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- How Can I Be Sure That My Husband Will Stay When He's Admitted He's No Longer In Love Me? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who have heard a very difficult truth from their husbands. He's now claiming that he is no longer in love with her. But after dropping that bit of bad news, he's assuring her that he's going to stay either because of the children or because of his sense of ...
Views: 815 - Can You Save A Marriage When The Love Is Gone? Can A Marriage Survive Falling Out Of Love? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from many spouses who are sure that their spouse is no longer "in love" with them. Sometimes, their spouse has actually told them as much. Other times, their spouse is communicating this message, but they are doing so with actions and not words. In short, the spouse just isn't attentive ...
Views: 616 - Powerful, Nonintuitive Tactics to Get Your Husband Back - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes tell wives that very often the most powerful tactic to getting your husband back is doing those things that work but don't feel intuitive. It's not necessarily thinking about what you want to do and then doing the opposite, but often the things that feel right at the time are the ...
Views: 841 - I No Longer Feel Loved By My Husband. What Do I Do? Tips That May Help. - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of correspondence from wives who worry that their husbands are no longer are "in love" with them. These same wives are usually no longer receiving the affection or the affirmations that make someone in a marriage feel loved. These women will often tell me things like "it's almost as ...
Views: 800 - What Makes A Man Leave His Wife? 3 Reasons Why Husbands Leave Their Wives - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are very confused because their husband has left their home and is now apparently pursuing a marital separation. Sometimes, the wife had a little warning about this beforehand. And sometimes, she didn't. But regardless of the circumstances, it is always shocking and ...
Views: 1163 - My Separated Husband Lies And Hides Things From Me. Why Won't He Just Be Truthful? How Hard Is It To Just Tell The Truth? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen your spouse pursues a separation, it's natural to be concerned about his motivations. One common concern that I hear a lot about comes from women who are concerned that their husband truly wants a divorce because he wants to start seeing other women. These concerns are understandable. ...
Views: 1655 - My Husband Is Always Mad At Me. He Constantly Says He Doesn't Love Me Out Of Anger. What Does This Mean For Our Marriage? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneSome wives occasionally feel unloved by their husbands. And, much of the time, they don't feel this way because of the way that their husband acts. They feel this way because of the words that he carelessly says when he becomes angry. Many times, the husband's go-to words when he particularly ...
Views: 1491 - My Husband Doesn't Love Me Any Longer But I Still Love Him. Can I Make Him Fall Back In Love With Me? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives whose husbands have told them that he no longer loves them. They often don't want to accept this and some doubt if it's even true. These women want to know if they have to accept this or if there is anything at all that they can do. I often hear comments like: "my ...
Views: 1410 - I Feel Like My Husband Doesn't Care About Me Anymore. Does My Marriage Even Stand a Chance? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a woman who outlined pretty dreadful living conditions with her husband. She described a spouse who had pretty apathetic and cold. From the way that the wife described the situation, it seemed as if he either treated her with annoyance or pretended that she didn't exist. ...
Views: 707 - My Husband Is Hinting That It's Over Between Us. I Think My Marriage Is Over. What Do I Do Now? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI know first hand that it is an absolutely horrible, terrifying feeling when you begin to feel in the bottom of your gut that perhaps your marriage is over. This is made even worse if the state of your marriage has brought about anxiety and unhappiness. You already feel bad enough. But when you ...
Views: 724 - My Husband Refuses To Work On Your Marriage. He Thinks That He Should Not Have to "Work" At A Relationship - Tips and Advice That May Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneOver the holiday weekend, I got an email from a wife who was asking for my advice on getting her husband's cooperation in helping to improve and save their marriage. She wrote, in part: "my husband feels that a marriage shouldn't be work -- that if two people are compatible and are a good match ...
Views: 605 - My Husband Completely Neglects Me. I Know That I'm Losing My Husband - What Can I Do To Save My Marriage? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who told me that she could literally feel her husband slipping away from her. She said in part: "I know that I'm losing him. I can feel it. He just doesn't seem all that interested in me or the marriage anymore. I feel like any day now, he's going to tell me that he ...
Views: 1307 - I Am Unwanted In My Marriage. My Husband Doesn't Want Me Anymore - Tips and Advice That Might Help - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI very often get emails from wives who confide that their husband doesn't want them anymore. This can be a loaded phrase. Sometimes, what the wife means is that the husband no longer seems to be attracted to them physically. Other times, the wife means that the husband no longer wants to be ...
Views: 701 - I Feel Like A Stranger In My Marriage. My Spouse Doesn't Really Know Me. He Doesn't See My True Self - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often say that one of the things people most want in a romantic partner is to feel seen and understood. What I mean by this is that if a person can make us feel as if they see what we are truly about and love us unconditionally anyway, that's a feeling of acceptance that most of us have been ...
Views: 615 - My Husband Feels Like A Stranger To Me. What To Do When You Don't Know Who Your Husband is Anymore. - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently received correspondence from a wife who was feeling increasingly distant from her husband. Over the past few years, she had noticed some changes in him. And, these were changes that she didn't like all that much. She told me that her husband used to be easy going and laid back. Today, ...
Views: 726 - My Husband Refuses To Change. He Tells Me What I Want To Hear But Nothing Ever Changes - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people are pretty clear about what they need from their spouses in order to be happy in their marriage. And sometimes, the more unhappy you are in your marriage, the more you spell this out for your spouse. That's why it can be very frustrating when your spouse assures you that you are ...
Views: 580 - Overcoming Marital Challenges And Deterioration When You Feel Like Your Marriage Won't Ever Get Any Better And Will Only Get Worse. - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt’s easy to lose perspective when your marriage deteriorates and becomes unhappy. Like with anything else that turns bad, it can begin to feel as if things will never change or improve. Each day can seem worse than the last. And one wonders if the clouds will ever lift. Someone might ...
Views: 602 - My Husband Puts His Friends Ahead Of Me. He Does Not Fully Meet His Commitments To Me Or Honor Our Marriage Vows - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's not uncommon for me to hear from people who have discovered that their marriage hasn't turned out how they thought that it would. Many see this as a negative thing because they perceive that their spouse is falling short in some way. And many feel as if their spouse isn't meeting his or her ...
Views: 539 - My Husband Is Not Interested In Me Anymore. Does A Husband's Distance Mean He No Longer Loves You? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get a lot of correspondence from wives lamenting a husband's distance, coldness, and aloofness. Some of these come from wives who are already separated and others come from wives who are still married, but who suspect that their spouse may be contemplating a break or separation. These wives ...
Views: 526 - My Husband Says That He Feels Neglected And That I Never Listen To Him So He Isn't Sure About Our Marriage - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt is difficult to listen to your spouse complain about a flaw that he sees within you. This is especially true if you disagree about the severity of the flaw and have trouble controlling it. Most of the time, this is a reoccurring frustration. However, sometimes this issue escalates to the ...
Views: 635 - I Don't Feel Intimate In My Marriage. I No Longer Feel A Connection. What Can I Do? - by Submitted on May 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently received correspondence from a wife who told me that she was afraid that she losing feelings of love for her husband. She specifically said that she no longer felt "connected" or "intimate" with him and she suspected that he felt the same way. They weren't being ugly to one another or ...
Views: 536 - My Husband Doesn't Say "I Love You Back." Does He Love Me At All? - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneOne of the questions I am often asked is, "How do I know if my husband still loves me? Because he never tells me that he loves me anymore. Sometimes, when I tell him that I love him, he changes the subject or doesn't reply. He never shows me affection." While I can't know your specific ...
Views: 720 - How Can I Make My Husband Understand My Feelings? These Tips Might Help - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who feel as if they may as well be speaking a foreign language to their husbands because he doesn't seem to understand what they are saying, especially when it comes to their feelings. It's often a struggle to make their husband listen and understand, especially when ...
Views: 708 - My Husband Feels That Our Marriage is Not Workable - Tips and Advice That May Help When Your Spouse Feels Your Marriage Is Broken - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneThe other day, I received an email from a wife who said that no matter what she says or does, she can not convince her husband that their marriage can be made better or can be saved. She said in part: "I just can't get my husband to understand and believe that if we were both committed to doing ...
Views: 551 - How To Prepare For A Separation: 5 Things To Consider Or Think About Before You Begin A Martial Separation. - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI suspect that many people reading this article are terrified. They're frightened because a trial or marital separation is in their near future and they are worried that is going to make things worse rather than better. They're concerned that the marital separation is going to set them on the ...
Views: 603 - I Don't Care Enough About My Husband Or My Marriage Anymore. Is This A Phase? What To Consider Before You Think About Leaving. - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI believe that most of us like to think that the deterioration of our marriage would be swift and noticeable. We like to think that it would be an obvious change that we would not only notice, but to which we would quickly react. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Much of the time, the ...
Views: 609 - I'm Bored With My Marriage And My Husband. What Can You Do When You're Tired Of Your Spouse? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI wish I could tell you that the vast majority of correspondence that I get are from people who are perfectly happy with their marriage and are incredibly content with their spouse. This isn't the case, though. Most of the time, I hear from people who feel as if their marriage, or their feelings ...
Views: 609 - My Husband Refuses To Grow Up. He Claims He'll Change And Act Like An Adult To Save Our Marriage, But I've Heard It Before - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people are skeptical about their spouse's claims that they will make drastic changes in order to save their marriage. Often, this whole speech sounds very familiar because they have heard it all before. And this leaves them with more doubt than confidence. A wife might complain: "For the ...
Views: 1218 - I Don't Think I Love My Spouse Anymore. I Don't Feel Romantic Toward Him And Feel Numb When He Says 'I Love You.' Does This Mean My Marriage Is Over? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are alarmed to find that they no longer have any strong feelings for their spouse. Often, they wish that they did still have these feelings because that would make life a lot easier for themselves or for their families. But, when they are being honest, they have ...
Views: 615 - My Separated Husband Never Apologizes. He's Nasty And Rude To Me. Should I Be Mean To Him Or Demand An Apology In Response? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very disappointed in the way that their husband is acting during a trial or marital separation. Often, the wives had hoped that the time apart would actually improve both people's behavior. But, much to their dismay, the opposite has happened. One might say: "things weren't ...
Views: 511 - Is It Normal To Second Guess Yourself Or Have Second Thoughts About Separating? I Thought I Wanted The Separation, But Now I Realize I Made A Mistake And Love My Spouse - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from spouses who, during a separation or break that they themselves had asked for, had the sudden realization as to what a huge mistake they made. I often hear comments like "I'm the one who pushed for the separation. I really thought I'd fallen out of love with my spouse. But, ...
Views: 432 - Romantic things to do on the anniversary - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Rehan Hasan1. A love letter is going to be among the very tender gifts you will ever give her. It does not need to be formal or perfect. Put the technology aside and give her a letter you've written by hand. It doesn't have to be perfect or formal. Write it from your heart and she'll cherish it ...
Views: 847 - My Husband Never Initiates Affection: Why Wouldn't A Husband Want To Show His Wife Affection? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from married folks who are quite distressed by the lack of affection in their marriage. Many want to understand why this pattern may exist so that they can come up with a plan to change it. A wife might say: "for the last five years or so, my husband hasn't wanted to show me ...
Views: 631 - My Separated Husband Never Comforts Me When I'm Upset. Should He Still Care For Me Emotionally? Tips For Improving His Emotional Intelligence. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's common for wives to feel that their husband is not as emotionally connected as they are. This can be true whether you are currently separated or not. (A separation does add another complication to the mix, but most wives have wondered if their husband is as emotionally invested as he should ...
Views: 1147 - My Husband Has Emotionally Checked Out And Is Cold And Distant. How Can I Make Him Love Me Again When He's Emotionally Detached? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the women who visit my blog can literally feel their husband or their boyfriend slipping away from them. The distance is a feeling that has become so real that you can almost touch it. I often hear things like "our relationship today is just so different. He's cold, indifferent, and ...
Views: 452 - My Husband Sabotages My Happiness: He Could Care Less Whether I'm Happy Or Not. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who think that things are lopsided in their marriage. One example is the spouse who thinks that although she values her husband's happiness above her own, he doesn't return the favor. And over time, she has come to believe that he could care less whether her happiness ...
Views: 734 - My Husband And I Never Have Fun Anymore: He Says I'm No Fun And Boring So He Wants A Separation - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who are facing a separation and who don't necessarily agree with the reasoning that their spouse is offering up. And even if they do see some validity to their reasoning, they often just don't how to change who or what they already are. Here's just one example. I ...
Views: 535 - My Husband Is Never Satisfied With Me. I'm Never Enough. How Do I Make Him Want What He Has? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneIn a perfect world, your spouse would be your biggest cheerleader. He is the one who should lift you up and defend you against all others. When you're feeling bad about yourself or have doubts, he is the one who should tell you that you are more than fine just the way you are - or at the very ...
Views: 562 - My Husband Is Unhappy With Family Life: He No Longer Wants The Responsibility Of A Wife, Marriage, And Family - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who honestly believe that they are losing their husbands due to a situation that is very difficult to change. Many people believe that if you know why your spouse isn't happy, then the logical thing to do would be to fix the problem causing the unhappiness and then to ...
Views: 394 - How To Save A Marriage When The Trust Is Gone. Rebuilding The Trust In A Troubled Or Separated Marriage - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are very clear (and remorseful) about the fact that the big contributing factor to them separating from their spouse is a lack of trust. Often, one spouse has done something unfortunate and significant enough for the other to lose trust in them, which has led to ...
Views: 418 - My Husband Always Leaves When We Fight. He Has Left Me Multiple Times. Should I Just Give Up And Divorce Him? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are newly separated, things can feel so dire. There is a lot of shock and also a great sense of urgency. But what happens if you have been through a separation multiple times? What if your spouse makes a habit of leaving you at the first sign of a fight? Well, then the shock can ...
Views: 593 - How Do I Reconcile With My Husband After A Separation When He Says He's Not Ready For A Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are crushed that their husband will not agree to a reconciliation. Sometimes, they are separated. And other times, they are just living separate lives within the same house. Often, the wives aren't sure how to best address this, especially when the two seem so far apart, with no ...
Views: 476 - For How Long Should A Trial Separation Last? What Is The Average Time For A Separation Before Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from folks who are getting ready to separate from their spouse. Many never wanted the separation to begin with and they are dreading it now. So, they want to know what they are up against and how long they must endure it. Some of them are dealing with spouses who are insinuating or ...
Views: 747 - The Most Effective Ways To Save Your Marriage Despite A Trial Separation - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI find that very few people go into a separation thinking that it is going to improve their marriage. Very few people are excited about it. But many feel that it might be their only hope if they want to avoid a divorce. And, since its natural to try to look on the bright side, many of us hope ...
Views: 397 - My Husband Says He Doesn't Love Me Anymore and Wants a Divorce - How Do I Cope With This? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who was devastated and not sure that she could cope. Her husband had just dropped a huge bombshell when he announced that he no longer loved her and wanted a divorce. She was highly emotional, understandably, and she didn't know how to begin to process this (much ...
Views: 636 - My Husband Wants To Leave Me But I Still Love Him. What Can I Do? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are fairly certain that their husband is going to leave them. Some of them just have a strong feeling or suspicion that their husband is unhappy. Others have husbands who have been very honest about the fact that he is considering moving out. Many of the wives do ...
Views: 591 - Signs Your Husband Doesn't Want to Be Married to You Anymore (And What You Can Begin To Do About It) - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often get emails from wives who suspect that their husband no longer wants to be in the relationship. Often, people ask me for "signs that a husband doesn't want to be married or in the marriage anymore." And, I often will respond with a list of danger signs to watch for, but I also typically ...
Views: 539 - How to Reconnect With Your Husband During A Separation Through Gradual, Increasingly Meaningful Conversations - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are reluctantly separated and want to save your marriage, you often intuitively know that communication is vitally important. Saving your marriage means that you are going to eventually need to overcome what drove you apart in the first place and then re-create the intimacy that will ...
Views: 1053 - How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Again During Our Separation? How To Pull Him Closer When You Feel Him Pulling Away. - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf the martial or trial separation was never your choice, then the chances are good that you are looking for any way to end it and to carry on with your marriage. Many people suspect that one very efficient and effective way to end the separation is for their spouse to come to the realization ...
Views: 1051 - Trial Separation Statistics: What Are The Odds Of Getting Back Together After A Separation? What Are The Chances Of Reconciling? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's not uncommon for people facing a trial separation to seek out statistics on the same. It's normal to want to know what you are up against. People want to know if separation is usually a precursor to divorce or if the process actually helps most of the couples who attempt it. Before I go ...
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