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- “The Lion King” and “Aladdin” Get the Best of a LaGuardia Situation - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2015 from Noelle NelsonTravel delays are never fun, but from time to time they are bound to happen. You can’t expect the weather to cooperate every time you fly, and better they should repair those mechanical issues before you fasten your seat belt. I’ve learned to take a deep breath, chill, remind myself it’s not ...
Views: 1327 - What Would (Insert Name of Favorite Action Hero) Do? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYour most recent attempt to persuade your boss of how much you deserve that raise/bonus/perk landed in the unfathomable depths of his “No way no how” with barely a ripple. You are depressed, disgusted, and yes - truth be told - massaging your hurt ego with liberal doses of self-pity. Which ...
Views: 1067 - What Would (Insert Name of Favorite Action Hero) Do? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYour most recent attempt to persuade your boss of how much you deserve that raise/bonus/perk landed in the unfathomable depths of his “No way no how” with barely a ripple. You are depressed, disgusted, and yes - truth be told - massaging your hurt ego with liberal doses of self-pity. Which ...
Views: 1134 - Want a Miracle? Shift Your Perception! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonLosing is painful. It doesn’t matter what - a job, a promotion, your health, a lover, a spouse - it’s painful. Sure, the pain is greater, the greater the loss, but whenever we lose something, we feel it deeply. A friend of mine, a trial lawyer by trade, recently lost a big case. He’s not in ...
Views: 1440 - Use Your Mind to Combat Killer Stress! - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou hate your boss, you hate your work, your co-workers drive you crazy, and you’re convinced you’re underpaid even if you weren’t horribly overworked. You’re stressed all the time! Small wonder. . . You’re tired, achy, rarely get a peaceful night’s sleep, and now you’ve come down with a ...
Views: 1380 - Ditch The “Have-To’s” and Get To The (Way More Fun) “Want-To’s”! - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2015 from Noelle NelsonEver notice the list of “have-to’s” you’ve got going? As in ‘have-to’ get up and get yourself going, ‘have-to’ get everybody fed-dressed-out-the-door, ‘have-to’ get to work, ‘have-to’ do the work, ‘have-to’ put up with a boss/co-worker/client you can’t stand, ‘have-to’ run the errands, do the ...
Views: 1540 - Are You Listening Competitively? Or Listening to Learn? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou know how you can be going along in a conversation with a friend or a loved one, and it all seems to be good, and suddenly, you say something and the conversation stalls or stops entirely. And you’re thinking “What happened?” You didn’t say anything insulting or mean, you just voiced your ...
Views: 1986 - Celebrate Your Life With Love this Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonValentine’s Day: a joy if you’re blessed with a wonderful relationship, an annoyance (or worse) if you’re single and unhappy about it, or in a “challenging” (aka miserable) relationship . . . But what if - splendidly coupled, despairingly single, or somewhere in between - you chose, this ...
Views: 1276 - This New Year: Take Charge of Your RAS! - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou just mopped your kitchen floors. Satisfied, you enjoy the gleam for a moment, then off you go to whatever’s next. You hear the back door slam. The kids are home - great! Until you see the muddy footprints they left all over your just-cleaned floor. You sigh, grab the mop, swab quickly. ...
Views: 1181 - Geocache Your Way to Happy Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Noelle NelsonA friend introduced me recently to the wide wonderful world of Geocaching. For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, Geocaching, according to Wikipedia, is: “…an outdoor recreational activity, in which participants use a Global Positioning System (GPS) receiver or mobile device and other ...
Views: 1480 - Don’t Leave Yourself Out of Thanksgiving Gratitude! - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThanksgiving is almost here - that time of year when “get your gratitude on!” is the game of the day. And indeed, you do have your gratitude well in gear. You are ready to express your gratefulness for your family, your friends, your job (maybe, could be a stretch), Pilates, football, the ...
Views: 1417 - Eight Signs of a Fantastic Boss - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWith so many bad bosses out there, when you have a fantastic boss, you don't want to take your boss for granted. Most people know when they are fortunate enough to have a truly special boss. Here are eight signs of an exceptional boss. A good boss is positive, upbeat and enthusiastic about ...
Views: 1332 - Domestic Violence Is Not Just The NFL’s Problem - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Noelle NelsonDespite how it appears on the 24-hour news channels, domestic violence is not likely to be any more prevalent between professional athletes and their partners as in relationships in other segments of society. Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time and does not respect age, gender, ...
Views: 1390(1 vote) - What My Rescue Puppy Taught Me About the Power of Together - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonRecently, I adopted a rescue dog - a one year old German Shepherd - and as is true of most rescue dogs, he was an anxious, insecure puppy. Nonetheless, as I stood in front of him and gently petted his head, I was surprised when he cringed and backed away. Then I remembered that his experience ...
Views: 1552 - Happiness Is A 5:1 Deal - It’s Scientific! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonYour spouse says “You’re gonna wear that?!” Your child, in a fit of frustration, yells out “I hate you!” Your boss says “This’ll never fly. Where’s your creativity?” Whether important or not, life-altering or just annoying, why is it that a single critical comment from your spouse, child or ...
Views: 1337 - Lose the Guilt-ridden “Shoulds” for the Magic of “Could” - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe alarm rings. Too early, much too early. A whole hour early. You know you should get up. You promised yourself you’d start working out. Today’s the day! Huzzah! Yesterday it seemed like such a great idea. You even set out your gym gear, ready to get going first thing. Groan. Aargh! You ...
Views: 1629 - Turn “Yeah, but” On Its Head - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonEver have one of those “Yeah, but” conversations? Your friend has lost her job. Being the supportive friend that you are, you say: “Hey, you’ve got tons of skills. All you need to do is revamp your resume, and you’ll be hired in no time.” “Yeah, but the economy sucks. It’s gonna take ...
Views: 1499 - What I Learned From Yucky Fish - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWe’re great at giving our very best in the hard moments, the crises. We pull out all the stops to save a loved one’s life, rescue a child from a burning building, salvage our marriages on the brink of divorce. We are truly, then, the shining example of what a human being is capable of. But ...
Views: 1470 - What Improv Theatre Taught Me About “Yes, and…” - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonYou’re planning your next vacation. Well, your only vacation this year, which is a pretty big deal because you and your girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse haven’t had one in, oh, let’s see - quite a while. It should be a delightful discussion, after all, you’re talking about something you both want and ...
Views: 1169 - Choose Your Thought Reps Wisely! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonOne of my dogs, Kobe, has epilepsy. It’s very well controlled with--of all things--Chinese herbs, but when there’s a major stressor, Kobe may be wracked with seizures. In his world, mercifully, there are few major stressors, but one of them is--thunder. We had a major storm in California last ...
Views: 1532 - Get to the Heart of Your Apology: Speak to the Hurt! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer. You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ...
Views: 1487(1 vote) - The Ultimate Valentine’s Day Gift: Forgiveness - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWhat if you made this Valentine’s Day more than a day about hearts and flowers? What if you made this Valentine’s Day about expanding your love, taking it beyond whatever wonderfulness you now experience to something even more amazing? It’s doable, you know. And all it takes is giving your ...
Views: 1957(2 votes) - Put Grit in Your New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonNew Year’s resolutions are easy to make, but hard to keep--as anyone who’s resolved to get in shape, or stop smoking, or vowed to get to work early every day can attest to. The first few days are a breeze: off you jog to the gym, so proud of yourself. You toss your smokes in the trash, ...
Views: 1275(1 vote) - The Big Holiday Do: Doable or Not? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYour spouse wants a big Holiday do--not just the in-laws, grandparents, aunts and uncles, your respective siblings, their mates and assorted children, but also all sixteen cousins with their mates and kids, because after all, you rarely can get the whole family together, and--it’s the ...
Views: 1309 - A Thanksgiving to Be Grateful For - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou love your extended family, you really do, and the thought of all those aunts and uncles, in-laws and parents, cousins and various spouses and children warms your heart. Until it’s time for them to descend on your home for Thanksgiving. Even if it’s just a parent or solitary in-law or ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - Turn the Tables on Your Horrible Boss: Go from Miserable to Successful! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re positively miserable. Your boss is a walking criticism-machine, never a supportive nod or word of thanks, regardless of how long and hard you slave at your appointed tasks. Heaven forbid anything goes wrong, ever, for even an instant, because he whips out blame with lightning speed, ...
Views: 1311 - Regain Peace of Mind: Trash Those Unwanted Thoughts! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ...
Views: 1529 - Living in the Problem? Try Living in the Solution! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re annoyed. You promised yourself you would lose that weight, go to the gym, get in shape to join your friends in a much vaunted walk-a-thon. Yet here you are, six months later, one month away from the walk-a-thon, and you’ve only lost a couple of pounds, your trips to the gym are spotty at ...
Views: 1294 - Wanna Be Happy? Practice! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Noelle NelsonIf ever there was a miserable day, this is it: your six year old threw a tantrum because her favorite socks have a hole in them, your SO forgot about an early meeting, so you had to take the kids to school rushing all the way, hair still damp from your shower because who had time to dry it, much ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Want Success? Focus on What Works! - by Submitted on May 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re annoyed with yourself. Very. Downright angry, now that you think about it. You vowed last month you’d stick to your diet and slim down for the summer, and here you are, berating yourself over that double fudge extravaganza you pigged out on last night. Which wouldn’t be so bad except ...
Views: 1261 - Are You Eating Your Heart? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonA car cuts you off in traffic. Worse than that, it zig-zags in and out of lanes, putting innocent folks (you) at risk. You’re irritated, aggravated, you declaim loudly what a fool this driver is. Where’s a cop when you need one?! When you get home, you tell your spouse, your kids, the dog, ...
Views: 1363 - A Non-Waste of Time Team-Building Exercise [and yes you can try this at home] - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou moan, you groan. Your manager has called one of his infamous “team-building” meetings, and it’s only the threat of getting fired that propels your butt out of your chair and into the meeting. What a waste! Sitting around doing departmental Kumbaya when you have piles of work marked “Urgent!” ...
Views: 2025 - Eliminate the Fear Factor: 90-Seconds and You’re Out! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re up for that job that could be a career changer--you’re scared! What if you flub the final interview, what if you say something really stupid, what if the CEO hates your hair? You’re dating a special someone you really like. You can feel yourself falling for him/her, big-time--you’re ...
Views: 2524 - Want a Never-Ending Valentine’s Day? Rewire Your Relationship Brain! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been looking forward all week to watching the movie you had delivered magically to your TV, and tonight’s the night! You get comfy in your favorite chair, popcorn and soda at hand, and flick on the remote. About a third of the way into the movie, you realize it’s awful! You don’t like ...
Views: 1285(2 votes) - Want A Happier, Healthier, More Successful New Year? Become An Optimist - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2012 from Noelle NelsonThe holidays are just about over, your decorations are slowly making their way back into storage boxes, the euphoria of gift-giving and receiving has given way to the mundane “Here we go, another year” where you still have to make a living or figure out how to make it through the next month, ...
Views: 1422(1 vote) - Peace in Your Heart for the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Noelle Nelson“Compromise!” Your spouse says. “We’ll compromise! We’ll go to your folks for Christmas Eve, and my folks for Christmas Day. That way everybody will be happy – your family and mine.” Yeah, you think, everybody except me! All you want is some peace and quiet with your own husband and ...
Views: 1285(5 votes) - The Dog Ate My Homework: Really? Still? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonRemember the good old days when you actually thought you could get away with “the dog ate my homework?” Or – updated version – “My baby sister deleted my homework with one swipe of her pureed banana fingertips”? How well did it work then? Uh-huh. So why do you keep running the same refrain ...
Views: 1371 - Be Truly Human: Practice Random Acts of Kindness! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonRemember the slogan “Practice random acts of kindness”? It’s been around for a long time—all the way back to 1982 or so. More often than not, it was dismissed by most folks as a cute New Age aphorism and has largely been forgotten in the years since. Certainly in our hurried, harried ...
Views: 2028 - Angry at Work? Have a Friends/Family Brainstorming Session! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Noelle NelsonBeing angry and frustrated at work is its own special brand of misery. Why? Because you can’t lash out at the co-worker or manager or VP that is driving you nuts without risking the loss of your job. Whereas at home, you can probably get plenty angry at your teenager, your spouse, or your ...
Views: 1746 - Too Many Missed Opportunities? Power Off Your Smart Phone! - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonThe courtroom is hot. The lawyer drones on and on. The jurors are bored. The judge is bored. His Honor’s gaze strays over to the jurors. One juror seems relatively awake. That’s because said juror is texting one-handed, surreptitiously, down by his knee. But his interested expression gives him ...
Views: 2174 - Step Away From The Comparison Game: Just Be You! - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2012 from Noelle NelsonHarried, bedraggled, already late for work, you do your best to be patient as your kids scramble out of the car juggling school backpacks and soccer gear, when your youngest pipes up “Where’s my lunch?” Oh, shoot. In the fridge, that’s where his lunch is. You root in your purse, grab some bills ...
Views: 1655 - Smile! It’s Good For Your Health - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonIt has been a miserable day. You overslept, your hair-dryer died in a brief flash of evil burning smell, you forgot to get gas on your way home last night and had to wait in line at the pump this morning. Your boss has a new favorite (and it’s definitely not you), the team meeting dragged on ...
Views: 1331 - Tip Your Marital Scales Into Joy! - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYour husband wakes up grumpy, stumbles to the bathroom, glances at your reflection next to his in the mirror, and says “What’s wrong with your hair?” You glare: “I slept on it funny. Good morning to you too.” Strike one against husband: “Why do you have to be so unpleasant first ...
Views: 1787 - Shape Your Life Up: Tell Yourself the (Desired) Truth! - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonAck!! Your computer is acting up—again—and despite hitting “escape” and every other “get-me-outta-here” key you can think of, you’re in frozen hell. “I hate this computer!” you mutter. Your co-worker glances over at you, “That’s what you always say. Maybe you should try talking pretty to it.” ...
Views: 1389 - Why Success and Gossip Don’t Mix - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou know how it goes. You’re huddled around the coffee machine, riveted, listening to a co-worker’s latest rendition of “and then Tom texted Thea saying she was a conniving . ..” Oh, the fun of office gossip! Oh, the titillation and subversive thrill that comes out of “I know something about ...
Views: 1273 - Don’t “Do” Valentine’s Day – Be it! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou run from store to store looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift, the one that will truly express how you feel about your love. And be something she or he will really likes. Right. That last part’s a bit of a problem. The things your beloved will really like may be way outside your ...
Views: 1299 - Make A Different Kind of New Year’s Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou know your usual litany of New Year’s resolutions: “This year I’m gonna lose 5 – 10 -50 pounds. This year I swear I’ll get to the gym at least twice a week. This year I absolutely positively will not spend past my credit limit. This year I swear I’ll never have another ginger Martini (given ...
Views: 1410 - Tame the Holiday Perfection Grinch - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve made your list, you’ve checked it twice. Oh, no, not that list – I’m talking about the list you’ve made of the 1022 ½ things you need to get done for the Holidays, everything from the perfect gift for Cousin Henry, to the perfect surprise for your sweetheart, to the perfect outfit for ...
Views: 1495 - Great Time For Bosses to Say Thanks to Employees--And Show They Mean It - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2011 from Noelle NelsonThose who are fortunate enough to have a job in these tough economic times are often working longer hours and carrying the workload normally done by two or more workers. The holiday season is the perfect time for employers to show their employers they appreciate their efforts. Appreciation ...
Views: 1593 - The “Just One” Secret to Fitness - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou stare at the digital read-out on your scale, unbelieving. 10 pounds?! How could you possibly have gained 10 pounds? You eat like a bird! Nothing but fruits and nuts and veggies. Of course there was that pasta dish the other night. And the irresistible danish at work. And the simply sublime ...
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