I'm not your typical counsellor. I come from a definite dysfunctal family; my mother was addicted to Prescription drugs, which she obtained legally through her doctor. My father, or should I say Fathers as in plural were all alcoholic. My biological father was a prison guard; Due to early childhood trauma have very little memory of the man. I was farmed out to live with friends of the family, a year at a farm, then moved to another friend of the family with my half brothers and sister. Well after another few years my mother was back to pick me up to go live with her and my “new father" who was a workaholic and weekend alcoholic. So went home to a new home complete with continuous domestic violence on both sides. This lasted 5 or 6 odd years. A year or so comes daddy number three an out of work alcoholic. By this time I had discovered alcohol, drugs and women. Let’s skip ahead a little here; by the age of 18 I had had sex with numerous women (including my mother, sister at age 13} . I was married, had a daughter and frequently in trouble with the law. I had also already served time. I was a raging alcoholic and drug addict mostly pot, hash, and hallucinogens, LSD, Mushrooms, Peyote, STP, and speed. By 20 was separated, had gone through more jobs amazingly supervisory positions, and of course another jail term. By thirty two had been up and down the East coast as A Carnie, (carnival worker) more prison time, and mostly into full time crime, cocaine, heroin, speed and alcohol.
In mid 1992, at age 32 ended up in a recovery house. After the fog clearing and by the Grace of a Higher Power was in a place where the guys were being "real". However late in 1992 I had to try it one last time. Luckily it only lasted a few days. On Boxing Day 1992 I sobered and cleaned up for the last time. By 1993 I was working on creating my own recovery house and attending The Justice Institute of British Columbia, attending classes with police officers, lawyers, sheriffs, Psychologists and counsellors. From there it has been a journey to share. THAT there is a way out. I could go into a lot more detail however then I'd be writing a book or two.
Life is to be lived, not watched. Life is a collection of experiences.
Experiences create wisdom
What I believe makes me the ideal choice for your recovery coach is two fold. First off onlike most Recovery coaches and counselors, I have been through addiction, bankruptcy, failed relationships, prisons and numerous other life challenges. I have recovered from all of them. My knowledge is not simply from books and lectures. Some unproven theory to test on my clients. I have the mostly the same book knowledge, lectures, theories plus the added bonus of life experiences, to guide you through. Secondly I am not so EGO driven to stick to my own ideas. I will not only use my own "tool box" i am not adverse to using other methods of respected experts to help and guide my clients