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- Ditch The “Have-To’s” and Get To The (Way More Fun) “Want-To’s”! - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2015 from Noelle NelsonEver notice the list of “have-to’s” you’ve got going? As in ‘have-to’ get up and get yourself going, ‘have-to’ get everybody fed-dressed-out-the-door, ‘have-to’ get to work, ‘have-to’ do the work, ‘have-to’ put up with a boss/co-worker/client you can’t stand, ‘have-to’ run the errands, do the ...
Views: 1575 - Do You Know Where Your Intent Is? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2017 from Noelle NelsonMost of us think of intent as a “kind of” “sort of” thing: you intend to go on vacation, but you really don’t do much about it. Or you intend to go to the market, but some other errand got in the way. Or you intend to ask your boss for a raise, but you got cold feet and chickened out. Which ...
Views: 1352 - Don't Play The Comparison Game This Thanksgiving—Be Thankful For Who You Are - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2018 from Noelle NelsonWith Thanksgiving, our attention turns to all those people and things for which we are grateful. A wonderful tradition, indeed. However, there’s a sneaky little devil that sometimes gets in the way of our ability to truly appreciate...and that is, comparison. Uh-huh. Comparing your ...
Views: 1157 - Don’t Leave Yourself Out of Thanksgiving Gratitude! - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThanksgiving is almost here - that time of year when “get your gratitude on!” is the game of the day. And indeed, you do have your gratitude well in gear. You are ready to express your gratefulness for your family, your friends, your job (maybe, could be a stretch), Pilates, football, the ...
Views: 1450 - Don’t Settle: Get Inspired With New Year’s Resolutions for What You Really Want! - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Noelle NelsonAtlanta’s Homeward Choir, a group of 26 homeless men from Atlanta’s Central Night Shelter, was invited to sing at the White House in December of 2015. When the group got the invitation--and how that came about is a wonderful story --among the many questions the choir members asked of their ...
Views: 1467 - Don’t “Do” Valentine’s Day – Be it! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou run from store to store looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift, the one that will truly express how you feel about your love. And be something she or he will really likes. Right. That last part’s a bit of a problem. The things your beloved will really like may be way outside your ...
Views: 1337 - Drop it!! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2023 from Noelle NelsonI learned an amazing new technique from my massage therapist Tammy recently. No, not yet another way of ironing out my body ‘kinks,’ although she is pure genius when it comes to that. On the contrary, this had nothing to do with massage, and everything to do with life. Ready? Here goes. ...
Views: 525 - Eight Signs of a Fantastic Boss - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2014 from Noelle NelsonWith so many bad bosses out there, when you have a fantastic boss, you don't want to take your boss for granted. Most people know when they are fortunate enough to have a truly special boss. Here are eight signs of an exceptional boss. A good boss is positive, upbeat and enthusiastic about ...
Views: 1379 - Eliminate the Fear Factor: 90-Seconds and You’re Out! - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re up for that job that could be a career changer--you’re scared! What if you flub the final interview, what if you say something really stupid, what if the CEO hates your hair? You’re dating a special someone you really like. You can feel yourself falling for him/her, big-time--you’re ...
Views: 2566 - Enrich Your Life: Befriend an Extrovert if You’re an Introvert, or an Introvert if You’re an Extrovert - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Noelle NelsonI went to the movies recently with a friend. It was billed as an action comedy and I was looking forward to some good laughs. What I hadn’t realized is that the movie was 90% action and 10% comedy. Oh, the comedy was great! We’re talking LOL rolling in the aisles funny--and the action was just ...
Views: 1441 - Everyone Has A Superpower – What’s Yours? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2022 from Noelle NelsonThe ability to leap tall buildings in a single bound is hardly useful these days, given the wonders of CGI. And yes, invisibility might still be useful, but what if you forgot how to be visible again? Far better is to look inward for your superpower, not outward. To your truth, to what serves ...
Views: 636 - Finding Happiness, Living Your Joy - by Submitted on May 02, 2022 from Noelle NelsonSo often, it seems like the world presses against us, day in and day out. Work duties, family obligations, endless chores, finances, on and on. Who has time for anything as frivolous as deliberately “finding happiness”? Much less “living your joy.” Like, when? How? And why would it even matter ...
Views: 579 - Finding The True Thanks of Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Noelle NelsonThanksgiving is traditionally a time to give thanks. Most of us are pretty good at that. We can usually always find people and situations in life that inspire us to be grateful. Until certain relatives show up for Thanksgiving dinner. Or the supposed friends you wish you hadn’t invited but felt ...
Views: 327 - Flip Holiday Stress Into Fun for You! - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Noelle NelsonIt seems the topic uppermost in so many of our minds at this time of year is stress. AKA Holiday stress. Too many gifts to buy, too little money. Too many cards to send out/email, gifts to wrap, people to visit – too little time. Too many relatives and others to be considerate of – too little ...
Views: 483 - Focus On The Full Experience: You’ll Get There Faster - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2023 from Noelle NelsonWe rarely enjoy change, even when we want that change. We will usually find any excuse we can to avoid the necessary steps to whatever that change may be. For example, given that it is light so much earlier in the day, I’ve been attempting to get up earlier lately. Sigh. For me, getting up ...
Views: 425 - Geocache Your Way to Happy Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Noelle NelsonA friend introduced me recently to the wide wonderful world of Geocaching. For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, Geocaching, according to Wikipedia, is: “…an outdoor recreational activity, in which participants use a Global Positioning System (GPS) receiver or mobile device and other ...
Views: 1510 - Get Out of My Head! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2015 from Noelle NelsonYou want to know what’s the single biggest obstacle in the way of your doing pretty much anything? It’s not your boss, your mate, the economy, your kids, your mother, or whatever else is your “why-I-can’t-be/do/have it” mantra, it’s that thing you keep repeating to yourself over and ...
Views: 1437 - Get Picky With Your Thoughts! - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2023 from Noelle NelsonLast week, I had a rather nasty disagreement with a colleague. Even though it got resolved – well, sort of – I found myself going over and over it in my mind. For days. Not a productive path to mental well-being, no way, no how. I realized, somewhere amid my internal grousing, that I was ...
Views: 417 - Give Yourself a Nature Prescription - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2022 from Noelle NelsonAmid the pandemic, when we were for the most part quarantined, urged to remain indoors as much as possible, I had an overwhelming urge to get out into nature. Living as I do in Southern California, I figured I could go find a beach and stare at the ocean for a bit without breaking any quarantine ...
Views: 487 - Going For Misery or Looking For Ease? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2023 from Noelle NelsonThe Holidays are long over, New Year’s came and went, Super Bowl happened, Valentine’s Day is but a dim recollection, so what’s next? Ah yes, tax season . . . Let’s not all rejoice at the same time. Well, not me, anyway. As a self-employed, I now need to plow through all my receipts, sort ...
Views: 434 - Great Time For Bosses to Say Thanks to Employees--And Show They Mean It - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2011 from Noelle NelsonThose who are fortunate enough to have a job in these tough economic times are often working longer hours and carrying the workload normally done by two or more workers. The holiday season is the perfect time for employers to show their employers they appreciate their efforts. Appreciation ...
Views: 1633 - Halloween’s Gift to Us: F.E.A.R. - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Noelle NelsonHalloween is almost upon us, and grown-ups are planning Halloween parties, while kids of all ages figure out what costume to wear and whether to trick or treat. For all the fun we have at Halloween, it is still a day in remembrance of all things scary; ghosts, zombies, witches, spells and ...
Views: 1197 - HALT: A Masterful Technique for Working with Yourself and Others - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonMy German Shepherd-mix rescue pup, Baer, is a great dog. He’s all legs and energy, so sometimes I think of him as Fred Astaire, and sometimes more as the Energizer Bunny on steroids. Especially near mealtimes. I feed my dogs twice a day, and I’m convinced they have clocks in their stomachs, ...
Views: 1577 - Happiness Is A 5:1 Deal - It’s Scientific! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2014 from Noelle NelsonYour spouse says “You’re gonna wear that?!” Your child, in a fit of frustration, yells out “I hate you!” Your boss says “This’ll never fly. Where’s your creativity?” Whether important or not, life-altering or just annoying, why is it that a single critical comment from your spouse, child or ...
Views: 1368 - Ho-Ho-Ho, the Joy of Saying “No” - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from Noelle NelsonAh, the upcoming Holiday Season--starting with Thanksgiving and ramping up through Christmas, with no let-up until the beginning of the year. For those who are already tired from a year’s worth of work, kids, parents, chores, and everything else, the Holiday Season, despite the many joys it may ...
Views: 105 - How Candice Bergen Changed My Life - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2020 from Noelle NelsonIn a recent interview, actress Candice Bergen spoke about how her beauty, and the way others react to it, challenged her self-development, as no one seemed to care much about what she thought or her opinions. They were too bedazzled by her face. I can relate. Candice was one year ahead of me ...
Views: 771 - How to Make Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Noelle NelsonThe holidays can sometimes feel like one long list of obligations. You have to figure out which gifts to get for whom and how much you can afford to spend. You have to write holiday cards/notes/emails at least to some people, once again figuring out what to whom. You have to figure out which ...
Views: 899 - How to Tame the Stress Monster - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2016 from Noelle NelsonYou bury your head in your hands. You’d really like to run screaming from your cubicle, but for one, that would get you instantly fired, for two, your shoes are definitely not made for running. But the stress! Not only does your job stress you out, but there’s your family, friends, chores, ...
Views: 1934 - I Want It NOW!!! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonWithin every last one of us, there is an inner 3 year old, proclaiming at the top of our lungs: “NOW!!! I want it NOW!!!” Doesn’t matter if it’s weight loss, improvement at the gym, a promotion, a raise, a new job, success with a project, or just getting your child to clean up their room, the ...
Views: 1178 - I'm Not Arguing. I'm Just Explaining That I'm Right - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2020 from Noelle NelsonGiven my work as a trial consultant, I typically spend a lot of time on airplanes and consequently, in airports (at least until the COVID-19 outbreak). I was in an airport somewhere in the Midwest when I saw a fellow traveler wearing a t-shirt with words that I found positively brilliant: “I’m ...
Views: 910 - If Only… - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2018 from Noelle NelsonEver had a case of the “if onlys”? You know, as in; “If only I’d gotten that job,” “If only that guy/gal hadn’t broken up with me,” “If only I hadn’t been passed over for that promotion,” “If only I’d won the lottery!” “If only I had more talent,” and so on. Unfortunately, once you get ...
Views: 1444 - Is it Your Mood or Your Attitude? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Noelle NelsonThe baby cried half the night, you couldn’t soothe her, the two hours sleep you got left you cranky and out of sorts when you got up to go to work. Or perhaps it was that tooth that’s been bothering you that kept you tossing and turning, or your mate who snored incessantly, or the neighbors’ ...
Views: 1135 - Is Your Anger Under Control Or Are You “Eating Your Heart”? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonThe ancient Egyptians had a fairly complicated process by which they were allowed - or not – to access what we might now call “Heaven” after their death. Among other things, they were to approach the gods of the Underworld with a series of negative affirmations: a recitation of all those things ...
Views: 1241 - It’s All About ‘Tude - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2022 from Noelle NelsonI was having a pity party the day before a Ballroom Dance Competition. It was hot, I was tired, my legs were sore, we hadn’t rehearsed enough, I’d never remember all my steps, and on and on. I was being such a grump even my dogs were avoiding me. Fine. I can take a hint. I settled on the ...
Views: 549 - Just My Luck! - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Noelle NelsonSomeone cuts you off in traffic, you get stuck behind the person with 30 items in the 10 items or less line, your hair dryer fails in the middle of your blow-dry, the cat throws up on your favorite shirt, and every time you say to yourself, gritting your teeth through it all, “Yup, just my ...
Views: 1002 - Label Yourself For The Good - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2024 from Noelle NelsonThe mind-body connection is real. It’s not just a cute phrase, the brain actually releases certain hormones and other chemicals in direct response to our thoughts: endorphins, for example, when we’re happy, cortisol when we’re stressed. These hormones and chemicals impact how we function, how we ...
Views: 151 - Lessons from Coffee: What Do I Want? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2018 from Noelle NelsonWhen you walk into your favorite coffee place in the morning, I doubt that the first thing on your mind is, “How are the coffee bean plantations doing today?” If you are a true coffee aficionado, you may know that your preferred beans come from Columbia or Nicaragua, but you probably don’t worry ...
Views: 1096 - Let Go Or Get Dragged - by Submitted on May 06, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou cope pretty darn well with the crises and emergencies of life. Somehow you get through them, over them, and get on with life. But then there are things that aren’t crises, yet somehow manage to irritate, annoy or aggravate you every time you bump into them. Things you don’t get over ...
Views: 3245 - Let Purpose Get You Off the Hamster Wheel! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2023 from Noelle NelsonSome days it feels like life is one endless hamster wheel, where you go round and round and round in the same way day after day. You know the drill: chores-work-kids-chores-bed, rinse and repeat. Oh, sure, there’s the occasional crisis to change things up, maybe the occasional vacation or happy ...
Views: 415 - Let Your Best Self Carry the Relationship Day! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Noelle NelsonYou’re going along hunky-dory through your day. You’ve had the occasional work-challenge: a co-worker who was late with their side of things, so you had to scramble. Your boss laid an unexpected deadline on you – yikes! - but you rose to the occasion and handled the situation with a good ...
Views: 819 - Life Is Meant For Joy - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2024 from Noelle NelsonWith bills to pay, rent to cover, kids to corral, too much to do in too little time, especially with the Holidays upon us and all the extra stuff that needs tending, doing, paying for? Joy? Give it a rest. Well, I would, except joy is our basic nature. It’s what everything else we do is ...
Views: 92 - Life Is Meant for Joy! - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Noelle NelsonA woman is running on the treadmill next to me at the gym, moaning and complaining the whole time. How miserable she is at having to work out, how hard it is to get herself to the gym knowing she’s in for an hour of pain. How she’d rather do pretty much anything other than deal with exercise ...
Views: 241 - Life Lessons from the Wild Boars - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2018 from Noelle NelsonNot long ago, the world waited with bated breath while watching the rescue of 12 boys, members of the Wild Boars soccer team, and their coach, who were caught in a flooded subterranean cave deep under the mountains of Chang Rai, Thailand. We witnessed the extraordinary worldwide commitment to ...
Views: 1150 - Live a Simply Fabulous Life—Whatever Your Decade! - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Noelle NelsonThe recent “Longevity Issue” of Time Magazine held great promise—an entire issue devoted to the joy of longevity, how great! Then I read the very first article title on the cover: “The Alzheimer’s Pill: A radical new drug that could change old age.” My heart sank. My excitement vanished. Once ...
Views: 1500 - Living in the Problem? Try Living in the Solution! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’re annoyed. You promised yourself you would lose that weight, go to the gym, get in shape to join your friends in a much vaunted walk-a-thon. Yet here you are, six months later, one month away from the walk-a-thon, and you’ve only lost a couple of pounds, your trips to the gym are spotty at ...
Views: 1333 - Lose the Guilt-ridden “Shoulds” for the Magic of “Could” - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe alarm rings. Too early, much too early. A whole hour early. You know you should get up. You promised yourself you’d start working out. Today’s the day! Huzzah! Yesterday it seemed like such a great idea. You even set out your gym gear, ready to get going first thing. Groan. Aargh! You ...
Views: 1672 - Love Is Like Fairy Dust - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2025 from Noelle NelsonYou can sprinkle love anywhere! Anytime. Just like fairy dust. It’s not love as in “hugs and kisses,” as nice as those are, it’s love by a different description. Namely, “to delight in the presence of.” Nice, huh? You won’t find that definition in any dictionary. I heard it many years ago in a ...
Views: 48 - Make A Different Kind of New Year’s Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou know your usual litany of New Year’s resolutions: “This year I’m gonna lose 5 – 10 -50 pounds. This year I swear I’ll get to the gym at least twice a week. This year I absolutely positively will not spend past my credit limit. This year I swear I’ll never have another ginger Martini (given ...
Views: 1448 - Make This Your “Best Human” Year Ever! - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Noelle NelsonAccording to the Chinese Zodiac, 2018 is the Year of the Dog. People born during a “Dog” year are said to possess the best traits of human nature, as in honest, friendly, faithful, loyal, smart, straightforward, venerable and having a strong sense of responsibility. Gee, I could have told you ...
Views: 1368 - Making Good Times Out of Bad: the Ken Nwadike Story - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonOnce upon a time, there was a man who wanted desperately to run in the 2014 Boston Marathon – as many runners did - for the simple reason that it was the first Boston Marathon after the dreadful 2013 bombing. But the Boston Marathon is different from most marathons, in that you have to qualify ...
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