This article presents a parenting guide for stress-free child behavior management.

Maintain order in your home in an orderly way. When the children become chaotic, concentrate on not letting the chaos get to you. Instead, maintain your calm, confident demeanor and proceed to handle things in a patient, step-by-step manner. In this way you will gradually increase the order and avoid empowering the chaos.

For amazing parent help, practice CONSCIOUS parenting. Remember to remain alertly aware of what is happening in the PRESENT MOMENT between you and your child. Carefully observe your child while the two of you are interacting, and peak in on your child when he is on his own or with friends, so you can most quickly recognize when his behavior is beginning to drift into problems.

It’s hard to find more valuable parenting advice than this: Work on mastering your response to your child’s interruptions and disruptions. When your child behaves in a disruptive manner, concentrate on improving the quality of your response. Make it your aim to preserve your calm, confident composure and flexibility, because in that state of inner peace you actually DO command true authority.

Here is a parenting guide that pertains to the power of your voice. Pay particular attention to the tone of your voice when speaking with your child. Eliminate tones that express annoyance, impatience, disappointment, overwhelm because those voice tones impose upon the child the self-image of a poorly behaving child, and thus reinforce problematic behavior patterns.

Direct your voice tones to express enthusiasm, acceptance, appreciation, love, self-confidence, and contentment. That conveys a self-concept that empowers the child to succeed. When directing the child, strive to use voice tones in a way that connects with the child and engages the child in WANTING TO HEAR WHAT YOU SAY.

To be a successful, satisfied parent, help your child by demonstrating your unending belief in him or her. No matter how challenging your child’s behavior seems, do not give up on your goal of succeeding with that child. Even if you have no idea of what will work, keep your mind open to finding new ideas and experiment with new approaches. If you begin feeling anxious or discouraged, relax and trust in this process.

Here is an important parenting guide that connects child discipline with education. Remember that for children to improve their behavior, they need to learn how to behave at a higher level. In order to learn, they need to feel motivated to learn, and this requires that the learning process is fun. Based on the understanding that children thrive on feelings of exuberance, concentrate on making your positive behavior lessons fun. A harsh, impatient, angry attitude emanating from the “teacher” blocks the child’s ability to learn the lesson.

Remember that when you slip into feelings of overwhelm, it is really NOT your child’s fault. You are just getting too caught up in control. When you feel overwhelmed you begin over-reacting and under-performing, and that brings out a similar problematic pattern from the child. Concentrate on improving your way proceeding through the day with your child. At all times, function with calm self-confidence. The moment you begin to feel overwhelmed in parenting, GUIDE YOURSELF to begin easing up on YOU.

Author's Bio: 

* Author, Seminar Leader, Motivational Speaker, Consultant (www.wisie.com) (www.boblancer.com)
* Host of the WSB Radio Show Bob Lancer's Answers, focusing on the challenges of parenting, marriage and personal / professional development.
* Motivational Speaker for Large and midsized companies, associations, government agencies, schools, hospitals, youth groups and other organizations
* Child Behavior Expert of WXIA TV News (Atlanta's NBC TV affiliate)
* Host of Atlanta's Radio Disney show Ask Bob (helping kids deal with their issues)
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As a public speaker, seminar leader and consultant for over 25 years, Bob Lancer has been inspiring audiences around the nation and overseas, and setting them on a more direct and fulfilling path to total life-success, with his empowering insights and strategies.