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- "Life is Meant to Be Enjoyed, Not Endured" - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Michael Mantell“Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must,” counseled Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. But what’s with the “must”, JW? When “must” we “endure”? By the time you finish this column, you’ll realize you don’t need to ever endure life, but rather you can find enjoyment in every moment of it—even ...
Views: 3204(2 votes) - Get All FFF'd Up to BE Fit - by Submitted on May 22, 2015 from Michael MantellOK, before you go all holier than thou critical, or laugh so hard you can’t pay attention to this content of this article, here’s what being “All FFF’d Up” means when it comes to the secret sauce of being fit. It means if you are going to stick to a fitness program, you need to have Fun, include ...
Views: 2805(1 vote) - Self-Compassion: Survival, Not Selfish - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2016 from Michael MantellEver travel with children or those needing assistance? Then you are quite familiar with the instructions flight attendants give passengers to put the mask on yourself first before helping others. Makes sense right? Perhaps Lama Yeshe said it best, “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to ...
Views: 2688(1 vote) - Are You Really Sorry? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2014 from Michael MantellHow many times have you heard someone say something truly judgmental, obnoxious, hurtful, sarcastic or otherwise inappropriate only to be followed by a “Oh, I was only kidding.” There may also be a, “C’mon can’t you take a joke?” “I didn’t mean it.” Here’s a simple fact: They weren’t ...
Views: 2193(2 votes) - The Four Links to Positivity - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Michael MantellThe self-help blogs and media are filled with useful information about positive psychology, becoming your best self, leading the good life, and the value and benefits of being optimistic, positive and hopeful. It’s next to impossible--from more than 3000 years of Judaism’s wisdom on happiness to ...
Views: 2019 - WILLpower or DOpower? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Michael MantellOf course that’s a provocative title. After all, we live in America where we have become anesthetized into believing that we must be ever so careful to avoid holding anyone accountable, answerable or responsible. Rather we prefer to blame a lack of self-esteem, a “bad” childhood, traumatic ...
Views: 1909 - Michael Mantell: How to Realize the Success in Your Head - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2016 from Michael MantellDr. Michael Mantell often quotes George Lucas' famous observation, “You can’t do it unless you imagine it.” This applies to elite amateur and professional athletes, CEO’s, high school seniors applying to college, couples on dates, and me writing this article. In fact, it’s a universal inborn ...
Views: 1906(1 vote) - Is Your Navigation System Taking You To All of the Right Places? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Michael MantellA client recently bought an expensive new car. He hasn't been the same since. He's been ranting about how expensive it is, how he shouldn't have spent so much, and on and on. I asked him about what type of options he put into it and he angrily spewed, "A - - - king navi system." A navigation ...
Views: 1897 - There Is No Such Thing as Stress - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Michael MantellThere is no such thing as stress. Got that? Good. Then why are you wasting so much of your time with “stress management” programs, lectures, coaches, books, articles and websites? Could it be because you really don’t believe that there’s no such thing as stress? Oh, I know it’s a cottage ...
Views: 1831 - Fat. Seriously? The Antidote to Fat Shaming - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Michael MantellUnattractive, stupid, lazy, lacking self-control…is that what you not-so-secretly think of the nearly 70% of adults with “overbesity,” that is, those affected by overweight or obesity? If so, read on. You may be a fat shaming bully and not even know it. I was working out in the gym yesterday, ...
Views: 1740 - Don't Sweat the Small Stuff PS It's All Small Stuff: The Story - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2014 from Michael MantellIn 1988 when I wrote “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: PS It’s All Small Stuff,” little did I know that a number of years later my book would go into three printings, have an audio version, be celebrated and awarded wonderful titles like “Good Morning America’s” "Hot Pick" and “Publishers Weekly ...
Views: 1736(2 votes) - Michael Mantell: Heard Any Good Negative Predictions Lately? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2016 from Michael MantellNo, of course you haven’t heard any good negative predictions lately. That’s because there aren’t any good negative predictions. There are only negative negative predictions. That’s because there’s nothing good about a negative prediction! Negative predictions can only be ...
Views: 1693 - How to Deal with the 3 Worst Co-workers and Gym Pals - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2015 from Michael MantellWhen I go to the gym to workout, I want to untie the knots and jelly beans in my back and shoulders, unhook from the day’s residue of stress, release my brain’s “feel good” chemicals and build all-over body muscle power. I don’t want to deal with difficult people. Do you? When you go to work, ...
Views: 1616 - Charism: It's Easier Than You Think - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Michael MantellGeorge Eliot noted, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” If who you might have been is someone with more charisma, it’s definitely not too late to learn how to be just that. There you are at the podium, presentation in hand but you’ve got one problem. Your hands are ...
Views: 1602 - Michael Mantell's Answer to the Negative Workplace - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2016 from Michael MantellDr. Michael Mantell brings decades of experience in turning the most challenging workplaces around, often in partnership with leading human resource professionals. In this column, he describes the causes of negativity, the consequences of negativity and how to turn negativity into positivity and ...
Views: 1576 - Michael Mantell's 5 Steps to Better Self-Esteem. - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2016 from Michael Mantell"Dr. Mantell, what is it that keeps me back from reaching my goals in life?" I"m often asked about what is the single most impacting block to success. I ask in return, "What do you think of yourself?" No, not what do you think others think about you? But what do you think about you? Your ...
Views: 1560 - Do You Have an Angry Workplace? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2014 from Michael MantellWe’ve all heard about road rage. But, have you heard about the latest area for people to dump their anger? Desk rage. Well, maybe it’s not really the latest. I wrote a book about violence in the workplace in 1994, “Ticking Bombs: Defusing Violence in the Workplace”. Same disease, now a new ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - To Develop Gratitude Be a Thermostat Not a Thermometer - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Michael MantellHere’s the wisest elixir of happiness—gratitude. That’s right, gratitude will fill your storehouse of happiness. What’s this have to do with health and fitness? Plenty. You see the study of positive psychology, specifically the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky in her book, “The How of Happiness,” ...
Views: 1498 - How to Lose at Tennis...and at Life - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2014 from Michael MantellFor those of you who know me, you know that I’ve been a devoted tennis player. That is, until I injured myself and turned to other forms of exercise and activity. I didn’t say I was a “good” tennis player. I said I was a “devoted” tennis player. At least two, and more likely three or more times ...
Views: 1475 - Get Ripped, Stripped...and Gypped - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2015 from Michael MantellYou’ve read the screaming, deceitful, headlines about getting ripped abs. “6 Ways to Get Ripped 6-Pack Abs!” “How to Get Ripped Abs in Just One Month,” “Do This One Thing to Get Six-Pack Ripped Abs,” “Scientists in China have discovered a revolutionary shortcut to six pack abs” and so on. ...
Views: 1465(2 votes) - Michael Mantell: How Your Head Ruins Your Health - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2016 from Michael MantellWhen it comes to your health, self-care, relationships, your happiness and wellbeing, there’s only one thing that drives it all – yes, the link is what you think. Try to imagine an emotion – happiness, sadness, worry, calm, fear, anger, love – without a thought first creating it. It can’t be ...
Views: 1465(1 vote) - F.A.M.I.L.Y.: Father and Mother I Love You - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2015 from Michael MantellA recent Pew Research Center study of modern parenthood found that more than half of parents say they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life. Dad are doing more housework and more moms are being are being paid for working out of the home. And the public is conflicted ...
Views: 1462 - Are You on The Most Important "Best Of" List This Year? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2014 from Michael MantellThere is an African-American proverb that says, “God makes three requests of His children: Do the best you can, where you are, with what you have, now.” It’s that time of the year again, when the “Best of_____” lists begin to appear. You know these lists. They include everything from the best ...
Views: 1461 - F.A.M.I.L.Y.: Father and Mother I Love You - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2015 from Michael MantellA recent Pew Research Center study of modern parenthood found that more than half of parents say they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life. Dad are doing more housework and more moms are being are being paid for working out of the home. And the public is conflicted ...
Views: 1446 - Michael Mantell Wonders: Does Anyone Blush Anymore? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2016 from Michael MantellWhen Dr. Michael Mantell began a recent speeck quoting President John F. Kennedy who said, “So let us begin anew—remembering on both sides that civility is not a sign of weakness and sincerity is always subject to proof" little did he realize he'd touch the life of a mom in the audience. "Dr. ...
Views: 1446(1 vote) - How to Spot "Sigh-ence" Headlines - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2016 from Michael MantellIf you are like most folks who read websites, magazines, and newspapers today, you may be totally confused by the sensational headlines that deal with wellbeing, health, obesity, exercise, nutrition, stress and a whole host of other related topics. It seems that on Monday, obesity is caused by ...
Views: 1427 - Michael Mantell's Exercise For The 14 Muscles for Joy - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Michael MantellDr. Michael Mantell coaches people to stir their healing power in the medicine of laughter and play. Living with stress, feeling uptight, being worried, not sleeping, and thinking limiting thoughts, kill the joy in your life—as well as your health and wellbeing. One of the best anti-stress ...
Views: 1423(1 vote) - F.A.M.I.L.Y.: Father and Mother I Love You - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2015 from Michael MantellA recent Pew Research Center study of modern parenthood found that more than half of parents say they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life. Dad are doing more housework and more moms are being are being paid for working out of the home. And the public is conflicted ...
Views: 1418 - The WAY to Life's Success - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Michael MantellA few weeks ago, I wrote a column about my WAM program for personal success, what about me? I wrote about three steps to “me,” self-compassion, including 1) welcoming yourself as a friend, 2) Acknowledging your strengths and successes, and recognizing that, 3) Mindfulness promotes it all. ...
Views: 1417(1 vote) - Remember Civility in America? - by Submitted on May 31, 2016 from Michael MantellMiley Cyrus who believes Donald Trump is a “F—king nightmare,” has said she’d “move out da country” if Trump wins. But wait there’s more. Far more. And in an age of positive psychology, meditation, gratitude journaling, “Namasta-ing” each other, and of course the multitude of mindfulness ...
Views: 1414(1 vote) - Michael Mantell's M.I.N.D. Workout - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2016 from Michael MantellMental mastery, whether it’s for a business meeting, a physical workout, academic success or mindful meditation, requires that you fully engage your mind. We’ve learned through years of research that our brains are capable of continued growth throughout our lives, especially when we are engaged ...
Views: 1402 - Michael Mantell's 10 Rules for Living Well - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2016 from Michael Mantell"Come on, Dr. Mantell, you've practiced psychotherapy for more than 40 years, have been a transformational leadership coach and mentor. You must have some rules to live well that you'd be willing to share." Of course I do, and I'm happy to do so, But first, a question for you. When it comes ...
Views: 1399 - Mushrooming Mind-Blowing Millennial Momentum…Ready to Manage It? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Michael MantellAre you among the 80 million Americans born between approximately 1982 and 2001? Look around. Have you noticed that you make up about a third of your workplace? The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics has noticed and they say that what’s more, in just five more years, you presence will jump to 46% ...
Views: 1386 - My Fascination with Inspiration and Motivation: The Best Gift You Can Give - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Michael MantellIt all began when I was studying psychology in college in the 1960’s. That’s not as far back as you think. Just think of Abraham Maslow writing his paper in 1943 on what he called the “Hierarchy of Needs.” Both he and his pyramid have been revered for more than 70 years. I’m pediatrics ...
Views: 1386 - So You Want To Coach Millennials? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Michael MantellThere s/he sits in front of you or more likely in a text message, that “follow your dreams,” optimistic, confident, tolerant, ethnically diverse, born somewhere between 1976 and 2004, and from the most marketed to and most nearly technologically addicted, socially-networked generation in ...
Views: 1386 - Couples Who Sweat Together Stick Together - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Michael MantellWant to get active and healthy while also improving your romantic life? That’s right. The two go hand in hand. If you are concerned about your spouse’s/partner’s health, his/her weight or activity level, here’s a method for you to be a good role model for health, have some healthy fun with each ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - Michael Mantell's "Faggedabowdit" Tool: The Secret Sauce of Mental Wellness & Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Michael MantellRighteous indignation. Proving your point. Being right. Holding On. Never letting go. Beating a dead horse. Having to win. Always coming out on top. Having to have the last word. Sound familiar? Then this column is surely for you. I believe that peace is the single greatest good. Peace. You ...
Views: 1382(1 vote) - Millennials, Leadership and the Bottom Line - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Michael MantellHere is a novel idea if you are a tough boss. Get fair. Fast. That is, if you want to hold on to your employees, especially millennials. Whether your realize it or not, employees expect the American workplace to be a kinder, gentler place in which to work. So tough guy or tough gal, get ...
Views: 1382 - How a NAME Will Improve Your Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Michael MantellSo you want to improve the way you and your spouse, partner, co-worker or friends at the gym communicate? There probably isn’t anyone anywhere that believes there isn’t room to improve in this most fundamental skill of life. If you disagree, at least do it agreeably ☺. The very structure of, ...
Views: 1377 - Dr. Michael Mantell Joins With The United Nations in Promoting Happiness - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2016 from Michael MantellYes, I'm the same Michael Mantell who promotes “the link is what you think” and who believes, OK, thinks, that every emotion we ever have, ever, is first conceived and then anchored in the way we think. It's ALL in your head. Simply put, you not only won’t - but actually can’t- ever have an ...
Views: 1371(2 votes) - Dr. Michael Mantell Says, "Life's A Game: Play It" - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2016 from Michael MantellMichael Mantell, Ph.D. is convinced that if there was a drug that offered all of the benefits that play does, it’d be the biggest seller on the planet. But who needs to buy a pill when play is free, available 24 hours a day, and no is ever prescription needed? Plato did prescribe, “Life must ...
Views: 1368 - Michael Mantell on Beach Body Madness in March - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2016 from Michael MantellIt’s that time of the year. It all starts popping up in the – often nonsense – media stirring headlines in late March, early April. “Get Flat Abs in 5 Minutes.” Yeah, right. “Get Your Beach Body Now!” Dream on. If you type “bikini body” or “beach body” into your Google search engine, you will ...
Views: 1350 - Michael Mantell's One Thought That Blocks Your Authenticity - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2016 from Michael Mantell“Dr. Mantell, it seems that ‘being authentic’ is the hottest topic in self-improvement. Is that true?” If 119,000,000 hits on Google means something is hot, then yes, authenticity - in our age of inauthenticity - is hot. Just what does being authentic mean? Where does this originate? ...
Views: 1348(1 vote) - Eat My "Can't" and Succeed, Feed Your "Can't" and Recede - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2014 from Michael Mantell“Why can’t things ever go right, just once in my life?” “I’m such a ________.” “I’ll never be as good as ___________.” “Why do things never go my way?” “Why can’t I ever succeed, just once?” Sound familiar? Perhaps you’ve tried behavior and habit change methods to help you overcome these ...
Views: 1333 - Defeat-Proof Your Mind - by Submitted on May 05, 2015 from Michael MantellIt took quite awhile to earn that degree, to go on for graduate studies, to land that impressive job. And somehow, it’s still leaving you with thoughts of defeat, of fear and worry. Or perhaps that degree and job hasn’t happened for you, it’s not where you put your skills to work. Perhaps ...
Views: 1309(2 votes) - What to Ask If You Meet Your True Love in 2015 - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Michael MantellWith all of the resolutions, intentions, goals and wishes you’ve considered for the new year, 2015, if one of them is to finally meet your true love, your “soulmate,” the person of your dreams, then be sure you take some notes on this article. You may just need them if walking down the aisle ...
Views: 1307 - Michael Mantell's Food Craving Antidotes - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Michael MantellBetween L’Espalier in Boston Le Cirque, Eleven Madison Park and Bouley in NY, Restaurant August in New Orleans, Mélisse in LA, and Lulu in Palm Srings – I admit I’m having major food “cravings” just thinking about them as I write this article. These are the best in their respective cities in our ...
Views: 1303 - The Most Harmful Word in Your Vocabulary - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2015 from Michael MantellSure, you may be thinking that word might be “hate,” “poverty,” “illness,” or “death.” No, these words are mild compared to the life-sucking, contentment-robbing, depression-boosting, anxiety-causing and anger-building word I’m thinking of. That word is “should.” In the wonderful words of my ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - F.A.M.I.L.Y.: Father and Mother I Love You - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2015 from Michael MantellA recent Pew Research Center study of modern parenthood found that more than half of parents say they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life. Dad are doing more housework and more moms are being are being paid for working out of the home. And the public is conflicted ...
Views: 1298 - Catching Your Eye is One Thing, Catching Your Heart is Another - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2015 from Michael MantellValentine’s Day may well have started as the Roman version of “match.com.” Young single men and women placed their names in a box, names were drawn randomly and couples were put together as partners for a year. After that it was up to them. Robert Browning pointed to the essence of the ...
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