land” because of the tens of thousands of pagodas gleaming with gold-leaf covered spires—I learned about the different ways Buddhism is practiced there. Oh, the essential aspects of Burmese Buddhism are ...
Views: 1451 - Cool Your Jets - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Noelle Nelson“To open or not to open, that is the question.” Shakespeare is probably rolling in his grave at my lamentable misuse of his famous “To be or not to be” but these days “To open or not to open” IS the question. And it is driving most of us absolutely crazy. It was one thing to engage our ...
Views: 773 - Cool Your Jets - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Noelle Nelson“To open or not to open, that is the question.” Shakespeare is probably rolling in his grave at my lamentable misuse of his famous “To be or not to be” but these days “To open or not to open” IS the question. And it is driving most of us absolutely crazy. It was one thing to engage our ...
Views: 751 - Decide or Slide - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2020 from Noelle NelsonA friend of mine broke her upper arm recently. Considering she’s a massage therapist who’s been out of work on and off all year due to COVID, plus having a hastily re-organized virtual wedding as opposed to the long planned-for wedding of her dreams, along with the death of her beloved ...
Views: 853 - Destress With a Green Break - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2024 from Noelle NelsonSpring! Such a glorious time of year. Trees sprouting white and pink blossoms, tender new green leaves on bushes and plants, more sunlight, less gray. How delightful! If only one had time to get out there and enjoy it more. You know, as in away from your hunched-over-the-computer mode, using ...
Views: 239 - Discover the New Face of Longevity: Unlock Level 12.0 - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Noelle NelsonYou know that rush you get when you’ve achieved the next level in “Clash of Clans,” or unlocked a new level by playing a mystery quest in “Candy Crush”? You strut, you tweet, you pat yourself vigorously on the back, you make sure everybody knows your new status in Clan or Crush life, and off you ...
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