How To Build Self-Esteem In Seven Easy Steps

What is self-esteem? Well, self-esteem is the contrast between the sensation of being very confident and powerful in all you do, and the emotion of being scared witless. How you perceive yourself has a huge bearing on how others observe you. The fact is, the more self-esteem you have, the more probability you will flourish in your set goals.

Below are seven approaches you can perform to help you build your self-esteem to reach your goals:

1. Obtain a good posture

Having a straight back and looking straight ahead will make you feel more confident and give the appearance, to others, that you have a goal and you are getting to that goal. If you have drooping shoulders and sluggish movements gives the impression of low self-esteem - you are not passionate about what you are undertaking and you do not respect yourself.

All you have to do to feel more confident is to stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact at all times. It will make a positive imprint on others and make you feel more aware and powerful.

2. Show you are not afraid by speaking up

How many times have you been in a group session and you are too scared to speak up? I know what I am talking about because I used to be that scared person. In a classroom environment I was just too afraid to say anything because I thought people would think I was stupid. I also thought my voice would falter and I would be there in a middle of a huge crowd with nothing coming out of my mouth but gibberish. Luckily I stopped thinking like that and began to get on with my life.

Of course, this is an irrational fear that at some point in your life that you picked up and has stuck with you. I have found that most people are much more accommodating than we envisage. We must also remember that many people are dealing with the exact same worries. Making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, will help you become a better public speaker. People will see you are confident in your own thoughts, and are not afraid in being heard.

3. Do not be afraid on complimenting others

Thinking negatively about ourselves only helps us project that feeling on to others in the form of insults. Get in the habit of flattering other people to help break the negativity. Do not get involved in gossip and backstabbing and make an effort to say nice things about those in your environment. Remember, by observing the best in others, you ultimately bring out the best in yourself.

4. Focusing on others will help you stop thinking about yourself

The reason why so many people have low self-esteem is because they cannot stop thinking about their flaws. People tend to focus too much on themselves and not enough on the necessities of other people. Stop thinking about your flaws and start thinking about how you can help others. Remember, the more you give to the world the more you will be remunerated with individual achievement and acknowledgement.

5. Be aware of your appearance

How you dress will definitely affect the way you feel about yourself. Knowing you do not look good changes the way you carry yourself and relate with other individuals. Looking good does not mean you have to wear designer clothes and wear expensive perfume/aftershave, all it means is that by bathing and shaving (if you do not want a beard or moustache) regularly, and changing your clothes on a regular basis will help you feel better about yourself. Remember, if you know you smell is not fair on the other people who share the same room as you because it shows you do not respect yourself or others.

6. Do not be a couch potato

Physical fitness has a huge effect on self-esteem. Working out will increase your physical appearance and give you much more energy. Working out gives you discipline and it generates positive impetus that you can build throughout the day.

If you do not like gyms or running, like so many people do, walk a few miles a day, cut down on carbohydrates, sugary foods and eat healthier will automatically make you feel more confident about yourself.

7. Walk at a fast pace

One of the many ways to tell how a person feels about themselves is to observe their walk. Individuals with confidence tend to walk at a fast pace because they have places to go, individuals to see, and vital work to perform. Walking at a faster pace not only gives you self-confidence it also keeps you in shape.

The above guidelines I have given you are just but a few ideas that can help you feel more self-confident and happy with yourself. So go on do not procrastinate go and get that self-esteem that you truly deserve!