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- How to Avoid the 5 Divorce Mistakes that Keep you from Moving On - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltAlthough feeling overwhelmed and confused during divorce is normal, avoiding these common boomer mistakes can save you unnecessary drama and stress so you can move on with your life. Missing the Big Picture. Divorce feels awful because as a society, none of us are taught to plan ahead for ...
Views: 1792 - What to do when things didn't turn out the way you expected. - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltSo I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the ...
Views: 1770 - Divorce getting you down? Here's the secret to coping. - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltAt this point in your divorce journey, you may have already done some research. You may have already talked to a lawyer. You may have already gone on some support forums to see if others have experienced the same crap that you are feeling right now. Some of what others on the forums, or what ...
Views: 1620 - What good surprises are there with divorce? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltDivorce gets a bad rap. While the process of ending a marriage can definitely shake up your life in all aspects—from the financial to the emotional—there are many unexpected good lessons that divorce in later-life have in store for us. There is a whole new side to you that you never knew ...
Views: 1584 - Dumped? How to get your self-esteem back. - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltOne of the many things we struggle with as we learn to recover from a break-up is learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You sit crying on your coach, a pint of Ben ...
Views: 1578 - Are you screwing up the chance to be happy? - by Submitted on May 23, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltI thought my world had ended back in January. I had this job and career that made me comfortable and paid well. It was not necessarily a job that I loved, but it made me feel secure and gave me the validation that I thought I needed. Until I was laid off. I started to panic, because ...
Views: 1574 - Are you screwing up the chance to be happy? - by Submitted on May 23, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltI thought my world had ended back in January. I had this job and career that made me comfortable and paid well. It was not necessarily a job that I loved, but it made me feel secure and gave me the validation that I thought I needed. Until I was laid off. I started to panic, because ...
Views: 1572 - How to love *exactly* where you are right now. - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltIn my neck of the woods, the promise of spring is starting appear. The once-barren trees now have cherry blossoms peaking out. And the air—the type that freezes the inside of your nostrils and hits your chest so it’s hard to breath and hurts your already-chapped face—is little by little warming ...
Views: 1548 - Is your anger keep you stuck? Here's what to know. - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 1476 - Feeling Lost After Divorce? Help is here! - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltDivorce is tough for many reasons. Not only are we dealing with the emotions and logistics and finances, but after the dust has settled, we may feel like our life's plans have changed direction. The life you planned and your vision of the future may disappear, leaving you with a feeling of not ...
Views: 1462 - Tired of Being Bitter? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltWhen we are experiencing or recovering from divorce, remembering to find joy in everyday things during any season can be difficult. One of the reasons that, despite our best efforts, we can find it almost impossible to move on is when we are prisoner to one of the ugliest feelings of ...
Views: 1461 - Is rejection actually a gift? Yes! - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltNone of us are immune to rejection. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, and whether it’s ending a marriage or breaking up with a partner. Even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spent our lives with as a ...
Views: 1455(1 vote) - This is why you can’t shake being pissed off all the time. But here’s what you can do about it. - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltHey, so does this ever happen to you? It may have been months since your divorce ended, and you thought you were doing okay. You were picking yourself up financially, making your home your own, and trying some new activities and were feeling pretty good about yourself. But then it ...
Views: 1428 - You already have what you need to kick some serious butt. - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltSo, you want to know about one of my favorite guilty pleasures? You might have a similar one. I love watching House Hunters on HGTV! There’s nothing better to do on a lazy Sunday morning, coffee in hand (or let’s be honest…a homemade mimosa) than curled up on my couch watching TV, and ...
Views: 1372 - Tired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltPsssst, wanna know a little divorce secret? Your daily divorce drama is an illusion. Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head ...
Views: 1324 - Sick of being bitter after divorce? Help is here! - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltWhen we are experiencing or recovering from divorce after 50, remembering to find joy in everyday things can be difficult. One of the reasons that, despite our best efforts, we can find it almost impossible to move on is when we are prisoner to one of the ugliest feelings of all. Being bitter ...
Views: 1319 - Here's what to do when you're worried about the holidays. - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltFor many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. And instead of looking forward to the beautiful decorations, smell of baking pies, and holiday songs on the radio, we instead may feel triggered by sadness. Moving ...
Views: 1307 - How to Reinvent Yourself After Heartbreak - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltToday, are going to take those lessons and learn how to apply that divorce gift so you can continue to move on with your life. Don’t think of yourself as just a “divorcee.” You are so much more than that. For years, you probably defined yourself as spouse, partner, and caregiver. Those ...
Views: 1305 - Tried of the divorce insanity? Here's how to escape it! - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltAt this point in your divorce journey, you may have already done some research. You may have already talked to a lawyer. You may have already gone on some support forums to see if others have experienced the same crap that you are feeling right now. Some of what others on the forums, or what ...
Views: 1302 - Finding Joy During Your Divorce is Easier than you Think! - by Submitted on May 21, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltWhen we are experiencing loss and sadness in our life, everyday can feel like a struggle. Whether it is recovering from loss of a loved one, divorce, a lay-off, or anything else, we forget to take care of ourselves and find joy at the time when we need it most. Learning how to reinvent ...
Views: 1297 - Feeling Jelous after your Divorce or Breakup? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
Views: 1282 - Tired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltPsssst, wanna know a little divorce secret? Your daily divorce drama is an illusion. Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head ...
Views: 1281 - Tired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltPsssst, wanna know a little divorce secret? Your daily divorce drama is an illusion. Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head ...
Views: 1267 - How to let go of your anger before, during, and after divorce. - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 1244 - Tired of feeling like a doormat? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltIt happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked ...
Views: 1237 - Can rejection actually be a good thing? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltNone of us are immune to rejection. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, and whether it’s ending a marriage or breaking up with a partner. Even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spent our lives with as a ...
Views: 1235(1 vote) - Tired of feeling like a doormat? Here's how to stand up for yourself. - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltIt happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked ...
Views: 1233 - Are you making this HUGE happiness mistake? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltI thought my world had ended back in January. I had this job and career that made me comfortable and paid well. It was not necessarily a job that I loved, but it made me feel secure and gave me the validation that I thought I needed. Until I was laid off. I started to panic, because ...
Views: 1231 - How to Get your Self-Esteem back after a Break-Up - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltOne of the many things we struggle with as we learn to recover from a break-up is learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You sit crying on your coach, a pint of Ben ...
Views: 1227 - This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltThis is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women will end up ...
Views: 1206 - Tired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltPsssst, wanna know a little divorce secret? Your daily divorce drama is an illusion. Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head ...
Views: 1166 - How to be in love with everything you have in 4 easy steps. - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltSo, you want to know about one of my favorite guilty pleasures? You might have a similar one. I love watching House Hunters on HGTV! There’s nothing better to do on a lazy Sunday morning, coffee in hand (or let’s be honest…a homemade mimosa) than curled up on my couch watching TV, and ...
Views: 1159 - Tired of feeling jealous? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
Views: 1159 - Tired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it! - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Martha BodyfeltPsssst, wanna know a little divorce secret? Your daily divorce drama is an illusion. Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head ...
Views: 1152 - What to do when your divorce isn't fair. - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltIt’s unfair to yourself to keep trying to justify why you’re holding on to toxicity. There are lessons in letting go and moving on. Ah, if only moving on, especially after a divorce or break-up, were so easy. There are so many obstacles that hold us back when recovering from divorce, ...
Views: 1146 - Divorced and dreading the holidays? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltWell, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
Views: 1139 - Divorced and dreading the holidays? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltWell, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
Views: 1132 - Are you afraid to be alone? Here's what to do! - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltHow to beat your divorce loneliness When you are recovering from divorce, loneliness is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful ...
Views: 1128 - Is your divorce actually a blessing in disguise? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltDivorce is tough, especially when you’re a mom. You already have a million things to worry about—taking care of the kids, professional obligations, making sure the house doesn’t look like a nuclear fall-out, worrying about college tuition, retirement, aging parents—the list goes on. So, when ...
Views: 1079 - If you're lonely after your divorce, here's what to do. - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltWhen you are recovering from divorce, loneliness is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful strategies that can help you kick your ...
Views: 1076 - The secret to beating your guilt for good - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltGuilt. What an ugly word and a terrible feeling. Guilt comes in all sorts of mutating forms before, during, and after divorce. We may feel guilty because of a specific/concrete action we have done, or, more likely, divorce guilt permeates our lives like a mist running through our bodies. ...
Views: 1056 - Unfair Divorce? Great, nobody cares. - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltDivorce is completley unfair and can screw you over. It’s up to you to move on. Ah, if only moving on, especially after a divorce or break-up, were so easy. There are so many obstacles that hold us back when recovering from divorce, but perhaps the elephant in the room deals with the ...
Views: 1052 - Jealous after Divorce? Help is here! - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
Views: 1044 - Stressing about the holidays? Here's what you need to know. - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltWell, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
Views: 978 - How to Let Go of Your Divorce Anxiety - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltNo matter where you are in the divorce process it’s unavoidable. You know the feeling all too well. That divorce anxiety and stress. The fear of the unknown. The loss of control of the life we thought we knew. It’s normal to panic, but that doesn’t mean you have to go through your days ...
Views: 966 - This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 953 - This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 935 - This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 929 - This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltAs you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something ...
Views: 928 - Feeling Jealous After Divorce? Help is Here! - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
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