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- Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 598(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His moods are getting more and more unbearable to live with - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for almost four years to a man twelve years younger. We have a four-year-old son. My problem is I need to find a better way of dealing with my husband's bad moods, which are getting more and more unbearable to live with. Occasionally I give ...
Views: 1538(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: His mother was an alcoholic and a toxic bitch - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Don't know if you can help me or if i need to go to specialist alcohol sites. My partner and i had been together for 21 years, i asked him to leave 8 months ago, but i miss him dreadfully at times and i have to remind myself why i asked him to go. His mother was an ...
Views: 1531(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I get my husband into therapy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm getting worried because my husband is drinking more, and laughing less. He works too much, he has lost interest in his guy friends and sports. He's gotten more tense, and is on edge and irritable. Sometimes he even yells at me and the kids. I think maybe he needs ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's Guidelines for ...
Views: 845(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I help her to turn around? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read your article "Fair Fight Guidlines" and it is impressive. I like to ask your advise for the following situation: I have married for 20 years and three beautifull children. My wife whom I love the most, uses power struggle tactics: guilt and ...
Views: 1343(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 672(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue ...
Views: 903(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I make my family understand I love him? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than guys ...
Views: 1521(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Sleep with my Ex-girlfriend's Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Maybe you can give me some advice. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. ...
Views: 3122(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I stop a stalker? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Are you familiar with men who won't leave women alone? I'm just trying to understand why someone would STALK me for well over a decade and, during that time, systematically destroy my life because I refused to be in an abusive relationship with him. He didn't seem to ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home for ...
Views: 641(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in a relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address.Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemployment but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low cost ...
Views: 770(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I become a psychotherapist? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Please could you give me some guidance on how to become a psychotherapist. My brother, had a stroke four years ago. It makes me sick what a stroke can do to someone. Before the stroke he was making a six figure salary and spending most ...
Views: 503(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I convince my family I'm serious about him? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We have grown up together and he is all I know. We are very mature when it comes to our relationship and our sex life. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but there's a problem. I have made many ...
Views: 682(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I flirt to grab a guy's attention? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...
Views: 915(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 792(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I handle jealousy? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just read a fine article of yours from a link off the internet, and was wondering your best recommendation of the books you've wrote for jealousy and suspicious minds in a marriage with no real proof? Dear Reader: "Handling the Green-Eyed Monster" ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful things ...
Views: 867(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met a cute guy that's a foreigner in the USA from Russia so....... How do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage? Dear Reader: Whether or not he wants a green card isn't the real question. The real question is, does he have good character, and does he ...
Views: 949(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband has a son with his ex-wife. He is 12, but she still invites him to sleep in her bed. How old is too old to be sleeping with Mom? I know kids from divorced parents have different issues-- one being how a child should sleep, what ...
Views: 824(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How do we reorder our brain for positive motivation? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Motivation And How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and found it very interesting. I understand your point about celebrating and appreciating yourself to motivate your inner potential. However I am confused about how to order my brain for ...
Views: 686(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date to lead to marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How realistic is it for a woman over 40 to expect a date from an online dating site to lead to marriage? Dear Reader: It's not realistic for anyone to expect one date to lead to marriage, but if you know what you're doing, it is possible to find a spouse via dating ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice ...
Views: 736(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident Dear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his ...
Views: 1118(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex (civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries and ...
Views: 684(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by ...
Views: 1442(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am determined to make a better life for myself no matter what happens to my marriage - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I happen to be going through an extremely difficult time in my life right now. My husband was unfaithful during the time that I was "absent" from the marriage due to my mother dying from brain cancer. Of course, there were problems long before this and this ...
Views: 1280(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am feeling overwhelmed to the point I just want out - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read some of the things you stated about marriage. Why people divorce. I am feeling overwhelmed lately. To the point I just want out. I have been married for over 17 years. We have 2 school-age children together. I am in school full time and work full time and still ...
Views: 762(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1076(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am just tired of our fights. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I are always getting into arguments and fights. I am writing to you through someone else's email because if I tell my husband about contacting you we will probably get into a fight. He does not want to go to a therapist or get any type of counseling. Do you ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not needy but I am very picky - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have met a new guy and I am very interested. He's a veterinarian. I first talked to him on the phone about my ailing horse. The attraction was there even before I met him. When he came to check on my horse the spark was there and it seemed that it was the same on his ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to: us not having much in common, which I ultimately resent her ...
Views: 656(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure what the dating customs of this country are - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: i am not sure whether i should let go - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance I've got some questions about my relationship, which is rather complicated. We both started dating 13 months ago, from the very beginning i sensed that my girl has a troubled mind, she did told me that she has gone through some horrible experiences such as rape. At that time I ...
Views: 976(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am so sad because I don't see this marriage working - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ...
Views: 1060(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her last breakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, ...
Views: 618(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I believe he is a good man at heart - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage 3 years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday night and ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse. I read "Motivation and How to ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't bear to think of life without her - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am unusually confident that you can help me.Well I hope you can anyway. I am 18 years old, I live in England, and I am a lesbian. A year ago,I escaped from a extremely abusive and violent relationship with a woman that I was with for two years.There was an extreme age ...
Views: 1229(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't find a way to talk to him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: K so there is a guy in one of my classes that I kinda like but he doesn't know me. I can't find a way to talk to him cause I can't ask him to help me with a question cause he is in front and it would look obvious asking him when there are so many smart people around me. We are ...
Views: 779(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ...
Views: 2538(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Tina Tessinap>Dear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't get my ex out of my head and heart - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. So ...
Views: 904(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't live like this any more - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me. My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairly affluent ...
Views: 1004(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he cross-dressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
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