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- WHEN TO FISH OR CUT BAIT? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from William CottringerWHEN TO FISH OR CUT BAIT? By Bill Cottringer “Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. One of the hardest places to locate intellectually and emotionally is getting to the comfort zone where you can make the right decision to fish or cut bait—to continue ...
Views: 2443 - THE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARN - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from William CottringerTHE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARN By Bill Cottringer “It isn’t what you think you know that is most important, but rather how you feel about what you think you know.” ~Unknown author. What is this hardest lesson for us all to learn in life? Learning what to take seriously and what to ...
Views: 2381 - BEST 10 CUSTOMER SERVICE TIPS IN THE BUSINESS - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from William CottringerBEST 10 CUSTOMER SERVICE TIPS IN THE BUSINESS By Bill Cottringer “Good customer service is 90% listening and follow-up and 10% talking.” ~The author. 1. Leave your bad moods, frustrations and other agendas at home or at least put them aside and out of mind and heart when you are engaged with ...
Views: 2351 - MANAGING METAPHORS ABOUT LIVING AND DYING FOR EVERYDAY LIFE - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2009 from William CottringerMANAGING METAPHORS ABOUT LIVING AND DYING FOR EVERYDAY LIFE By Bill Cottringer “Key metaphors help determine what and how we perceive and how we think about our perceptions.” ~M.H. Abrams. Metaphors: Creative communication of words that magically simplify huge, complex realities into ...
Views: 2334(1 vote) - Live, Love & Laugh - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2010 from William CottringerLive, Love & Laugh By Bill Cottringer “When done correctly by individuals, living, loving and laughing greatly improve the quality of life for humanity.” ~The author. The more you do these three things, the more successful and happier you and others will be. But first you have to ...
Views: 2327(4 votes) - Common Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from William CottringerCommon Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment By Bill Cottringer “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same things moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense dancing.” ~ William James. A few years ago, a colleague of mine wrote an important business book ...
Views: 2323 - TEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from William CottringerTEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE By Bill Cottringer “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde. It doesn’t matter whether you are engaged in your dream career or just working at a job; not trying your best to succeed at the ...
Views: 2322(7 votes) - IS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from William CottringerIS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS? by Bill Cottringer “There is a point at which everything becomes simple and there is no longer any question of choice, because all you have staked will be lost if you look back. This is life's point of no return.” ~Dag Hammarskjold. I have ...
Views: 2307 - Make Your Point! - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from William CottringerMake Your Point! By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Consider the beginning of communication: We first invented words to stand for objects we couldn’t carry around on our shoulders to show ...
Views: 2305(2 votes) - “BEST RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS: Via Better Thinking and Better Communication” - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2012 from William Cottringer“BEST RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS: Via Better Thinking and Better Communication” “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler And where do we make and express these assumptions but in our mind and with our mouths? The way to the biggest gains in best relationship success ...
Views: 2245 - Technology: The Ritalin Cure For ADHD - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from William CottringerTechnology: The Ritalin Cure For ADHD By Bill Cottringer “For normal people, the artificial urgency created by today’s hyper-speed technology is a demon to be tamed; for people with ADHD, it turns out to be an angle in disguise just needing to fly itself into being tired.” ~The author. ...
Views: 2226 - Welcome Back Kotter (Likeability)! - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from William CottringerWelcome Back Kotter (Likeability)! By Bill Cottringer “Welcome back, Your dreams were your ticket out. Welcome back, To that same old place that you laughed about…”~John Sebastian, Lov’n Spoonful. One of the most popular TV programs of my generation was “Welcome Back Kotter.” I can ...
Views: 2225(1 vote) - Surprise: When You Are Slightly Off Keel You Are At Your Best! - by Submitted on May 08, 2009 from William CottringerSurprise: When You Are Slightly Off Keel You Are At Your Best! By Bill Cottringer “Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” ~ Oprah Winfrey. I am sure I am not the first person to discover this powerful reality, but…You are poised to be at your best ...
Views: 2202 - LIKEABLE COMMUNICATION - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2008 from William CottringerLIKABLE COMMUNICATION by William Cottringer “Our brains quickly perceive others to be likeable, neutral or unlikeable; the words that follow verify that initial perception.” ~The author. Ron and Jennifer are both successful professionals. Jennifer is on the top of her career as a CEO ...
Views: 2188 - Why Some Religions Are Dying While Others Are Thriving - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2010 from William CottringerWhy Some Religions Are Dying While Others Are Thriving By Bill Cottringer “Religion is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, it is to be humble.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. If you want to know a real secret worth knowing about success, look at the religions today ...
Views: 2172(2 votes) - Anticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from William CottringerAnticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired By Bill Cottringer “If you intend to go to work there is no better place than right where you are; if you do not intend to go to work you cannot get along anywhere. Squirming and crawling about from place to place can do no good.” ~Abraham ...
Views: 2114 - SUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from William CottringerSUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS By Bill Cottringer “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself.” ~Galileo Galilei. There is no shortage of information about being a successful supervisor. But, that is a problem in itself—there is ...
Views: 2101(9 votes) - ACCEPT ADVERSITY, BOUNCE BACK & GET GOING - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2014 from William CottringerACCEPT ADVERSITY, BOUNCE BACK & GET GOING By Bill Cottringer “All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.” ~Walt Disney. ...
Views: 2098 - The World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from William CottringerThe World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied by Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” `Benjamin Disraeli. The Problem: Today we are witnessing a major showdown between two failure extremes—the strong vs. the weak, or more in today’s terms, the bullies ...
Views: 2084(1 vote) - Are You A Worry Wart? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2010 from William CottringerAre You A Worry Wort? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “You know you are in big trouble when you start worrying about how much you are worrying.” ~ The Author. With all the stresses from the overload that now plagues us today, we all probably worry too much about the past, present and ...
Views: 2081(6 votes) - How to keep a Job in Tough Times - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from William CottringerHow to keep a Job in Tough Times By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The quickest way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde. In tough economic times, it is not a good thing to be unemployed. And if you are lucky enough to have a job, you don’t want ...
Views: 2072(2 votes) - Trapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from William CottringerTrapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? By Bill Cottringer “Refuse to be average. Let your heart soar as high as it will.” ~W.A.Tozer. Are you one of the “lucky” few people who have used your special talents smartly, worked with persistence in never giving up on ...
Views: 2051 - The Challenge for Returning Veterans - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from William CottringerThe Challenge for Returning Veterans By Bill Cottringer Veterans Day is a day we can all be thankful for the men and women who generously and unselfishly served our country, past and present and some with their lives, to keep the rest of us safe and secure in the freedom we cherish. ...
Views: 2049 - The Best Way To Thrive Is To help Others Survive - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from William CottringerThe Best Way To Thrive Is To help Others Survive By Bill Cottringer “We do not live to think, but, on the contrary, we think in order that we may succeed in surviving.” ~Jose Ortega y Gasset. The best way to thrive is to help others survive…but first you have to master surviving ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Success Built On Common Sense - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from William CottringerSuccess Built On Common Sense By Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something the way it is and doing something the way it should be done.” ~Mark Twain. Is it just my imagination or is common sense being bred out of the human gene pool entirely? Some ...
Views: 2037 - Resurrect Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from William CottringerResurrect Your Dreams By Bill Cottringer “Deep down, nobody is ever quite satisfied with the amount of their childhood dreams they have actually realized and we are all disappointed with the amount that slipped away.” ~The author. I consider myself having lived about half my early ...
Views: 2008(4 votes) - We are all Prisoners In The Vicious Circle Tit For Tat Bullying Tag Game - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2012 from William CottringerWe are all Prisoners In The Vicious Circle Tit For Tat Bullying Tag Game By Dr. Bill Cottringer, in association with Storm Door Productions. “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. Bullies Bullies come in all shapes and sizes— Countries, religions, girls ...
Views: 2002(2 votes) - IF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2015 from William CottringerIF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? BY Bill Cottringer “Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.” ~Benjamin Franklin. Here are the few important realities in life that have held to be true long enough to be the exception to this ...
Views: 1974 - Common Sense Time Management Learned The Hard Way - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from William CottringerCommon Sense Time Management Learned The Hard Way By Bill Cottringer “Time is the school in which we learn, time is the fire in which we burn. ~Delmore Schwartz. Today, given the tons and miles of information overload that the Internet and other technology has produced and the ...
Views: 1972 - A Better Relationship in a Week - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2010 from William CottringerA Better Relationship in a Week By Bill Cottringer No matter how good or bad your present relationship is it can always be better with minimal planning, effort, and cost. And in this economy that is a pretty good deal! Here is a very practical and easy way to have a better ...
Views: 1968(1 vote) - What Is The Moral of Your Story? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2014 from William CottringerWhat Is The Moral of Your Story? By Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. The answer to this intriguing title question ...
Views: 1964 - Top Ten Happiness Robbers - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from William CottringerTop Ten Happiness Robbers By Bill Cottringer “You can never make another person happy, only unhappy. ~The author. Are you happy enough with your happiness bank account balance? Knowing that a happiness bank account balance can never be high enough, here are a few bank robbers you ...
Views: 1950(4 votes) - An Irreconcilable Conflict? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2007 from William CottringerAN IRRECONCILABLE CONFLICT? By Bill Cottringer “There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. In his recent movie, Gone Baby Gone, Director Ben Affleck leaves his brother ...
Views: 1943 - Thinking Your Way to Success - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from William CottringerThinking Your Way to Success By Bill Cottringer “I want to know all God’s thoughts; all the rest are just details.” ~Albert Einstein. In today’s Information Age, quality thinking is the success currency of choice. Have you thought about the quality of your own thinking lately? I ...
Views: 1932 - Lessons From Early Team-Building - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from William CottringerLessons From Early Team-Building By Bill Cottringer “The ratio of We’s to I’s is the best indicator of the development of a team. ~Lewis B. Ergen. Effective team-building has always been known as essential to any success, whether we are talking about work teams, sports teams, ...
Views: 1927 - FIVE “HELPING” THINGS WE ALL WANT FOR OURSELVES AND NEED TO LEARN HOW TO GIVE TO OTHERS - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2009 from William CottringerFIVE “HELPING” THINGS WE ALL WANT FOR OURSELVES AND NEED TO LEARN HOW TO GIVE TO OTHERS By Bill Cottringer “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss I have been involved in the helping business on both ends of giving ...
Views: 1907(3 votes) - 25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from William Cottringer25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication By Bill Cottringer “The greatest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication is the main currency in the today’s Information Age, but sadly, miscommunication is our number one failing ...
Views: 1894 - CONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from William CottringerCONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR By Bill Cottringer “One of the biggest sources of frustration comes from trying to control the uncontrollables; on the other hand, great satisfaction comes from gradually learning to manage the controllables better.” ~The author. Control: To exercise ...
Views: 1891 - Slowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from William CottringerSlowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life By Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy, successful and have peace of mind; but rather to learn how to be happy doing the few things that will result in a sense of progress at having greater happiness, success and peace ...
Views: 1875(2 votes) - Resurrecting The Johari Window - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2008 from William Cottringer“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. This article is both a description of failing and a prescription of succeeding. Back in the early seventies two therapists ...
Views: 1870 - How Do You Navigate the Meadows and Mudfields of Self-Growth Advice? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2012 from William CottringerBy Bill Cottringer “Write to be understood, speak to be heard, read to grow.” ~Lawrence Clark Powell. Having been a reader and writer of the self-growth industry for over 5 decades now, I think I have something to say that needs saying. It all began with my serious reading and ...
Views: 1837 - 20 Writing Tips for Better Results - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from William Cottringer20 Writing Tips for Better Results By Bill Cottringer Excellent writing has never happened by chance. It takes open-mindedness and an insatiable drive to continually learn how to improve what you are trying to say and the hard work that goes along with that challenge. Excellent writing ...
Views: 1835 - Making Relationships Less Difficult - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from William CottringerMaking Relationships Less Difficult By Bill Cottringer “Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Anonymous. It is not easy to be successful at anything today because of the many obstacles that ...
Views: 1826(2 votes) - Life's Hardest Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from William CottringerLIFE”S HARDEST LESSON By Bill Cottringer. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” ~Rick Warren. A doctor and her patient were having a defining-moment discussion about life’s hardest lesson. “So tell me what it is, said the impatient patient to ...
Views: 1825 - Best Perspective For Success In Closing The Gap That Matters Most - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2013 from William CottringerBest Perspective For Success In Closing The Gap That Matters Most By Bill Cottringer Success is not— What you do, What you get, Or what you have; But what you attract, From being who you are. “Success is a certain sense of progress accumulated from making all the right little ...
Views: 1812 - Discussing Politics & Religion - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2016 from William CottringerDiscussing Politics & Religion By Bill Cottringer “Those who say religion has nothing to do with politics do not know what religion is.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. Just like the real reason for paying attention to the warnings of the Ten Commandments, being to help you avoid unnecessary pain, ...
Views: 1800 - 7 Locked Doors to Un-Doing Problem Behavior - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2012 from William Cottringer7 Locked Doors to Un-Doing Problem Behavior By Bill Cottringer “A man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way.” ~Mark Twain. For most of us, we spend half our lives trying to carry a cat by the tail and the other half trying to change the results ...
Views: 1797 - Don’t Let Your Ability Get In The Way Of Your Capability - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2012 from William CottringerDon’t Let Your Ability Get In The Way Of Your Capability By Bill Cottringer “You see things; and you say, 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say, 'Why not?'” ~ George Bernard Shaw. Is your current limited ability interfering with your desire and effort to explode into ...
Views: 1791 - Little Laws 4 BIG SUCCESS - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2013 from William CottringerLittle Laws 4 BIG SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are.” ~Anais Nin. A long time ago an MIT Math professor friend introduced me to a very intriguing engineering term called perturbation point. These are the few key stress points in a ...
Views: 1791(1 vote) - Are There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2015 from William CottringerAre There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? By Bill Cottringer After John Gray’s Book “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” came out decades ago, significant mental and emotional differences between the sexes explained many of the difficulties that caused ...
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