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- Use Your Mind to Combat Killer Stress! - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou hate your boss, you hate your work, your co-workers drive you crazy, and you’re convinced you’re underpaid even if you weren’t horribly overworked. You’re stressed all the time! Small wonder. . . You’re tired, achy, rarely get a peaceful night’s sleep, and now you’ve come down with a ...
Views: 1417 - Shape Your Life Up: Tell Yourself the (Desired) Truth! - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonAck!! Your computer is acting up—again—and despite hitting “escape” and every other “get-me-outta-here” key you can think of, you’re in frozen hell. “I hate this computer!” you mutter. Your co-worker glances over at you, “That’s what you always say. Maybe you should try talking pretty to it.” ...
Views: 1416 - The Dog Ate My Homework: Really? Still? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonRemember the good old days when you actually thought you could get away with “the dog ate my homework?” Or – updated version – “My baby sister deleted my homework with one swipe of her pureed banana fingertips”? How well did it work then? Uh-huh. So why do you keep running the same refrain ...
Views: 1404 - Are You Eating Your Heart? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Noelle NelsonA car cuts you off in traffic. Worse than that, it zig-zags in and out of lanes, putting innocent folks (you) at risk. You’re irritated, aggravated, you declaim loudly what a fool this driver is. Where’s a cop when you need one?! When you get home, you tell your spouse, your kids, the dog, ...
Views: 1403 - The Holidays: “It’s a Wonderful Life.” Really? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2015 from Noelle NelsonThe Holidays! You’ve made your list and you’re checking it twice. Let’s see: not enough money in the budget to get the kids what they really want. Not enough for a quick two day get-away for you and your S.O., given the cost of transportation, accommodations, and a sitter who will put up for ...
Views: 1403 - Discover the New Face of Longevity: Unlock Level 12.0 - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Noelle NelsonYou know that rush you get when you’ve achieved the next level in “Clash of Clans,” or unlocked a new level by playing a mystery quest in “Candy Crush”? You strut, you tweet, you pat yourself vigorously on the back, you make sure everybody knows your new status in Clan or Crush life, and off you ...
Views: 1383 - Eight Signs of a Fantastic Boss - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWith so many bad bosses out there, when you have a fantastic boss, you don't want to take your boss for granted. Most people know when they are fortunate enough to have a truly special boss. Here are eight signs of an exceptional boss. A good boss is positive, upbeat and enthusiastic about ...
Views: 1379 - Had a Bad Day? Taking It Out on Your Mate Makes It Worse! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYour day started out awful and it’s been downhill ever since. The car wouldn’t start, so you were late dropping off the kids. An accident snarled up traffic, so you were very late to work, which means late to the monthly team-building session, all eyes upon you as you attempted ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - Making Good Times Out of Bad: the Ken Nwadike Story - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonOnce upon a time, there was a man who wanted desperately to run in the 2014 Boston Marathon – as many runners did - for the simple reason that it was the first Boston Marathon after the dreadful 2013 bombing. But the Boston Marathon is different from most marathons, in that you have to qualify ...
Views: 1374 - Smile! It’s Good For Your Health - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Noelle NelsonIt has been a miserable day. You overslept, your hair-dryer died in a brief flash of evil burning smell, you forgot to get gas on your way home last night and had to wait in line at the pump this morning. Your boss has a new favorite (and it’s definitely not you), the team meeting dragged on ...
Views: 1374 - Happiness Is A 5:1 Deal - It’s Scientific! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonYour spouse says “You’re gonna wear that?!” Your child, in a fit of frustration, yells out “I hate you!” Your boss says “This’ll never fly. Where’s your creativity?” Whether important or not, life-altering or just annoying, why is it that a single critical comment from your spouse, child or ...
Views: 1368 - Make This Your “Best Human” Year Ever! - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Noelle NelsonAccording to the Chinese Zodiac, 2018 is the Year of the Dog. People born during a “Dog” year are said to possess the best traits of human nature, as in honest, friendly, faithful, loyal, smart, straightforward, venerable and having a strong sense of responsibility. Gee, I could have told you ...
Views: 1368 - “The Lion King” and “Aladdin” Get the Best of a LaGuardia Situation - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2015 from Noelle NelsonTravel delays are never fun, but from time to time they are bound to happen. You can’t expect the weather to cooperate every time you fly, and better they should repair those mechanical issues before you fasten your seat belt. I’ve learned to take a deep breath, chill, remind myself it’s not ...
Views: 1366 - The Valentine’s Day Gift That Keeps On Giving: What’s Right With Your World? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Noelle NelsonSo much of our time is spent fixing problems: problems at work, issues with our loved ones, concerns with our health, our weight, our finances. You name it, 90% of our waking hours (and so many of our sleeping ones as well) are spent in having yet another problem brought to our attention, with ...
Views: 1358 - Your Heart Got Hijacked? Take It Back - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2016 from Noelle NelsonWhen a man got the “Dear John” treatment from his girlfriend recently, his Fitbit tracked his heartbreak, a dramatic and oh-so-21st century snapshot of what happens to your physical heart when your emotional heart gets trashed. Indeed, not only do your emotions suffer when you get bad news, ...
Views: 1358 - Thanksgiving 2.0: Be Grateful For Everything That Goes Right! - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonHow often do you stop to catch yourself in the act of doing something right? Or anybody else for that matter . . . As opposed to dinging yourself for every single mistake you make, every flaw you find on your face, in your character, your clothes, your finances, your relationship, your ...
Views: 1353 - Do You Know Where Your Intent Is? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2017 from Noelle NelsonMost of us think of intent as a “kind of” “sort of” thing: you intend to go on vacation, but you really don’t do much about it. Or you intend to go to the market, but some other errand got in the way. Or you intend to ask your boss for a raise, but you got cold feet and chickened out. Which ...
Views: 1352 - A Sure Marriage-Killer: The War Between the Sexes - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou glare at your husband over the kitchen table, the family checkbook held hostage between you. “Dryer!” you snap. “Carburetor!” he retorts. “Pay down credit cards!” you demand. “Put away for savings!” he insists. And it’s like this all the time. It’s not just that you can’t seem to agree on ...
Views: 1349(5 votes) - The Big Holiday Do: Doable or Not? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYour spouse wants a big Holiday do--not just the in-laws, grandparents, aunts and uncles, your respective siblings, their mates and assorted children, but also all sixteen cousins with their mates and kids, because after all, you rarely can get the whole family together, and--it’s the ...
Views: 1346 - Don’t Drag Your Old Relationship into the New! - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve made your New Year’s resolutions, and this year you’re sticking to them, by gum! You’ve set new diet goals, fitness goals and spending – oops, make that budgeting - goals. You even have a new relationship this year, or one that solidified as the New Year began. Oh happy day, all is well. ...
Views: 1344(2 votes) - Turn the Tables on Your Horrible Boss: Go from Miserable to Successful! - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re positively miserable. Your boss is a walking criticism-machine, never a supportive nod or word of thanks, regardless of how long and hard you slave at your appointed tasks. Heaven forbid anything goes wrong, ever, for even an instant, because he whips out blame with lightning speed, ...
Views: 1340 - Don’t “Do” Valentine’s Day – Be it! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou run from store to store looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift, the one that will truly express how you feel about your love. And be something she or he will really likes. Right. That last part’s a bit of a problem. The things your beloved will really like may be way outside your ...
Views: 1337 - Living in the Problem? Try Living in the Solution! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re annoyed. You promised yourself you would lose that weight, go to the gym, get in shape to join your friends in a much vaunted walk-a-thon. Yet here you are, six months later, one month away from the walk-a-thon, and you’ve only lost a couple of pounds, your trips to the gym are spotty at ...
Views: 1333 - Peace in Your Heart for the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Noelle Nelson“Compromise!” Your spouse says. “We’ll compromise! We’ll go to your folks for Christmas Eve, and my folks for Christmas Day. That way everybody will be happy – your family and mine.” Yeah, you think, everybody except me! All you want is some peace and quiet with your own husband and ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Want a Never-Ending Valentine’s Day? Rewire Your Relationship Brain! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been looking forward all week to watching the movie you had delivered magically to your TV, and tonight’s the night! You get comfy in your favorite chair, popcorn and soda at hand, and flick on the remote. About a third of the way into the movie, you realize it’s awful! You don’t like ...
Views: 1319(2 votes) - 2010 Marriage Resolution: Break Free of your Him-and-Her Pattern Prisons - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Noelle NelsonAh, the joy of a New Year! The endless possibilities, opportunities to set new goals, to achieve new heights! To break old patterns that no longer serve you, like nixing the danish and choosing fruit, actually going to the gym rather than just donating your membership fee as if to charity, ...
Views: 1317(3 votes) - Celebrate Your Life With Love this Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonValentine’s Day: a joy if you’re blessed with a wonderful relationship, an annoyance (or worse) if you’re single and unhappy about it, or in a “challenging” (aka miserable) relationship . . . But what if - splendidly coupled, despairingly single, or somewhere in between - you chose, this ...
Views: 1314 - Put Grit in Your New Year’s Resolutions - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonNew Year’s resolutions are easy to make, but hard to keep--as anyone who’s resolved to get in shape, or stop smoking, or vowed to get to work early every day can attest to. The first few days are a breeze: off you jog to the gym, so proud of yourself. You toss your smokes in the trash, ...
Views: 1311(1 vote) - Why Success and Gossip Don’t Mix - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou know how it goes. You’re huddled around the coffee machine, riveted, listening to a co-worker’s latest rendition of “and then Tom texted Thea saying she was a conniving . ..” Oh, the fun of office gossip! Oh, the titillation and subversive thrill that comes out of “I know something about ...
Views: 1308 - Want Success? Focus on What Works! - by Submitted on May 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re annoyed with yourself. Very. Downright angry, now that you think about it. You vowed last month you’d stick to your diet and slim down for the summer, and here you are, berating yourself over that double fudge extravaganza you pigged out on last night. Which wouldn’t be so bad except ...
Views: 1300 - Success: What Do You Have To Sacrifice In Order To Get It?” - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2018 from Noelle NelsonRecently I came across the Dalai Lama’s “18 Rules of Living,” which he shared with the world at the beginning of the new millennium. Here, 18 years later, it seemed relevant to revisit them. In particular, I was struck by his rule: “Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to ...
Views: 1294 - Messages of Hope: Penguins, Blankets and Smiles - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2016 from Noelle NelsonWith all the shootings, wars, and violence in the world, not to mention the heat of the our current political environment, it’s easy to lose sight of the good. Yet good there is, always. Good people striving to make the world a better place regardless of the turmoil of the moment. Two ...
Views: 1290 - Does Your Man Pass the 90-Day Test?! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou’re in Heaven, on Cloud Nine, blissed out, and every other love-smitten cliché in the book. HE actually was the one to celebrate your first month anniversary, you practically swooned with delight. Your friends are so bored with your bombardment of “He remembered how I take my double-chai ...
Views: 1286(5 votes) - Victim to Victor: An Amazing “Steam Punk” Shift in Focus - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2016 from Noelle NelsonThe other day, a good friend of mine gave a talk in which he described how he overcame his addiction to alcohol, and it basically came down to this: he decided he had a choice. To ease the pain of life by drinking, or to choose happiness. To stop looking at everything that didn’t work in his ...
Views: 1265 - The Secret to Successful Resolutions: Have Fun! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonRemember those New Year’s resolutions you made 10 months ago? Chances are that for most part, you: a) don’t remember them b) wish you didn’t remember them c) regret making them d) are feeling guilty about not living up to them. If you are among the blessed few who actually accomplish all their ...
Views: 1260 - Is Your Anger Under Control Or Are You “Eating Your Heart”? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonThe ancient Egyptians had a fairly complicated process by which they were allowed - or not – to access what we might now call “Heaven” after their death. Among other things, they were to approach the gods of the Underworld with a series of negative affirmations: a recitation of all those things ...
Views: 1241 - The “Good Dog” Approach to Self-Improvement - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Noelle NelsonEver watch a skilled dog trainer work with a puppy? The trainer never ever punishes the sweet beastie for not sitting on the “sit” command, but rather rewards the dog with praise and treats the instant his furry butt hits the ground. The dog—smart pooch—gets the idea real fast, and proceeds to ...
Views: 1235 - Morley Safer’s Last Great Amazing Gift To Us - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Noelle NelsonWe all have an expiration date, and for his fans, friends and family, no doubt Morley Safer’s came too soon. But here’s the thing, with how he lived his life, working at CBS’ “60 Minutes” up until announcing his retirement one week before his passing at 84, Morley gave us one last great ...
Views: 1225 - Ride the Wave: Hawaii 5-0’s Surprising Lesson in Thankfulness - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2016 from Noelle NelsonJust the other night, I was watching one of my favorite TV shows, “Hawaii 5-0,” where one of the main characters featured in that night’s episode was a young woman, a veteran, who’d served in Afghanistan, during which time she’d lost both legs. The show was forthright in its brief portrayal of ...
Views: 1225 - This New Year: Take Charge of Your RAS! - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou just mopped your kitchen floors. Satisfied, you enjoy the gleam for a moment, then off you go to whatever’s next. You hear the back door slam. The kids are home - great! Until you see the muddy footprints they left all over your just-cleaned floor. You sigh, grab the mop, swab quickly. ...
Views: 1212 - What Improv Theatre Taught Me About “Yes, and…” - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Noelle NelsonYou’re planning your next vacation. Well, your only vacation this year, which is a pretty big deal because you and your girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse haven’t had one in, oh, let’s see - quite a while. It should be a delightful discussion, after all, you’re talking about something you both want and ...
Views: 1204 - Halloween’s Gift to Us: F.E.A.R. - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Noelle NelsonHalloween is almost upon us, and grown-ups are planning Halloween parties, while kids of all ages figure out what costume to wear and whether to trick or treat. For all the fun we have at Halloween, it is still a day in remembrance of all things scary; ghosts, zombies, witches, spells and ...
Views: 1197 - The Great Kindness Challenge: What’s Yours? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2017 from Noelle NelsonDriving down Pacific Coast Highway the other day, I was surprised to see that the large light-board sign plunked in the median strip near a major cross-street read, “Don’t text and drive.” For the past many years, that sign read, “Don’t drink and drive.” Apparently texting has replaced drinking ...
Views: 1186 - I Want It NOW!!! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonWithin every last one of us, there is an inner 3 year old, proclaiming at the top of our lungs: “NOW!!! I want it NOW!!!” Doesn’t matter if it’s weight loss, improvement at the gym, a promotion, a raise, a new job, success with a project, or just getting your child to clean up their room, the ...
Views: 1178 - Twitter Me Married: How Twitter can Ruin--or Enrich--Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 02, 2009 from Noelle Nelson“What are you doing?” he asks. “Tweeting,” you reply, happily letting all your friends know that you’re going for a latte. “Again?!” he exclaims, “God I’m sick of that thing.” “Oh, stop already,” you say, “ I’ve only tweeted – “ “Half a dozen times since we got in the car,” he says, finishing ...
Views: 1177 - Rude Behavior? Walk On By - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2019 from Noelle NelsonIt’s inevitable: if you interact with other human beings, you’re going to be subject to an assortment of slights, glares and smirks (if not downright rude gestures). Whether their behavior is intentional or not, the driver that cuts you off, the person in front of you in the “15 items only” line ...
Views: 1175 - What Would (Insert Name of Favorite Action Hero) Do? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYour most recent attempt to persuade your boss of how much you deserve that raise/bonus/perk landed in the unfathomable depths of his “No way no how” with barely a ripple. You are depressed, disgusted, and yes - truth be told - massaging your hurt ego with liberal doses of self-pity. Which ...
Views: 1173 - Don't Play The Comparison Game This Thanksgiving—Be Thankful For Who You Are - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Noelle NelsonWith Thanksgiving, our attention turns to all those people and things for which we are grateful. A wonderful tradition, indeed. However, there’s a sneaky little devil that sometimes gets in the way of our ability to truly appreciate...and that is, comparison. Uh-huh. Comparing your ...
Views: 1157 - Jump-Start Your Job Game with Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Noelle NelsonThe kids are finally grown enough for you to feel OK about re-entering the work world, or the economy has made such a mess of your single-income life that your spouse is nudging you into “You gotta get a job, Honey,” emphasis on the “gotta,” or you’d been on disability, recuperating from that ...
Views: 1151(2 votes) - Jump-Start Your Job Game with Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Noelle NelsonThe kids are finally grown enough for you to feel OK about re-entering the work world, or the economy has made such a mess of your single-income life that your spouse is nudging you into “You gotta get a job, Honey,” emphasis on the “gotta,” or you’d been on disability, recuperating from that ...
Views: 1151(2 votes) - Life Lessons from the Wild Boars - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2018 from Noelle NelsonNot long ago, the world waited with bated breath while watching the rescue of 12 boys, members of the Wild Boars soccer team, and their coach, who were caught in a flooded subterranean cave deep under the mountains of Chang Rai, Thailand. We witnessed the extraordinary worldwide commitment to ...
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