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- Judgments, Defensiveness, Undercurrents, Festering & Fairness - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2007 from William CottringerJUDGMENTS, DEFENSIVENESS, UNDERCURRENTS, FESTERING & FAIRNESS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. Sooner or later conflict occurs in any relationship. A particularly difficult conflict is when one person thinks or acts one way about something that is diametrically opposed to the other person’s ...
Views: 945 - Modernize Your Mind - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from William CottringerModernize Your Mind by Bill Cottringer The year 2020 might be a good time to think about modernizing your conventional mind, that is, if life hasn’t already forced you to do this. Here are some low-resistance, practical tips on facilitating mind- modernization: 1. Meta-thinking. ...
Views: 945 - Sound Like The Truth? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from William CottringerSOUND LIKE THE TRUTH? By Bill Cottringer Why is it important to “sound” like you are speaking, reading or writing the truth? If it is so important, how can you make sure you are doing it? First question first. 1. First of all, our perceptions and versions of the truth are what we act on, ...
Views: 943 - Why Somebody Else Can’t Tell You How To Be Successful And Happy. - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from William CottringerWhy Somebody Else Can’t Tell You How To Be Successful And Happy. By Bill Cottringer “Success and happiness are what you get from doing what you have to do to get them.” ~The author. What do you suppose all these folks have in common? • All the present living presidents. • All the academy ...
Views: 943 - DECREASING UNHAPPINESS TO INCREASE HAPPINESS - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2008 from William CottringerDECREASING UNHAPPINESS TO INCREASE HAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. More and more people are ...
Views: 941 - Get Ready To Rumble - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from William CottringerGET READY TO RUMBLE by William Cottringer There are plenty of dismal headlines in the business and public service news today. “Financial Meltdown,” “Profitability Plague” “Cooked Books,” and “Ethics Erosion” are common phrases today. Are these things just part of a bigger problem? ...
Views: 938 - Removing The Safety Space Between You And Life - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2007 from William CottringerREMOVING THE SAFETY SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND LIFE By Bill Cottringer In a recent movie, "Lions for Lambs," the truth of life was pursued to the end from three different directions by three great movie stars, who probably weren’t acting: Tom Cruise, the ambitious politician, Meryl Streep, the ...
Views: 935 - Winning In Life - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from William Cottringer“Winning isn't everything, but the will to win is everything.” ~Vince Lombardi. After decades of mixed results—of both enjoying happiness and a sense of accomplishment in succeeding, and not enjoying the bruises, bumps, bleeding and broken bones of failing—I finally figured out a simple ...
Views: 933 - Four Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2008 from William CottringerFour Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad By Bill Cottringer “If we are growing, we will always be out of our comfort zone.” ~John Maxwell. Sorry about the gloom and dome title, but it’s true, just like throwing a pass in football—three things can happen and two ...
Views: 932 - Ten Important ‘Yes, Buts…’ of Happiness to Keep in Mind - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2009 from William CottringerTen Important ‘Yes, Buts…’ of Happiness to Keep in Mind By Bill Cottringer “The good ole days weren't always good, and tomorrow ain't as bad as it seems.” ~Billy Joel. The path to the most rewarding things in life always seem to be singular, but they do have some “yes, but…” side paths ...
Views: 932 - Little Things Count Most in Getting a Job - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerLittle Things Count Most in Getting a Job By Bill Cottringer. A long time ago I discovered an extremely useful concept called perturbation point, or just "P" point for short. These are the little critical things you can do to get the biggest results. The following checklist has the little ...
Views: 931 - FROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2008 from William CottringerFROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER By Bill Cottringer This title is a logical progression from the last article—“Decreasing Uhappiness To Increase Happiness.” Before we can do this, we need to learn how to move from knowing what to do and how to do it, to actually doing it. And, the ...
Views: 925 - Reality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for Thoughtfulness - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2009 from William CottringerReality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for Thoughtfulness By Bill Cottringer “You can’t behave your way out of a problem that you thought your way into.” ~The author. This quote is a re-arrangement of an earlier one by Stephen Covey, “You can’t talk your way out of a situation you ...
Views: 925 - AN IMPORTANT “YES, BUT...” CAVEAT OF BALANCE BEING AN ASPIRATION POINTSubmitted on Feb 25, 2009 from William CottringerAN IMPORTANT “YES, BUT...” CAVEAT OF BALANCE BEING AN ASPIRATION POINT By Bill Cottringer For much of my life I have faithfully bought into the total virtue of the ‘golden mean’ of balance between extremes being the only way to go. This safe road has generally worked out to my benefit, ...
Views: 924 - The Four Crucibles of Success - by Submitted on May 17, 2009 from William CottringerThe Four Crucibles of Success By Bill Cottringer Every success has four crucibles that make nothing go to something, and close the gap between dreaming and reality: The Head, Heart, Soul and Hands. We know now, the energy that is transformed between these four crucibles is what shows up ...
Views: 916 - CROSS-TRAINING IN THE SELF-GROWTH JOURNEY - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2009 from William CottringerCROSS-TRAINING IN THE SELF-GROWTH JOURNEY By Bill Cottringer “There are two ways to get to the finish line quicker—run faster and bring the finish line closer.” ~The author. Today we are all getting headaches from the ever-growing ornery overload, distress from the difficulty of keeping ...
Views: 913 - THE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of Change - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from William CottringerTHE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of Change By William Cottringer, Ph.D. What is faster than a nanosecond? Whatever it is, it is upon us! Right at this moment I am both crying and laughing about the impact of Karl Fish’s “Shift Happens” I-Net and U-tube “Fishbowl: Did You ...
Views: 912 - 25 Self-Development Truths You Can Take To The Bank Or I Don't Know Anything - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from William Cottringer25 Self-Development Truths You Can Take To The Bank Or I Don’t Know Anything By Bill Cottringer "The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it." ~John Ruskin. Here are 25 self-development truths I am certain of through firsthand experience ...
Views: 911 - THE “WORST BAD HABIT” YOU CAN GET CAUGHT UP IN - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from William CottringerTHE “WORST BAD HABIT” YOU CAN GET CAUGHT UP IN By Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes a while to see and the obvious—even longer.” ~Anonymous. What is the worst bad habit you can get caught up in? One that is hard to see because it is so much of who we are on this human journey. As it ...
Views: 907 - A Few More Thoughts About Happiness - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from William CottringerA Few More Thoughts About Happiness by Bill Cottringer “Breathe in common sense and breathe out nonsense.” ~The Author. Happiness has as many different definitions and ways to get it as there are people on the planet. Here are a few more thoughts about happiness I have had recently, ...
Views: 905 - How to Have a Near-Perfect Marriage Or Not. - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from William CottringerHow to Have a Near-Perfect Marriage Or Not. By Bill Cottringer “The happiest marriages are 75% right selection and 25% effort; choosing the right person and devoting the rest of the time being the right person.” ~The author, with the right person, being the right person. Let me begin by ...
Views: 905 - A Belief Worth Questioning - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from William CottringerA Belief Worth Questioning By Bill Cottringer “Tolerance implies no lack of commitment to one's own beliefs. Rather it condemns the oppression or persecution of others.” ~John F. Kennedy. All the world’s dreadful problems and the unwanted miseries they bring, are caused by one ...
Views: 904 - Reality Repair Questions - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR QUESTIONS By Bill Cottringer "I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity that comes on the near side of complexity, but I would give my left arm for the simplicity that comes on the far side of complexity." ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. I just finished writing another book, Reality ...
Views: 901 - SEVEN HELPING PILLARS - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2008 from William CottringerSEVEN HELPING PILLARS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss. We are all born with an innate desire to be successful and help others. There is wisdom in the saying, “you can best help ...
Views: 901 - Four Important “Yes, Buts…” About Success to Keep in Mind - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from William CottringerFour Important “Yes, Buts…” About Success to Keep in Mind By Bill Cottringer “Success is often what is left when you empty your toolbox of the failed solutions that are past their opportunity, but hard to give up.” ~The author. Two very good cases have been made about our main purpose for ...
Views: 900 - Leadership Skills - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from William CottringerLeadership Skills By Bill Cottringer If your want to be a leader, feel free to test your potential against this self-assessment instrument. And if you are already a leader, you can assess the level of leadership skills you have achieved and the ones still needing some work. The scoring ...
Views: 898 - What’s Behind the Curtain of the Political Divide in America? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2020 from William CottringerWhat’s Behind the Curtain of the Political Divide in America? By Bill Cottringer “We divided ourselves among caste, creed, culture and countries but what is undivided remains most valuable: a mere smile and the love.” ~Santosh Kalwar. Don’t be fooled into believing the divide in ...
Views: 898 - The Two Halves Of Life - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2007 from William CottringerTHE TWO HALVES OF LIFE By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. From where I am standing do my looking today, there seems to be two distinct halves to my life. Of course I am interested in finding ...
Views: 894 - Dealing With The Pressure For Instant In And Out Results At Work Or Anywhere - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2009 from William CottringerDealing With The Pressure For Instant In And Out Results At Work Or Anywhere By Bill Cottringer Many years ago I wrote about the need to slow down, because the hectic pace of living that most of us were getting caught up in was causing physical distress. This is certainly not new news, but ...
Views: 891 - The Baker’s Dirty Dozen Gaps Between What’s - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2019 from William CottringerThe Baker’s Dirty Dozen Gaps Between What’s By Bill Cottringer “The main challenge in life is to close the gap between where you are now and where you really want to be.” ~The Author. We all have much work to do to close the above gap. Here are a Baker’s Dirty Dozen Gaps we need to ...
Views: 891 - Five Ways to Keep Your Perspectives Flowing Forward - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from William CottringerFive Ways to Keep Your Perspectives Flowing Forward By Bill Cottringer “In anything, perspective is everything.” ~The author Perspective: Personal point of view; how you view something; different aspects of an object in thought from a particular standpoint. I hope Lao Tzu doesn’t ...
Views: 889 - Developing Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from William CottringerDeveloping Emotional Intelligence by Bill Cottringer “Having both intellectual intelligence (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ) is necessary to be successful. What you lack in IQ points, you can make up for by having emotional intelligence.” ~The author. I know the above quote is ...
Views: 883 - PRETZEL MANAGEMENT - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from William CottringerPRETZEL MANAGEMENT By Bill Cottringer “Pretzel Management is when you stop trying to figure out when one thing ends and another starts. You just spread some mustard, take a healthy bite and enjoy it.” ~ The author. I don’t think it’s just me but I sense management is getting tougher ...
Views: 881 - THE FIVE C’S OF SUCCESSFUL REALITY REPAIR - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from William CottringerTHE FIVE C’S OF SUCCESSFUL REALITY REPAIR By Bill Cottringer There is a mighty roadblock in the way of successful reality repair—fixing broken realities (social problems, economy crises, wars) and creating new and better ones we want (equal access to and enjoyment of abundance and ...
Views: 881 - WE MAKE HELPING TOO COMPLICATED - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2008 from William CottringerWE MAKE HELPING TOO COMPLICATED By Bill Cottringer “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Frank We tend to make things much more complicated than they need to be. I am not sure why we do this. Maybe out of boredom and ...
Views: 877 - THE MORE PLAN B’S AND C’S THE BETTER! - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from William CottringerYES…THE MORE PLAN B’S AND C’S THE BETTER! By Bill Cottringer “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” ~Henry David Thoreau. This is an interesting quote unless you have read an even more interesting one by Søren Kierkegaard. He maintained that “Life has to be lived ...
Views: 874 - NO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENT - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2008 from William CottringerNO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENT By Bill Cottringer "A shortcut is the longest distance between two points." ~ Annonymous. Management information, like everything else today is on overload, so here is a quick system of No-Nonsense “P’ Point Management to help you accomplish a lot by ...
Views: 873 - What We All Want and The Simple Game We Play to Get It - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2008 from William CottringerWhat We All Want and The Simple Game We Play to Get It By Bill Cottringer “Life is very simple; men insist upon making it complicated.” ~Confucius. It has taken me 4 decades of self-improvement giving and receiving, but I think I finally understand the penetrating meaning of the above ...
Views: 873 - Angry Hearts - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2007 from William CottringerANGRY HEARTS by Bill Cottringer There is an undesirable phenomenon going on today that we can all feel—angry hearts. Like any other problem we want to solve, we have to understand it and then figure out what we can do about it as individuals. Divisions between people seem to be ...
Views: 870 - ESSENTIAL REALITY REPAIR Rx: - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from William CottringerESSENTIAL REALITY REPAIR Rx: Fixing Broken Realities & Creating Better Ones. By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. I believe I may ...
Views: 869 - MENTAL SLICING & DICING YOUR WAY TO HALF-HAPPINESS - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2008 from William CottringerMENTAL SLICING & DICING YOUR WAY TO HALF-HAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “All colors are friends of their neighbors and the lovers of their opposites.” ~Marc Chagall. I am well into the second half of my life and in looking back I think I can openly admit that I goofed greatly in the first ...
Views: 869 - Humility Is At Least Half-King - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2007 from William CottringerHumility Is At Least Half-King By Bill Cottringer There is one critical virtue I can’t get enough of these days and I don’t think we ever appreciate its ultimate importance and value until the lack of it comes back to bite us in our butts. I think humility should be right up there with ...
Views: 868 - MANAGING THE OVERLOAD - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from William CottringerMANAGING THE OVERLOAD By Bill Cottringer “Offices, desks, drawers, attics, basements, table tops, backyards, closets, medicine cabinets, garages, mailboxes, minds…all getting full of clutter and spilling over.” ~The author. Everything I read, see, think, talk about, and experience these ...
Views: 859 - Why You Should Focus More On The One Really Important Need You Have Rather than on The Many Others That Occupy Your Attention - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from William CottringerWhy You Should Focus More On The One Really Important Need You Have Rather than on The Many Others That Occupy Your Attention By Bill Cottringer “We never understand how little we need in this world until we know the loss of it.” ~James Matthew Barrie. We all really just have one ...
Views: 856 - Seven Verbs to Defeat Anger - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2021 from William CottringerSEVEN VERBS TO DEFEAT ANGER By Bill Cottringer “Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” ~Ambrose Bierce. Anger is a strong, unpleasant feeling you usually get when someone else, something else or you yourself, may be getting in the way of ...
Views: 851 - A PERSONAL CHOICE: PRETEND OR PLAY? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from William CottringerA PERSONAL CHOICE: PRETEND OR PLAY? By Bill Cottringer “A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting.” ~Henry David Thoreau. For a long time now I have gradually realized ...
Views: 849 - Rational Reality Repair Rx - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2008 from William CottringerRATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rx by William Cottringer, Ph.D. “What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...
Views: 846 - Success Un-Bottled - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2009 from William Cottringer“Success is what you do and get from finding the abundance that has your name on it.” ~ The author. At home and work, we are all part of realities we often don’t particularly like and sometimes desperately want to make better. These realities can be uncomfortable conflicts in ...
Views: 846 - And Then There Is The truth - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2007 from William CottringerTHERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF THE STORY & THEN THERE IS THE TRUTH By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” ~ John Lennon Actually there are probably as many ‘stories’ as there are people on this planet. But, there is but one overall, unifying truth that ...
Views: 845 - Exercise Your Thinking Muscles - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from William CottringerExercise Your Thinking Muscles “Sometimes you must give up the good to get to the great. The key is knowing what to keep and what to discard from your mind.” ~The author. Success today requires proper diet and exercise in both the physical and mental realms. Here are some healthy ...
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