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- How to Find Love and Happiness at Home Depot - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe recession is making many of us do-it-your-selfers. Happily, this self-reliance is taking the stress out of finding a mate. Forget speed dating! Men and women are meeting at Home Depot or other home improvement centers and ultimately marrying – a few couples have even held wedding ceremonies ...
Views: 614(1 vote) - How To Get A Job: 10 Tips To Ace The Interview - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYou have jumped through all the enormous hurdles to land an interview: Bravo! If you aren't having luck with landing interviews, please go back and look at my three previous posts.* They will give you tools to get focused, burn your one page resume and create a PPP resume, and network so that ...
Views: 628(2 votes) - How to Get a Job: Burn Your Resume! - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy Cat Fight On TV I got in a fight. Live. On TV. It wasn't Jerry Springer. As an executive coach, I was asked for advice on Morning News at 9 on KTLA TV here in Los Angeles. Why the fight? I asked viewers to stop being victims. "Play the solution game. Come up with three solutions ...
Views: 755(1 vote) - How to Harness Your Bounce: 9 Steps to Avoid the Tigger-Method of Finding Your Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe following article was first published on The Positivity Blog on December 29, 2008. I used to be very Tigger-like. I’d get a new idea in my head and it would be the answer to all my ills and BOING! off I’d bounce – until I realized that I really didn’t like the idea at all. So, I’d get a ...
Views: 589(1 vote) - How To Improve Marriage And Slow Down Life At The Same Time - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEverywhere you look, things are moving at a fast pace. Hurry up is a common phrase. When I want something, I want it right now. “What? You mean I have to wait 45 seconds for the book I just bought to download? Where’d I put the number for my Internet provider, I need a faster connection!” The ...
Views: 1026(2 votes) - How to Live Longer: What You Can Learn From... Orchestra Conductors? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt's true. Orchestra conductors live longer than almost any other group of people by three to seven years. Many great conductors have even led major orchestras into their nineties. There are a number of theories about this... Some contend that the cardiovascular exercise from repetitive ...
Views: 1227(1 vote) - How To Magnetise Good Health To Yourself - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Intent.com Authors'A large portion of our physical ailments result from unused lung cells, and consequent imperfect circulation of the blood. Fill the lungs full--every cell--with fresh air, two or three times daily, and do not over-load the digestive organs, and sickness will fly away to the dark regions where ...
Views: 751(1 vote) - How to Make an AFFIRMATION CONTAINER (and change your life)! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAn affirmation is a form of auto-suggestion a.k.a. self-hypnosis, in which a statement is made about the future in the present tense, as if it had already happened in the past. Yes, that's right. Repeat, please ... An affirmation is a statement about the future, made in the present, as if it ...
Views: 640(2 votes) - How to Make Your Child Feel at Home in the Universe - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children: One of these is roots, the other, wings.” – Hodding Carter I worry sometimes that I am not giving my children strong roots. Somewhere deep inside, I have this image of a family living on the same street for ...
Views: 858(1 vote) - How to Prevent and Heal Heart Disease & Other Diseases (and Boost Your Mood!) - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEven the best of us can sometimes feel too overwhelmed, too tired, or too tempted to do the things that put our health first.: Eat smart. Don’t drink. Avoid sugar. Exercise. Laugh. Wait a minute. Laugh? Hey, since when is laughter work? It’s not, but we forget that it’s essential to good ...
Views: 733(1 vote) - How to Reduce Your Exposure to Toxins – A Body Ecology “Go Green” Guide - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDid you know that there are over 150 toxic chemicals lurking in your home?[1] Each day, we are all exposed to toxic chemicals in the air we breathe, the water we drink and the food we eat. You’d think our homes would be safe, but they’re not...unless you make different ...
Views: 1487(2 votes) - How to Save Like a Dirt-Poor College Student: 9 Tips - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe recession is hitting all of us hard. In the spirit of this week's theme on saving money and living frugal, it's time to think scrappy and resourceful like an unemployed college student. Here are nine tips to relive those frantically frugal undergrad days--but with an adult twist. ("Adult" in ...
Views: 990(1 vote) - How to Start an Exercise Program - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIf you want to become fit and use exercise to help prevent a heart attack, first check with your doctor to make sure that you do not have anything wrong with your heart or blood vessels. Intense exercise can increase your risk for a heart attack if you already have a damaged heart. Pick any ...
Views: 622(1 vote) - How to Stop the Yelling - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsConscious Parenting Skill-Building, Week 1 Let’s face it, we are a loud family. I come from a family of yellers and despite my best intentions, I am about midway through raising a family of loud children. This is not the way I want us to be. I grew up as one of ten children. ...
Views: 1437(1 vote) - How to Stop Trying So Hard (or Just Be Who You Are) - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsFor most of us, the plan is to have an extraordinary life. Our time in this world is so precious, and brief, it just makes sense to get everything we can out of each day. And then, by building one day upon the next, we can create a life full of meaning. However, something can happen along the ...
Views: 1017(1 vote) - How To Teach Your Kids to Cook - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYears ago, it was a family tradition to pass down the secrets to treasured recipes and spend hours in the kitchen teaching children to cook. Somewhere between the addiction to video games and the overactive schedules of parents and children, cooking lessons have been neglected. While there ...
Views: 824(2 votes) - How To Use A To-Do List Effectively - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn previous posts, we talked about the multi-tasking challenge, and suggested some ways to substitute multi-goaling instead. Two weeks ago, we began looking at why to-do lists don't work, and then added the disclaimer "unless, of course, they do." Here are a few thoughts about how to-do lists ...
Views: 893(3 votes) - How Women Undermine Themselves and Their Girls - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy daughter believes in the Tooth Fairy. At 45, I believe in The Cornstarch Fairy, who visits me once a week and adds a teaspoon of her thickening agent to my body while I’m sleeping. I’ll come back to the pertinence of these age appropriate fantasies in a minute. As a psychoanalyst who works ...
Views: 819(1 vote) - How Your Style Affects Your Dreams - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen people talk about style, they often mean fashion. Lady Gaga has a stylist. The Jonas Brothers have a stylist. You don't need a stylist. You just need to know what your style is. By style, I mean the way you approach work and life. Are you an outgoing person? Are you on the shy side? What ...
Views: 592(1 vote) - I Have No Tears in My Space - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsFamily relationships have played an integral role in my spiritual life lessons. God laughed when she allowed me to be born the last of 8 daughters of such a mixed, taped together family, I am sure of it. We all have different personalities. Four of us grew up in the same household, four others ...
Views: 968(3 votes) - I've given up shaking hands, forever! - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com Authors"I've given up shaking hands, forever!" announced my friend E.Dan. He said it to a small group of friends at a pre-wedding party yesterday. And he meant it. He no long shakes peoples hands. Instead, E.Dan gives hugs. For the past five weeks, he has been retraining himself to not reach out his ...
Views: 746(2 votes) - If You Eat Meat, Make it Free Range - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe conditions for most animals raised for meat or dairy products are deplorable. Over-crowded living environments, tail docking, force feeding…the circumstances under which most animals live are horrendous. However, if you eat meat, eggs and dairy products, there are humane alternatives. Some ...
Views: 733(2 votes) - Improve the Quality of Your Water - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsDrinking bottled water is a huge waste of finite resources, a source of pollution and a waste of money. Yet, millions of Americans continue to buy bottled water. If you are buying bottled water because you are afraid of the quality in your tap, read on. If you have a well, have your water ...
Views: 712(1 vote) - In Response: 10 Tips For Twenty Something Transformation - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI am 21 years old. I'll be 22 in November. I don't know if I really qualify as a 20-something since I've only hit my second decade of life two years ago. But I do know that after living with college freshmen (17 - 19 year olds) for 9 months, it doesn't matter if you're 21 or 28 - there is a very ...
Views: 733(2 votes) - Insights from Admiring a Tree - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs you know, I have been up in Northern California visiting family for the 4th of July. I have been up in the mountains, north of Sacramento, on some property that my family has owned for generations. As a child, my brother and I would spend every single summer up there, fishing, catching ...
Views: 690(1 vote) - Insomnia and Melatonin - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWorking with a lot of clients who are struggling with trauma and histories of abuse, anxiety and insomnia are constant problems. Many people have been prescribed medications such as Ambien, Sereoquel or one of the other mood stabilizers for sleep. Many of these medications have been found to ...
Views: 1103(1 vote) - Intuitive Decision Making - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI've been teaching intuition development classes for over twenty-five years and I'm often asked about my favorite techniques. Here's one that I call the "Good Choice/Bad Choice" exercise. Write several sentences on a notepad about a decision you’re facing. For the purpose of this exercise, ...
Views: 960(3 votes) - Investigating Infinite Realms of Existence - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI have always believed that there are many realms of existence and this physical realm is just one aspect of creation and life. Just because it looks like empty space from my chair to the couch could be an illusion. That “empty” space to me may be filled with untold things or beings, I just ...
Views: 1469(2 votes) - Is Balance Really Like Perfection? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOver the last month or so, I've received questions submitted by readers and friends asking how I personally manage to find balance in my hectic schedule. The short answer: I'm not sure I ever have. In all honesty, I feel like true balance is much like true perfection: Never quite ...
Views: 1005(3 votes) - Is it Morning in the World? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis is a column about optimism and why there's reason to feel it. Over the weekend one of the news shows referred to "morning in America." That was Ronald Reagan's call to optimism thirty years ago. The country was demoralized and just beginning to come out of a long recession. The point of ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Is Money Sacred? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn the future, the sacred ritual of embedding LOVE as a thought-form in money will become another dailiy habit for all of us. Money is a form of energy. By an unconscious, collective agreement, most people have come to believe that moey is scarce; that others will always have more money than ...
Views: 1234(1 vote) - Is Something Missing? Are You Searching For More Meaning? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIs something missing? Are you searching for more meaning? Does this sound like you? At the end of the day, you sink into the couch mindlessly exhausted by the day's activities, you think, "Certainly there has to be more than this but my goodness, I am too tired to think!" You work so ...
Views: 658(1 vote) - Is Yogurt REALLY healthy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIf you are searching for a healthy breakfast or snack, you may very well grab a yogurt. Yogurt has gotten a really great reputation for being healthy, even substituting ice cream as a 'healthier' option. Besides the fact that yogurt is a great source of calcium, iodine and phosphorous, among ...
Views: 1184(1 vote) - It Ain't Easy Being Green When You're in the Red... - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI recently Twittered about this news article I read online about Spokane residents who have to "smuggle in" non-green detergents because of the environmental restrictions the state has dictated. I must admit, for a while I was using 7th Generation dishwasher cleanser and must agree with the ...
Views: 707(1 vote) - It Only Takes a Little Bit of Poison to Kill - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI was married to a wonderful man. All my life, I’d dreamed of having a happy marriage; and Charles was funny, warm, and caring. I felt that I had worked through a lot of my own insecurities and was ready to be a part of a healthy, loving relationship—but I wasn’t. Unbeknownst to me, I still ...
Views: 794(2 votes) - It Takes a Team - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI’m not sure who came up with the favorite saying, but among three dear friends we took it to heart. I think Julie invented it, but she likes to credit Annie or me since her children are the youngest of the lot. In the early 1990’s I was mothering two boys under three and trying to work full ...
Views: 640(1 vote) - It's All About You! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsConscious parenting means taking better care of ourselves, so we can take better care of our children. I had three unplanned hours to myself the other day. It was rather strange. A family friend had just pulled out of the driveway with boys in tow, on their way to a baseball game. I ...
Views: 562(1 vote) - Job Loss, Life Gain. Part 1 - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsJust in the past week, I’ve had four clients show up at my door with the bad news: they are out of a job. It is becoming rather common these days for jobs–and whole companies–to up and simply disappear. On top of that, it seems that every time I turn on CNN or any news show for that matter, some ...
Views: 797(1 vote) - Laid Off? Heal Your Chakras - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of my iterations is as an energy healer, so I have a unique perspective on seeing the effect of the economy on our chakras. A friend's husband was laid off a year ago from his newspaper job, and she told me recently that he is becoming more and more depressed and she is worried about him. I ...
Views: 1359(1 vote) - Laughing at Unwanted Advice - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI just returned from my annual weekend at Rockaway Beach on the Oregon Coast with my best friend from college, Barbara. Unlike other retreats I take, which are all about working, this one’s about play, self care, and delightful self-indulgence. It’s about eating smoked salmon and tuna, sipping ...
Views: 1215(1 vote) - Law of Least Resistance and Dharma - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: First and foremost I would like to tell you that I am a tremendous fan. I have listened to all of your audio tapes repeatedly. They are so enjoyable, peaceful and so full of knowledge. However, I have a few questions. But I will start with one. In your book Seven Spiritual ...
Views: 2476(1 vote) - Lawns Versus Gardens In Beverly Hills - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI have something in common with Michelle Obama, a brand new vegetable garden in my back yard. Mine was started by my 21 year old son, home from college where he is majoring in Environmental Studies and minoring in Horticulture. For his Senior Thesis, he designed a sustainable vegetable garden in ...
Views: 785(1 vote) - Learning From the Big Picture: Cycle of Life - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs we walk through the world, the people we encounter appear so different from one another. We see babies, old men, pregnant women, and teenaged boys. We know couples on the verge of marriage and lonely widows. We interact with toddlers and the terminally ill. As different as each person seems, ...
Views: 591(1 vote) - Learning to Love the Mess - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWander where there is no path. Be all that heaven gave you, but act as though you have received nothing. Be empty, that is all. -- Chuang Tzu A dear friend recently shared a series of losses that he had suffered. As he explained how a terminally ill friend had become the “final straw” in ...
Views: 597(1 vote) - Lessons from the Drive-Thru Window - The Power of Asking - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI have an admission to make. I just polished off every molecule of a McDonalds Big N Tasty Meal. (That’s a #6 for you Mickey D’s wanna be’s.) Ahh, I loved each bite of burger and salty, soggy fry. Every mouthful was so refreshing after months of my “mostly veggies” regime. As I sat in my car ...
Views: 852(1 vote) - Let Go / Don't Let Go - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA friend was in great distress, describing in an email how she and her husband had just lost 80% of their retirement nest egg. By the second sentence, the tone of her email had shifted. She then described the process of letting go of the tsunami of fear that had washed over her. How she stayed ...
Views: 617(2 votes) - Let Nature Guide You - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLiving in the Dominican Republic, I have learned to get used to all of the the little visitors that often come in the night. I try to avoid thinking about them but I regularly see evidence of their visits the morning after and regularly, I cringe. I am a little (okay a lot) addicted to the ...
Views: 593(1 vote) - Let Us Count the $ Ways - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA couple years ago fellow coach Tom (who teaches me great stuff!) shared a story he heard from Eckhart Tolle that went something like this: It’s as if you are an apartment building, with lots of doors and windows. It’s through your open doors and windows that the Universe delivers the ...
Views: 599(5 votes) - Let's Be Outrageous - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI had a teacher at Cornell, Professor Frederick Marcham, who died in the middle of his 70th year – of teaching. He was 94 years old at the time he died and my mother had been his student too. Prof. Marcham was a cross between Socrates and Merlin because he helped us discover our own answers by ...
Views: 721(2 votes) - Let's Bring Reading Back! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI have always been an avid reader. When I was a child, I couldn’t wait until school to learn to read, so I begged my mother to teach me. She taught me to read using my older siblings’ comic books. Once I started reading I couldn’t get enough. I usually have 2 or 3 books going at once. A 2007 ...
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