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- Letter about Trust - by For millions of years nature embedded in us the notion that the past can teach us a lot about the future. This is very useful for survival. And it is also mostly true with inanimate objects. With humans the story is somewhat different: it is reasonable to learn from someone's past behaviour ...
Views: 13908 - Eating Disorders and Personality Disorders (Part 2) - by To the patient suffering from both a personality disorder and an eating disorder BY FAR the most important element in his mental abnormalcy is his eating disorders. He is usually right in emphasizing their importance to him over the problems stemming from his personality disorders. They indicate ...
Views: 1069 - Eating Disorders and Personality Disorders (Part 1) - by Patients suffering from eating disorders either refrain from food intake or binge on food. Some of them are both Anorectic and Bulimic. Food binging is an impulsive behaviour. Impulsive behaviors - which cannot be controlled or restrained by the individual - also serve a DSM criterion in the ...
Views: 1203 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 2) - by In the previous part we discussed the healing prospects of a Narcissist. yet, how can a False Self be anything but false? How can anyone on a permanent diet of reflections ever see true objects? How can the Narcissist - whose essence is the devouring of meaningful others and their transformation ...
Views: 2739 - How to Avoid Vindictive People - by Narcissists are often vindictive and they often stalk and harass.
Basically, there are only two ways of coping with vindictive narcissists:
1. To Frighten Them
Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred. They firmly believe that everyone is like ...
Views: 25733(4 votes) - What Makes a Leader? - by How come a leader becomes a leader? In this article, we are not interested in the historical process but in the answer to the twin questions: what qualifies one to be a leader and why do people elect someone specific to be a leader. The immediately evident response would be that the leader ...
Views: 1205 - Parenting - The Irrational Vocation - by There are some grounds to assume that a cognitive dissonance is involved in feeling that children are more a satisfaction than a nuisance. Why do people bother with parenting? It is time consuming, exhausting, strains otherwise pleasurable and tranquil relationships to their limits. Still, ...
Views: 1133 - Born Aliens - by Neonates have no psychology. If operated upon, for instance, they are not supposed to show signs of trauma later on in life. Birth, according to this school of thought is of no psychological consequence to the newborn baby. It is immeasurably more important to his "primary caregiver" (mother) ...
Views: 1125 - The Myth of the Earnings Yield - by A very slim minority of firms distribute dividends. This truism has revolutionary implications. In the absence of dividends, the foundation of most - if not all - of the financial theories we employ in order to determine the value of shares, is falsified. These theories rely on a few implicit ...
Views: 1025 - Alice in Credit Card Land - by Your credit card is stolen. You place a phone call to the number provided in your tourist guide or in the local daily press. You provide your details and you cancel your card. You block it. In a few minutes, it should be transferred to the stop-list available to the authorization centres ...
Views: 1025 - The Fabric of Trust - by Economy is called the dismal science because it pretends to be one, disguising its uncertainties and shifting fashions with mathematical formulae. Economy describes the aggregate behaviour of humans and, in this restricted sense, it is a branch of psychology.
People operate within a ...
Views: 918 - Abusing the Market - by Even the most devout proponents of free marketry and hidden hand theories acknowledge the existence of market failures, market imperfections and inefficiencies in the allocation of economic resources. Some of these are the results of structural problems, others of an accumulation of historical ...
Views: 897 - Abusing the Market - by Even the most devout proponents of free marketry and hidden hand theories acknowledge the existence of market failures, market imperfections and inefficiencies in the allocation of economic resources. Some of these are the results of structural problems, others of an accumulation of historical ...
Views: 851 - Dividing the Loot - by “Even in modern times, in most cases husbands and wives differ in their potential for acquiring property. In separation of property, husbands and wives owning property and dealing with each other will be in the same position as unmarried adults. There are, however, grounds for distinguishing ...
Views: 1083 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 1) - by Many textbooks (and many patients ...) claim that the psychodynamic therapies when applied to personality disorders are ineffective. Functional (cognitive, behavioral) treatments should be preferred in certain cases and regarding certain aspects of the disorder.
To a Narcissist, I would ...
Views: 2103 - Beat the odds! - by Odds are that you, or someone you love, will be a victim of heart disease, It's sad but true. Statistics as reported by the American Heart Association are startling. 1 in 5 deaths are attributable to heart disease, and 1 out of every 2 people has a very high blood cholesterol.
The good news is ...
Views: 1007 - Manage by Mobilizing - by Are you depriving your employees of the opportunity to excel? Most organizations revolve around the manager as controller model but attempts to control people's behavior can cause resentment. As Peter Druker says, "A leader's job is to make people's strengths effective and their weaknesses ...
Views: 928 - THE TOP 10 STEPS TO GUILT-FREE LIVING - by Too many people live in a state of constant guilt. They feel guilty if they spend a cent on themselves. They feel guilty if they are not constantly at the beck and call of someone else. They feel guilty if anything goes wrong in the life of any of their loved ones, because, somehow, they should ...
Views: 771 - 10 Lies We Think are Love - by What is real love?
Real love is an energy that supports us in feeling good. When we feel genuine self-love and self-worth we experience ourselves as good enough and capable. There is a reverence and humility that accompanies this deep knowing that we are valuable just for being our unique ...
Views: 4910(5 votes) - Hypnosis for Childbirth: What Is It and Does It Work? - by Hypnosis for Childbirth: What Is It and Does It Work?
by Kerry Tuschhoff, HCHI
Mention Labor and Delivery to an expectant mom in her last trimester, and chances are good that her heart will begin to race, her mind floods with concern and in some cases, panic. She knows that the day is coming ...
Views: 1643 - What is Flow and How Do You Get Some? - by A good place to look for a definition of flow is in Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's book called Flow. He describes flow as "the way people describe their state of mind when consciousness is harmoniously ordered and they want to pursue whatever they are doing for its own sake." Flow is an optimal ...
Views: 1192 - Rebuilding Relationships with Your Family - by Tips for Gaining Back Trust and Intimacy with Parents and Family Members
Relationships with family members can be fraught with problems and complications. These are the people you can't easily run away from. Yet you might not always want to be around them either. We want to be close to our ...
Views: 10994 - The BEFORE 6 Weight loss Plan - by What is the difference between one weight loss plan and another? My answer is whether or not it works for you. I tried many weight loss plans before coming up with my own. I lost 50 pounds with little or no hunger while increasing my energy and mental acuity.
As I stuck with this plan for nine ...
Views: 879 - Introduction to Tae Kwon Do - by Accepting the challenge of running and coaching a Tae Kwon Do multicultural club in such a transient place as Brussels perhaps gives me more of an edge over instructors that reside in the UK for example, but I could be wrong, as dealing with people is always a challenge to one's own personal ...
Views: 2420 - Lifelong Learning - by How precious is life? Many of us don’t appreciate our life until it is threatened. We are bombarded with advice about our physical condition often at the expense of our mental state. The World Health Organisation once defined ‘Health’ as a ‘complete state of physical and mental well-being’. If ...
Views: 1164 - Write a Powerful Speech or Presentation - by (c) 2001 all rights in all media reserved
You've been asked to speak in public about yourself, your community, the national debt, world hunger. Terrific! You envision success resulting in more speaking gigs, but you experience panic resulting in a loss of words and ideas. Suddenly you're ...
Views: 1354 - Top 10 Excuses for Not Writing Your Nonfiction Book - by You've been thinking about writing a book. You know a book could generate money, enhance publicity, attract clients, propel your business or career to a higher level, perhaps land you on the speaking circuit.
But thinking is not doing. You need to put your fears and reasons for procrastination ...
Views: 1180 - Top Ten 10 Steps to Selecting the Perfect Name for Your Business - by How important is the name of your business? The very first impression of your business will be derived from its name. The name is the quintessential element in your identity and image. If your business' name is cumbersome, self-serving, too lengthy, or confusing, you cannot achieve recall in ...
Views: 1130 - Continuous Learning - by Throughout the developed world, we have moved from an era of manpower to an era of mind power. We have moved from the use of physical muscles to the use of mental muscles. Today the chief sources of value in our society are knowledge and the ability to apply that knowledge in a timely fashion. ...
Views: 1452 - Creative Problem-Solving - by Peter Drucker wrote some years ago that the definition of an executive is someone who is expected to get results. You are an executive to the degree to which results are expected of you. You don¡¯t have to have a staff or an office to be an executive. All you have to do is be a person in charge ...
Views: 1349 - Making the Grade ... Learning to pass life's tests with ease - by I abhorred tests in college. I always felt unprepared when I took them. However, when I got them back from my professors, I usually made an A. It was funny that I always felt like I lacked what it took to pass the test, yet I always had it. Much like life, it's not the task itself, but how you ...
Views: 1236 - Levels of Life... Creeping up the Ladder of Excellence - by Have you ever wondered why someone felt so distant or seemed so different than anyone else in a crowd? Have you ever wondered why you always seemed to struggle with some mundane task in your life while others seem to soar? If you answered yes to either of those questions, then you need to sit ...
Views: 1308 - Running in Panic Mode ... Slow down and focus to succeed! - by Sometimes we all end up in a situation that seems out of control. All we appear to do is run in circles, fixing things, and holding on to anything that we can. We try to "keep our options open" at all times to ensure that we have a way out. But, as we trudge through the muck and mire, we find ...
Views: 1078 - Time for Change ... When your basic systems no longer work for you - by I've heard many clients and friends discuss how they just can't seem to move beyond their current situations in life. They can't find a better job, make more money, find happiness in relationships, or find fulfillment. The question I usually ask is, "What is your idea of the perfect, fulfilling ...
Views: 1050 - Simplifying Your Existence ... In Search of the Good Life - by I hear many people distress about their need to simplify their lives and "move to the mountains." Their desire is to eliminate all of the things that cause them stress and move into a less hectic, and more gentle, lifestyle. They want the dream of solitude and calm with easy living. However, ...
Views: 1276 - Controllable Destiny ... Setting a Destination and Experiencing the Ride - by The many ideas of "living life" are the most indistinctly defined conundrums that a human being can ponder. Philosophy has its own definitions of life and living. Of course, so do religions, corporations, politicians, and every diverse group on the planet. Some of the looser definitions I hear ...
Views: 1339 - Natural Writing ... Using Your Verbal Style to Create Your Written Style - by When I first started writing, I sat down and worked on a small article for nearly a week. The problem was that I couldn't figure out how to squeeze my idea into the 1,500 word limit. I was lost, frustrated, and almost gave up. After some years of work, many rejections, and a lot of ...
Views: 1520 - And what do you do? ... How to know when you're a writer! - by It's the funniest thing. When someone asks me what I do for a living, I tell them, "I'm a writer." The standard response is, "No, really, what do you do?" Somehow, I always flounder in the conversation because I never expect that type of response.
--- So, how do you know you're a real writer? ...
Views: 984 - Changing Destinations ... Universal Detours for a Better Life - by I recently worked with several people who are in the lowest points in their lives. It seems that everywhere they turn and everything they do creates a new avalanche of loss. Some of these people were, at one time, wealthy individuals, but, because of changes around them, they suddenly lost ...
Views: 1551 - Balancing Act ... That's all life is! - by One of the most knowledgeable and intuitive ladies I know imparted upon me the ultimate knowledge of living a fulfilling life. As I awaited a long, heartfelt soliloquy, she took a small breath, pointed her finger and said, "balance." That was it. My only question was, "what?" She simply chuckled ...
Views: 1959 - Aim for the Future ... but don't get ulcers waiting for it to happen! - by It is always good to aim for a vision, to pursue a goal, and make your dreams come true. However, there's a difference between chasing your dreams and anticipating the outcome of the dreams. The main idea behind dreaming and pursuing your goals is to provide a sense of direction with positive ...
Views: 4084 - Getting Out of the Rut ... Initiating and Managing Change - by Have you ever accomplished something, then wondered where to go next? Or, perhaps you've accomplished something and just continued down that same path because it worked. Many people become stuck in this way because of the "security of sameness." You can get stuck from problems as well as ...
Views: 3477 - Depression Lived - by Today I sit at my computer desperately fishig for input of hope and inspiration, and practical ideas to further battle this "Thorn in My Side" called depression.
I read some very good articles written my people who, to my surprise, were and are going through the same feelings I am and want to ...
Views: 1006 - The Slim-Me Weight Control Program - by The Fundamentals of Weight Control
Do you ever wonder why it is so difficult to lose weight? You count calories, measure food, eat smaller portions, and you end up gaining weight instead of losing it. Don't get discouraged. You're just another victim of dieting! Almost everybody has experienced ...
Views: 2056 - Mind /body fitness - by Chapter 1 Traditional Mind/body
1.1 Being Attentive Reduces Stress
Most Americans do not take the debilitating effects of stress seriously. You know that it is important to quit smoking and exercise, but do you take the time to regularly relax? When you finally take the time to relax, do you ...
Views: 2953(2 votes) - Is cheap cigarette the cause of flight attendant’s sinus? - by Cheap cigarettes
Here’s an unbelievable, but true news story making the rounds of websites on cigarette. Ever wonder what causes sinus? An American Airlines flight attendant thinks it is secondhand tobacco smoke.
Cheap Cigarettes and common cold
Secondhand cheap cigarette smoke! Geez, be ...
Views: 1415 - Facts about tobacco - by Tobacco used to make cigarettes is a tall, leafy annual plant, originally grown in South and Central America, but now cultivated throughout the world, including southern Ontario. There are many species of tobacco; Nicotiana tabacum (or common tobacco) is used to produce cigarettes.
Nicotine, a ...
Views: 873 - FORGIVENESS - by Listening to a talk show recently I sympathized with a reformed hijacker, who, having been caught and sentenced, served his time, was granted parole and has now seen “the errors of his way? To atone for this terrible deed he has gone to see the victim, asked for his forgiveness, hugged and ...
Views: 965 - A Lesson to Myself - by All around me people are forging ahead with life, working marrying, having children - their children marrying, having children ..........
"Are there lessons to be learned? Are there tangible rewards?"
I don’t have the answers but I do know I’m not where I want to be, not a chance! By now,I ...
Views: 1131 - Is Your Relationship A 10? - by Do you and your partner in business or at home have the same arguments over and over? Do you wish they’d just pay attention at least once in a while? Why do you have to keep getting yelled at or keep yelling at them over the same things again and again? Why can’t they just understand you? ...
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