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- How Do You Elect to Move Your Life Forward? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseAs this piece is posted on my website, it is the morning after the political elections in the United States. Whether your candidates won or lost the race for the offices that they sought, I have a question for each of my readers? How do you elect to move your life forward over the coming days ...
Views: 885 - How Do You Manage Those Valleys? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI have been a huge baseball fan all of my life. Every year there are teams that get off to good starts on their season. They play well during the months of April and May and jump out to a lead in the standings against their competition. Then they enter the month of June, and all of a sudden ...
Views: 1533 - How Do You Plan To Combat Age Discrimination in Your Life? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseLet me make it clear from the start of this piece that I do believe age discrimination does exist. Yes, it can be very discouraging when an opportunity such as a job opening becomes available and you don’t receive an offer. However, for all of those who may be bypassed, there are several older ...
Views: 677 - How Many Different Iterations Will There Be to Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe season of spring has always been the time of rebirth in nature. As the calendar moves into April, and the first full calendar month of spring has arrived for 2012, our quote this month focuses on the theme of POSSIBILITIES. The quote is attributed to Anna Quindlen, who is an American ...
Views: 1087 - How Well Do You Choose To Listen? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseFrom the time you realized you had the ability to hear sound, the skill of listening has always been available to you. Many consider it the most important aspect of communication. However, it is often a skill not used my many to its fullest potential. If however, one is conscious of what true ...
Views: 949 - I Am - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseI AM A few weeks back I had the opportunity to attend a workshop for coaches in New York City. The topic of the workshop was on the practice of coaching. Our presenter covered many aspects, from what it means to be a coach, to co-creating the coaching relationship with clients, to what ...
Views: 983 - I Was Getting Tired of the Yelling - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseRecently I have begun working with a number of clients that come from similar backgrounds as me. We grew up in towns made up of hard working parents predominantly in blue collar industries. We’re from strong ethnic backgrounds where people are passionate about their beliefs. And, frankly, we ...
Views: 939 - In Job Search, Nothing Beats “The Human Touch” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIn the space of a few hours this past week, the topic of Automatic Tracking Systems (ATS) arose in activities with which I was involved. The first individual who brought them to my attention is a current resumé writing coach who in previous job experience has been a recruiter within ...
Views: 1297 - Is Coaching Something Which Works For You? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe International Coaching Federation (ICF), one of the leading industry organizations for professional coaches, has designated the week of February 5th through 11th, International Coaching Week. During this week coaches from all over the world are asked to help increase the awareness of the ...
Views: 906 - Is Multi-Tasking Taking You Away From Enjoying Your Life? - by Submitted on May 16, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseI happened to be juggling a number of different tasks last week. I’m sure that is no different for many of you. One of the things I realized I had fallen into the habit of doing was trying to use every available minute I had to fill with some action I termed “productive”, so I could get action ...
Views: 819 - Is That Change of Perspective Inside of You? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI find at times the need to remind myself of things that I already know. For example, I find myself annoyed with what I’m hearing on my car radio and instead of remembering I can either change the station, put on a CD of my choice or turn the radio off, I’ll continue listening until I’m upset ...
Views: 1157 - Is That Which Is Going On Around You That Boring? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI tend to meet with my clients in person, which means that I’m often out on the road meeting them in public places. Between clients, I’ll stop and catch up on my preparation, reading and planning by stopping at a local shopping mall. I was doing this the other day, when I glanced up from what ...
Views: 885 - It's Counter Intuitive - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseI still remain a big fan of the television show “Seinfeld”, even after it has been off the air in terms of original shows now for fifteen years. Often my wife will hear me begin a sentence stating, “This reminds me of a Seinfeld …” when relating it to a present life experience. One episode I ...
Views: 923 - It's Never Too Late To Plan - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the things I really enjoy about my profession is that I get to meet so many different people. I find it inspirational how they each reached the current point in their life. I was recently talking to a prospective client who had lost his job three months ago. He was definitely a ...
Views: 625 - Job Search Requires A Complete Commitment on Your Part - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseMy blog posting from earlier this week focused on how one’s attitude was a key in bringing in positive energy into their life to help move them forward. Nowhere is that more true when one is in the middle of the job search process. While there has been much written about the differences ...
Views: 832 - Job Search Skills Also Serve as Life Skills - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseSince March of 2011, a great deal of my focus has been in expanding my knowledge in the area of assisting prospective clients in the use of job search and career development strategy techniques. My time spent as a Certified Coach in Training in the Five O’Clock Club’s (America’s Premier Career ...
Views: 713 - Journeys and Destinations - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe summer vacation season is beginning to really start up. Perhaps some of you have already been on vacation, while many of you anticipate taking some time away from home over the next several weeks. It’s a natural part of human nature to focus on the end point of our activities. Think back ...
Views: 1262 - Keep Your Search Momentum Going Throughout the Summer - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseWe are now well into the summer season. For many in job search there is a temptation to not put as much effort into their search. One belief is that with so many hiring managers on vacation, there won’t be many people hiring again until the autumn. For others, formal networking groups that they ...
Views: 832 - Keep Yourself Relevant In the Eyes of Those You Are Looking to Attract - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseNormally by this point of the summer I begin my preparations for the research I do in terms of managing my fantasy league football team. Usually, I'll buy a magazine or two, research last year's statistics, see who may be recommended as productive players for the coming season. However, this ...
Views: 717 - Lasting Success Is Based on Firmly Rooted Principles - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe beginning of a new year is often a time when individuals vow to change their ways. And, while change is all well and good, and even something which has been written about on this site in many a posting, I was struck by the picture and saying on my January 2012 calendar. The scene is of a ...
Views: 1014 - Learning is More Than Just a One Way Experience - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIt’s been about three years now that I have been part of the coaching profession. How I view my life and that which goes on around me has definitely changed from how I lived previously. I’ve definitely become a far more aware individual. I’m more open to the idea that even in the most ...
Views: 966 - Libraries are Invaluable to Job Searchers - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIt’s amazing to me how much of my time over the last year has been spent in public libraries. Prior to becoming involved in my coaching practice, the last time I can remember being in a library with any regularity was when I was a student back in college. However, various aspects of my ...
Views: 829 - Lions, Monkeys, Koalas and Owls - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseWhat do the job seeker who is having an interview and a person who runs a business and has a product or service to offer have in common? They are both attempting to influence the person with whom they have come in contact that they are the right person to provide them what they are seeking. ...
Views: 1735 - Look to Say It As Simply As You Can - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseThe current difficult job market can make many a job searcher paranoid about just what wording to include on their resumé or to be part of the verbal pitch they use to present themselves. This can lead to many approaches that are not optimal. One may choose to use language that is full of a ...
Views: 827 - Make Getting the Next Interview Your Goal - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseAsk job seekers what their goal is in terms of their employment search most of them will tell you that it is “to get a job”. While that certainly is the intent of the end result of their job search campaign, one of the early lessons I learned in my Five O’Clock Club career coaching studies is ...
Views: 575 - Making It to the Right Path - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the realities when you are a coach is eventually your engagements with your clients do end. While that usually happens when the client reaches the goal they were targeting when the coaching relationship began, it can end at any time particularly if the client does not care to continue ...
Views: 1390 - Midlife Career Changes-It’s Time to Continue Your Learning - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseIt has been almost 3 years now since I moved on from my first career in corporate America. When I reflect back on that period of time, one item that becomes very clear to me is that my thirst for learning is greater than it has been in many years. Much of that has admittedly been attributable ...
Views: 1275 - Midlife Career Support – Giving or Receiving, Is a Very Worthwhile Thing - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseThe local library in my home town provides its facilities to host a “Professionals in Transition” meeting every other week. Public libraries have always been good providers of resources to people in need. Given the current economy and labor market such sessions have become much more common in ...
Views: 927 - Midlife Changes: We’re Always Learning about the Process of Change - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseI am passionate about providing education, support and guidance to those facing transitional issues at the mid point of their life. As I was preparing for my day about a week ago I realized how fortunate I am to have been exposed to the materials and concepts I have over the last two years on ...
Views: 995 - Midlife Changes:Be True To Your Values as you Contemplate That Change - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseCommitting to make any change in your life can often be a very trying experience. When you truly don’t believe in the change you are making or why you are going about the process, your chances for that change to take root in your life becomes significantly less. Each of us whether we are aware ...
Views: 1263 - Midlife Relationship Changes: Learn From Your Past, But Don't Live In It - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2010 from Anthony CalabreseMidlife is often a time of reflection. New people come into our life, while those we have known may move elsewhere or pass on. We may find ourselves in a new city or even part of the country from where we grew up. Some see the past with optimism, reflecting on times and activities they miss ...
Views: 1058 - Of Frogs and Princes - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2013 from Anthony CalabresePerhaps you have heard that old fairy tale saying “You have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince?” It came to mind recently as I was working with a client. He is in the process of exploring a new career path. Frankly he knows he would be very good at it because he both has the skills to ...
Views: 992 - Once it’s Posted, Everyone Knows About It - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI was near the close of a session with a client recently, where I was praising him for all the diligent work he had been putting in on his job search. From building his marketing plan, to reaching out to those in his network to let them know he was actively looking, to researching firms in his ...
Views: 990 - Only You Can Choose to "Run Out of Time" - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI am currently working with a number of clients that are nearly half my age. It has been a pleasure to do so. The enthusiasm that these clients show in wanting to move their lives forward is infectious. One thing that does amuse me though is when there is a goal that one of them is looking ...
Views: 926 - Opportunity Tends to Come to Those Who Open Themselves Up To It - by Submitted on May 14, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIf I were to ask you, “What was the last opportunity which came into your life?” how would you answer me? Would you be able to provide me the details around when and how it happened? Or would you be an individual who would say to me, opportunities never seem to happen for me. They happen for ...
Views: 1156 - Our Natural Tendency is to Care - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIt has been a difficult last month where I live in the eastern United States, and in particular in my home state of New Jersey. The aftermath of the destruction of Hurricane Sandy, which impacted us at the end of October, touched so many lives. Many people suffered through severe property ...
Views: 995 - Provide Them a Proposal to Show What You Can Offer - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseYou are in the midst of your job search. You’re starting to make contacts in your field, and perhaps even speaking with representatives from companies that you can see yourself working for some day. However, those with whom you are speaking have never worked with you before. You may be able ...
Views: 1101 - Question Continually Through Your Job Search - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseAs both a career coach and one who helps to facilitate a “Professionals in Transition” group at my local library, I am around a large number of individuals in job search. Being in job search is indeed one of the most stressful times for an individual, particularly if they are currently ...
Views: 646 - Seek Support During Your Search - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseI meet many people in job search as part of my day to day life. The way they approach their unemployment and subsequent job search varies by individual. One who crossed my path is Mary. At the beginning of 2012 Mary found herself let go from her position of 16 years. She heard of a local ...
Views: 947 - Teaming with Others Often Strengthens Your Chances for Success - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseAs the month of February begins, I turn the page on my “Motivations” calendar for 2012 and am greeted with a team of stampeding horses galloping along a snowy plain. Underneath the picture lies the following quote, “A dynamic team is unstoppable.” Certainly it would take a very brave soul to ...
Views: 889 - Thanks for Being There For Me - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseEstablishing a coaching practice as part of my life has exposed me to many new experiences in the last three years. There is the networking with fellow coaches locally, nationally and internationally in the coach federation of which I am a part. As a coaching practice is often conducted as a ...
Views: 1040 - The Best Gift You Can Give to the Graduate In Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseIt is that time of the year again when a new group of students graduate and go out to find a job in the working world. While as students, they’re often prepared well in their field of study, it is rare that they are ready to work the process of going out to find a job. Many of the key skill sets ...
Views: 824 - The Challenge of Being a Career Changer - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIt has always been challenging to be a career changer. It perhaps means needing to go back to school for additional training. In presenting yourself to others, they may often find it difficult getting past seeing you in your previous position whether that is if they have known you or are ...
Views: 788 - The Challenge of Being a Career Changer - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseIt has always been challenging to be a career changer. It perhaps means needing to go back to school for additional training. In presenting yourself to others, they may often find it difficult getting past seeing you in your previous position whether that is if they have known you or are ...
Views: 913 - The Curiosity of a Child - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseRecently I have had the opportunity to observe a number of little children under the age of 18 months old. It is really fascinating to observe them. When their focus becomes locked in on an item that captures their attention, they look to learn all they can about it before moving onto the next ...
Views: 1081 - The Drama Triangle - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseI was a participant recently in an enlightening presentation I want to share which I found thought provoking. Perhaps you will too. The presentation was in a circle to a small group. Our facilitator placed 3 cards on the floor, in the format of a triangle. One card had the word Victim, a second ...
Views: 1093 - The Impact of Masculine and Feminine Energy Traits in Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Anthony CalabreseOne of the benefits of my profession is that you have the opportunity to be introduced to a good number of different approaches and ideas in terms of making the most out of your life. About two months ago I had one such opportunity at a meeting of New Jersey Professional Coaches Association I ...
Views: 999 - The New Normal - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseFor many people it is desirable to have everything in their life “under control”. Whether it is having a routine for going to work each day, when their family has dinner, or the leisure activities they do when they have free time, there is some sense of normality to their life. However, life ...
Views: 911 - The Pain Associated with the Status Quo - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Anthony CalabreseWhen one goes through the certification process of becoming a coach, they are introduced to a number of different concepts and quotations, some of which stick with them for a long while. One of the ones I remember hearing that recently came to my mind reads as follows: “When the pain associated ...
Views: 1032 - The Process to Results - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Anthony CalabreseYou have probably heard it said – we live in a results oriented society. Perhaps you have heard that from bosses where you work. Or perhaps you have heard it in some sort of advertisement via the media. As a coach, I’m always working with clients to be a partner with them as they move toward ...
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