Why Would You Want to Feel Good About Who You Are?

We’ve probably all seen a parent impatiently talking in angry, disrespectful, condescending, tones to a child. WE might have been that parent at one time or another.

Did you know that by talking in disrespectful ways to yourself or others the interaction can leave negative imprints on the mind? This is important to understand because we use our mind to think, store thoughts, make decisions and communicate with the world

We empower ourselves by thinking and expressing uplifting thoughts. It’s challenging to get out of the “negativity habit” if your parents spoke unkindly to you. However, with practice you can effectively manage or transform past hurtful thoughts into supportive ones.

Why would you want to feel good about who you are? The following suggests some ideas about the advantages of liking yourself for who you are. For one, a happy person is a productive person. When you feel happy, you feel more like contributing to the world to improve things for you and everyone else. By adding into your life some of these ideas, you can become happier and feel more fulfilled in life.

1. Encouragement. If you notice you feel down about yourself, think about how you can encourage yourself. Compare what you have with what unfortunate things you see is happening or has happened to others. Be grateful for what you have. This helps you feel encouraged in life. By encouraging yourself to stay focused on what you CAN do, you move forward. When you move forward you build yourself and your life up.

People in power positions who rarely use encouragement actually add to the negative imprints established in the minds of others who were abused in childhood. If people in your employ seem to be rebelling against your management style, think about saying something encouraging to them. This helps them feel hopeful.

Discouragement can cause a high turnover rate, pilfering and sickness in the workplace. It can also zap company loyalty. And, it can even cause further trauma in a person’s mind, sometimes for life.

Everyone is battling some type of stress right now. LOOK for the good in what people do, even if it’s not perfect. Purposeful give yourself credit for the good in what YOU do. It will inspire people to focus on doing their best.

2. Offer public praise and credit where credit is due. When you praise a person especially in front of peers, this helps build a person’s self-confidence. People who feel confident are more willing to stay loyal to themselves and others. This also can help overwrite negative imprints from childhood in a person’s mind. Saying things that confirm a person’s self worth helps build them up. We all need to feel like we contribute something good to this world. Genuine public praise helps encourage people to develop skills to better themselves. A caveat; make sure the praise is genuine. People become suspicious if praise is obviously insincere.

3. Be sincere and complimentary. When you sincerely compliment someone’s performance efforts, commendable personality traits or other valuable attributes you notice about people, they feel they can trust you. It also helps them understand how to trust decisions they make for themselves. Providing an environment where a person feels safe to be one’s true self, the person’s self-esteem can skyrocket. These types of things help to neutralize harmful negative mind imprints holding one back in life. It also makes the world a better place.

4. Listen without interrupting or finishing another person’s sentence. There is more to life than working efficiently. Too many people don’t know how to really hear others’ viewpoints and consider them as valuable. As children our parents may have negated our feelings as important as theirs. This can cause damaging negative imprints. But this can be reversed. Simply listen to people without interrupting. They will feel like you genuinely care about them.

Even if you think you know what somebody is going to say, be quiet and listen. Let people finish their sentences. You might be surprised at the valuable insights offered by others. Listening without interrupting brings comfort and validation to a situation. That helps a relationship thrive and grow. When others know you care about them and their viewpoints, too, it can be a good model for others to treat you with the same respect you give them.

5. Show genuine interest in what others have to say. Go out of your way to be genuinely interested in what others have to say. Almost everyone likes to share his or her opinion. Giving other people a chance to share ideas helps to erase the negatively imprinted idea from childhood that someone does not matter. When you do these things, you reduce stress and are seen as a caring individual.

BE the person you want others to be for you. This can help you remove your negative imprints from childhood. Soon you will create and see an entirely different and wonderful world in which to live.