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- Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2005 from Margaret PaulTakers and caretakers – they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter. Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic – that is, they are ...
Views: 3391(1 vote) - Power Struggles - Being Right or Being Loving - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2005 from Margaret PaulMandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other. I ask Mandy and Evan to come ...
Views: 2911(1 vote) - The Powerful Secret to A Loving Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2005 from Margaret PaulThere are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and ...
Views: 2904(1 vote) - Can This Relationship Be Helped? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2005 from Margaret PaulI have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What ...
Views: 2549(1 vote) - Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2005 from Margaret PaulEmotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of ...
Views: 2623 - Addiction to Perfection - by Submitted on May 03, 2005 from Margaret PaulThe following email was sent to me by Karen, a member of our website: “For no obvious reason this morning, I was feeling anxious and depressed. I looked at it and realized that the false belief creating all this was that I have to be perfect in order for me to allow myself to feel happiness. ...
Views: 2343 - Why Do People Lie? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2005 from Margaret PaulAmanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset. “I just found out that Ron’s been ...
Views: 4035(1 vote) - Caretaking Parents, Entitled Kids - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulDemanding children – children who have entitlement issues – seem to be common these days. Like the obnoxious child, Veruca Salt in Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory, who was constantly demanding that her father get her whatever she wanted (“I want an Umpa Lumpa! Get it for me NOW!”), we hear ...
Views: 2690(5 votes) - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 24992(6 votes) - Ending Relationships Gracefully - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2005 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
Views: 2392(1 vote) - Two Choices That can Make Next Year The Best Year of Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2004 from Margaret PaulWhat if there were just two choices you could make to insure that next year would be wonderful? There actually are, and these choices are quite simple in concept, yet not easy to do. They are not things you do on the outside, such as exercising your body (which is always a good thing to do!) but ...
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