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- Can Great Listening Save a Marriage? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2010 from Claire HatchThe first thing most people say when they sit down in my marriage counseling office is: “My husband (or wife) doesn’t listen to me!” Many a relationship problem starts here. After all, if you don’t feel listened to, then it’s hard to feel important, special, and loved—all those good things that ...
Views: 1072 - Marriage Advice: Build a Strong Bond with Emotional Desires - by Submitted on May 25, 2011 from Claire HatchWhen I was a little girl, we used to play Hide the Thimble with my grandmother. The rule was you had to hide it “in plain sight.” A thimble hidden in plain sight is surprisingly hard to find! Especially if you put it against something silver-colored. The end of the T.V. antenna was my favorite ...
Views: 899 - Men—Want Better Sex in Your Marriage? Be Seductive - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2010 from Claire HatchWhat happened to the sexual revolution, anyway? I know a lot of my male clients feel like the sexual temperature at home feels a lot more like the 50’s than the 70’s. As a marriage counselor, I a have bird’s eye view of this phenomenon, so I thought I’d offer up my observations. After all, ...
Views: 1767 - Relationship Advice for Women Who Love Engineers - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Claire HatchWomen, you know what happens when you confide your troubles to your girlfriend. She drops everything and listens. She understands exactly what you’re going through, tells you your feelings are completely natural, and you end up having a good laugh. In other words, you get empathy, big time. It’s ...
Views: 1337 - Relationship Communication Secret-No Ghost Stories Allowed - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2010 from Claire HatchDid you know half your relationship communication problems are products of your imagination? It’s true! Under stress, your brain actually invents stories about how your partner’s up to no good. In our family, we call them “ghost stories.” When my stepdaughter Kristina was invited to her first ...
Views: 1229 - Relationship Tip: Create Closeness With Small Repairs - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2010 from Claire HatchWe all know what it feels like when you have something you need to talk about with your partner. You can’t help chewing on it while you’re driving or trying to fall asleep. You try to tell yourself it’s no big deal, but the hurt lingers and makes you feel annoyed or distant. But it’s not only ...
Views: 1244 - Something Old, Something New for Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Claire Hatch"You have to work at your marriage every day." I'm sure you've heard people say this. Sometimes my own clients tell me this. I know what they mean. But I have a confession. The idea of working on my marriage every day feels like a real downer. When you're going through a time of stress, ...
Views: 948 - What If Your Marriage Problem Isn't Stubbornness After All? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Claire Hatch“We’re stubborn. We butt heads,” said Jan. “We’re both used to doing things our way, and the more the other pushes, the more we dig in our heels.” A lot of couples bring me this problem in their first marriage counseling appointment. Maybe you can relate. Bill was sitting on my couch, ...
Views: 1651 - When Marriage Problems Build Up, Here's How to Break the Ice - by Submitted on May 25, 2011 from Claire HatchDoes this problem ring a bell? You’re nursing a grievance. You didn’t bring it up at the moment because there was too much going on. Or you were afraid things would go south. Or you thought maybe it was one of those times in a marriage when you should just cut your partner slack and move on. ...
Views: 4958 - When Your Marriage Drives You Insane - by Submitted on May 25, 2011 from Claire HatchI was sitting at the kitchen table reading a magazine on a Saturday afternoon a few weeks ago. John came in for a snack. He got out a jar of peanut butter, scooped some out, and returned the jar to the fridge. At some point in that process, a blob of Adams crunchy-style found its way to the ...
Views: 1069 - Women-Want Better Sex in Your Marriage? Stay in the Game - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2010 from Claire HatchFor too many married women, their sex life can best be described as a sad stalemate. Which is not at all what they signed up for. As one of my marriage counseling clients put it, “I did not get married to fight about sex for 40 years.” Nor did you aspire to feel like co-CEO’s of your ...
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