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- Be a Better Parents in 2011 - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2011 from Toni SchuttaThe most popular New Year’s resolutions are to lose weight, exercise more, become better organized, get out of debt and quit smoking. Seldom, if ever, will you find someone saying, “I want to be a better parent” or “I want our family to be happier” this year. Wouldn’t that be a good goal to ...
Views: 1471 - 11 Tips for Back-to-School Success! - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Toni SchuttaMany parents dread the end of summer. Kids are reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and the homework that school brings. Many parents are also reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and homework! Whether your child is ...
Views: 2865(6 votes) - *** Why is My Child Misbehaving? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaI know that as parents we’ve all wondered, “Why the heck is she behaving this way?” Or “Why on earth can’t he just behave?” I’d like to offer you some ideas today about common causes of a child’s misbehavior. I’ll also offer some pointers on how to address the misbehavior if you get a gut ...
Views: 4419(3 votes) - *** What’s Up With Your 8-11-Year-Old? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaIf you’re the parent of an 8-to-11-year-old, perhaps you’ve noticed a surge in back talk, defiance and sensitivity. Simple requests may be met with intense outbursts. You may be asking, whatever happened to my amiable child who liked pleasing me? If so, you’re not alone! And your child is not ...
Views: 11877(4 votes) - *** Steps Parents Need to Take to Prevent Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaHave you taught your child about “good touch/bad touch”? That’s a good place to start, but not enough to protect your child from possible sexual abuse, according to Libby Bergman, executive director of the Center for Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment. “Children need to know the difference ...
Views: 2237(2 votes) - *** Start the School Year Out Right with These Homework Tips - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaKids these days have twice the amount of homework that we did. And when your kids have homework, you have homework, too. I’d like to take this opportunity to share tips from Irene Gutmann, an academic coach who works with teens and college students on achieving academic success. Also, I’d like ...
Views: 1447(2 votes) - *** Seven Steps for Holding Kids Accountable - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaThe biggest change in kids, according to a teacher of 27 years, is that kids these days don’t take responsibility for their actions. Kids are quick to blame others and make excuses for mistakes rather than saying, “I messed up.” Unfortunately, parents are quick to provide excuses for their ...
Views: 6381(2 votes) - Save Money With Your Kids - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaCutting back on expenses? Most families are. Asking children to share the burden of spending less is a reasonable choice to make. If you’ve lost your job and huge cuts need to be made, it’s reasonable to explain to children that the family will be making major cutbacks. The key is to ...
Views: 2143(3 votes) - Reclaim Your Couple Time! - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaIf you’re like most parents you devote yourself to your children, work long hours, take care of all of life’s demands and let your relationship with your loved one drop to the bottom of the heap. You may believe that since your loved one isn’t demanding your attention like the children do ...
Views: 1559(3 votes) - Reasons NOT to Over Schedule Your Child this Summer - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni Schutta(Take the “Is Your Child Overscheduled?” quiz here: http://www.familiesfirstcoaching.com/pdf/IsYourChildOverscheduledAssessment.pdf Are you busy scheduling summer camps and activities for your child? There are a plethora of great options to choose from. A word of caution, however. Make sure ...
Views: 2636(4 votes) - Raising a Child With a Positive Body Image - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaMany of us hate our bodies. We shun swim suits. We are quick to find fault. Some of us are even self-loathing. The question is do you want your child to grow up with these insecurities, too? If not, what can we do as parents to help our child grow up feeling good about his/her body? And what can ...
Views: 1195(3 votes) - Make Your Family Stronger with These 5 New Year's Resolutions - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Toni SchuttaMany of us make New Year’s resolutions every year. We set goals for exercising, loosing weight, staying organized. But how many of us take the time to size up our family? Are you conscious of how your time is spent together? How many meals are you eating together as a family? How much time ...
Views: 1057(2 votes) - *** Limiting Presents for an Extra Special Holiday Season - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaLet’s turn this holiday season upside down. Let’s shift the focus to giving rather than receiving. Let’s spend more time with our kids rather than spending time being frenzied in stores. Let’s help our children develop the gift of generosity. With the country facing difficult economic times ...
Views: 856(1 vote) - *** Is Praise Harmful to Your Child? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaCan your well-intended words of praise actually be harming your child? The answer to that is “yes” and “no” depending on what words you choose, how sincere you are and how old your child is. Complicated? Yes, it is. One of the researchers that I like best is Carol Dweck. Dweck has spent ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - *** Helping Your Child with September Transitions - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaTransitions happen every day in your child’s world and September, like no other month, is a time of transitions for your child. Starting a new grade. Getting a new teacher. Learning new classroom rules. Adding more homework. No matter what the transition, you can expect an added level of stress ...
Views: 932(1 vote) - *** Does Your Child Have EQ? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaEQ?! What’s EQ? EQ is short for emotional intelligence and the latest research is showing that your child’s EQ is more important than their IQ for success later in life. In short, emotional intelligence takes into account how your child relates to others, how adept they are at expressing ...
Views: 918(11 votes) - *** Care to Tame the TV Monster? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaConsider that the average American child watches four hours of television a day. By one estimate, when U.S. children finish high school, they've spent nearly twice as many hours in front of TV sets as they have in the classroom. (Jane Brody, New York Times News) Have you ever tallied the ...
Views: 873(3 votes) - *** Breakfast Tips for School Success - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaYou really want your child to have a great school year. You’ve bought the right school supplies, new outfits and a back pack. The transportation plan is in place. Your child has met his/her teachers. Now it’s time to buckle down and give your child the boost s/he really needs to be successful ...
Views: 1130(1 vote) - *** Are You Too Child-Centered? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaThirty or 40 years ago parenting in an authoritative manner i.e. “Do it because I said so and I’m the parent” was the cultural norm. “Children should be seen and not heard” was a mantra that many of our parents used. We weren’t asked about what we wanted for dinner, we weren’t offered choices, ...
Views: 1119(1 vote) - *** Are You a Discipline Wimp? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaYour child wants ice cream at bedtime. You say “No” but your child persists, whining and bugging you until you finally give in to stop the incessant whining. Your child wants to play with a friend, but you’ve said “No friends until your book report is done.” A friend calls to ask your child ...
Views: 1131(1 vote) - *** 28 Ways to Deepen the Bond with Your Child - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaLike any good relationship, the relationship with your child can benefit from thoughtful gestures that help your child feel special and deeply loved. It's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day responsibilities of parenting that we sometimes forget to add touches of love that can deepen ...
Views: 1052(1 vote) - *** 11 Tips for Back-to-School Success! - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Toni SchuttaAlmost all of us dread the end of summer. Kids are reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and the homework that school brings. And many parents are also reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and homework! Whether your ...
Views: 1091(6 votes) - *** Surprising Secrets to a Successful Summer - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Toni SchuttaYou’re probably busy planning every detail so your kids can have a memorable summer packed with vacations, summer camps, sports activities and more. As you finish your planning, be sure to allow time for three surprising activities that are research-proven to help your child’s emotional, ...
Views: 1071(1 vote) - *** Tips on Curbing Tattling - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Toni Schutta“He did it.” “She looked at me!” “He stole my iPod.” For parents, it can be really tough to know how to handle tattling. Do you ignore it? Do you let them duke it out? Do you plug in your own iPod and drown it out? Here are a few options for you to try and see what works for you. Option ...
Views: 1150 - *** Tips on Curbing Tattling - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Toni Schutta“He did it.” “She looked at me!” “He stole my iPod.” For parents, it can be really tough to know how to handle tattling. Do you ignore it? Do you let them duke it out? Do you plug in your own iPod and drown it out? Here are a few options for you to try and see what works for you. Option #1: ...
Views: 1717(1 vote) - *** Are You Too Child-Centered? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaThirty or 40 years ago parenting in an authoritative manner i.e. "Do it because I said so and I'm the parent" was the cultural norm. "Children should be seen and not heard" was a mantra that many of our parents used. We weren't asked about what we wanted for dinner, we weren't offered choices, ...
Views: 999 - *** Best Tips for Reducing Whining - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaHow many times have you heard “It’s not fair!” and responded, “Well, life’s not fair, get over it!” Probably more times than you’d like to count! Or perhaps your child wants to do everything her friend gets to do and says to you “Emily gets to do it, why can’t I?” When talking with your ...
Views: 1095 - *** Are You an Empathic Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaIf your child walks in the door with her shoulders drooping and her face forlorn do you say something like “You look sad. Come in and tell me what happened.” Or if your child is stomping around do you say “You seem upset. Your feelings are important to me. Let’s talk.” Or do you tell your child ...
Views: 967 - *** Keeping Attachment Strong - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaA friend shared a wonderful story recently in a seminar on "Smart Parenting." She said that ever since her children were little, she's set aside special one-on-one time with each of her children. She made a commitment to do this once a week and put it on the calendar. As her children became ...
Views: 1037 - *** Firm Up Your Discipline with This Helpful Tool! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaWhy is it so hard for parents to be consistent when disciplining their children? Many factors come into play. How tired are you?! How persistent is your child? How were you disciplined? What kind of parenting style do you have? Does the other parent agree with you on discipline methods and ...
Views: 971 - *** What to Do Dbout Lying - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaA new survey shows that the average adult tells four lies a day, or 1,460 lies a year. Is it any wonder that our children tell fibs, too? Yet chances are when your child tells a whopper, it makes you mad. Why do kids lie? Kids lie for lots of reasons. One of the biggest reasons is to avoid ...
Views: 1471(2 votes) - *** Stop Annoying Back Talk Now! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Toni SchuttaLet’s say you ask your child to do a simple task like feed the dog. The next thing you know, you hear “Why do I always have to feed the dog?” Or maybe you hear sarcasm and a smart-alecky tone of voice while your child says, “You don’t really expect me to do that?” Makes you long for the days ...
Views: 1058 - 10 Tips For Back-to-School Success! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from Toni SchuttaAlmost all of us dread the end of summer. Kids are reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and the homework that school brings. And many parents are also reluctant to get back into the routine of early mornings, structured days and homework! Whether your child ...
Views: 848(1 vote) - What to do About Lying - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from Toni SchuttaA new survey shows that the average adult tells four lies a day, or 1,460 lies a year. Is it any wonder that our children tell fibs, too? Yet chances are when your child tells a whopper, it makes you mad. Why do kids lie? Kids lie for lots of reasons. One of the biggest reasons is to ...
Views: 860 - Firm Up Your Discipline With This Helpful Tool! - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2008 from Toni SchuttaWhy is it so hard for parents to be consistent when disciplining children? Many factors come into play. How tired are you?! How persistent is your child? How were you disciplined? What kind of parenting style do you have? Does the other parent agree with you on discipline methods and ...
Views: 768 - Stop Annoying Back Talk Now! - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2008 from Toni SchuttaLet’s say you ask your child to do a simple task like feed the dog. The next thing you know, you hear “Why do I always have to feed the dog?” Or maybe you hear sarcasm and a smart-alecky tone of voice while your child says, “You don’t really expect me to do that?” Makes you long for the days ...
Views: 775 - Managing Your Child’s Anger: Triggers And Solutions For Coping - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2008 from Toni SchuttaHas your child thrown a tantrum lately, thrown toys across the room or hit a sibling? Odds are that s/he has! Children’s anger can be exacerbating for parents. After all, many adults still struggle with healthy expression of anger, so dealing with a child’s anger can be doubly ...
Views: 2030 - Parents:Want Compliance? Nine Ways to Tackle Defiance! - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2007 from Toni Schutta“No!” “I don’t want to!” “You can’t make me!” Dealing with a defiant child can be exasperating! Children who are defiant will readily enter a power struggle and wear a parent down. The key is not to enter the power struggle with an oppositional child. Listed below are nine options you can ...
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