5 Ways to Get Unstuck and Improve Your Quality of Life Right Now

1. Think about What ‘Quality’ Means for You

It does not matter what everyone else wants for you. Right now, if you are going to get unstuck, you must be willing to explore what you want from life. Yes, I know you want to make others happy. What about you? What would make you happy? What would allow you to smile the way you make others smile? Think about it. Imagine it. Talk about it. Write it down. Give yourself a few moments to just relax and let that marinate. Your ideal. Your dream. Your fondest wish come true. This is your moment. Own your desires and goals. Just thinking about it places you into a state of being that is more motivational and energetic. Allow yourself to feel as if your ideal state is happening right now.

2. Protect Your Dream

When you have a dream, you must protect it from the external things that would reshape, alter, dismiss or stop your ideas. These are not necessarily naysayers or critics. You’re getting pretty good at shielding your dream from those forces. I’m talking about the helpful people. The people that love you and want you do be happy and safe. Yes, those people who think nothing but great things about you and just want to help.

If this is your ideal of a quality life, you must be the one to define it. Chances are you are stuck right now because you let someone else’s definition of what makes you happy creep into your priorities. As well meaning as that love is, you must resist the urge to let them define your happiness. Keep your ideal definition somewhere where you can reference it. Let it anchor you and guide your decisions.

3. Be Honest about Why You Are Stuck

You know why you are stuck. You know why you aren’t there already. You know why this isn’t working. Are you ready to admit it? Are you ready to stop blaming others for where you are and look at what you are doing to keep you stuck? Are you willing to own the energy you have and have not put into realizing your dream? What is it worth to you? Does it scare you? Does it make you feel unworthy?

This is the moment to be honest with yourself. It is what it is. Acknowledge why this dream means so much and think about what it means to you to achieve it. Think about what’s in it for you not to achieve it. You are the only thing standing in the way of your dream. The power in admitting that is that you are the only one that can move you out of your way.

4. Put a Deadline on Your Goals

Stop faking. Saying you will do it “one day” is a cop out. One day isn’t coming unless you make one day Today. Hold yourself accountable for the progress. I know how you operate. You have all this enthusiasm to start that begins to wane about 3-4 weeks into it. That is if you don’t get distracted by a really good reason to do something else within a few days or hours of committing to follow your dream. Life has a way of presenting really valid reasons. So give yourself a deadline. Hold your feet to the fire. Make it possible but challenging as well. Move as quickly as you can. Make it happen. Remember this is your ideal. This is the peace, and quality of life you really wanted. Why wait? What is more important to you than you?

Decide what it would take to get out of the way and get it done and then go do it. When the deadline arrives, only three things could have happened. Either you will have accomplished your goal, you will have made amazing progress, or you will start making excuses as to why it didn’t happen. Any reason you offer is an excuse. Either you are making it happen or you are getting in the way of making it happen.

5. Allow Yourself to Be Helped

Once you identify a meaningful goal and set a realistic deadline to make it happen, challenge yourself to find places to let others help you. There may be things you don’t know how to do. Let someone help you. There may be things you are not good at doing. Let someone help you. There may be things that need to happen that you cannot do by yourself. Let someone help you. Allow someone to help you. There are probably things that you really need to spend your time doing that keep you from doing other things that need to be done. Yes, let someone do those other things.

You are always helping someone else. Where could you use a hand? Where could you use the type of support that you are always offering others? No, you are right, they probably will not do it just like you would or exactly the way you wanted it done. That’s okay. Your need to have it done exactly how you would do it is just another excuse not to do it. Yes, that’s right. Stop with the excuses. Open yourself up to letting others help you. Even if there is a price to pay, isn’t getting unstuck worth the price? Isn’t that peace of mind you will feel worth the effort of getting support?