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- Ten Best Success Door Openers - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2016 from William CottringerTen Best Success Door Openers by Bill Cottringer “If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” ~Jim Rohn. There are lots of ways to find to do something or the excuses if you don’t. In the meantime, here are the best-known door ...
Views: 1298 - Furiously Frustrated - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from William CottringerFuriously Frustrated By Bill Cottringer In my previous article, “Seeds of Anger,” I think I overlooked the main problem with which we should have more empathy for ourselves and others. The real problem of our day is the frustration that leads either a quiet life of desperation or ...
Views: 1292 - Languages Of The Head, Heart And Soul - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2007 from William CottringerLANGUAGES OF THE HEAD, HEART AND SOUL By Bill Cottringer “Truth is that sweet spot in time and place where your head, heart and soul hover over something from which nothing can be added, subtracted or changed.” ~The Author. I have been a student of conflict resolution and good ...
Views: 1292 - What Employers Need - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from William CottringerWhat Employers Need By Bill Cottringer “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.” ~J. Paul Getty. Knowing what employer’s need—not necessarily what they think they want (or what they deserve?)—can greatly improve job success in the organization for both employers and ...
Views: 1289 - Finding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2009 from William CottringerFinding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight By Bill Cottringer What do these people have in common besides the first letter of their first name? • John has been a successful salesman in the technology field for longer than he can remember but his company finally gave up the ...
Views: 1274 - If Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen… - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from William CottringerIf Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen… By Bill Cottringer “I can believe anything, provided it is incredible.” ~Oscar Wilde. If enough people believe in something, it will happen…”The ‘Yes-but’ rest of the story is…True, but maybe just not quite in the exact way or ...
Views: 1269 - How To Talk With God - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from William CottringerHOW TO TALK WITH GOD By Bill Cottringer The other day I text messaged God’s Administrative Assistant to ask him how God would prefer for us to talk with Her. Since he was very well organized, as would be expected for an administrative assistant of the whole universe, he suggested I just ...
Views: 1265 - People That Bother You Most - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2008 from William CottringerPeople That Bother You Most By Bill Cottringer “Like the herd of animals we are, we sniff warily at the strange one among us.” ~ Loren Eisely Our success quest in life involves the paramount challenge of learning how to get along with other people. However, the reality of people being unique ...
Views: 1263 - THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2014 from William CottringerTHREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE By Bill Cottringer “We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ...
Views: 1259(1 vote) - WRESTLING WITH THE ULTIMATE CONFLICT: CONTRADICTORY PARADIGMS - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2008 from William CottringerWRESTLING WITH THE ULTIMATE CONFLICT: CONTRADICTORY PARADIGMS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The only way you become aware of the intrinsic paradigms that guide your thinking are when they come in open contact with their opposites.” ~The author. I am sorry but I am not going to ...
Views: 1253 - Finding Your Mental Sweet Spot - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from William CottringerFinding Your Mental Sweet Spot by Bill Cottrigner Sitting in two overgrown cedar rocking chairs watching the South Fork of the Snoqualmie River go flowing by in quiet North Bend, WA, two people—one intellectual and the other very practical—were just talking about troublesome life ...
Views: 1251 - Three Paths to The Truth - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from William CottringerThree Paths to The Truth By Bill Cottringer “I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. As the above quote implies, there are but three main paths ...
Views: 1247 - Better Time Management for 2020 and Beyond - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from William CottringerBetter Time Management for 2020 and Beyond by Bill Cottringer “Time is the one resource that is equally distributed, but unequally used.” ~The Author. This combining millennium will likely just continue to overload us with more and more information, where we end up never having ...
Views: 1245 - What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2016 from William CottringerWhat Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? By Bill Cottringer “There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley. While this article title seems to be a rather straightforward question, I doubt that it is ...
Views: 1231 - THE UNNECESSARY SUFFERING PART OF NECESSARY SUFFERING - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from William CottringerTHE UNNECESSARY SUFFERING PART OF NECESSARY SUFFERING By Bill Cottringer “Anything, anything would be better than this agony of mind, this creeping pain that gnaws and fumbles and caresses one and never hurts quite enough.” ~Jean Paul Sartre. Life involves a certain amount of painful, ...
Views: 1213 - Game Plan For All Seasons - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2017 from William CottringerGame Plan For All Seasons By Bill Cottringer Psychology has one principle that can be applied to any interpersonal interaction to get the best results. This is the very fundamental principle of human behavior which recognizes that both our commonalities and our differences have to be ...
Views: 1211 - Thinking Away The Crap - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2008 from William CottringerThinking Away the Crap By Bill Cottringer “Keep writing. Try to do a little bit every day, even if the result looks like crap. Getting from page four to page five is more important than spending three weeks getting page four perfect.” ~Alan Dean Foster. I am not going to apologize for ...
Views: 1209(1 vote) - Trust: The # 1 Issue In Living, Relating, Working & Even Sleeping. - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from William CottringerTrust: The # 1 Issue In Living, Relating, Working & Even Sleeping. By Bill Cottringer “Trust is the secular version of religious faith and faith is the growing belief and comfort in the truth and certainty of something you can’t see or otherwise prove.” ~The author. Why is trust such an ...
Views: 1206 - COLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIP - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2008 from William CottringerCOLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIP By Bill Cottringer “A leader is a dealer in hope.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte. And so the opening question is when have we needed hope more than today, if it is just help to be more optimistic in seeing past the ornery information overload that is burying us all? ...
Views: 1202 - 7 SURE BUILDING-BLOCKS OF SUCCESS - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from William Cottringer7 SURE BUILDING-BLOCKS OF SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.” ~ Bill Gates. Having both attempted and researched the phenomenon we call “success” now for nearly 7 decades, I have reached the conclusion that ...
Views: 1201 - The Paucity Paradigm - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2017 from William CottringerThe Paucity Paradigm By Bill Cottringer “Usually the first problems you solve with the new paradigm are the ones that were unsolvable with the old paradigm.” ~Joel A. Barker. Way back in the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve did something that contaminated our thinking and the language ...
Views: 1196 - Choosing the Right Side - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from William CottringerChoosing the Right Side By Bill Cottringer An elderly Episcopal priest once gave a simple sermon with a single message that makes too much sense to disregard, even for non-religious people. The message was this: There is one main choice in life and that is which side are you on—the ...
Views: 1193 - What Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from William CottringerWhat Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering? By Bill Cottringer “This is where you win the battle—in the playhouse of your mind.” ~Maxwell Maltz. Unfortunately, the short and truthful answer to the title question is not what you want to hear—nothing. ...
Views: 1187 - Managing Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2016 from William CottringerManaging Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. By Bill Cottringer As I have already mentioned in a previous article, performance in sports and law enforcement have a lot in common. For one thing, both require a healthy mixture of individuality ...
Views: 1186(1 vote) - How to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from William CottringerHow to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace By Bill Cottringer “People will try to tell you that all the great opportunities have been snapped up. In reality, the world changes every second, blowing new opportunities in all directions, including yours.” ~Ken Hakuta. From all my ...
Views: 1180 - Gap-Closing - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2018 from William CottringerGAP-CLOSING By Bill Cottringer The most serious problem we have today is the growing divide/gap between this and that group of people and the ineffective gap-closing activities we waste valuable time engaging in. The gaps and divide just keeps getting wider and wider, creating more ...
Views: 1179 - Two Tantamount Truths - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from William CottringerTwo Tantamount Truths By Bill Cottringer “Conscience is no more than the dead speaking to us.” ~Jim Caroll There is no shortage of authors, books and movies about near death experiences, with over 5 million Internet works available. Authors like Moody, Jakoby and Greyson; books like ...
Views: 1167 - Reality Repair Rx Book Outline - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from William CottringerReality Repair Rx Book Outline By William Cottringer, Ph.D. In writing books or articles it is always good to stop now and then to question the importance and value of your writing topics and what your truest intentions are. I made a door sign some time ago that reads, “Dr. Cottringer, ...
Views: 1154 - The Hurricane That Disrupts All Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from William Cottringer“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ~William James. What is this hurricane that disrupts all relationships at work and home? In two words: Wrong ...
Views: 1154 - Getting Your Head, Heart And Soul To Agree - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2007 from William CottringerGETTING YOUR HEAD, HEART AND SOUL TO AGREE By Bill Cottringer Oh boy, I hope I haven’t bitten off more than I can chew here with this title. It just came to me as a very important problem to solve—the many important disagreements between the information and choices these three things lead ...
Views: 1144 - TEN SUCCESS PRINCIPLES TO IMPROVE TRAINING RESULTS - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from William CottringerTEN SUCCESS PRINCIPLES TO IMPROVE TRAINING RESULTS By Bill Cottringer Here are the ten best common sense principles to understand and apply in order to improve the quality of your training efforts and the actual results you get: 1. Separate “training” from “teaching” in your mind and ...
Views: 1144 - REALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALL - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALL By Bill Cottringer Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the King's horses, and all his men, Couldn't put Humpty back together again! ~Well-known nursery rhyme. This well-known children’s nursery ...
Views: 1135 - The Main Challenge for Leaders Today - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from William CottringerThe Main Challenge for Leaders Today By Bill Cottringer “Diversity: The art of thinking independently together.” ~Malcolm Forbes. There are two sound reasons for diversity: (a) It is the right thing to do from a human-kind perspective, and (b) the differences brought by diversity ...
Views: 1132 - REALITY REPAIR: With Stress-less Success - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from William CottringerREALITY REPAIR: With Stress-less Success By Bill Cottringer “Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.” ~Lily Tomlin. This is my 7th book and I am trying something entirely new this time around. I am starting out with a definite title to my book in mind; ...
Views: 1131 - Asking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And PlaySubmitted on May 16, 2009 from William CottringerAsking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And Play By Bill Cottringer Sometimes real success involves flip-flopping the traditional sequence in which we approach things. Then we end up wondering why something doesn’t feel quite right, like the tail seems to be ...
Views: 1127 - Why Going From Surviving To Thriving Is So Difficult - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2009 from William CottringerWhy Going From Surviving To Thriving Is So Difficult By Bill Cottringer “Life is a series of steps. Things are done gradually. Once in awhile there is a giant step, but most of the time we are taking small, seemingly insignificant steps on the stairway of life.” ~Ralph Ranson. There are ...
Views: 1121 - A Prescription for Resolving Interpersonal Conflicts - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2020 from William CottringerA Prescription for Resolving Interpersonal Conflicts by Bill Cottringer “All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?” ~Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies. We all get stuck in messy emotional interpersonal conflicts with others from ...
Views: 1119 - Unloading The Management Overload Problem - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2007 from William CottringerUNLOADING THE MANAGEMENT OVERLOAD PROBLEM By Bill Cottringer “I have a theory about the human mind. A brain is a lot like a computer. It will only take so many facts, and then it will go on overload and blow up.” ~Erma Bombeck. Is it just my imagination or do other managers feel ...
Views: 1118 - THE MOST IMPORTANT YES, BUT…IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2009 from William CottringerTHE MOST IMPORTANT YES, BUT…IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN ANYTHING by Bill Cottringer “One quality is worth more than four quantities.” ~The author. Although it may seem as though the quantity of your efforts are what lead to success at doing something your are trying, it is rather the quality of ...
Views: 1112 - TEN SIMPLE TIPS TO AVOID TERRIBLE TALK - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from William CottringerTEN SIMPLE TIPS TO AVOID TERRIBLE TALK By Bill Cottringer "It is usually impossible to get a conversation going when everybody is talking too much." ~Yogi Berra If you want to avoid terrible talk, improve your communication skills and get better results with people, try these ten ...
Views: 1110 - Good People, Bad Ethics - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2020 from William CottringerGood People, Bad Ethics by Bill Cottringer “In my college ethics class, someone stole my textbook and I thought that was rather ironic.” ~The author. In the section on ethics which I teach in criminal justice classes, I define ethical behavior as, “The ideal standard of what is ...
Views: 1104 - Managing Gaps - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from William CottringerMANAGING GAPS By Bill Cottringer Much of the management role involves the important process of identifying critical gaps, understanding the details of what is in between where things are and where you want them to be, and then managing to close these gaps quickly and cost-effectively. Here ...
Views: 1099 - "P" Point Management - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2007 from William Cottringer“P” Point Management: Simple Clues for Closing Gaps “When you want to fool the world, simply tell the truth clearly” (Otto Von Bismark). Here’s the simple and clear truth: The biggest problem we have today in managing our lives and our organizations is the prevalence of gaps. Success ...
Views: 1090 - Unhappiness/Happiness Reality Repair - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2009 from William CottringerUnhappiness/Happiness Reality Repair by Bill Cottringer “There is only one cause of unhappiness: The false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. Your reality repair results—decreasing ...
Views: 1090 - Re-Braining for 2020 - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2019 from William CottringerRe-Braining for 2020 By Bill Cottringer “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~Albert Einstein. 2020 brings a new decade of Information Age challenges, requiring some major transformational re-braining to navigate the mine fields ahead hidden away in the ...
Views: 1089 - Success By Perspective - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2007 from William CottringerSUCCESS BY PERSPECTIVE By William Cottringer, Ph.D. Success—What you get from doing what you do to get it; acquiring any or all of the following: Having an abundance of health, wealth, power, influence, friends and wisdom; gaining a sense of satisfaction from achieving your goals, being ...
Views: 1089 - Firefighting - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from William CottringerFirefighting By Bill Cottringer Are you part of an organization where everyone is in a perpetual firefighting mode, spending most of their day scurrying around putting band-aides on ruptures? As the direct Dr. Phil would ask, “How is that working for you?” Not very well I would imagine. I ...
Views: 1088 - THE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORY - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from William CottringerTHE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORY By Bill Cottringer “Unhappiness is just the accumulation of an unwanted feeling arising from incorrect thoughts about and the anxiety of not being able to remove the source of the unhappiness and the increased unhappiness to which all this leads.” ~The Author. ...
Views: 1088 - PRETZEL MANAGEMENT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2008 from William CottringerPRETZEL MANAGEMENT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “Life probably gets annoyed at us for thinking too much. It’s like going to a great theatre production on Broadway or music concert at Carnegie Hall with virtual earphones, books, cell phones and DVD’s.” ~ The author. ...
Views: 1085 - There Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They Are - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2009 from William CottringerThere Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They Are By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they should be done.” ~ Mark Twain. Here are two important clarifications that I think Mark Twain would have agreed ...
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