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- How to Tell Your Spouse You’re Not Getting Enough of “It” - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou love your guy. He’s a sweetie, mellow, easy-going. He holds down a steady job and does his fair share of the chores – well, most of the time anyway. He’s good with the kids, doesn’t get too ripped on “guys’ night out” and still remembers your anniversary with flowers. You know women who ...
Views: 1149(1 vote) - A Lesson From A True Super Hero—Who's Only Four Years Old! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Noelle NelsonAs you think about Halloween, and whatever plans you have for yourself and/or for your family, inevitably, part of your thinking revolves around “So, who will I go as this year?” It’s fun to adopt a persona for a night or two, and express an aspect of ourselves that rarely gets trotted out into ...
Views: 1137 - Is it Your Mood or Your Attitude? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Noelle NelsonThe baby cried half the night, you couldn’t soothe her, the two hours sleep you got left you cranky and out of sorts when you got up to go to work. Or perhaps it was that tooth that’s been bothering you that kept you tossing and turning, or your mate who snored incessantly, or the neighbors’ ...
Views: 1135 - The Do-It-Yourself Holiday Miracle Kit - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Noelle NelsonSome assembly required, batteries not included. Tis the season of miracles! Whether your tradition includes the birth of a Christ child or not, the Holidays bring with them a cherished renewal of hope, peace and joy, all of which are miracles in this often challenging and troubled world. It ...
Views: 1134 - A Valentine’s Day Gift: Go With All Your Heart! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Noelle Nelson“Wherever you go, go with all your heart,” so Confucius said some 2500 years ago, and his wisdom still holds true. But how often do we heed it? How often do we go about our lives, our loves, our work, our friendships, our families, with all our heart? This Valentine’s Day, what if you ...
Views: 1126 - Bonding or Bondage?? How Does Your Relationship Stack Up? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Noelle NelsonWhen you were dating your now beloved spouse, the two of you did pretty much everything together, and so you figure that the best way to stay close is to continue to do everything together. You want your mate to share in what's important to you. He’s a mellow sort, loves you and wants to ...
Views: 1109 - The Ultimate Holiday Gift That Truly Keeps On Giving - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Noelle NelsonThe airport was crowded, noisy, chaotic. Nothing unusual about that. I was waiting, properly queued up, to board my flight. To my right was a line of nine wheelchair-bound folk also waiting patiently. All but one, who was waiting not so patiently. She was sixth in the line of pre-boarding ...
Views: 1106 - What Would (Insert Name of Favorite Action Hero) Do? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYour most recent attempt to persuade your boss of how much you deserve that raise/bonus/perk landed in the unfathomable depths of his “No way no how” with barely a ripple. You are depressed, disgusted, and yes - truth be told - massaging your hurt ego with liberal doses of self-pity. Which ...
Views: 1104 - Lessons from Coffee: What Do I Want? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2018 from Noelle NelsonWhen you walk into your favorite coffee place in the morning, I doubt that the first thing on your mind is, “How are the coffee bean plantations doing today?” If you are a true coffee aficionado, you may know that your preferred beans come from Columbia or Nicaragua, but you probably don’t worry ...
Views: 1096 - Stop! I’m Decision-ed Out - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou love your Smartphone, your laptop, your car’s navigational device, your programmable oven, TV, and all the rest of your modern day devices. They make life so much easier in so many respects! You can communicate with anyone anytime, by phone, by text, by videochat. You can Google all sorts of ...
Views: 1093(1 vote) - Your Attitude's Impact On Mind & Body During COVID-19 Crisis - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2020 from Noelle NelsonMy front window gives onto the street, and every day I see people walking their dogs. Maybe a half dozen folk in all, giving their pups some exercise. But over the last week, since California went on “lock-down,” I’m utterly amazed by the number of people walking. With dogs, without dogs, with ...
Views: 1090 - Who Has More Fun, Us or Dogs? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Noelle NelsonWe have a new neighbor on our hill. I met him the other day when I was taking my beloved old puppy--whose arthritis prevents him from getting a walk--out for his drive. My neighbor was walking his three pups down the hill, so of course as mutual dog lovers, we had to stop and have a ...
Views: 1008 - Just My Luck! - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Noelle NelsonSomeone cuts you off in traffic, you get stuck behind the person with 30 items in the 10 items or less line, your hair dryer fails in the middle of your blow-dry, the cat throws up on your favorite shirt, and every time you say to yourself, gritting your teeth through it all, “Yup, just my ...
Views: 1002 - What's Your Next Right Move? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2020 from Noelle NelsonSomething Oprah Winfrey said in an interview I stumbled across recently really hit home with me: “What is the next right move?” She was talking about how to handle disappointments, even failures, and the point she was making is how useless it is for us to dwell on whatever-it-was, but rather to ...
Views: 991 - A Gut-Wrench-Saving Question: Is It Worth It? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Noelle NelsonYou can hardly go anywhere these days without someone wanting to talk politics: local, national, global. The internet keeps us apprised of seemingly everything that’s happening everywhere on the planet at every instant--every tweet, photo-op (legit or not) and glitch. All this is fine if it ...
Views: 979 - Score With Your Boss: Be on Time! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYour Boss is really annoying. So you’re five minutes late, what’s the big deal? It’s not like your Boss is always on time. Besides, you have a life! There are lunches to make, kids to take to school – OK, kids to get up, get dressed, get fed and get to school, not to mention getting yourself up, ...
Views: 978 - Would You Marry You? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou love Valentine’s Day, it’s such a blissful thing, to celebrate your love. But somehow, the reality of Valentine’s Day rarely lives up to your fantasy of it. The restaurant was crowded, he didn’t comment (or comment enough) on your new outfit, the five pounds you lost or the perfect way your ...
Views: 965 - Stop Nagging, Draw Him a Picture! - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Noelle Nelson“You’ve already asked me that, a hundred times!” your spouse snaps at you. “Well, you haven’t done it yet!” you retort. “Nag, nag, nag” your erstwhile beloved mutters under his breath. “What was that?” you demand. “Nothing, dear,” he says with heavy sarcasm on the dear, as he stomps out the ...
Views: 944 - Are You Guilty of the Valentine’s Day Pout? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou know exactly what you want for Valentine’s Day. You’ve dropped hints as in “Gosh, I’ve heard that new restaurant on Main is soooo romantic. I’d love to go there sometime” while batting your eyelashes. You’ve commented “Roses are so old-school. Tulips are my new fav – fantastic colors!” ...
Views: 929 - Why Me? Every Woman's Lament - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou glare at the Toad-on-The-Couch your man has become. You’ve been subtle – “suggested” and hinted and sighed loudly - only to progress to complaining, nagging, fuming and yelling when subtlety doesn’t shove him off the couch and into doing what needs doing. Not that your ...
Views: 928 - Shift your Perspective! - by Submitted on May 02, 2019 from Noelle NelsonHow do you see yourself? As a hero or a victim? In any given life circumstance, you can see yourself either way. I recently moved into my new home. As is often the case with a “new” home, that is to say new to me, although built in the mid 1960s, it has what is euphemistically referred to as ...
Views: 919 - Forgive My Spouse During the Holidays - Now? Why? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou sit around the Holiday dinner table, each giving thanks for all the good things the year has brought. It may be tangible things, like the fact you still have your job, or that your spouse was able to trade in your clunker for a decent ride, or intangibles, that most of your family is in ...
Views: 913(1 vote) - What I Learned From The Inventor Of Zoom - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Noelle NelsonIf there’s one thing I noticed about our sheltering-in-place time, it’s that complaining did absolutely nothing about it. Zip. Nada. Complaining about the lack of work didn’t magically produce more work, ditto lack of income. Complaining about the ordeal – pardon me, challenge – of ...
Views: 911 - I'm Not Arguing. I'm Just Explaining That I'm Right - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2020 from Noelle NelsonGiven my work as a trial consultant, I typically spend a lot of time on airplanes and consequently, in airports (at least until the COVID-19 outbreak). I was in an airport somewhere in the Midwest when I saw a fellow traveler wearing a t-shirt with words that I found positively brilliant: “I’m ...
Views: 910 - Celebrate Love On Valentine's Day—Not Just Romance - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Noelle NelsonValentine’s Day is fast approaching--along with all the romance, roses and chocolate traditionally part of the day's celebration. But here’s the thing. Why should Valentine’s Day be reserved for romance alone? Why don't we celebrate love itself? A Canadian resident, Karri Carberry, 19, was ...
Views: 902 - How to Make Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Noelle NelsonThe holidays can sometimes feel like one long list of obligations. You have to figure out which gifts to get for whom and how much you can afford to spend. You have to write holiday cards/notes/emails at least to some people, once again figuring out what to whom. You have to figure out which ...
Views: 899 - What Money Can’t Buy In a Marriage, Laughter Can - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Noelle NelsonFinances are tight, you hardly go out anymore, so dinner at a restaurant with white tablecloths and candlelight is a BIG deal. You get this great coupon, finagle reservations, get yourself all dressed up (OK, so it’s last year’s fashion, or the year before, who cares), ready for a super night ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - Up Your Game This Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2020 from Noelle NelsonHow about if this Valentine’s Day you upped your game? What if, instead of--or in addition to-- focusing the intensity of your love on that one special person in your life, you turned the spotlight of your love onto your life! Your whole life, all of it, every aspect of it. If rather than ...
Views: 875 - What Would Betty Crocker Do? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2019 from Noelle NelsonSome of you may remember who Betty Crocker was. For those of you who don’t, Betty Crocker was a fictional character, created in the 1920s to give a friendly face to cooking and baking products. She was a cultural icon right through the mid-90s. To many over the decades, she represented kindness ...
Views: 860 - Decide or Slide - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2020 from Noelle NelsonA friend of mine broke her upper arm recently. Considering she’s a massage therapist who’s been out of work on and off all year due to COVID, plus having a hastily re-organized virtual wedding as opposed to the long planned-for wedding of her dreams, along with the death of her beloved ...
Views: 854 - The Four-Letter Word That Kills - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2020 from Noelle NelsonWe all know that just as there are words which uplift and enthrall us, there are words which can hurt and demean us. But did you know that there is one four-letter word that actually kills?! No, it’s not that four-letter word, it’s the word “can’t.” The word “can’t” kills dreams, hopes, ...
Views: 853 - The 20-Minute Rule - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2019 from Noelle NelsonMy resolution for the New Year is actually very simple: The 20 Minute Rule. It means I no longer allow myself to worry over anything for more than 20 minutes. Anything. Not the state of my health, finances, relationships, the world – anything. Why should this rank as a valid resolution? Well, ...
Views: 844 - Want More Job Kudos? Supercharge Your Work! - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve got your work down to a system. You’ve been doing it long enough so that you know what to do, how to do it, and get your assigned tasks and duties done well (for the most part) and on time (for the most part), regardless of whether you’re assigning your “to-dos” to yourself or you have a ...
Views: 839 - Win the Battle, Lose the Love - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou throw the credit card bill in the middle of the kitchen table with a victorious flourish. Ta-da! You were right. He’s the one who maxed out the card. He’s the one who spent needless dollars on some foolish whats-it that wasn’t in the budget. He’s the one who puts his selfish needs above the ...
Views: 836 - Let Your Best Self Carry the Relationship Day! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’re going along hunky-dory through your day. You’ve had the occasional work-challenge: a co-worker who was late with their side of things, so you had to scramble. Your boss laid an unexpected deadline on you – yikes! - but you rose to the occasion and handled the situation with a good ...
Views: 819 - B.R.E.A.T.H.E. - Dealing With Stress In The Age Of COVID-19 - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2020 from Noelle NelsonOur world is riddled with fear and anxiety. Finances. Aargh! How will we pay the rent/mortgage or have money to pay for food when we're out of work? We're lonely and miss the times when we could be with our friends and family. If we have kids, we agonize over what kind of impact the lockdown is ...
Views: 817 - The “Just One” Secret to Fitness - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou stare at the digital read-out on your scale, unbelieving. 10 pounds?! How could you possibly have gained 10 pounds? You eat like a bird! Nothing but fruits and nuts and veggies. Of course there was that pasta dish the other night. And the irresistible danish at work. And the simply sublime ...
Views: 814 - “Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.” - Richard Wilkins - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2022 from Noelle NelsonA dear friend was lamenting the state of the world these days, and indeed, the wars, shootings, political and legal wrangles are disturbing to those who want peace and prosperity for all. In addition to the natural disasters which seem constant: fires, floods, hurricanes and tornadoes. And ...
Views: 776 - Cool Your Jets - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Noelle Nelson“To open or not to open, that is the question.” Shakespeare is probably rolling in his grave at my lamentable misuse of his famous “To be or not to be” but these days “To open or not to open” IS the question. And it is driving most of us absolutely crazy. It was one thing to engage our ...
Views: 774 - How Candice Bergen Changed My Life - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2020 from Noelle NelsonIn a recent interview, actress Candice Bergen spoke about how her beauty, and the way others react to it, challenged her self-development, as no one seemed to care much about what she thought or her opinions. They were too bedazzled by her face. I can relate. Candice was one year ahead of me ...
Views: 771 - Cool Your Jets - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Noelle Nelson“To open or not to open, that is the question.” Shakespeare is probably rolling in his grave at my lamentable misuse of his famous “To be or not to be” but these days “To open or not to open” IS the question. And it is driving most of us absolutely crazy. It was one thing to engage our ...
Views: 751 - More Hope and Less Angst - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2020 from Noelle NelsonMy best friend and I had a vigorous discussion recently about the relative merits of process versus results. She was extolling the virtues of process and processing, and I was nattering on about “results, results, results.” Yet the obvious conclusion at the end of our conversation, was that both ...
Views: 738 - A Unique Holiday Gift – Cute Critter Viewing - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2020 from Noelle NelsonJust when you thought things were going to get better, the pandemic surged, causing yet again a slew of restrictions right in time for the Holidays. No, really?! It feels like 2020 can’t find its joy, not even a tiny sparkle of happiness, nothing to light up the Holidays. No family ...
Views: 718 - What’s Right With This Picture? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2021 from Noelle NelsonLunch at a restaurant! With a friend, live and in person! A restaurant with indoor seating, no masks required for the vaccinated. OMG, I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. After the long year of home-cooking (not much variety there), take-out (fun from time to time, not all the time), and ...
Views: 699 - Everyone Has A Superpower – What’s Yours? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2022 from Noelle NelsonThe ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound is hardly useful these days, given the wonders of CGI. And yes, invisibility might still be useful, but what if you forgot how to be visible again? Far better is to look inward for your superpower, not outward. To your truth, to what serves ...
Views: 636 - You Got This! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2022 from Noelle NelsonMy morning was supposed to be devoted to writing a report for one of the trial attorneys I consult for. The work takes concentration and focus, as my conclusions influence how the case is developed. It’s important, it matters, I need to do it well. But “life” was having none of it . . . The ...
Views: 610 - The Hope Of The World - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Noelle NelsonIt’s easy to wonder about the future of our nation, or even the world, when we observe younger people engaged with their devices 24/7, seemingly uninterested in anything but the latest “trending” or selfie. How will future generations thrive given what seems to many as their selfish attitude of ...
Views: 594 - Waste Not, Want Not - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2021 from Noelle NelsonWe may not be out of the pandemic quite yet, but many of us are carving out a “new normal” for ourselves. Because let’s face it, life is not going back to what it was a mere two years ago. This actually is a good thing, because we have the opportunity to make new decisions, new choices for how ...
Views: 589 - Finding Happiness, Living Your Joy - by Submitted on May 02, 2022 from Noelle NelsonSo often, it seems like the world presses against us, day in and day out. Work duties, family obligations, endless chores, finances, on and on. Who has time for anything as frivolous as deliberately “finding happiness”? Much less “living your joy.” Like, when? How? And why would it even matter ...
Views: 579 - A Simple Way to Increase Your Happiness - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2022 from Noelle NelsonAs I stood in line waiting for a table last week, a couple of people were leaving the restaurant. One of them was complaining about the food, the few waiters, and how long it took to get their order. Meanwhile, the other person was saying: “Gosh, I don’t know. I liked the variety of the menu and ...
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