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- Conflicts and Heartaches - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from William CottringerConflicts and Heartaches by Bill Cottringer “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” ~William Ellery Channing. Conflicts are as much a part of life as change, taxes and death. Heartaches go together with conflicts like grass ...
Views: 515 - CONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from William CottringerCONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR By Bill Cottringer “One of the biggest sources of frustration comes from trying to control the uncontrollables; on the other hand, great satisfaction comes from gradually learning to manage the controllables better.” ~The author. Control: To exercise ...
Views: 1942 - CROSS-TRAINING IN THE SELF-GROWTH JOURNEY - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2009 from William CottringerCROSS-TRAINING IN THE SELF-GROWTH JOURNEY By Bill Cottringer “There are two ways to get to the finish line quicker—run faster and bring the finish line closer.” ~The author. Today we are all getting headaches from the ever-growing ornery overload, distress from the difficulty of keeping ...
Views: 934 - Dangers of a Divided Mind - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2023 from William CottringerDangers of a Divided Mind By Bill Cottringer “Warning: A divided mind misses half of everything but deludes you into believing you have the whole truth. So, if you want to get twice as much done in half the time in finding the whole truth, rejoin your divided mind.” ~The Author. I ...
Views: 438 - Dealing With A Controlling Toxic Bully - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2007 from William CottringerDEALING WITH A CONTROLLING, TOXIC BULLY By Bill Cottringer It is easy to get trapped into feeling negative about being mistreated by a controlling, toxic bully and worse over not feeling you can do anything about it. It is frustrating, humiliating and maddening. And you can get even ...
Views: 6602 - Dealing With Early Negative Downloads That Now Control Most of Your Life - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from William CottringerDealing With Early Negative Downloads That Now Control Most of Your Life By Bill Cottringer What can you do about all the negative, unconscious downloads that occurred before age six, that now flood your mind with overwhelming self-sabotaging beliefs that you are not even aware of? This ...
Views: 997 - Dealing With The Pressure For Instant In And Out Results At Work Or Anywhere - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2009 from William CottringerDealing With The Pressure For Instant In And Out Results At Work Or Anywhere By Bill Cottringer Many years ago I wrote about the need to slow down, because the hectic pace of living that most of us were getting caught up in was causing physical distress. This is certainly not new news, but ...
Views: 910 - Decoding Conflcit - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2007 from William CottringerDECODING CONFLICT By Bill Cottringer Organizations today are faced with inevitable conflicts in team-building that will require creative resolutions that may be just slightly outside the leader’s toolbox. Even the most experienced leaders have to approach each new conflict with ...
Views: 1087 - DECREASING UNHAPPINESS TO INCREASE HAPPINESS - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2008 from William CottringerDECREASING UNHAPPINESS TO INCREASE HAPPINESS By Bill Cottringer “There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. More and more people are ...
Views: 962 - Describing the Indescribable Feeling We All Want: Peace of Heart - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2008 from William CottringerDescribing the Indescribable Feeling We All Want: Peace of Heart By Bill Cottringer “Words are the voice of the heart.” ~Confucius. I feel rather foolish. I have been barking up the wrong tree for a couple of decades. I imagined that the end goal of all our reality repair efforts—fixing ...
Views: 1041 - Developing a Winning Success Style - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2020 from William CottringerDeveloping a Winning Success Style by Bill Cottringer “When you win, say nothing. When you lose, say less.” ~ Paul Brown. A person can generally be a winner with a big dream, solid game plan on translating the dream into reality, a good character with which to do that, a lot of hard ...
Views: 723 - Developing Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from William CottringerDeveloping Emotional Intelligence by Bill Cottringer “Having both intellectual intelligence (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ) is necessary to be successful. What you lack in IQ points, you can make up for by having emotional intelligence.” ~The author. I know the above quote is ...
Views: 936 - Discussing Politics & Religion - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2016 from William CottringerDiscussing Politics & Religion By Bill Cottringer “Those who say religion has nothing to do with politics do not know what religion is.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. Just like the real reason for paying attention to the warnings of the Ten Commandments, being to help you avoid unnecessary pain, ...
Views: 1847 - Divide and Conquer - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2021 from William CottringerDivide and Conquer By Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; Unite and lead, is watchword of the wise. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Gedichte. In war, the divide and conquer rule has always gotten the expected results. Ironically though, this same principle can also ...
Views: 551 - Divorce Survival Kit - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerDIVORCE SURVIVAL KIT By William Cottringer, Ph.D. A pending divorce can be a scary and devastating experience for a married couple. For every divorcing person, the future is nothing but uncertainty, anxiety and confusion. Such an emotional state is not good for focusing on priorities or ...
Views: 3114 - DO OR DIE - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from William CottringerDO OR DIE By Bill Cottringer “Conflicts give rise to villains, heroes, victims and bystanders. Which are you willing to be, in doing or dying for? ~The Author. We are all chasing after things we think we want because of how they make us feel—happiness, success, peace of mind, ...
Views: 1564 - DO WHAT MATTERS MOST - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2019 from William CottringerDO WHAT MATTERS MOST By Bill Cottringer “There's a mess inside you: You clean the outside.” ~Anonymous, The Dhammapada. Do what matters most. I once wrote a book with that title. It took me more than 600 pages to wade through some extreme complexity to get to the profound ...
Views: 1113 - Don’t Let Your Ability Get In The Way Of Your Capability - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2012 from William CottringerDon’t Let Your Ability Get In The Way Of Your Capability By Bill Cottringer “You see things; and you say, 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say, 'Why not?'” ~ George Bernard Shaw. Is your current limited ability interfering with your desire and effort to explode into ...
Views: 1832 - Double Vision Decision-Making - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from William CottringerDouble Vision Decision-Making By Bill Cottringer “Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” ~Phil McGraw. Double vision decision-making is a very useful and valuable skill in maneuvering around in today’s plethora of information overload that ...
Views: 1744 - Enemies of Truth - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2024 from William CottringerEnemies of Truth by William Cottringer, Ph.D. Truth is like the beauty of a great sculpture—all that is left when you can’t take away, add, or change anything more. ~Anonymous. At times there seem to be more enemies of truth than friends. If you are a real truth seeker, here are ...
Views: 365 - ESSENTIAL REALITY REPAIR Rx: - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from William CottringerESSENTIAL REALITY REPAIR Rx: Fixing Broken Realities & Creating Better Ones. By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. I believe I may ...
Views: 893 - Exercise Your Thinking Muscles - by Submitted on May 30, 2019 from William CottringerExercise Your Thinking Muscles “Sometimes you must give up the good to get to the great. The key is knowing what to keep and what to discard from your mind.” ~The author. Success today requires proper diet and exercise in both the physical and mental realms. Here are some healthy ...
Views: 879 - Finding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2009 from William CottringerFinding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight By Bill Cottringer What do these people have in common besides the first letter of their first name? • John has been a successful salesman in the technology field for longer than he can remember but his company finally gave up the ...
Views: 1304 - Finding The Purpose Behind Your Purpose - by Submitted on May 16, 2009 from William CottringerFinding The Purpose Behind Your Purpose by Bill Cottringer Finding the real purpose to our lives can provide us with valuable meaning. Such meaning can give us the right direction and structure we need, which will eventually lead to the success and contentment we want. I have discovered ...
Views: 1014 - Finding Your Mental Sweet Spot - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from William CottringerFinding Your Mental Sweet Spot by Bill Cottrigner Sitting in two overgrown cedar rocking chairs watching the South Fork of the Snoqualmie River go flowing by in quiet North Bend, WA, two people—one intellectual and the other very practical—were just talking about troublesome life ...
Views: 1279 - Finding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Within - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2009 from William CottringerFinding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Within By Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes awhile to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Unknown author. Just about the time I finally think I have the main purpose of life figured out, up pops something else with a slightly different flavor and ...
Views: 867 - Firefighting - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from William CottringerFirefighting By Bill Cottringer Are you part of an organization where everyone is in a perpetual firefighting mode, spending most of their day scurrying around putting band-aides on ruptures? As the direct Dr. Phil would ask, “How is that working for you?” Not very well I would imagine. I ...
Views: 1118 - Five Questions We All Have At Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from William CottringerFive Questions We All Have At Work By Bill Cottringer “All good work has magic in it, and addresses the mind in a subtle way.” ~Duane Michals. There are five questions we all have at work which need reasonable answers to, as guided by effective management. These questions were ...
Views: 1636 - Five Realizations of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from William CottringerFive Realizations of Good Relationships By Bill Cottringer “Life is not happening to you. It is responding to you.” ~Author Unknown. In order to create good relationships, correct bad ones or continue good ones, there are a five things, that when realized, can help set up more ...
Views: 1459 - Five Ways to Keep Your Perspectives Flowing Forward - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2009 from William CottringerFive Ways to Keep Your Perspectives Flowing Forward By Bill Cottringer “In anything, perspective is everything.” ~The author Perspective: Personal point of view; how you view something; different aspects of an object in thought from a particular standpoint. I hope Lao Tzu doesn’t ...
Views: 914 - FOUR CRUCIBLES OF SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2020 from William CottringerFOUR CRUCIBLES OF SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP By Bill Cottringer "A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better." ~Jim Rohn. The four crucibles of successful leadership include: Becoming an expert at ...
Views: 1119 - Four Important “Yes, Buts…” About Success to Keep in Mind - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from William CottringerFour Important “Yes, Buts…” About Success to Keep in Mind By Bill Cottringer “Success is often what is left when you empty your toolbox of the failed solutions that are past their opportunity, but hard to give up.” ~The author. Two very good cases have been made about our main purpose for ...
Views: 927 - Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from William CottringerFour Main Perspectives in the Game of Life By Bill Cottringer The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth. Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders There are only four choices, For all the unheard voices: Be an honorable hero, And gain ...
Views: 235 - Four Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2008 from William CottringerFour Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad By Bill Cottringer “If we are growing, we will always be out of our comfort zone.” ~John Maxwell. Sorry about the gloom and dome title, but it’s true, just like throwing a pass in football—three things can happen and two ...
Views: 952 - Freedom of Choice? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2016 from William CottringerFreedom of Choice? By Bill Cottringer “Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.” ~Jawaharlal Nehru A perennial philosophical debate that started with the early philosophers and gave birth to all the earlier theories of ...
Views: 1463 - From Falling In Love, To Being In Love, To Loving - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2007 from William CottringerFrom Falling in Love, to Being in Love, to Loving By Bill Cottringer Over four decades of trial and error in relationships have taught me a valuable lesson. This lesson is to slow down and learn to listen to the lesson. The main purpose of a relationship is to get you to do something to ...
Views: 2517 - FROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2008 from William CottringerFROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER By Bill Cottringer This title is a logical progression from the last article—“Decreasing Uhappiness To Increase Happiness.” Before we can do this, we need to learn how to move from knowing what to do and how to do it, to actually doing it. And, the ...
Views: 948 - Furiously Frustrated - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from William CottringerFuriously Frustrated By Bill Cottringer In my previous article, “Seeds of Anger,” I think I overlooked the main problem with which we should have more empathy for ourselves and others. The real problem of our day is the frustration that leads either a quiet life of desperation or ...
Views: 1319 - Game Plan For All Seasons - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2017 from William CottringerGame Plan For All Seasons By Bill Cottringer Psychology has one principle that can be applied to any interpersonal interaction to get the best results. This is the very fundamental principle of human behavior which recognizes that both our commonalities and our differences have to be ...
Views: 1245 - Gap-Closing - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2018 from William CottringerGAP-CLOSING By Bill Cottringer The most serious problem we have today is the growing divide/gap between this and that group of people and the ineffective gap-closing activities we waste valuable time engaging in. The gaps and divide just keeps getting wider and wider, creating more ...
Views: 1212 - GAP-CLOSING - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2023 from William CottringerGAP-CLOSING By Bill Cottringer Life is all the stuff that happens in between acknowledging our gaps and trying to deal with them. ~The author. We are all confronted with problem gaps than need closing solutions in life. The differences are in the nature and priority of these gaps ...
Views: 430 - Get Ready To Rumble - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2007 from William CottringerGET READY TO RUMBLE by William Cottringer There are plenty of dismal headlines in the business and public service news today. “Financial Meltdown,” “Profitability Plague” “Cooked Books,” and “Ethics Erosion” are common phrases today. Are these things just part of a bigger problem? ...
Views: 967 - Getting In Sync with The Way of Life - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2025 from William CottringerGetting In Sync with The Way of Life By Bill Cottringer “In anything, timing is everything.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. During our lives we are all part of one main conflict, which is us vs. life. Of course, our everyday lives involve two other conflicts within this main one, which ...
Views: 132 - Getting Your Head, Heart And Soul To Agree - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2007 from William CottringerGETTING YOUR HEAD, HEART AND SOUL TO AGREE By Bill Cottringer Oh boy, I hope I haven’t bitten off more than I can chew here with this title. It just came to me as a very important problem to solve—the many important disagreements between the information and choices these three things lead ...
Views: 1167 - Give In & Win - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2008 from William CottringerGIVE IN AND WIN By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.” ~ Unknown author. It was a rainy night in August of 1964 when this naïve 19-year old kid was assigned guard duty at the make-shift rear gate of Tan Son Nhut AB in Saigon, Vietnam. ...
Views: 850 - God’s Five Favorite Hiding Places - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from William CottringerGod’s Five Favorite Hiding Places by Bill Cottringer Sometimes God is hard to find, let alone know very well. Not being able to see God, we have to go places where a God-like presence can be sensed in some distinct way. Here are God’s seven favorite hiding places, where such an ...
Views: 1657 - Good Decision-Making - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2008 from William CottringerGood Decision-Making One of the most important skills in life and work to perfect is decision-making. Successful outcomes are always based on good decision-making but good decision-making is not a skill you can learn overnight or learn from a book. It takes great thought, patience and ...
Views: 983 - Good People, Bad Ethics - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2020 from William CottringerGood People, Bad Ethics by Bill Cottringer “In my college ethics class, someone stole my textbook and I thought that was rather ironic.” ~The author. In the section on ethics which I teach in criminal justice classes, I define ethical behavior as, “The ideal standard of what is ...
Views: 1153 - Good Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from William CottringerGood Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times by Bill Cottringer “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” ~Theodore Roosevelt. Despite the physical 6-foot rule of social distancing keeping us apart, ...
Views: 740 - GREEN, YELLOW & RED LIGHTS - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2020 from William CottringerGREEN, YELLOW & RED LIGHTS By Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. The sheer power of the number three, or dividing things into thirds, is probably one of the first governing principles of the universe discovered and ...
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