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- ***How the Lefkoe Belief Process Works, Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Morty LefkoeMany people who have eliminated at least one belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process have asked me for more details on how it actually works. In order to provide you with a relatively complete answer (it would take me several days to teach you how to use it effectively), I’ve written a two-part ...
Views: 6890(4 votes) - ***The Lefkoe Method Compared to Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeOften when I start to explain to someone how the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) works, they quickly respond, “Oh, you’re just doing Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)!” Although the LBP is similar in some ways to CBT (of which there are several variations), there are more things that are ...
Views: 6029(4 votes) - ***How the Lefkoe Belief Process Works, Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Morty LefkoeTHIS IS PART 2 OF “HOW THE LEFKOE BELIEF PROCESS WORKS. Read Part 1 first. For many years we thought that this was all that was necessary to eliminate a belief. A few years ago we realized that it was enough for “visual” people, people who know reality by seeing it, who are about 80% of the ...
Views: 4941(4 votes) - *** The Only Scientifically-Proven Method of Eliminating the Fear of Public Speaking Permanently - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeIn May 2006 the journal Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy published a research study that proves there is a way to permanently eliminate the fear of public speaking. This research paper described how 36 people who had a fear of public speaking were divided into two groups to test the ...
Views: 4332 - ***Can We Manifest Specific Things in Reality? “Occurring” Part 3 - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Morty LefkoeDuring the past couple of weeks several readers have asked me: “What’s so new about this ‘occurring’ distinction? Haven’t you been saying for years that our beliefs and conditionings determine our behavior and emotions?” Yes and no. I have said that our specific behavior and emotions are ...
Views: 4058(8 votes) - How to Have Natural Confidence - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeMost people think confidence is something you gain by being successful at something. Yet others say that you need to generate confidence in order to succeed. It's almost like the question "which comes first the chicken or the egg?" Well, after over 20 years of helping people reach their ...
Views: 3938 - ***How To Find The Source Of Beliefs - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Morty LefkoeSince we first offered belief-elimination programs on the Internet in November, 2008, many people have said to me: The source of the beliefs you give in the belief-elimination videos might be the source for most people, but not all are true for me. Please help me find the source of my ...
Views: 3580(6 votes) - ***Get Rid Of Negative “Senses” And “Expectations” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeThe Lefkoe Stimulus Process (LStP) is the most important process other than the Lefkoe Belief Process that we use to help people get rid of unwanted behavior and emotional problems. This process de-conditions common events that have been conditioned to cause fear and other negative emotions. ...
Views: 3415(2 votes) - ***Your Behavior As Parents Determines Your Children's Future Happiness - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Morty LefkoeWhat parents do and don't do, say and don't say, provide their children with the experiences that their children interpret into beliefs. Those beliefs, in turn, then determine their behavior and emotions and, ultimately, their lives for better or for worse. Most parents at this point ...
Views: 3310(5 votes) - ***People Don’t Resist Change - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Morty LefkoeDo you think people resist change? ... Most people answer with an emphatic: “Yes.” I don’t think people resist change at all. To which you might respond: “Well if people don’t resist change, why do most people not change when given reason to change?” Good question. Here’s my ...
Views: 3288(9 votes) - ***Are Your Beliefs Permanently Gone? Four Tests To Know For Sure - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Morty LefkoeThe Lefkoe Institute has had a big marketing problem since its inception 24 years ago. People don’t believe we can do what we promise to do. Our unique distinction is that we can help people quickly and permanently eliminate all the relevant beliefs that cause virtually any behavioral or ...
Views: 3197(3 votes) - ***Do we need to create new beliefs? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2010 from Morty Lefkoe“The Lefkoe Method is very effective at eliminating negative beliefs. But why don’t you replace them with positive beliefs?” This is a very common question so I decided to devote an article to answering it. For many years we did attempt to “install” positive beliefs—the opposite of the ...
Views: 3134(5 votes) - ***I Finally Stopped Bragging - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Morty LefkoeIt took me a long time to stop bragging. About 50 years in fact. As a child I always bragged about things that I thought would impress others. How good my grades were. Things I had done. Popular kids I hung out with. Having people think well of me was so important that I even lied just ...
Views: 3119 - ***How Can I Use The Lefkoe Method? Part 1 - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Morty LefkoeMany of you have used the Lefkoe Belief Process and found that permanently getting rid of beliefs has made a profound difference in your life. Did you know that The Lefkoe Method includes eight other processes you can use to make significant changes in your life? Depending on the problem you ...
Views: 3072 - ***Why Should I Eliminate A Belief? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2010 from Morty LefkoeEvery once in a while after someone asks me what I do and I reply, “I help people eliminate beliefs,” I am asked: “Why would I want to eliminate a belief?” There are at least good four answers to that question, which I will describe here. If you would like to improve the quality of your life ...
Views: 2955(11 votes) - ***Get Rid of the Belief, “I can’t …” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeA few years ago while in the midst of a corporate consulting assignment I realized that there was one crippling belief that was rampant in every organization I had ever worked in. And this belief was not only the most common belief in organizations, it was, in my opinion, the biggest single ...
Views: 2724(2 votes) - ***What is My Job As A Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Morty Lefkoe“How many times do I have to tell you?” “What am I ever going to do with you?” “What’s wrong with you?” “Don’t you ever listen?” Imagine yourself to be a young child listening to your parents repeatedly ask you questions like these. … If you stop for a few moments, listen to these ...
Views: 2723(6 votes) - ***How to stop being a victim? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2011 from Morty LefkoeWe all know people who are “victims”—people who view their lives through the filter: “It’s not my fault. They (or it) did it to me.” When you understand what the feeling of victimization really is, where it comes from, and how it affects people, you will discover it is even more widespread and ...
Views: 2667 - *** Everyone Knows Change is Difficult … Are You Sure? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty Lefkoe“Change is difficult, everyone knows that!” This is the response I frequently get when people ask me what I do and I reply that I can help them make fundamental life changes, easily, quickly and permanently. Why do so many people believe that they have to put in a lot of time and effort, and ...
Views: 2618(2 votes) - ***How to Stop Emotional Eating (and other compulsive behavior problems) For Good - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Morty LefkoeWhen I first started helping clients whose major complaint was emotional eating—eating for emotional reasons when they really weren’t hungry—I assumed that the problem was caused by beliefs and conditioning, like most other behavioral or emotional problems. But when all the beliefs and ...
Views: 2618(2 votes) - *** Can Beliefs Keep You From Becoming Wealthy? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeA few months ago I asked people on our mailing list which beliefs they thought were keeping them from becoming wealthy. The top five were: · You have to work hard to make money. · I’m not deserving. · I’ll never have enough money. /There is never enough money. · Money is a ...
Views: 2615 - ***Answers To Common Questions About Beliefs - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeLast fall I conducted a one-hour tele-seminar in which I answered questions I had been sent about beliefs. Because so many people have the same questions, I thought I would write an article answering a few of the most common questions I received. Question: Once you have eliminated a ...
Views: 2609(2 votes) - ***Eating/Weight Problems: The Source and Solution - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Morty LefkoeMost of the behavioral or emotional problems we want to get rid of are relatively simple to deal with. We procrastinate. We worry all the time about what people think of us. We lack confidence. Using The Lefkoe Method you can find and eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause these ...
Views: 2484(4 votes) - ***Why Self-Help Often Doesn’t Work … And What Does - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Morty LefkoeHow many times have you attended a personal growth workshop, or listened to a self-help audio course, or viewed a set of DVDs designed to change your life? Given the type of people who usually read my blog, probably most of you. And how many times did you get a high when you completed the ...
Views: 2453(8 votes) - ***The Causes And Cures For Overeating—The Subject Of My New Blog - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2012 from Morty LefkoeThe more we work with clients who have a problem of overeating, the more convinced I am that we have come up with an effective solution to a major health crisis. Over 70% of American adults are either overweight or obese. That is a disastrous situation for those people who have an ...
Views: 2419(1 vote) - ***An Effective Health Care System Requires New Beliefs - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Morty LefkoeOnce you understand the power that beliefs have to shape behavior and limit possibilities, you can begin to see why so many of society’s problems seem insoluble. Societal beliefs prevent change in society just like individual beliefs prevent change in individuals. For example, if you have ...
Views: 2417(7 votes) - ***It’s Not Your Parents’ Fault - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Morty LefkoeOne of the most common questions we get from people who use our free belief-elimination site is, “I don’t think I got my beliefs from my parents. Can’t negative self-esteem beliefs be formed from interactions with siblings or later in life from teachers or peers?” The answer in 99% of the ...
Views: 2410(2 votes) - *** How to Create New Possibilities in Your Life - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeSome people are convinced we create our own reality by focusing on what we desire with strong emotion. Others are just as convinced that that idea is New Age nonsense. But regardless of which position is valid, it is unquestionably true that we literally create new possibilities in our lives—a ...
Views: 2371 - ***How Relationships Are Affected By Beliefs - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2010 from Morty Lefkoe“Why don’t you have a belief-elimination package that will help me get or improve my relationship?” we are asked regularly. Most of the eight packages we offer will significantly improve your sense of your self-confidence, which obviously will help you improve your relationships, but none of ...
Views: 2340(10 votes) - ***Our Perceptions Shape Our Reality - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeIf you asked someone, “Do things exist?” the response would probably be, “Of course things exist! The world is full of things. Everyone knows that there is physical stuff out there—that reality is tangible and real!” But what allows any thing—a hand, a chair, or any other object—to exist? One ...
Views: 2320(3 votes) - Getting Rid of the Fear of Public Speaking Has to be Difficult ... Are You Sure? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeIf you’ve had an intense fear of public speaking for many years and have tried a variety of ways to rid yourself of the fear – without success, you’ve probably concluded that you’ll probably never get rid of the fear. Or, if you do, it will take a lot of time, effort, and reinforcement. If ...
Views: 2312 - ***What Happens When a Belief is Eliminated? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Morty LefkoeBecause people are not used to permanently eliminating beliefs (processes that are guaranteed to totally and permanently eliminate long-standing beliefs are rare), people aren’t sure what to expect when a belief really is eradicated. Actually, there can be a wide variety of responses. We ...
Views: 2294(3 votes) - ***Your Behavior As Parents Determines Your Children's Future Happiness - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeWhat parents do and don't do, say and don't say, provide their children with the experiences that their children interpret into beliefs. Those beliefs, in turn, then determine their behavior and emotions and, ultimately, their lives for better or for worse. Most parents at this point ...
Views: 2228(2 votes) - ***Does Anger Make You Uncomfortable? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Morty LefkoeThe first time I really allowed myself to experience my anger I fainted. I was about 36 and had successfully suppressed my anger since childhood. And there I was in a group therapy session, hitting a mat with a stick with foam wrapped around it, screaming: “Mom, I’m really angry at you.” ...
Views: 2211(2 votes) - ***What does love depend on? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Morty LefkoeI was recently in Puerto Rico at the semi-annual meeting of the Transformational Leadership Council. This is a group of transformational leaders, formed by Chicken Soup for the Soul co-creator Jack Canfield, and includes John Gray, Paul Sheely, Joe Vitale, Steve Pavlina, and Stewart Emery. We ...
Views: 2148(3 votes) - ***How To Build Confidence - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Morty LefkoeMost of us would like to improve our level of confidence. But why? How does a low level of confidence affect us and what changes in our lives when we gain confidence? What is confidence anyway? Where does it come from? Why do some people have more of it than others? As someone who has ...
Views: 2130(2 votes) - ***How Things Occur For Us - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Morty LefkoeI generally know when I’m about to have a breakthrough, when there is a new process or way of understanding something that is on the verge of taking shape. I have glimpses of ideas and I have a sense of connections that I can’t quite put my finger on. But I know if I stay with it, something new ...
Views: 2103(7 votes) - ***Getting Rid of Beliefs is Not Enough - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Morty LefkoeBecause many emotions are caused by beliefs, getting rid of the relevant beliefs can frequently eradicate negative emotions. For example, the belief that “Dogs are dangerous” will result in an emotion of fear when confronting a dog. The belief “People can't be trusted” will result in a feeling ...
Views: 2078 - ***What Really Determines How We Live Our Lives? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Morty LefkoeFor years I’ve thought that our lives—what we do, think, feel, and perceive—were the direct result of our beliefs and our conditionings. When I looked at the lives and beliefs of over 13,000 clients, I noticed a very close correlation. In the past few weeks I’ve had reason to rethink that ...
Views: 2074 - ***You create your experience of reality - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2011 from Morty LefkoeWhen you realize that you never saw your beliefs in the world, that you only saw events that had no inherent meaning, it becomes clear that you create your beliefs—and, ultimately, reality as you experience it. Thus, everything we say is “out there”—other than what we sense (in other words, what ...
Views: 2058 - ***A Tool For Resolving Conflict - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty Lefkoe“Amazing!! You must do it in Hebrew and Arabic!!! It will change the condition in all the Middle East.” This is one of my favorite comments written on my blog. It’s from Yair, someone in Israel who wrote it after using our free belief-elimination process. Yair obviously saw how the ...
Views: 2039(2 votes) - ***Why Does The World Suffer From An Epidemic Of Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Morty LefkoeMike had become a wealthy entrepreneur, but he had a hard time enjoying his business success because it seemed that every minute he wasn’t solving a business problem he was worried about what others thought of him and what he could do to get their approval. Janet probably had as many good ...
Views: 2009(3 votes) - ***What Really Determines How We Live Our Lives? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2010 from Morty LefkoeFor years I’ve thought that our lives—what we do, think, feel, and perceive—were the direct result of our beliefs and our conditionings. When I looked at the lives and beliefs of over 13,000 clients, I noticed a very close correlation. In the past few weeks I’ve had reason to rethink that ...
Views: 1984 - ***How the Mind Determines Athletic Success - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Morty LefkoeIn order to make this blog post personally valuable to you, I'd like to start by asking you a couple of questions. First, whatever sport you play, how often do you play up to your potential, in other words, if you rate your best performance a 10, how often do you play at a 10? ... The next ...
Views: 1950(3 votes) - ***Everyone Knows Change is Difficult … Are You Sure? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Morty LefkoeBecause I’m in the change business I am frequently telling people that change is really easy if you first eliminate the relevant beliefs. Almost without exception, the response is: “But everyone knows that people resist change!” Don’t you think that people resist change? Don’t you notice ...
Views: 1938(4 votes) - ***The Conversation Continues: How Things Occur For Us, Part 2 - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Morty LefkoeWe always create a meaning for the events we confront; that meaning then becomes how the events occur for us. We then think how events occur for us is an accurate description of reality. It is not. It is merely the meaning we have placed over reality. It is the filter through which we view ...
Views: 1924(4 votes) - ***What Could They Possibly Have Been Thinking? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Morty LefkoeThere was a time in America when some people were treated as property, forced to do whatever other people wanted, abused without any ability to respond, and unable to obtain their freedom. Such behavior was legal and considered appropriate by the people practicing it. When we look at the ...
Views: 1918(2 votes) - ***Don’t ever give up hope - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Morty LefkoeFor most of my life I didn’t want to be me. In fact, I was so unhappy being me that I wanted to be someone else. When I was in my twenties I wanted to be Fred Astaire, because I liked the light and joyful sense of life he projected when dancing on screen. Later in life I didn’t care who else ...
Views: 1915 - ***Eliminating Beliefs in Organizations - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Morty LefkoeYou probably already know that The Lefkoe Method can improve your personal life. Did you also know that it can be used to improve your work environment? Although the Lefkoe Institute is not doing much corporate work right now, we have helped over 10,000 employees from over 50 ...
Views: 1888(4 votes) - *** Do You Really Want Your Child to Always Be Well-Behaved? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Morty LefkoeRemember the last time you heard a parent say: "My kids are wonderful. They always obey me." Or, "They never talk back." Or, "They are never a problem." Did you sigh with envy and say, "Oh, I wish my kids were like that"? Think again. What would children have to believe about themselves to ...
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