The other day I met up with a friend of mine for breakfast. As we were chatting and catching up, the conversation of teenage girls came up and she mentioned that her high school aged daughters were experiencing some difficult times in school.

It seems that one of her daughter’s friends has taken up a practice that is becoming more and more prevalent in our teens these days. Cutting, according to, “is the practice of teens who purposely injure themselves by using a sharp object to scratch or cut their skin deep enough to draw blood.

It's a type of self-injury behavior typically seen more often among younger teen girls, although older teens and boys can also engage in cutting. In the U.S., it's estimated that one in every 200 girls between 13 and 19 years old, cut themselves regularly.”

I had first heard of cutting a few years ago when another friend of mine confided in me that her daughter was “cutting”. I didn’t understand what she meant. I thought, “Cutting what, her hair?” It made no sense to me until I learned more about it. says that according to therapists, teens cut themselves for several reasons. Among them:

  • For release of pent up emotional stress.
  • To express anger or other negative emotions.
  • To exert an element of control when their lives seem out of control.
  • To feel something other than emptiness, even if what they feel is pain.
  • To punish themselves because they feel inadequate or worthless.

Teens who cut themselves lack coping skills to deal with strong emotions, intense stress, or relationship problems. Without healthy ways to deal with what they feel inside, tension builds up to an unbearable level until the teen seeks physical relief through cutting herself.

So what on Earth does this have to do with you and me and our journey towards healing our lives? What does it have to do with building and strengthening our relationship with ourselves and becoming powerful confident women?

It has everything to do with it! As women who are in this conversation, who have a heightened awareness and consciousness about the laws of the Universe and “how things work”, it is our responsibility to be strong, positive role models!

My call to you is to make yourself the best you can be so that you can be the role model that our young women need. Do this work for your SELF and show your daughters, nieces and granddaughters, by example, that self-confidence, self-worth, and self-pride are all attainable and worthy traits.

Be a model for self-love. Lead by example and take great care of yourself and teach the young women in your life that they are deserving of tenderness, compassion and self-care.

I know it’s hard when you have to work, or you are single parent AND you have to work. You are stretched so thin already. A friend who read this article prior to “print” said this of her relationship with her girls “I pray that every moment with them is memorable, helpful & meaningful. I think that’s what important – the quality as opposed to the quantity of time. Use your time wisely, they are worth it.”

You are their number one role model. So by leading by example and practicing self-care, self-love and self-acceptance, you are teaching them to do the same. Perhaps you might even make it something you do together and throw in a word or two about why it’s so important to treat yourself with love, kindness and respect.

Start NOW! Give them your time and attention. Teach them to be in touch with their feelings and to express them in whatever manner resonates for them. Perhaps it’s through journaling, or singing, or playing sports. Just make sure they know how important they are and teach them to EXPRESS their emotions.

If you are concerned that your child is cutting here are a few resources that may help you to learn more:

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Aimee Yawnick has been mentoring women to make personal growth and development a priority for over 15 years. First, in the Health and Fitness Industry, now as a Personal Life Coach. With proven tools and systems Aimee helps her clients move swiftly and smoothly from a life of just ging through the motions and merely existing to being an active participant and living life to the fullest!
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