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Using the Golden Rule to diffuse Aggression and Bullying Anger Expert

Israel Kalman Quick Facts

Main Areas: Bullying, Aggression, Empowerment, Victim Mentality, Sibling Rivalry, Relationships Problems
Best Sellers: Winner of iParenting 2005 Media award
Career Focus: Author and Speaker
Affiliation: Nationally Certified School Psychologist New York State; Certified School Psychologist New York City Licensed; Bilingual School Psychologist

Israel (Izzy) C. Kalman, MS, is a nationallyrenowned expert in teaching people how to deal with anger, bullying, andrelationship problems. Izzy has always had a knack for finding simple solutionsto problems, in mental health and other areas as well. About two decades ago,he developed a one-session method for teaching people how to stop beingvictimized, and has been using it with great success with both children andadults.

Izzy is the author and creator ofthe website, Bullies2Buddies.com, which has free online manualsthat have been helping people throughout the world solve their problems withbullying. Mr. Kalman is the author of a book for youth, Bullies to Buddies: How to turn yourenemies into friends!, a manual for teachers and parents called A Revolutionary Guide to ReducingAggression between Children, and a CD program, How to Stop Being Teased andBullied without Really Trying. His whole school bullying reduction program is called Victim-ProofYour School.

He has appeared on nationaltelevision as an expert on bullying, has been a speaker at numerousprofessional conferences in the U.S. and abroad, and created a Staten IslandCommunity TV series, Help, They’re Driving Me Crazy.

Mr. Kalman earned a B.S. inpsychology from CCNY in New York and an M.S. in clinical psychology fromHahnemann University in Philadelphia. He has been working as a schoolpsychologist and psychotherapist for twenty-eight years, and is currentlydevoted full time to writing and to teaching hismethods to mental health professionals, schools, and other organizations.He is a Nationally Certified School Psychologist, as well as a member of theInternational School Psychology Association, the New York State Association ofSchool Psychologists, the Richmond County Psychological Association, theInternational Society for Research on Aggression, and the Academy of Medicineof Richmond, Pediatric Section.

The child of Holocaust survivors,Izzy was born and raised in the Bronx. After earning his graduate degree in1978, he fulfilled a childhood dream and moved to Israel, where he began workas a school psychologist, married a beautiful dark-skinned woman of Yemeniteancestry and had his first two children. In 1988 he moved back to the U.S. with his young family. Their thirdchild was born in 1992.

Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Israel Kalman

"Finally, a program that works near miracles in helping victims to deal with bullies. After more thantwo years of implementing Izzy’s principles, the students at William SnyderElementary School smile at one another with confidence. Our school climate ispleasant and conducive to learning. Discipline referrals for bullying behaviorshave decreased significantly. Teachers can now teach more because the kids arehandling their own issues. And (drum roll here)...our test scores are going UP.In a school where the population is 63% Hispanic, our school reached everytesting goal. In my 15 years as a school counselor, I have never seen a moreeffective social skills program. This one is pure genius.” - Jeannie Brewer,School Counselor, Snyder Elementary, Las Vegas, Nevada

“We at PSI were so impressed with the simplicity and commonsense of the Bullies to Buddies™ program that we had to make it our own. Wehave partnered with Izzy Kalman and Cleveland State University to bring thisprogram to the thousands of students that PSI serves.” - Steve Rosenberg,PhD, Psychologist, President, PSI Solutions, Ohio

“Of all the approaches to theproblem of bullying, Izzy Kalman's approach stands out. It has worked wondersfor my patients and friends alike.” - DorisM. Greenberg, MD, Developmentaland Behavioral Pediatrician, Savannah,Georgia

"This program has removedteachers from the middle of students' problems, no longer forcing them tochoose who is right or wrong, and has helped students to regain control ofsituations and in turn their self esteem." - Colleen Pittman, M.Ed,Coordinator/Counselor, St. Raphael School, Louisville, Kentucky

“Bullies to Buddies™ is the most effective anti-bullyingprogram I have encountered in my 14 years as a school counselor. It givesvictims the tools and strategies necessary to handle difficult situations, thusincreasing their self esteem. Parents are thrilled and some of them arepracticing the skills with their children. The teachers and aides feel relievedthat they no long need to handle every tiny little tattle or situation. This savesan enormous amount of time in the classroom and children find that they havemore time to play. The teachers not only used the strategies of Bullies toBuddies™ in their classroom but also with their husbands, children and exes.”

Vickie Kolb, School Counselor Brandon Valley SchoolDistrict

“Your strategies turn studentsinto winners almost immediately. You have allowed our classroom teachers to getback to the business of teaching and have reduced the need for them to beconstant conflict managers. This approach works. For the sake of our students,I hope all educators, parents and teachers will give it a try.” -Jane Steinkamp, Principal,the Jefferson School, Tracy, California

“I have seen every other programdesigned to stop this problem, but Izzy’s is the only one that works!”

-Paul Reddick, Chairman,American Sportsmanship Association

“I have conducted lessons fromBullies to Buddies™ throughout my school. The children thoroughly enjoy thelessons, really listen and participate, and use the skills daily. They get a kick out of"teasing" me, the counselor, as we do the role-plays; yet, they arelearning as they have fun. Theyhave felt empowered and I have personally seen significant changes in their self-esteem and socialskills. I recommend this programfor any educator working with children elementary age and up.”

Julie Doody, Counselor, EliseWolff ES

“A child was sent to me who hadbeen teased by a whole group of children as a result of an incident at recess.I took him through the steps that I learned from Bullies to Buddies and within15 minutes this child was able to go back to class and continue learning. Theteacher was amazed at the transformation. I was able to teach the whole classthe technique, which resulted in more time on task and more learning. Thestudents got along better and the learning environment became more pleasant andenjoyable for everyone. Izzy is a master of making this learning fun and easyto teach.”

Malda Burns, RockdaleElementary School Counselor Rockdale, Texas

“Students are increasing theirpatience, compassion, and kindness towards other through applying yourstrategies. Our school is a better place because of Izzy's game! Thank you.”

- Mark Lane, LCSW-R, School Social Worker Guilderland Elementary School

Getting Started With Israel Kalman

My name is Izzy Kalman. I have been working as a school psychologist and psychotherapist since 1978 [CREDENTIALS].

For the past two decades, I've been intensively helping victims of teasing and bullying. The methods I have developed I believe are the quickest, easiest, and most natural that exist.

Columbine, Santana, and the other school massacres have brought the suffering of victims of teasing and bullying to the world's attention. Unfortunately, most of the things our country (and the world) are doing to solve the problem are misguided and are causing more harm than good. That's why I created Bullies2Buddies.com -- to provide the world with the correct understanding and solution to the problem of teasing and bullying.

Mission

Bullies2Buddies.com is dedicated to ending the suffering of victims of teasing and bullying throughout the world. The only reliable way to do that is byempowering victims to solve their problem and turn their bullies into buddies.

The only reason that people become victims of relentless teasing and bullying is that they do not practice Freedom of Speech. The attitude, “You have no right to say that,” is the source of almost all anger and aggression between people. Freedom of Speech is the ultimate solution to the problem of teasing and bullying. The attitude, “You have the right to say whatever you want, and it is perfectly OK,” is the simple secret for preventing victimization. Granting others this right is the most basic ingredient for peace, understanding, and love between people.